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Im jealous
My exboyfriend and I broke up wednesday.He went out bowling with some of his friends and one of my best friends. I was talking to her online and she told me that he was flirting with her and I'm jealous. I broke up with him and I cant help but wanna yell at him what can I do?
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Jealousy is just about one of the worst feelings ever and once you both are broken up, you really have no say in whether he makes a move with another girl or not.
When you start to feel overwhelmed with these feelings, try to think about the fact that it wouldn't have worked out between the two of you. Besides, you are the one who ended the relationship, so keep thinking about why it's called off and it will probably get you feeling a little better.
I know you feel angry just thinking about the fact that he's moved on, but maybe you should be a little thankful that he's not taking this break-up so badly. He could be really upset, but it doesn't matter how he's taking it because he will eventually move on, so maybe it's better for it to happen now than later. I would just hope that your best friend isn't his rebound.
You have to find a way to unleash this anger and jealousy. Write it down, convert it into poetry, talk to a friend or family member, stay over at a friend's house that weekend and try taking your mind off of it. Try watching TV when you start feeling upset, even if your favorite TV show isn't on, find something to watch and get a snack you like. Rent a movie you've never seen and watch it with someone or watch something you havn't watched in a long time. Find something you really like to do to get your mind off of it and see which method works the best. But no extreme methods like self-destructing, alcohol or drugs, or eating disorders.
Also, maybe you should ask your friends to not tell you if your ex-boyfriend was flirting with anyone. I think you'll feel a lot better not knowing what he's up to rather than getting details and feeling jealous. Remember that he wouldn't go flirting with other girls if he were with you, so maybe he's just trying his best to move on from this.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well I'm kinda sorry you have to hear this, but you're the one who broke up with him, and now you're jealous he flirted with your friend? That doesn't seem right, because he has the right to flirt with anyone he wants right now, and so do you. You're the one who wanted to end the relationship so you're going to have to deal with what comes out of it. Try not to be jealous, and don't interfere, and everything will be fine.
-mystical_breeze
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Sometimes there seem to be good reasons for jealousy, many times there aren't. When someone is experiencing jealousy for no real reason then their imagination needs training.
It's the imagination that causes these feelings of jealousy, when people visualise, for example, their partner with someone else. This can cause a whole host of problems associated with these jealous feelings, from anxiety and panic, to anger when their partner simply looks at another person.
Jealousy makes you think that other people are in the wrong, when most of the time the problem is in your head. Perhaps you need to face up to the facts: the jealousy is being caused by your own insecurities. You're lacking confidence in yourself, your abilities and the people around you. That could be why you're jealous.
The best way to beat jealousy is to build confidence. If you're happy and secure in life, the jealousy cant control you. Don't bottle it up. If you're jealous of one person in particular, talk to them. Tell them how you feel. Chances are, they'll reassure you and you can work through the jealousy problem together. Go for the things you want, too. Jealousy is a negative emotion but ambition, determination and success will boost your life and get jealousy under control.
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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