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today, i was hanging out with my new friend, we get along real well and i was telling her my life story and all the pain and struggles that i went through and my friend starts crying and telling me that i dont deserve any of this, i dont know about that but i am really insecure person and i have a low self esteem i really dont know why she cried because she didnt go through any of this, any clue on why?


Think of it this way: Have you ever cried at a film? Or know someone who has? Just because you're not living the life in the film doesn't mean it doesn't affect you in some way.. so it's the same with the story you told her. It obviously touched a nerve, perhaps she's a sensitive person. Things affect people differently.

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why cant i have a gurlfriend

You can.. when the time/person is right. ;)

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I was just wondering if any has any suggestions for a really good foundation - preferably something with full-coverage and with a flawless look?

Maybelline Dream Satin Liquid.
I've used it for months now. It gives you that air brushed finish.. To be honest though, I don't care about that part, I use it mainly for when I get the odd blemish, which may I add, covers them up brilliantly.
It's "air whipped" meaning it's light and doesn't cost a bomb.

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Today,randomly.my computer wouldnt accept my password.i kept typing it in and it would say it is incorrect and i know it wasn't ! I needed to gain access to my computer but it wasn't letting me.Finally,i gave up and was going to do a system recovery on it and try and save all my files but it said it would take like 9 hours and 9 CD's and i needed it quicker.So I skipped it and it redid everything and everything is erased.Im not so worried about my documents ,etc.Im more concerned with all the music i had on there. Is there any way to get it back? Like through my ipod...to my computer? Help!

Music Rescue
http://www.kennettnet.co.uk/products/musicrescue/

Lets you transfer songs from your ipod to your PC. You can download the trial version from the link above.

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do you have a bone in ur vigina like that u can feel?

Actually inside it? No.. you might be feeling something else, like your cervix.

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21/f

This is a really weird question, I know, and you're probably going to think I'm making a big deal over nothing. I was going out with this guy in a band, and we broke up in December. It was a bad break up and he was really bad to me. Anyway, in the time we went out (3 months) I became fairly good friends with the other two in the band. One in particular I really liked. I recently found out this one has left the band, and from what it sounds like it was under pretty bad circumstances. Anyway I recently found him on Facebook, and I really want to add him. However, I'm not sure if this would be weird? I really liked him and enjoyed speaking to him (as a friend) We go to the same college too, but I haven't seen him around. I haven't seen him since my ex and I broke up. I know it's only Facebook, and people add each other all the time there. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable and I can't decide.

So to add or not add? Thanks

It's JUST Facebook.
It's what the website is for..
Add him. What's the worst that can happen? He won't accept your friend request? It's hardly the end of the world.
Stop making mountains out of molehills and add, add, add! Who knows, it may help you 2 get chattin' and become friends again.

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okay so i was just wondering, but can you get pregnant if sperm or seman or what ever is on the loo seat or any were like that ? thanks

The sperm would have to get into the opening of the vagina.. Who sits on a toilet seat like that anyway? Your vagina shouldn't even touch the seat.
If a male decided to leave semen on a toilet seat (why, I have no idea) and a female goes and rubs herself all over it, then sure, there's a possibilty of pregnancy... but I've never personally heard that happen!

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When I told my husband I was pregnant he really didn't get too excited he just kept watching tv. Then not long after that I had a miscarriage and he said that it was for the best and not the right time. I was so upset. We have been married for 3 years and I have been desparately wanting a baby. He keeps saying we will try in a few months but when the time rolls around he keeps saying we will try soonbut not now. Now he says he wants to wait until we can afford a baby. To which I said, " If we wait until we can afford it we will never have a baby!" Sometimes I think he doesn't want a baby. Could I be right, or am I being selfish about wanting a baby now?

You're right to think it, because to be honest, if any husband said that to their wife, they'd all think the same.
You two really need to communicate more about this.
You're pregnant NOW and it needs to be sorted NOW.
We can't tell you his feelings, whether he wants a baby but not just yet, or if he wants one at all. That's for you to find out.
Sit yourselves down, and simply tell him you 2 can't afford to mess about, there's a life growing inside you right now and you need to know exactly how he feels, even if it's not what you want to hear. You just need the truth.
and you're not selfish about wanting a baby now. It's natural. Just makes it easier when you've got someone who will stick by your side throughout it.
Good luck. Would be nice to know what happens in feedback too, I'm quite interested.

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Is kissing just a natural thing you're either good at, or not good at? How difficult is it to be a good kisser?

Kissing comes naturally for everyone, so long as you're ready. Obviously with experience and communication, you get better.
It's not difficult, just may take a bit of practice for some.

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I just started my period and Im scared to use a tampon. Is it ok if i just use a pad for now?

It's absolutely fine - some women prefer pads and never use tampons. It's entirely up to you!

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Did you know that 80% of UCSD students could not find the error above?


WHATS THE ANSWER?!

The first word? There's no apostrophe in it? :|

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okay ...
well there was this quy *jason* that i thouqht was really cute & i started talkinq to him (not leadinq him on thouqh, just as friends), but i liked him, he just didnt know. then i saw a picture w/ out his shirt on & i qot totally turned off cause he had a biq belly button & biq nipples. is that really messed up ? or am i just weird ? lol.

be honest.

You're just basing things on his looks, probably because you just don't know him well enough just yet.
When you find that someone who you REALLY like, you won't just base it on looks and you will like/love them for who they are and what they have - noone has a perfect body. Pft, what the hell is perfect anyway? Who knows, if you carry on talking to him, you might end up falling for him, or you may realize you just thought he was cute and nothing more.
Do you like his personality? Is the belly button and nipple thing the only turn off? Try to look past it and see what happens.
It's not exactly weird, perhaps a little shallow. Apparently you're only 13 though, as you get older, you learn to look past imperfections and treat them as good points. :)


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So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two monthss and alittle more. We've broken about 6 to 7 times. And he was only sad the first 3 times we broke up after that he made it seem like it was whatever. And he is a jerk! He always says things to me like if he doesnt value what he has but at the same time his a sweet guy and i love him alot because thats the first guy i ever really really liked and had a connection with him. Every night i cry because he makes me feel like the bad guy which am not because i always try to work things out but when i tell him about my feelingss all he says it whatever or wow bye or something immature like that. I dont wanna let him go what can i do to change the way he treats me?

DUMP HIS ASS.
Don't let it get too far, believe me, you will be stuck in a horrible relationship, always being miserable, scared to open up to him properly in fear of what he will do/say.. do I need to go on?
He's clearly not the right person for you, especially if you're calling him a jerk and listing bad things about him.
You've only been together around 2 months and broken up all those times - read the signs and don't be so naive.
Relationships make you happy, not depressed.
You cannot change a person, if that's who he is, then I'm sorry, but that's who he will always be.
You've spoke to him about it and it's done no good...
Find someone who deserves you and makes you feel special.
I know it's hard because he's the first person you've liked etc, but believe me, there will be plenty more.
Let this be a bit of experience. Don't take shit from anyone, especially stupid boyfriends.

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Okay well me and my boyfriend hasn't had sex or anything and I'm still a virgin, and I was wondering if it was possible that I can get pregnant and still be a virgin, but the reason I was asking was because the other day he got off and as soon as he got off he put some on his finger and the he fingered me and I have heard and thought it was true that when sperm hits air it dies then I read different today and I really thought you couldn't get pregnant from what we done but I really don't know I have read like a bunch of different things and I am so confused, but please answer this I'm really confused.

If semen comes into contact with your vagina in ANY way (yes, fingers included) then there's always a possibility of pregnancy - it only takes ONE sperm don't forget.
and semen doesn't die when it hits air, so next time, have him wash his hands if he wants to touch you after touching himself.

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ive had this screen name for a wicked lone time and im sick of it and i just want a new one!
any ideas?
my names megan btw and i hate it when people type like thIS so nothing like MeGaN =]
thankss

Screen names are better when they're a bit personal and not thought of by complete strangers.
You know yourself more than anyone else.. even your close friends/family will be able to help you out.
Here's some of mine for some ideas:
My names Laura.
I just use my nicknames which have accumulated over the years..
LaLa
Lauratron
Laureo (think oreos!)
LauraRocket (my favourite band is The Rocket Summer)
Lil L (I'm small)

I take it you want to incorporate your name into yours? I'll have a bash, but I'm not sure what you're into, so they'll be fairly simple:
.nageM (Megan backwards)
MEGAn (Has the word MEGA in it as well..ha)
MonsterMegs

Just have a little think about some things personal to you and what you like, play around with symbols if you like them, etc.

Have fun!

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Okay so I am a 23-year-old female who has never had a guy go down on her. It isn't that there haven't been offers, I guess the thought just terrifies me!

I have all the usual fears that girls have about these things, you know like smells and tastes... things like that. I am about to get married to a man who says he wants to go down on me, but I am more terrified of that than I am of getting married!

Should I just relax and let it happen? Is it everything that they say it is?

Hey, it's not everyones cup of tea, I think you should try it at least once though just to be certain!
You're probably just over thinking things.. It's a vagina - it's not gonna smell and taste of roses but it's not going to be bad.. any man getting close to that area will be too happy to realize anything else anyway.
Relax and enjoy it. It's great. Totally different feelings and sensations you won't get from other ways.
I'm sure if you agree to do it, he will be reassuring you all the way through. Don't be afraid to tell him how you like it to give you both a better experience.
Lots of foreplay will help you relax. Why don't you take a bath/shower together before hand, so you know you're clean down there, and just let things happen. and if you don't like it? At least you tried. :)

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i am a fourteen year old girl. i had sex with my 19 year old experienced boyfriend. during our intercourse, i didnt bleed. or even the day and night after. however i noticed my vagina starting to itch, turn red, and it has rashes. i dont want to open this up to my mom. she doesnt even approve of me having a boyfriend, and i exceeded the line by having sex with him at early age. i want to tell her that somethings wrong with my vagina, but im scared that when we go to the doctor, my infection would be something sexually transmitted or something. if that happens my mom will hate me forever. what should i do? do you think something is wrong with me? please dont convince me to tell my mommy. i dont have anyone to ask help from. do you think i have STD?

If you think you're old enough for sex, then you're old enough to sort out the problem you created.
Yes, it's possible you have an STI - did you use condoms?
Try not to panic just yet, because it's unclear why you've got the itchy rash - it could be something simple like thrush which over the counter meds may work, or something which will need treatment from a doc. Heck, it may just be badly irritated and nothing to worry about.
We can't diagnose you over the internet but since you're sexually active, yes, an STI COULD be to blame.
If you don't see any improvements soon, you'll need to suck it up and tell your mum to take you to the doctor, or if you can go alone, do that.. the doctor can't tell your mum what it is if she's not in the examination room with you.. and if you do happen to have an infection, they'e not always caused through sex or passed on from someone else, so she will be none the wiser.

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m / 14

This really isn't about getting advice. It's just some things i've wondered about girls.

1) Why do girls always go to the bathroom in groups? What do you guys do in there besides pee?

2)why are girls embarrassed to be seen in their bra and panties but not in a bikini.

3) Do girls notice when guys get boners?

1. Not all girls do this, but I've noticed some go in groups to chat/fix their make up and hair.

2. Are they? I've never known of this one, I guess some aren't comfortable just in underwear though, probably because a bikini isn't exactly classed as under garments, but for use when it's hot/swimming.
Kinda silly, but that's my guess.

3. If they're looking for it/at it, then yeah.

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My girlfriend is an emo, and she wants me to cry on her "to increase sexual pleasure". What shall I do?

Is this a serious question!?

Oh well, each to their own.

ASK her how she would like it. If you feel comfortable doing it, then.. cry.
If not, let her know it's just not your thing.
Doubt she'd be surprised if you didn't want to do it... it's not every day crying makes you feel good.. -_-

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Is suicide the only way out? Please, no one word answers.

It may seem like a quick end to lifes problems, but it's the most cowardly way.

Whatever problems you are facing, there is ALWAYS ways to try and solve them.

You are ALIVE, you never will be again. Enjoy it while you're here and when crap occurs, solve it and carry on living your life how you want to.
It sounds easy but EVERYONE has problems. Part of life is facing them and WINNING.

If you're having suicidal thoughts, I urge you to see a specialist.

You're not alone.

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