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Guy going down on a girl?
Okay so I am a 23-year-old female who has never had a guy go down on her. It isn't that there haven't been offers, I guess the thought just terrifies me!
I have all the usual fears that girls have about these things, you know like smells and tastes... things like that. I am about to get married to a man who says he wants to go down on me, but I am more terrified of that than I am of getting married!
Should I just relax and let it happen? Is it everything that they say it is?
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Hey, it's not everyones cup of tea, I think you should try it at least once though just to be certain!
You're probably just over thinking things.. It's a vagina - it's not gonna smell and taste of roses but it's not going to be bad.. any man getting close to that area will be too happy to realize anything else anyway.
Relax and enjoy it. It's great. Totally different feelings and sensations you won't get from other ways.
I'm sure if you agree to do it, he will be reassuring you all the way through. Don't be afraid to tell him how you like it to give you both a better experience.
Lots of foreplay will help you relax. Why don't you take a bath/shower together before hand, so you know you're clean down there, and just let things happen. and if you don't like it? At least you tried. :)
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I was nervous at first too, but I think that's natural for most people to feel that way. If you concerned about cleanlieness you should just shower before hand. If he is going to be your husband you will have to be more open to these new things & being comfortable around him. If he wants to go down on you, then that's good!
It feels amazing & especially if you guys find new tricks to experiment with. It really helps with the orgasm process.
Just relax like you said & over time you will get over it & be wanting it all the time :)
Good luck!
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Since the three other answers were from females, i thought you might appreciate a male's perspective.
Simple answer: relax, enjoy, this is for you.
Longer answer: in going down on a woman, a guy is just as nervous as you, and with more reason. first, he is THRILLED to be down there so he is all excited. Second, his job/goal is to please you, so the pressure is on, because each woman is different as to her likes and dislikes. Third, most guys are pretty clueless about the female anatomy, think the clit is a push button, and so fear of messing up is an issue. Finally, at this point his testosterone-loaded brain will be going "WOOHOO!" so any minor unique smells, tastes, looks, textures you might have are just awesome to him. So relax, lie back and enjoy, he has the hard part to do.
TIP: you want to make the experience even more awesome? Tell him clearly whenever something feels good or not so good. guys are not subtle in their communication. if you squirm because somethng hurts, he might think you like it, so talk to him as he explores your playplace, smile.
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If you want to then go for it. There's nothign to be embarrassed about - it's just natural. I agree that if you wash before hand you'll feel more comfortable about yourself; you'll have less to worry about. Possibly use a frangrance-free soap so that it's not strong (or tastes all soapy).
Just relaxing will make it easier - make sure your comfortable. I'm sure once you've done it once you'll absolutely love it!
Don't feel like you have to though - if you're marrying the guy then you have the rest of your lives to get your head around the idea and experiment!
Congrats on your wedding :) x
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just let him do it:) i mean if it tastes bad or somthing he's the one that wanted to do it. i was pretty scared whenever my boyfriend did the first time but not cause of smell or anything. i really don't know what it was but it's normal, actually most chicks are scared of that. and as far as if it's all what it's cut out to be.. no lol not really. i personally prefer other things to it but i guess that's all just opinion. so just go for it, there's nothin wrong with tryin new things:) but really don't sweat it i mean your gonna marry the guy, so it's gonna happen sooner or later. hope i helped. goodluck.
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My girlfriends loves it. Smell and taste- its all natural- Just wash before hand...no strong soap or anything, just a thorough clean washing will work. Apart from that...theres nothing i can tell you.
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