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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
okay well i shave down there and it grows back really fast. like in a day! is that normal or what? is there anything i can do to prevent it? and i also get those big or tiny red bumps and sometimes the hair is not always completley gone! any tips please? the same thing happens when i tried waxin i got all bloddy and i tried nair and it got irritated and it looks like it still there! um and how much and where is the hair down there sposta grow cuz mine starts at like the usual and goes all the down (past my ass and it grows really far out) um, ew? yeah, whatever, thanks.
Pubic hair does grow quickly. More quickly on some people than on others.
I would avoid removing the hair unless you think the area will be visible for some reason (hot date, bathing suit, etc) or if you prefer it for hygienic reasons (some women prefer to trim or remove hair right before their periods).
The red bumps are razor burn. You avoid razor burn by making sure you have a sharp razor. One woman I know finds that the mens razors work best for her (not the disposable ones, the ones that you buy replacement blades for). Using some form of shaving lubricant (shaving cream, soap, and lotion are common) will also help reduce razor burn.
Sometimes pubic hairs become ingrown (they go back under the skin). Just leave them alone. If they become infected, they will resemble pimples (zits) and you can lance or pop them as long as you clean the area afterwards with something anti-bacterial.
Regular Nair© should not be used on the pubic region. They have a special version for that. There may also be a sensitive skin version, I haven't looked recently. Make sure you follow the directions carefully.
Waxing should not remove the skin (which is what would have made you bleed). You should not start waxing on your pubic region. Practice on a small patch of one leg first until you get the temperature and timing right.
The only places on the human body where it is not normal for hair to grow are the soles (bottoms) of the feet, the palms of the hands, the shaft of the penis, and inner lips of the vulva (the squishy part of a woman's privates). It is totally normal for hair to grow on your butt and around your anus (butt-hole).
Different people have different types of hair. Some people have very short fine hairs that no one notices. Some people have hair that's thick, long, and very different from their skin color so it stands out. It's just another form of variety the human race has developed.
I suggest waiting at least a week before doing anything else to down there (other than washing) to give the area time to recover from your previous attempts. If the skin feels try, use a sensitive skin lotion. If it stings, stop and try the next day. Don't try any more hair removal until you can put lotion on the area without it stinging.
If you really think the hair is excessive, you can talk to a doctor about it. There are various hormone imbalances that can cause excessive hair growth. In those cases however the excessive growth is not limited to pubic hair. I think it's much more likely that your perfectly ok and stressing out because the media portrays people with very unrealistic body hair patterns.
It's ok, your normal. Don't rush things, don't mix methods of hair removal. Giver you body some time to recover, and then pick a method to learn about and try again. Take it slow.
It'll be ok. :)
is tehre any programs to make somthing moving into a smaller size and still have be a moving image in the smaller size
The Gif Construction Set Professional can open several types of animation files. You can resize the frames (each part of the moving picture), preview, and then save it.
The best part is that you can download a trial version for free. If you like it and use it frequently, you should pay the guy who wrote it.
http://www.mindworkshop.com/alchemy/gifcon.html
Hey I was wondering if anybody knew of any good quote sites besides firehotquotes.com and wittyprofiles.com Thanks!
http://drwho.virtadpt.net/drwho.plan
Has very funny quotes. They are mostly geeky quotes, and there is some profanity and plenty of sexual references. But if your an adult and/or a geek, it's a great collection.
Well I need some advice on eating more healthy and reguarly. I'm only 14 but my mother isn't home at night (she works the night shift and McDonalds) and I am in charge of feeding myself. I will be honest I am a good cook to a point though I could still use guidance every now and then. I have the habit of not knowing what to cook so I will end up just eating watered down cream of chicken and egg noodles which I know is not good for me all the time. I like Salmon really well and eat in quite often but that gets tiring. Lately food has taken over my life. I'm always secretly wondering if I should have eaten that, what will I eat for dinner, I don't have anything in the house I need to go out and get something, and I really hate that. I'm not fat I'm normal for my height and I want to just learn to eat at certain times and just have healthy snacks inbetween instead of cookies for my snacks.
If any of you on here can think of some good well balanced meals please answer. Thanks in advance.
I don't like spending lots of time cooking, so I'll cook in larger batches and use the leftovers to make new meals. In order to keep this short, I'm going to omit cooking directions, just let me know if you want them.
It always helps to try to plan out a weeks worth of meals so that you can get what you need ahead of time. Here are two sample weeks.
Chicken and Rice Week __
Sun: baked chicken, plain rice, broccoli, and carrots.
Mon: Salmon (or tuna) salad sandwich, apple.
Tues: spanish rice, chicken quesadeas, creamed spinach.
Wed: can of chili, corn, yogurt, green salad
Thurs: chicken stir fry w/ fried rice, fruit cocktail.
Fri: hot dog w/ sourcrout, celery sticks, potato chips.
Sat: macaroni and cheese with peas
Pasta, Beef, and Green Salad Week __
Sun: pasta, red sauce, meatballs, garlic bread, green salad.
Mon: pizza w/ veggies and ground beef topping (you can use the rest of the garlic bread for a crust, or get a mix).
Tues: green salad with salmon.
Wed: pasta with beans, a greasy red sauce, and lots of parmesan cheese, crunchy fruit or veggie - like carrot sticks, apples, or green salad with walnuts.
Thurs: soup, a grilled cheese sandwich, and if you can stand it more green salad.
Fri: pasta mixed with veggies in butter, meatballs on the side.
Sat: macaroni and cheese with a hotdog, and finish up the salad.
These are light on dairy. I find yogurt to be an excellent snack food. Fresh fruits and vegetables are great snacks.
Hope these ideas help a little. :)
oK..I'm 13 5'4 and about 98 pounds..I used to be skinny and stuff but now I'm starting to get a big belly. I run and do situps and drink water and try to eat healthy and everything, but I starting to get larger than I should be. Any ideas on how to keep a flat stomache and stop gaining to much more because I used to see myself good now Im huge. sorry if thats kinda long.
~please help
Your five foot, four inches and 98 pounds?
Your not fat.
Healthy women do not have perfectly flat bellies. Now that your entering puberty, your body is starting to look like a woman's body, and your stomach will not be perfectly flat.
During puberty, women's bodies start to create fat deposits. The most common locations are the breasts, stomach, hips, thighs, and buttocks (butt). If you don't have enough body fat, you won't get your period.
If you don't see a doctor every year, talk to the school nurse about how much you should weigh. She should also be able to advise you if your body image is getting a bit out of touch with reality. If that happens, you will need to talk to a doctor.
Please be assured that you are not fat, and the curves are a natural part of growing up.
Hey, I'm stuck in this bad situation. I like two guys. Well, one guy I like is really sexual, like I've never done anything with him, of course since I'm only 14.. And the other guy well hes like great, he always calls me beautiful and really cares for me but always says that I like the other guy. Who would you choose? I think I have an idea, but I'm not so sure. Thanks!
Your 14. You don't have to choose either of them. You can be friends with both. You can hold hands and go to movies with both of them. You can even make out with both of them if that's what you want to do, and everyone knows what's going on.
The "great" guy sounds jealous. At 14, that's not really a problem, but when your older it will be. (just something to keep in mind)
I'm a bit concerned about the phrase "really sexual" - do you mean that he has a reputation for sexual activity? Or do you mean that you find him very sexually attractive? If he's got a reputation, make sure that you know what you do and don't want to do, and that he knows what you do and don't want to do. And until he's proven that he accepts those limits, try to make sure you have friends within earshot in case you need backup - or an excuse to run off really quick. If what you meant was that you fin him sexually attractive - that's important, but it'll wear off fast if he's a jerk.
Is either of them pressuring you to "go out" with him? Or to do anything else? If so, let him know that trying to push you into something only results in pushing you away. And stick to it. Avoid situations where anyone (even your friends) try to talk you into doing things you know aren't right.
Most of all, your 14. Try not to stress over relationships. Odds are, even if you pick one, the relationship will run it's course in a few months.
My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him?
This is a tricky one. Not because of the question you asked, but because of the question that seem to be lurking under the surface.
I agree with other posters that you should never ever do anything your uncomfortable with. A little nervous - like the butterflies before a test - is one thing, but uncomfortable - like you know your going to regret it later - is quite another.
If he really is only looking for an additional set of holes and bulges, there are toys that the two of you can use to simulate that.
But it seems that that is not the real issue here. It sounds like your not comfortable saying "no" to (or otherwise denying) him. If that's true, it is something you will need to explore sooner or later. Even someone who is submissive needs to have the ability to set limits - and anyone in a relationship with a submissive needs to know which limits are not to be pushed.
Good luck.
This is for the girls.. okay.. well i'm on Ortho tricyclen Lo.. and if any of you are i have a question!!.. okay well when will i start my period.. will i start it on my normal day.. or when i start taking the inactive pills? Thanks!
I start the inactive pills on sunday, and didn't if I didn't skip any pills in the last week, my periods will usually start with spotting on Wednesday. I will bleed a moderate amount starting thursday afternoon and use pads for moderately heavy flows thursday night, and all day friday and saturday. Sunday is always a weird day for me, it's still too heavy for a panty protector, but i'll barely fill the other pads halfway in 6 hours, and I don't like to leave them on even that long. I wear panty protectors the next monday, but usually by monday night it's gone.
I was reading your answers to questions, and they are really good. I think you accually help people. Just wanted you to know.
-iowan
Thank you.
I am a 23 year old mother to an 11 month old son and I am still breastfeeding him. I am slowly introducing him to cow milk but he won't be ready for that full time for a month or 2 or 3, who knows. I love breastfeeding but am just about ready to be done with it even though I will miss being a size 36 C. The only thing I won't miss is going back to an A or B bra. I love the closeness and the bond my son and I share from it, but now it's like he's older so it's more annoying now because he is so clingy to my chest area not just to eat but for comfort. He eats 2-3 meals a day of baby jar foods and he loves little finger foods and he drinks juice but will not drink anything but that and breastmilk. He eats really well, but when he wants to be breastfed he gets so fussy and demanding and he puts on this really moody act wherever I am. I am sick of having to whip out my boob when I am with friends or family now. Not just because of how they look at me like, "you're still breastfeeding him?" but also because I am now annoyed by it, I want my freedom back. The problem is that my boyfriend works 2 jobs, he is on his feet from 6 a.m. until 1 a.m. 4 1/2 days a week and it is really important that he gets his sleep at night. Now we only have a 1 bedroom apartment so I need to keep my son quiet at night, so how do I do that? I breastfeed him all night long. It is hard to put him in his crib and keep him sleeping. I am still waking up with him at all hours of the night like he's a newborn!! Although I love to cuddle with him and wouldn't mind sleeping with him a little here and there I am sick of sleeping with him ALL of the time. I want to stretch out again and sleep for 8 hours at a time, not a 1/2 hour to 4 hours only. We are not getting a 2 bedroom apartment until April 1st, and believe me when that time comes things are so gonna change. But what do I do in the meantime? I can't afford formula, nor does my son like it. I heard something about mixing evaporated milk with organic milk until he is ready for full time cow milk. Does anyone have any suggestions? I want my son to become independent from his mommy's breast now. I'm afraid it is only going to get harder to keep him from wanting it the longer he stays attached. Urgent help, advice and suggestions are wanted A.S.A.P!! Thank you.
I'm 27, and our (untraditional) household has 2 boys. I did not give birth to them, but I am responsible for their daytime care.
It sounds like you have a few separate issues here.
1. Breast-feeding. If he has teeth, it's time to wean. At 11 months, he should at least be teething. One method is alternating during the day - once he gets breast milk, next he gets solids and a sippy cup. Then cutting it back to 2 solids between each milk, etc. Another method is situational: breast milk at home and solid foods when your out. Just make sure you're out an awful lot! :)
2. Fussiness and Clinging. Part of his fussiness and desire to suck and chew may be from teething. Try one of those teething rings that go in the freezer. Our youngest really liked frozen banana in those little mesh "self-feeders" for like 3 months, then decided that room temperature chew toys were the way to go. It is important to encourage your child's independence. When he comes to you for comfort, comfort him till he stops crying plus a few minutes, then put him down and encourage him to play.
3. Sleeping through the night. He should not be waking up less than every 4 hours for sure. It's quite possible for him to be sleeping through the night, but quite a few kids don't. If he has his own bed, but he's used to sleeping with you, put a nightgown you've worn for a few nights in his crib with him. When he wakes up, don't pick him up. Leave him in the crib and rub his back. When he wakes up less than 2 hors after you've fed him, give him a bottle of plain water if he doesn't go back to sleep with being petted. Yeah, it'll be hard the first week (maybe 2 if he's stubborn) but babies are pretty adaptable, he'll get used to it.
A note on liquids. He should not have more than 4 ounces of juice a day. Most people mix juice and water 1/2 and 1/2 (which means he can have 8 ounces). Milk must be whole milk, not lowfat or skim. I strongly prefer the hormone free organic milk, but I don't think it's essential that the whole milk be organic. Water is good, as is pedialite.
Hope this helps.
sry if this is gross but i'm constipated and i have no way of getting any medicine for it and its soooooooo painful! does anyone kno what i can do? thanx i'll rate ya!
Prunes are a good way to get things moving. I prefer my prunes in juice form so I can chug it down and don't have to taste it. My grandparents like to eat dried prunes on applesauce (they leave the prunes in the applesauce long enough for them to absorb the apple juice before eating them - about 10 or 20 min). Oatmeal is also an excellent way to clean out the intestines.
The three most common causes of constipation are (in no particular order):
* dehydration (not having enough water)
* lack of fiber
* too much iron
If you are taking vitamins with iron (or iron supplements), stop for a few days and see if that helps. Take it easy on iron heavy foods like spinach, raisins, and red meat.
Make sure you drink plenty of water. It's not good for everyday (it can screw up your salt balances), but try drinking a 6 or 8 ounce glass of water every hour until your urinating (peeing) every other hour.
Fiber can be found in whole grain products like oatmeal and whole wheat bread. It is also found in whole fruits and vegetables, but not so much in juices. There are fiber supplements like Metamusil (sp?).
Exercising regularly can also help keep a person "regular".
If all else fails, there are products like ex-lax that treat constipation.
You should be having between one and five bowel movements (poops) every 2 days. Bowel movements should pass easily without the need to strain (push hard). They should be solid and long (rabbits make pellets, people shouldn't) and keep their form in the toilet bowl for at least a few minutes. The shade of brown varies depending on what you've been eating, but they should not contain green or black.
Hope this helps. :)
I have a myspace account and I want to add a background, I have the code which is and when I put it in the About Me section it doesn't work. So my question is what section do I put it in to make it work and do i need a completly seperate code like is there a special one for myspaces?? thanx for the help
I'm not familiar with myspace. you may not be able to set the background image for the whole page. However, you can use css to set a background image for a section of the page, called a "div".
If the code from Mousey doesn't work, try putting
<div style="background-image: url(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v477/xblu3eydbabix/Pics/nicebackground.gif);" >
as the first thing in that section and
</div >
as the last thing.
I have been dating my current boyfriend for one year this coming month. We are constantly talking about marriage, but we are light in the pocket book. I don't make a ton, and he has about $12,000 in debt. Not to mention that his idiot sister talked him into buying a new car that he couldn't begin to afford so tack $25,000 on to that. I am trying to scrimp like crazy.
We have dated off and on for many years, and I want to be with him no matter about the money thing. He isn't used to saving money; he has been spending for a long time. He is trying very hard to stay on a budget. And I am very proud of him. I have squirreled away a small amount o cash but less than 6 months salary. I have no outstanding debts. What more can I do to save money and still continue to be healthy?
If you do get married, get a prenuptial agreement that will keep your assets separate even if your in a community property state.
Help him set up a reward system for himself. Let him know that your proud of him when he stays on budget. Maybe help him set up steps to remove himself from debt and save money.
If you don't want to get married until certain financial goals are met, let him know that. Then sit down together and figure out what can be done to meet those goals and how long it will take.
This is a tough issue, but it's not impossible. :)
Good Luck!
hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!!
wow, some of the answers you've gotten are scary honey.
tampons should not hurt.
I know it may sound awkward, but the best thing for you to do is to get a trusted adult or older friend who's been using tampons for several years to help you.
If you don't have long/sharp finger nails, try inserting a finger. If that hurts, you should see a doctor. It's very seldom anything serious, but it's a good idea to see the doc anyway. Many women get yeast infections around their periods, and that might make your vagina sensitive enough for the tampon to be irritating.
Another benefit of inserting your finger is that you will know which way your vaginal canal tips. It seldom is perfectly straight.
Start out with the teenage size, as they are usually a little shorter than the regular ones. Also see if you can find one for "lighter days". There are tampons with and without applicators; some women find inserting a tampon easier with an applicator, others find it easier to insert without one. Try both. :) Also, I've seen a few brands with scented tampons. Avoid those, the perfume might be irritating you.
Tampons will be uncomfortable to remove if they are not completely full, however, they must be removed regularly. Check the box for how often.
If you frequently have visible pieces of uterine lining (most people call them "clots") in your pad or in the toilet, I would avoid using tampons. Most women I know who have really bad cramps avoid using tampons as well.
There is nothing wrong with using pads, and if your willing to spend a little money experimenting, there are internal menstrual cups that some people find to be easier than tampons. They are supposed to work much better than tampons if you shed your lining in chunks.
I hope this helps.
ok well ive been going out with this guy for a while..(im 15 and hes 17). weve talked about sex and we both really want to do it. any advice on how to prepare or anything else? thank you!
You've talked about sex, so you've discussed:
* birth control - what type, how to get it, who's gonna pay for it * abortion and adoption (birth control doesn't work all the time)
* STDs and prior sexual experience
* what having sex means to both of you
* fantasies of how you'd like your first time together to be
* reality of what you can actually do to make your first time together the best it can be
I'm not sure what other advice you need. But don't don't be embarrassed to ask more specific questions. :)
17/f
Hey!
oookkk i need major advice lol cause my friends def. dont give me any. i really like this guy, but he does a lot of stuff i dont like. he smokes a lot, drinks to much (i like to drink but he drinks all the time) and hes just kinda known as a "bad boy". a lot of people tell me i could do a lot better. he gets into trouble a lot and starts fights with people, but im really comfortable with him and i like the way he makes me feel. i dont know what balances out more or if its worth going through stuff he does... and if i should keep being with him cause i really like him but i really dont wanna get stuck in his drama and the stuff he does. i dont want to lead him on either... so if i should get away from him i need to. hes a really nice guy and he has a lot of friends and i know he would never hurt me... but the things he does really bothers me... and i dont like to see him get hurt or get in fights. I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!!
-kelly
Well, I know it's been quite a while since I checked the site, but if things are still where they were when you wrote this, I suggest keeping in contact with him, but also dating other people.
He may mellow out as he grows up, and you won't get so caught up in him that you become lost if he ends up in jail or something.
If he's going to do things you don't want to do, don't go. Tell him you're happy to go do something else with him, but that's not your scene.
Let it go with the flow, but don't compromise yourself or allow yourself to get pressured into doing something you don't want to do.
im nearly 17 and my bf is 17 and when we went to have sex his penis did'nt fit in it went soft and it happened the next time hes a bit worried about it and about his size i told him that it does'nt
matter is there anything we can do about this?
I'm sorry I've been away so long.
It's not uncommon for a man's penis to go soft. Unfortunately, a very common cause of this is being worried about it.
Usually if a penis "doesn't fit" it's because one or both of you isn't aroused enough. Just keep up the foreplay until you are literally nearly dripping and he is hard all the way up to head. Many people find oral sex to be helpful, and saliva is a good initial lubricant, even if it does "wear off" quickly.
Ok, so I decided that instead of taking the chance having sex with just a condom that I want to go on birth control. Only problem is telling my mom I want to go to the gyno. I know I don't have to tell my parents but I would rather them knowing know then later on. I'm 18 and at college. Any good ways of saying it to them without basically saying I'm having sex?
I'm going to second politic junkies answer.
I'm also going to warn you that if your not in a monogamous relationship, you still need the condom for STDs and such.
You should start going to a gynecologist starting at age 18 even if your not sexually active.
There are lots of reasons to go on the pill. You can discuss them with the gynecologist. Your college should also have a gynecologist available, if you want to just get it taken care of there and then casually mention to your mom that you got your pap smear already, so she doesn't have to worry about scheduling an exam. :)
If she has a cow, just tell her that you learned while in college that it was recommended for all women age 18 and up to get an annual well woman exam. You'll get a pap smear, and a breast exam. I don't think she'll think of it as a big deal, but if she does, just stay calm. Don't bring up sex if she doesn't.
I don't recommend lying if she asks you right out if your having sex. But you could try to sidestep it by remind her that you are over the age of consent, that sex is now much more complicated than it used to be, and your not comfortable going into detail about your romantic life (or lack thereof) with her.
so after watching tv today, i saw a slew of comercials that were the final straw. i've had enough of the idea that sex and stars sell...so i'm going to ween myself off pepsi and coke, m&m's and lays, colgate and oral-b, and go for non-commercial stuff...not because i think it's really going to make a difference...but just so i have a clear concience or w/e...so living in a small town, what is there for me to buy? i'll probably end up eating healthier, since there's really only healthy food here that isn't comericalized with all that shit...so suggestions on what i can do for food, without traveling, and without freeking out my parents would be nice...thanks
oh and i guess it's possible i'm going a bit over board, but i do that...did that with carl's jr. and one of their commercials too...ya...
I don't think it's overboard. And if enough people do it, it will change things. :)
What to eat? Do you like fresh fruits and veggies? Bonus points for getting them from local organic (or pesticide free) farmers at like say, a farmers market. :) Salad is good.
Most things bought from a store that specializes in "health" foods or special diets are from companies too small to do major advertising - although companies like "Morning Star Farms" are owned by the same guys as "Kellogs". And read the label - it may not be any healthier just cuz the store sells lots of pills. :)
Personally, I think your parents would be thrilled if you ate more fruits, veggies, and salads. Although you would have to be careful if you wanted to eat only fruits and veggies - and learn about vegan diets.
And if you can't give up chocolate, check out the Endangered Species Chocolate Company at http://www.chocolatebar.com/ :)
ok i have a really big problem with depression, and i was really depressed tonight i spent the enitre night crying ym eyes out, while my boyfriend went to a social ( a wedding anniversary for his friends parents that is basically a really big party). Is it wrong of me to be mad at him for going when i have been puking up blood all night and crying and wanting to kill my self?? i just needed a friend and he would rather go to a big party then comfort me. should i get rid of him or am i totally wrong and i shouldnt be mad that he went out, when i had a terrible time at home.
Depression does not cause one to puke up blood. If you are vomiting blood you need to go to the emergency room if you don't have some sort of health care provider you can call for advice.
I don't want to alarm you, but bleeding from the inside of your intestinal tract is a serious thing. And it may help you solve your depression if you solve your physical problems (I know getting my periods regulated helped immensely with my emotional instability).
I think others have given a wide enough range of opinions on the emotional issues, so I'll skip that.