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ok i have a really big problem with depression, and i was really depressed tonight i spent the enitre night crying ym eyes out, while my boyfriend went to a social ( a wedding anniversary for his friends parents that is basically a really big party). Is it wrong of me to be mad at him for going when i have been puking up blood all night and crying and wanting to kill my self?? i just needed a friend and he would rather go to a big party then comfort me. should i get rid of him or am i totally wrong and i shouldnt be mad that he went out, when i had a terrible time at home.
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Does he know you feel this sad? If not, you can't blame him. But if he does know how you're feeling then I think he should have been there to comfort you. - Don't forget though, he isn't a proffesional councellor, so he can't be there all the time. - He has a life to live to. If you're really this torn up you need to seek professional help, don't bring your boyfriend down with you. I wish you all the best and hope you feel better.
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Depression does not cause one to puke up blood. If you are vomiting blood you need to go to the emergency room if you don't have some sort of health care provider you can call for advice.
I don't want to alarm you, but bleeding from the inside of your intestinal tract is a serious thing. And it may help you solve your depression if you solve your physical problems (I know getting my periods regulated helped immensely with my emotional instability).
I think others have given a wide enough range of opinions on the emotional issues, so I'll skip that.
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Why were you depressed that night? because your boyfriend went out? Your boyfriend should have been there for you but you can't place total blame on him for your depression. He has obligations to other people beside's you... you need to be able to understand that. What's important to know is were you depressed before this night or was you being so upset brought on by the fact that he had went out that night?
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I completely understand where you are coming from. I get depressed myself and it is hard when someone you care about so much goes out with out you when you are so depressed. But don't leave him. Sit him down and talk to him about what happened when you were home alone. Let him know how depressed you were and I'm sure he'll comfort you. I'm sure he didn't go out to purposely hurt you, I'm sure he just made a promise to his friend to go to the party. So don't take it personally. Just sit down adn talk with him, I'm sure it'll help smooth everything over. I hope everything goes well hun!!
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does your boyfriend know how depressed you are? If he does, he should have never gone to that party. It's not like it's his parents aniversary. I've been depressed too but not to this extent. Everything made me cry, and most of the time I wanted to die. Crap I rhymed. One time the Friends theme song made me cry for a while. But if you're puking up blood all night, then this is serious. Are you taking any medication? I would go see a doctor, and you should be mad, but I'm not sure whether or not you should dump him over this. Tell him how you feel, and dump him if you can't forgive him.
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I THINK WHAT YOU SHOULD CONSIDER IS THE FACT THAT YOU ARE ALREADY DEAlING WITH DEPRESSION, AND THAT MAYBE YOUR FEELINGS ARE A LITTLE OUT OF PLACE. DID YOU TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIED BEFORE THE DATE OF SOCIAL PARTY ABOUT GOING?
I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH HIM FIRST TO FIND OUT ALL THE DETAILS.
WANTING TO KILL YOURSELF IS NOT THE ANSWER. IF YOU EVER FEEL LIKE DOING SOMETHING THIS DRASTIC AGAIN CALL 911 AND ASK FOR SOMEONE TO HELP YOU.
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Ur bf has a lot to contend with. it had to hard to cope with depresstion but its also hard 4 him he maybe feel he has to tip toe around u not to upset u. The way i see him and the party he just wanted some space it may feel wronmg that he went out but what u want and what he wants are to different things. U want him to urself to comfort u and feel secure. He wants to see hims friuends and not feel traped. I think u need to give him some space and urself some too but still have that cuddle on the sofa and try work though it i no u must feel inseure and what to be wanted and loved he shows u love in others ways
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I think that you are overreacting a little with the whole 'Should I get rid of him?' thing. does he know how you feel? Yes its okay to be a bit pissed at him, but if he had arranged this ages ago he might have been under presuer from his parents or something.
I think you need to talk throught this with him, to see if he understnads exactly how you felt about his leaving you, and maybe ask that he not do it next time.
*hugs* Good luck
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