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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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17/f


my ex boyfriend and i dated for a year and a half, and he broke up with me wednesday night. ever since then i haven't ate, i can't sleep, i cry 24/7..and when i do eat, i puke it up..i need some serious help.


don't tell me i'm young, i'll moved on..i've heard it before and it hasn't helped any

I'm not going to lecture you because it sounds like you really loved the guy. You dated him for a year and a half, which is a long time. Especially for someone as young as you are. When you get dumped, it sucks. I know how you feel, believe me. This feeling you have at the most will last a couple of weeks. As time goes on you'll forget all about him. Just do things that you enjoy. Pick up a new hobby, get involved with extra curricular activities, find volunteer work to do. Just find something you love. Before you know it you will not even be thinking about this guy. You'll find something else you love to do and you'll feel a lot better.

xoxo,
dottie4

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So, i got a new cat and he has a habit of jumping up on the counters when no one's looking. he know's he's not supposed to be up there because as soon as someone walks into the kitchen he jumps down and runs away. how can i discourage, or even put a stop to this behavior? and advice helps!

thanks advicenators.

I had the same problem with my cat. I just kept a spray bottle at all times. When he would jump up on things, I'd spray him with it. Also red pepper can help to. If they get a wiff of it sometimes the smell can keep them from doing it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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http://www.softlips.com/

where can i find softlips? will they be at cvs or walmart? or do i have to go somewhere special? thankss

I've seen them at Walgreen's before and Walmart. I've even seen them at Schnuck's...

xoxo,
dottie4

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How can I delay my period? I know that exercise can delay it but are there any little secrets to delay your period?

I know a way you can delay it for 9 months plenty long. All you have to do is get pregnant. Have unprotected sex with lots of people lots of times. =D

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok i listen to acoustic and alternative stuff

for example , all time low and augustana and dashboard confessional


can someone help me out and give me good songs with one of these topics:

someone telling you your beautiful
being under the stars ?!
liking someone who lets just say isnt your boyfriend
loving someone whose far away



thanks

I love anything of John Mayer's or Jack Johnson's. Anything by them are great. Check out John Mayer's Your Body is a Wonderland. It's amazing and I listen to that song everytime I'm down. It makes me feel really good.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Since middle school (I'm 19 now), I've always developed crushes on cute, male teachers who are obviously much older than me. The little schoolgirl crushes though sometimes turn into full blown fantasies. When I got to high school, I used to daydream in class about whatever teacher I liked then. Now, I have a thing for really older guys! I had a crush in college on a 50 year old professor. It wasn't even innocent either, because sometimes I would wear revealing stuff to class and then stay late to talk. Where is this all coming from?

Yeah that person below me doesn't know what she's talking about... Your fine. I've always had an attraction to older guys. For one there a lot more mature. And like you I've always had a crush on one or two of my teachers. I find intelligence very attractive, and it's probably the same for you. Your nineteen now and it's your decision to do what you want with your body and your life. No one can tell you otherwise. If you were underage I would be telling you to not take it so far, but your not so you have nothing to worry about. Just be careful that you don't get hurt.

xoxo,
dottie4

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hey i was wondering..when you play with a guy with your hand its called a handjob..but what is that called when you do it to a girl..like rub them and play with their clit or just rub the area in general. (like without fingering)
thanks =]

That would be considered heavy petting. Any sort of genital play with either sex is heavy petting.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok, Im a sixteen year old male.

Me and my girl friend decided it would be romantic to lose our virginity on valentines day- I don't want any lectures about underage sex and what not. We did use a condom.

But she has been complaining about her chest and lower stomach hurting...I'm not wanting to think about it but could she be pregnant? There wasn't a break in the condom so I have no idea...

But I really hope not, I'm not saying that to be mean...But my parents told me if this happened I would be kicked out of my house...HELP.

Alright. Legally your parents cannot even kick you out until you are eighteen, so they can say that all they want, but they won't be able to.

As for the pregnancy thing, she probably isn't. That is very good you used a condom. Keep doing that. She's probably just hurting because it was her first time. That is normal for girls.

Also if she's freaking out about the same thing, she could be making herself sick.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im 15/ female

ok this is just a little akward...my boyfriend and i had sex 5 times yesterday and yeah i like it really rough and hard but this morning and today my vag has been really sensitive and sore is this normal? im sure it is but i really don't know.Please help me...

Yes this is normal. It'll go away in a few days. Just take it slower. Also be sure to always use protection

xoxo,
dottie4

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me n my boyfrend have been dating for 5 months. i am so in love with him and he is in love with me too. everything was going fine n we were having the same problems as usual but they never really got us down that much n we worked on them. our biggest problem was that he had alot of insecurities which made him have trouble believing me when i saidd that i love him. a few days ago he texted me that we needed to talk. i met him in the hallway and he sed that we needed a break. i was dumbfounded and didnt even know where this came from. he sed he wanted me to get with other guys and see if i still loved him after. he just never thought i was serious when i sed i was in love with him. so i ws like ok and i didnt know what to say. we didnt talk in two days which is definateely not like us since we text 24/7 and he didnt seem to care at all. finally i texted him that we needed to talk. we fought and said alot of mean things. he said he needed a break from me. i said ok but we kept texting. we just talked about our day and nothing about our relationship. then, he asked how i was and i told him how upset i was about the whole break thing. he was really rude about it and said for Gods sake im not divorcing u. i was really hurt but he didnt seem to care at all. he sed he needed a break from all the compliments and i loves yous. i was astounded and very hurt. this came out of nowhere. he said he needed a break of not talking at all. i was sad because we hang out everyday and i missed him. we started texting a little and then he just started giving me one word answers. i said do u even want to talk to me? he said no. so i said well ok? he said well ill let you go then. i said you mean ull let yourself go. n he said yep bye. we havnt talked since that conversation yesterday. I am so hurt that this is so easy for him not to talk to me and that i am so upset about it. he doesnt even seem to care at all. i dont know why all of a sudden he is saying he needs his space and we cant talk. i feel like he doesnt love me anymore but i guess i have to give him his space. he says we will be on this break till he has an epiphany. but what if he never has one and this turns into a permanent break? i dont know what to do , i love him so much and cant lose him. thank you for any help

This is a very painful thing to go through. I've had the same experience with a previous relationship. I told him I loved him, which I did and he dumped me. Honestly I believe he was just afraid of commitment. He was hurt in other relationships where his exes told them they loved him and then dumped him to go after someone else. You have to show how much you really do care for him. Don't become a weirdo stalker though. Give him his space for the time being and he'll come around. If not you sound like an awesome chick and you'll find someone else. I know that's not something you want to hear right now but in time you'll start feeling better.

xoxo,
dottie4

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okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good?

Yes it is very normal. He broke your hymen. Some girls bleed a lot, and some don't bleed hardly at all their first time. Some don't even bleed at all because there hymen was broke in other ways such as masturbation or even riding a bike. I would just put a pad in just to be on the safe side. It is normal for it to hurt even the first couple of times you do it. Especially the first time because your not used to it. After a while it will start feeling better. Just tell him to take it slow. Maybe try a different position. You probably will not bleed again, but if you do you should see a doctor.

xoxo,
dottie4

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well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/

At one time no it was normal. Nowadays it's illegal. You could get him into huge trouble, so I would avoid him at all costs. I know you probably feel like you like him a lot but you'll get over it. In less then four years you'll be able to date whoever you want anyway so just stick with people close to your age for now. It seems like a long time but it's really not. You'll be 18 before you know it. Plus if you really cared about him you wouldn't want to risk him getting into trouble. He'll be listed as a sex offender and never have a normal life again. Seriously reconsider this whole situation.

xoxo,
dottie4

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A QUESTION EVERYONE CAN ANSWER!!

Im quite bored and was just thinking about playing my guitar again for another hour or so.
while playing i thought.. what makes a good song and what maks a bad song for other people besides myself...

so to put simply: Whats your most hated song ever and and whats your most loved song ever, if theres a reason to why you like or hate that particular one so much then i'd like to know :D thanks :D

There's a lot of really bad and good songs. My least favorite song is Surfin USA by the Beachboys. They stole the same chords off Chuck Berry's Sweet Little Sixteen. He even sued and won the case.

My favorite song to play on the guitar is Good Ridance by Green Day.

It's a very easy song to play... Just E,A,& B.

Hope I helped.



xoxo,
dottie4

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me and my bf have been togethr for almost 2 months. and i liked him so much like a month or two before we got together. well we both told eachother we fell for eachother. and were in love. and i feel like im hella sprung. every song on the radio reminds me of him. i cant go a second without thinking bout him. i get butterflies. i think im seriously sprung. but is that a bad thing? i just dont want to get hurt. cuz my friend is the same with her bf and she got hella hurt recently but there beter now. but my question is how can i not be so sprung? and not be so much in love. i dont want to put all of myself into a guy and something does happen (which i dont think will happen) but still. i dont want to get hurt. well thanks so much in advance!

You've only been dating for two months? Your just completely infatuated with him. It may feel like your in love with him, but your not. This happens to a lot of people their first couple months in a relationship. Your just in the honey moon stage. There's really nothing you can do to stop it. If you really like him, I encourage you to feel this way.

xoxo,
dottie4

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So I have known this guy for about 2 years we arent dating he says hes single but is with a different girl I guess to use her for her car and stuff well the other night me and him slept together and I questioned him about this girl the next day hes like we are kinda sorta talkin now hes goin around saying I didn't sleep with that bitch all she did was suck my dick. I am hurt by him deny this but what can I do to get even because I am seriously done with him.

You deserve way better. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. You need to quit having all communication with him period. If you have a myspace, block him. Delete him from your phone. If that doesn't work and he keeps calling you, have someone else tell him that you want absolutely nothing to do with him. Honestly he doesn't deserve a girl like you. He doesn't even deserve to hear that you want to break up with him from you. Have a friend do it for you. He's an asshole. I know it will seem really hard but you have to get it over with. Ultimately you'll feel so much better about yourself that you broke it off and you'll become a stronger person because of it. Start doing things that you love. You know, pick up a new hobby like learning an instrument, or just hanging out more with your friends.

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That my friend was taking naked pictures of herself. And im superr worried because i had NO idea she would do thiss. but i know because she sent it to a guy, and then the guy sent it to me. And i saw her face and everythingg..and i still havent told her because i dont think i should. But do you think i should talk to her about this? Or just leave it alonee?

The same thing happened to one of my friends. Yes you do need to tell her. Just remember that everyone makes bad choices in their life. She'll definitely need a friend to talk to after you tell her. Just make sure your there for her. She knows she did a dumb thing.

xoxo,
dottie4

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umm........ icut myself and i dont no how hazarddis it is to health can u plz tell me

It is very hazardous to your health. Drugs are not a good option. You can die of an infection and push ones away that really love and care about you. I think you should get help. Talk to an adult who you trust.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I'm 19/f

Looking for any sad/depressing books to read. Something that made you cry. Any suggestions?
Or maybe any movies? But I would prefer books.

Thankyou in advance

Books:
Angela's Ashes-Frank McCourt
The Jungle-Upton Sinclair
Roots-Alex Haley
1984-George Orwell
To Kill a Mockingbird-Harper Lee
Bastard Out of Carolina-Dorothy Allison
The Color Purple-Alice Walker

Movies:
Little Big Man
Hearts in Atlantis
Cold Mountain
Sling Blade


Yeah sorry I have a little bit of a different taste, but these selections always make me cry.

xoxo,
dottie4

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im 16, and never had my first kiss yet. even though im pretty sad that i still never had one, i love to hear stories about other peoples' first kisses! it makes me excited for mine :) so whoever reading this, hopefully youll share your story! thank youuu:)

Don't make a huge deal about it. Your first kiss will happen eventually. My first kiss was with my first boyfriend. We had dated for about two weeks and I had wondered, will he ever kiss me? We were at the mall hanging out and we were walking and talking. He then just grabbed my hand and kissed me on the cheek. It was pretty much amazing. I'm no longer dating the guy, but we are friends. I didn't get my first kiss until I was 15 so it's not really that huge of a deal. You want your first kiss to be special. It's something that you will remember the rest of your life. Don't be in a hurry to lose it just so you can say you've kissed a guy. In the end you will not regret it.

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15/f.
i was about to send my boyfriend a picture of myself "exposed", but instead i sent is to my ex of a couple years ago that i just recently started talking to.

i denied that the picture was mine and i said that it was a friend that says she'll never meet the guy. (he is out of state)

what in the world do i do next?

Your too young to be doing that crap anyway. Hope things work out, for the best

xoxo,
dottie4

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