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break up out of nowhere
me n my boyfrend have been dating for 5 months. i am so in love with him and he is in love with me too. everything was going fine n we were having the same problems as usual but they never really got us down that much n we worked on them. our biggest problem was that he had alot of insecurities which made him have trouble believing me when i saidd that i love him. a few days ago he texted me that we needed to talk. i met him in the hallway and he sed that we needed a break. i was dumbfounded and didnt even know where this came from. he sed he wanted me to get with other guys and see if i still loved him after. he just never thought i was serious when i sed i was in love with him. so i ws like ok and i didnt know what to say. we didnt talk in two days which is definateely not like us since we text 24/7 and he didnt seem to care at all. finally i texted him that we needed to talk. we fought and said alot of mean things. he said he needed a break from me. i said ok but we kept texting. we just talked about our day and nothing about our relationship. then, he asked how i was and i told him how upset i was about the whole break thing. he was really rude about it and said for Gods sake im not divorcing u. i was really hurt but he didnt seem to care at all. he sed he needed a break from all the compliments and i loves yous. i was astounded and very hurt. this came out of nowhere. he said he needed a break of not talking at all. i was sad because we hang out everyday and i missed him. we started texting a little and then he just started giving me one word answers. i said do u even want to talk to me? he said no. so i said well ok? he said well ill let you go then. i said you mean ull let yourself go. n he said yep bye. we havnt talked since that conversation yesterday. I am so hurt that this is so easy for him not to talk to me and that i am so upset about it. he doesnt even seem to care at all. i dont know why all of a sudden he is saying he needs his space and we cant talk. i feel like he doesnt love me anymore but i guess i have to give him his space. he says we will be on this break till he has an epiphany. but what if he never has one and this turns into a permanent break? i dont know what to do , i love him so much and cant lose him. thank you for any help
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LISTEN HONEY I Dont Want to sound MEAN IN Anyway but u REALLY NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONE.. HE DOESNT WANT TO HEAR THOSE THINGS BECAUSE HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME WAY.. HONESTLY THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO WOULD BE TO ACT LIKE U COULD CARE LESS EVEN THOUGH YOUR INSIDES BURN EVRYTIME YOU THINK ABOUT HIM... I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION AND MADE MYSELF LOOK STUPID FOR 6 YEARS. YOU SEEM LIKE A SMART YOUNG GIRL AND THERE IS PLENTY MORE FISH IN THE SEA BELIEVE E.. IF HE DOESNT WANT TO HEAR I AM POSITIVE THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE THAT WOULD LOVE TO HEAR IT!! GUYS ARE COMPLICATED REALLY AND THEY SUCK MOST OF THE TIME BUT DONT WASTE OUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO ISNT GIVING YOU THE TIME OF DAY PLEASE....!! I HOPE THIS HELPED SWEETIE SEROIUSLY TAKE IT FROM ME DONT WASTE ANYMORE OF YOUR TIME ITS NOT GOING TO BE EASY BUT IN TIME YOULL BE LIKE I WAS SUCH AN IDIOT!! BELIEVE ME
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He's trying to play hard to get, and that's not love. If he honestly didn't want to talk to you, he wouldn't of texted back saying "Well I'll let you go then"
The only reason he did was because he wants you to keep texting him. Show him how much it's killing you. He sadly enjoys it. Don't give him that satisfaction.
Get with some other guy then let him text you with how much its killing him. Serves him right for playing games.
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This is a very painful thing to go through. I've had the same experience with a previous relationship. I told him I loved him, which I did and he dumped me. Honestly I believe he was just afraid of commitment. He was hurt in other relationships where his exes told them they loved him and then dumped him to go after someone else. You have to show how much you really do care for him. Don't become a weirdo stalker though. Give him his space for the time being and he'll come around. If not you sound like an awesome chick and you'll find someone else. I know that's not something you want to hear right now but in time you'll start feeling better.
xoxo,
dottie4
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Well you mentioned insecurities, which is a big relationship killer =/
I would say one of these three things, or maybe all, is happening:
1)His pride is all he has left.. I call it manly ego lol..
2)He;s egotistical because you're pretty or a nice catch and thinks that other guys wanna get with you..
3)Or he's simply self loathing... and being mean because of the first two...
I'm sorry to hear this is happening... All I can suggest is to call him up.. if he doesn't pick up, leave a message asking him to meet up with you somewhere, because it's really important.. If he calls you back doing or texts you saying ok, then take up the opportunity and express how you feel, not over doing the I Love You's or compliments, and get down to the point. Ask him what's really going on... No guy just says go out with other people for now unless he's doing something of his own that you don't know of.. or he's feeling one of the three suggestions I gave in the beginning. If it's 2 or 3... You need to help him out.. Sometimes assurance isn't enough, and persistence may annoy... But you can achieve these things slowly and over time... If you know what makes him feel insecure, like you talking about your guy friends or what not, cut it down... Sometimes anger problems can get the best of a guy and girl... It's really hard to explain.. Because there can be so much to it.. He's the lock.. and you have half the key.. because he's holding the other half and closing up =/ good luck!
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