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SEX issue(s)?
okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good?
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I can't say with absolute certainty what is causing the bleeding as I'm not a doctor. I also don't have the benefit of being female either. I do however know about sexuality, mechanics and anatomy.
The leading cause for the bleeding could be your hymen tearing. That causes spotting most of the time and it goes away. However, if you use tampons that negates this. It could be from friction, forcing his penis in, not being lubricated. It's only a real problem if the bleeding keeps happening (for several days) and never ceases. In that case you need to see a gyno to have a look down there.
Soreness that you describe is normal as is it hurting like a bitch for females the first time. One of your biggest mistakes was not stopping when insertion seemed too hard. You weren't properly lubricated and this accounts for the pain, soreness and maybe even bleeding you describe.
In a strict definition you didn't kind of have it you had it as there was penetration. You're not considered a virgin. I would hold off on Friday and let the pain, soreness and bleeding stop. Then the next time get an artificial lubricant from the drugstore as that will help with insertion and cause less pain. Eventually everything will feel good but that's how you avoid what you've described.
Being well lubricated as well as aroused has everything to do with whether you'll experience friction, pain, burning, soreness during intercourse. Like I said, artificial lubricant will help if you can't produce enough naturally.
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Yes it is very normal. He broke your hymen. Some girls bleed a lot, and some don't bleed hardly at all their first time. Some don't even bleed at all because there hymen was broke in other ways such as masturbation or even riding a bike. I would just put a pad in just to be on the safe side. It is normal for it to hurt even the first couple of times you do it. Especially the first time because your not used to it. After a while it will start feeling better. Just tell him to take it slow. Maybe try a different position. You probably will not bleed again, but if you do you should see a doctor.
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dottie4
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Hello, Thank you for the question!
More than likely you are bleeding because you had sex for the first time, Sometimes when two people have sex there is a chance the male can rip the females hymen.
Here is a link to what I mean
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Also known for "popping your cherry"
It is common to bleed lightly a few days after, When I had sex for the first time I went through the same thing. It should heal within a few days. If you have sex again, It might hurt a little but it won't hurt as bad because you've already "popped your cherry" and he's already broke through the skin. You can also look into buying some lubricant which sometimes helps the penis to slide in more comfortably and helps with pain or lubricated condoms.
-BahaiMa22
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Ahh, this is my expertise lol Of course you're a little sore. I hope it's not like, horrible right? If it only is a little sore and it only hurts when you rub there or wipe (like you said) then it's perfectly normal. BUT, if it continues to hurt, than I would skip sex on friday since you haven't healed completely.
When and if you do it again, it will probably hurt a little but definitely less than the first time. You're still tight down there and have only had one experience, and that was only a couple minutes. So don't get scared if it hurts a little again! You won't bleed though, because that happens when you're hymen is broken ("cherry popped") and that's already happened.
Every time you do it, it'll start to hurt less and feel much better! It'll start feeling really good probably around the 3rd or 4th time, when your looser and more comfortable. Make sure you guys get some foreplay in there so you're wet and it'll hurt even less. Don't worry, everything you said is all normal. Good luck! And keep using condoms, you're responsible. :)
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its different for a lot of girls. it kept hurting me until my 3rd or 4th time, and this one girl i know said it hurt her the first 15 TIMES! O.O
and also, the blood you saw was from your hymen being popped. or, as some call it, your "cherry". and you wont be sore for too much longer. the pain should cease within the next day or two. since it was your first time, and your cherry popped, im sure it will hurt for a while, but like i said, not too much longer. :)
and if you're going to have sex on friday until he finishes (which usually takes about 20 or 30 minutes..depending on the guy) it wont hurt as bad, depending on how long you have. if you do it for a loooong time, it will start to feel numb, and then maybe the time after that you'll be pleasured. :) have fun!
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Wow! you do have a lot of questions so let's get to them shall we? First of all, yes it is normal to bleed a bit the first time you have sex. The hymen, a very thin membrane in your vagina has been pierced so it will bleed a little bit. But it should not bleed again the next time you have sex. As to if it will hurt again as much, no it shouldn't. It should feel good the next time you have sex but you have to be in the mood for sex. You should be sexually aroused which makes you wet in the vagina and this normal lubrication will help the motion of your bodies. You should encourage your boyfriend to have foreplay before sex and this should lubricate your body to prepare it for the intercourse. If you are nervous or not ready for sex, don't let any boy force you into doing something you are not ready for. I am proud of you for using protection. You should always use protection and get on the pill if you are going to have sex again. Contact me agian any time if you have more questions.
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