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broken heart
17/f
my ex boyfriend and i dated for a year and a half, and he broke up with me wednesday night. ever since then i haven't ate, i can't sleep, i cry 24/7..and when i do eat, i puke it up..i need some serious help.
don't tell me i'm young, i'll moved on..i've heard it before and it hasn't helped any
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So i had this happen but i got cheated on so i know how you feel... Its really hard but do things to get your mind off of it, go out with your girls and do everything possible to stay busy, dont talk to him, dont talk about him i know this will be hard but its the easiest thing to do, and when you eat eat things like bread and crackers that way its easier on your stomach. For sleeping if you cant sleep dont lay there and think about it go out and drive around or watch tv. Well i hope you get through this and i hope i helped =]
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I'm not going to lecture you because it sounds like you really loved the guy. You dated him for a year and a half, which is a long time. Especially for someone as young as you are. When you get dumped, it sucks. I know how you feel, believe me. This feeling you have at the most will last a couple of weeks. As time goes on you'll forget all about him. Just do things that you enjoy. Pick up a new hobby, get involved with extra curricular activities, find volunteer work to do. Just find something you love. Before you know it you will not even be thinking about this guy. You'll find something else you love to do and you'll feel a lot better.
xoxo,
dottie4
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Time mends all things.
Grieving is part of the process. Let yourself, because its the only way to move on. Don't be afraid to cry, but don't let your life to to shit either. Hang out with friends, keep your head in school, do what you've been doing.
When you're at home at night, try to let yourself relax for a little while, find something fun you can occupy yourself with. Read a book, watch a movie, play games of some sort, whatever.
Occupying yourself some of the time without completely avoiding the sadness helps alot, at least when I'm fucked up in the head about something. I give myself time to feel it, and shut it away when theres work to be done. I let myself get over it but I don't let it rule me.
In time, I feel better. Being around my friends helps me feel better. For you, maybe being around your family as well. Throw yourself into something safe and let yourself care about it for a while. Pick one of your friends and get to know them better, hang out, and become better friends (Guy or girl)
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i agree with the last answer completely. i'll just add onto it.
i understand how you're feeling. i was with a guy and it lasted a year... he broke up with me and went back to his ex. it literally broke my heart. all i can tell you, is it does take a loooong time to get over that person. its hard not seeeing them, not talking, laughing, hanging out.etc. but eventually it does all get better. i can tell you that because now i am completely over my ex. i honestly hardly remember we even once had a thing. its crazy. you just have to remember the hardest part is right now. the first couple weeks after the break up is always the hardest. but it WILL pass. i promise. and one day your gonna wake up and be like 'dude.. i'm sick of crying over you.' and you WILL move on. i promise. i wish you all the luck in the world. <3
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You've went through a difficult time. There isn't anything anyone will say that is going to fix this. You've been wounded. He sounds like your first love. This hurts. It isn't easy. All you can do right now is cry. Crying is perfectly okay. At some point the tears will stop. But know this, if this guy would give you a year and 1/2 then surely other guys would as well. For what it is worth, at least you will get some closure. I've been in a couple situations where I had none and it leaves you wondering for years "why?". You don't have your guy now but you do have a lot I'm sure. You have family, you have friends, you have your health, and you have your interests. As big of a part of your life a guy may be, he is only part. There are no happy endings in relationships. Someone will get hurt. Somtimes both people hurt. IF you broke up with him you'd probably feel bad as well. Relationships almost always end badly. But you will get to start over with someone new at some point. You'll get to find out all of these cute little things about a new person and will get to discover someone all again. Every relationship we have is a failure until we meet "the one". You've just marked one guy off the list. Now that the pretender is gone, you are one step closer to meeting the one you need. Now that you are single, you are available to meet that one.
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Just cry it all out <3 Get your girl friends to take you out party. Meet some new people. The key is to just let it all out. If you need to tell him how angry or hurt you are, then do it! Get it off your chest. Eventually you WILL move on, just know that you deserve better than a boy who will break your heart after all that time of being with you. And you'll find that someone :) Only time can heal, but the best you can do is keep yourself distracted with friends and family. <3 It'll get easier.
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