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Q: Ren, my childhood friend, who has loved me since ever, is unstoppable. He always wants me to be his girlfriend since we were little, which is kind of impossible, because I'm so busy and not interested in that kind of relationship. But then he started it,
Since he can't have me, he starts going out with these girls and dump them in a day or an hour, just to hurt their feelings. I told him to stop, but all he said was,"I'll stop if you can be mine." some of those girls are my friends, and I feel sorry for them. He keeps doing it to other girls, and no one can ever stop him. He thinks by doing that, he is hurting me, because he has weakness: I don't know why, but he can never hurt me by any means. This is so sad, and those girls really like him. What should I do? I still am busy and tired of his behaviour... Please help...
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Well that's pretty childish and heartless to hurt these girl's feelings intentionally.
You can't make him stop, but you do have the power to warn these girls what they are in for. And they can decide whether they want to listen or give him a try and it just has to happen.
I think eventually if you just ignore or act like you don't know what he's doing, he'll understand that he isn't going to win your heart, at least not that way.
Just keep busy like you have been lately and try not letting it get to you. Besides, being with someone for just a day really isn't that hard to get over unless you've known them and have like them for a long time.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Well, one of my best friends started seeing our school's guidance counselor because her boyfriend was in the hospital but now he's better than ever but she still eats lunch with her at least once a week. I love it because she gets alot out of it, whether she realizes it or not. Today they told her the names of a few places that are professional help (she's jsut had alot of experiences that have really messed her up, but don't think the wrong way about her). I know it will do her good and she'll be back on her feet in no time, but she doesn't want to go. Is there anything I can do or say that will convince her that it will be good for her?
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I know you take a lot of concern in your best friend's life but you can't push or force her to do this.
What you can do is let her know that ever since she's been into guidance counseling, she's been doing better and you notice it a lot. You can try encouraging her that this professional help could make things better for her and that you truly just want her to be happy no matter what choice she makes.
I think that if your friend was in trouble again, she'd admit it and get back into counseling and then she might consider the furher help. Besides, I think that you should be the supporter, her parents or guardians have to be the ones that try convincing her to do this. That way she won't feel like your her mom, you are her friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: About 3 years ago a girl that I thought was a close friend of mine did something quite mean to me. She uninvited me to her sons first birthday party and told me over a nasty email. She claimed that the last time I was over at her appartment I laughed and thought my behavior was "extremely rude". She also told me she didnt' want to be my friend anymore. I was really upset and sent an emailing apologizing (although I wasnt sure what for). She never responded. I was really hurt at first because I had been a good friend to her.
Well that was 3 years ago and I've moved on and have new friends and a new job now.
Yesterday when I was at work in the shoe aisle at the superstore I work in she was walking down the aisle with her son in a cart. I ignored her because I thought she still hated me. I thought she'd ignore me to but she actually said hi to me. I said hi back and she introduced me to her son. Then she asked if I liked my job. I said yes and then she said she'd see me around. But the thing is I don't think she was sincere because she had a scowl on her face when she first started talking to me.
Does anyone have any idea as to what her intentions are? I don't trust her after what she did and am scared to be her friend again. Why would she start being nice to me again after being so mean 3 years ago? If anyone had any advice I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!
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I think that she was being respectful by greeting you in public and that she has no intention of inviting you over or being friends again.
Besides, if she ever does try to get things back the way they were, you should definetly talk about what happened in the past so that you can really discover what she found offensive. I would say that it's easier to move on, but you wrote this women a letter apologizing even though you didn't really have an idea of what you did which was mature and she didn't even write back explaining specificly what bothered her the last time you were with her.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: heyy
(f-13) well i don't really know why, but everything's been going wrong lately. I like hate a bunch of people because they pi** me off, poeple call me stupid, fat, and ugly for no reason. It all makes me depressed and there's so much pressure because we're graduating in a few weeks. I have no date to our dance (its a big thing to have a date in our school) and i need to do well on finals. i don't even know what to do at this point. I want to fix things before i graduate because i dont want to leave things messy and be depressed thinking back on my graduation. please help! thanks bunches. xoxo
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Don't worry too much on things. There will always be a time in your life when things aren't going so great and this is one of those times.
When this happens, we have to reach out to people like friends and family. Tell your mom or dad how bad things are right now and they will probably do anything they can to help you finish off the year good.
I know that it hurts a lot to be called those names that you've mentioned, it's wrong and they are comments that are so hard to deal with or ignore. So that's why you should probably keep track of whose calling you those names and telling the principal or counselor about it and how much it's effecting you.
There are a lot of girls in your school who don't have dates for this dance and it's normal too. Sometimes you have a date, and sometimes things happen and you'll have to go with friends. It's not something you should dwell on or be ashamed of.
The best way to feeling happy is reaching out to people, not closing your door and being alone
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: okay i liked this guy now for about 2 months and he has liked me, we would talk on the phone every night and he would always tell me he loved me, but he would never ask me out and i dont get why. anyways just the other day he started bein a dick to me, not answering my phone calls, saying he'll call me back and never does. i just dont know what to do, im soo heartbroken it aint even funny i even thought about killing myself. i rate high
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Wait for him to come crawling back to you if he ever plans on it.
And when he does come back, tell him that you don't really appreciate being lied to.
No guy is worth killing yourself over. I know you probably feel upset that you both havn't been talking, but it's not worth your life or your time. You have to show a guy how to treat you and it's hard, but it has to be done.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do?
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Sounds to me like these girls aren't really good enough to hang out with you and your friends, it's the other way around.
I'm not sure by what you mean when you call these friends nerds, but I don't think that you should sterotype your own friends as nerds because usually being a nerd in school comes across as an insult.
You hang out with these friends because they treat you like a human being and they accept you for what kind of person you are and not for who you hang out with.
Maybe if these girls don't like people who are actually nice, they aren't good friends. The truth is that they don't want to be seen with you because you are around people who are considered uncool and that would just ruin their reputation.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: O wow.... okay me and my best friend went to the water park and we saw these really cute guys from our school and we started talking to them and then me and my friend went ahead of the boys and suddenly oneof the boys called by friend back with them and they whistpered somehting and they looked at me... i had no clue what was going on so i just stood there and then mi friend told me i had BLOOD on the swim shorts!!! AHHH!! i had started my period and i didnt know it and the oys pointed it out! i am soo embarresed how do i talk to theses guys again without being embarresed
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These things happen and the best you can do is pretend that it never even happened.
I doubt that these guys will ignore you just because you started your period while you were with them. Accidents happen, and the best we can do is fix them and just move on like it's no big deal because it's actually not.
You probably will feel really embarassed everytime you think of this event, but you just have to remind yourself that theres no way you could have seen this coming and it's not your fault.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I live in baltimore and im mostly jealous of half of the girls at my school. Most of them dress better then me, look better then me, get my boys then I do, and all around have a better life then me. People always tease me about not looking right...or not dressing GOOD ENOUGH for their like. I tried killing myself...it didnt work, i just feel unloved and unwanted. Sometimes i wished i could just be them...and live the live they live there just perfect as hell! I started prosituting to feel wanted by boys...and for a while it was good and after some time after people starting finding out and calling me a hoe I guess i found out what's wrong with it. But, still now i love attention from anyone and i love making people laugh. and i HATE everything about myself...i feel ugly. I never feel pretty and people always tell me im ugly or what's wrong with me and i always think about it and then it sticks to me...and i hate myself more and more. People tell me dont care what people say but its hard, when your in my shoes. Everyone is just living this good life...and noone understands how i feel...and the boy that i like the most wont go with me but he would go with this other girl. (I guess she's better then me too.) Please someone help me! I dont want to feel this way anymore.
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You definetly have a very big self-esteem problem and it's more than that alone.
When you are out prostituting, you aren't wanted and loved by the guys who have sex with you. They only want your body and the pleasure they get from having sex with you. They don't have sex with you because you are a good person, or good-looking, or anything that actually matters in a person. They have sex with you because they want sex, they'll have it with anyone. It has zero to do with you.
I know you're having it rough in school from everyone's comments about you and the way you dress, but when you really get so far down in depression to where you hate yourself and attempt suicide, you have to stop and ask for help. Putting yourself out to guys that will take you in for your body isn't making anything better for you and it will haunt you for the rest of your life. You have sex, you feel wanted and loved, but that's only in the moment those good feelings are there. They go away later on when you get called a hoe and all of those other bad names.
Reaching out to your parents or a counselor or a trusted adult means that you can be happier than just those good moments in the prostitution. You can be a happier person and more importanly, you can be happy with yourself. Which is important. All of your problems connect to your self-esteem. The way you think that nobody loves you or cares about you connects to your self-esteem.
Everyone has a crush on someone and gets turned down because they want to be with someone else. It doesn't mean that the other girl is better than you are. It means that it's that guy's loss that he doesn't want to have a relationship with someone as fun as you or as smart as you. That's another reason why you need good self-esteem, it's about knowing that if someone doesn't like you back, you can just know that it doesn't make you any less prettier, or smarter or any less of the things you were before.
There comes a time in everyone's lives where things get way too out of control and you just have to yell for help when it gets to a bad point. And you need to do that. No matter how much you fear it, or don't want to, if you really want to get better and respect yourself, you will get yourself some help even if it means making you uncomfortable. Sometimes we don't want to do or take things, but then later on we realize that we really needed it even though it wasn't fun to go through.
If you need more help concerning this situation, please reach me through my inbox.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I am a teenage girl with a boyfriend. What do I do if I see him with another girl?
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If you see him flirting or interacting with this girl as if they are a couple or anything of that, then you confront him the next time you talk to him and ask him about it.
I wouldn't try causing a scene by running to him and yelling at him, you just have to handle it maturely.
And if it's a harmless hanging out situation, then you should ask him who she is and why you don't know about her.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Ohhhhhhkay. So my boyfriend and I have been together for awhile - I'm 18/f, by the way - and in the beginning of our relationship, I thought his mom liked me.
I even heard her say she did once. But as we've been together longer, I've gotten to know her better and I don't really like her...I mean I do, but there are things she does and says that I really, really don't like. I think she's picked up on that, and she doesn't like me.
I don't know if that's WHY she doesn't like me, or if she's one of those "no one's good enough for my baby!" types of moms, but whatever the reason, I think she dislikes me. I've also been told she doesn't like any of his girlfriends.
His dad seemed to like me too, but I'm not sure about that, either, now.
I...guess I want to win them over, but I'm not sure how. I've never had the issue where a boyfriend's parents didn't like me. It's usually my parents that don't like my boyfriends, but they like him this time. Odd.
At first it didn't matter to me at all, because I wasn't really in this for something serious, but it kinda got serious, and now I care...which is kinda bad...help?
Good spelling and grammar please...!
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I'm not sure why his parents would dislike you since theres nothing you've mentioned that could lead them to feel that way about you.
But, maybe you should ask your boyfriend if his parents always seem a little distant toward his girlfriends and if he says that they are distant, then my guess would be that they don't dislike you. Maybe his parents never really admired his girlfriends and you should try getting that information from him.
I think it is really important for you to look into this and care about what his family thinks of you because family brings everyone together and when there's tension, it can take everything apart.
What you really have to do is let your boyfriend know your concerns and that you strongly care about him and his family and hopefully he will be able to help you with it. I believe that it's a good thing to try reaching out to his parents and really showing them that you want a future with their son.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Hey, How do you make icons for Iconator.com.
I rate 5's
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Basically you have to download a Paint Shop program and I'll direct you to one that most people use.
The thing is that you have to teach yourself how to make icons and it's really hard, but don't give up.
http://www.corel.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=Corel3/Products/Display&pfid=1047024307383&pid=1047024390003
I'm not sure if they let you download it for free anymore, but try getting a username account on that webpage and see.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: i just ruined the thing i have been practicing and working on for 5 months. im under so much stress i just want to die. i've been crying for hours and i really dont want to go to class tomorrow. iv worked soo incredibly hard for this and i just ... choked, i couldnt do it. and i was completely embarrassed in front of EVERYONE. im just amazed that everything iv worked for, fell and crumbled in 5 minutes. feels like its my all my fault too. im so pathetic right now, please help me out.
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When school and everything in life becomes too stressful, you have to ask for help. Tell your parents what's been going on and you feel really down because of all of this work in school.
If your parents aren't an option, reach out to your school counselor and let them know that school is highly stressing you out and that you need some help. They can and will help you by contacting your teachers and letting them know that you've been having it rough lately. They can find you a better plan to start catching up in school and staying on track as long as you need.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I am pretty much a tomboy at my school. I have been on all varsity sports teams since my freshmen year, so basically i am one of the guys. I have long hair like a girl, i look like a girl but most of my friends are boys.
Recently, i have been talking to this guy. He is soo nice and sweet and we have been talking a lot. We walk to class together, talk about track, ect. So, long story short, i have a major crush. The thing is, he doesnt even see me in that way at all and it just crushes me.
My freinds called him (without me knowing) and asked if he likes me and he said "i geuss i never even thought of her like that" So now i have been avoiding him becuase he probably thinks i am some sorta stalker and i'm afraid that it will be awkward. Any advice?
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Having a crush on someone doesn't make you a stalker. You're just like every other girl whose crushing on a guy, and I think it's safe for someone to ask him if he feels the same way toward you. Don't avoid him just because he hasn't thought of you in a relationship kind of way, just keep being his friend and he'll start wondering about what you'd be like as a girlfriend.
Playing sports and being on the varsity teams doesn't make you one of the guys. You are an athletic girl and don't let that convince you that you can't act like a girl.
The thing is that everyone will always have feelings for someone whose not feeling the same way back and the best thing to do is move on from it as if it never happened. And you never know, he might think of you in that way later and change his mind.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Okay..So one of my best friend got a new bf. They were completely obsessed with each other, and I was getting blown off. I confronted her and it didn't go that well. Now we barely talk, and she treats me like I'm not even there. I can't really explain the way I feel when she treats me, its just a "I'm basically not good enough to talk to her" kinda feeling. I just want to be a more civil state or starting to be friends again kind of state. Any ideas?
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I know you miss your friend a lot, but sometimes you just have to let her have her honeymoon phase with her boyfriend and eventually they'll get sick of each other and start giving each other more space.
Though she should realize that she's not being a very loyal friend by acting as if nothing has changed when they have. But I think that if she truly knew what was going on in your mind, then she'd feel bad and try to correct things, but when you have that loving feeling, it's like you put on blinders and you see nothing but that one person you love.
What you should do is let your friend come to you when she wants to hang out. Find other friends to spend your time with and start making new ones while she's off with her boyfriend. There's honestly nothing else you can do to make her see things your way.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: There's this guy at work that likes me. He's liked me for a while now... however I do not like him.. and his way of approaching me. His flirtatious words and all that I did not really feel comfortable with that. But otherwise if he's serious and we talk about useful stuffs such as computers and stuffs It's alrite. He helped me fix my computer last time and said he'd come over again today to help me come over however... he never showed up. This is because of our convo yesterday:
He: If there's anything else you'd like me to DL just give me a list.
Me: Nah it's ok. I dun wanna wast your time.
He: Time used on you is never a waste.
Me: But there's no way of me repaying you.
He: Do I really not have a chance at all?
Me: As friends very likely, but no more or less.
He goes on talkin about how we should give it a try and how you'll never know until you try things out since love is unpredictable.. I told him no.. I do not want a bf rite now nor do I wanna get involved in a relationship. He goes on and says well you're my type of girl but i guess Im just not ur type. and then he says well hope happiness and love will be your guidance angels forever and hope you'll find your true love soon. then i said thx.. and that was the last convo we've had... I dun get it how come we can't b fwnds? How come he has to act like he doesn't know me?? I'm glad I changed my shift to Fridays instead of Sat. otherwise it'd be even more awkward hafing to face each other. But.. I don't know I feel bad.. there's this thingy that's been eating at me for a while.. I just don't like it when I lose a friend... but is this a real friend? I mean when someone likes you that's why they wanna get close to you... but then it's not like they are nice to you because they wanna be fwnds... it's coz they are interested in you and wish to go out with you... Should I just ignore him too? Should I forget about it?? But wat if we haf this gathering at work... and I hafta see him?? what do I do?? ignore him? Get ignored? Man... I wish not everybody at work knew about him liking me... most people did tho.. even the boss..
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When a guy is interested in you and you don't feel the same way, the possibilities of having a friendship isn't that great and it's not something you should take harshly. He got rejected by you and that hurts him.
It really is hard to be just friends with someone you have romantic intentions for. So don't think of this as him ignoring you, he's just probably not happy that you don't want anything more with him so he doesn't like the thought of only being your friend. My suggestion is to stop feeling guilty and bad that he's not talking to you anymore because you have to give him space just as he's giving you. If you see each other at work, just act like you always have.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: i'm going to try and make this brief
by just stating facts first off.
-i am a sixteen year old girl
-i had this boyfriend for 6 months.
-we broke up because he said he was confused,
and was starting to have a change of feelings
for me.
it's been three months since the breakup.
we're still friends, we never really stopped.
lately i've been doing horrible in school,
so he offered to tutor me.
he came over last night and we went over homework,
but he would occasionally get unfocussed.
so i asked him what was wrong and he said
he just had alot of things on his mind.
so of course, i asked him what they were,
and he wouldnt tell me at first,
but eventually he said
"im starting to have feelings for you again,
and it's just so weird how this is the first
time we've hung out since the break up"
and from there we kindof locked eyes, and he
said he really missed kissing me, and he started
to cry. saying how much he misses me but he doesnt
want to give me the wrong idea if he kissed me
because he doesnt know what he wants. which is
why he wont even ask out this other girl. cause
he's confused.
[now mind you right now he's KINDOF with that other girl, theyre not dating, but supposadly
they like eachother and they kiss once in a
while and that kind of stuff, but theyve
been going downhill the past 2 weeks]
wo we kissed. but not just making out. he
would kiss my forhead and my nose and say
how im beautiful and all that. and i was
so happy because i thought maybe he wanted
to be with me again.
his mom called and we went to wait outside
while his mom drove to pick him up. and it was
pouring outside and it was dark. me and him
just stood there and he said "maybe we shouldnt
have done what we did, i dont want you to
expect me to ask you out right away becayse
i honestly dont know what i want."
and he started crying again, saying how he couldnt
bare to hurt me again. and all this stuff.
his mom came to get him, and he hugged me goodbye.
and later that night he called me and told me
that what we did was a mistake. and how he couldnt
see uss together again. but how he still has
feelings for me he's just afraid if we date
he'll lose feelings again.
so i dont know what to do. i love him so much.
i always have and i probabbly will for a long
time. im happy we got to hang out after so long.
and im happy i got to kiss him but i dont
know what to expect out of this.
please help me. im sorry this is long.
ill rate hi for sure.
thanks
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He must be really confused if he can't seem to make up his mind about you.
The only option you have is to wait for him to decide whether he wants to be with you or not. I mean, I wouldn't turn down any other guys you like because you are waiting for him because it sounds to me like he's probably not going to try being with you again anytime soon. I want to tell you that he wants to be with you, and it's true at the same time, but then again he should just get with you instead of kissing you or touching you as if you both are already together.
It's just teasing and toturing you by kissing you and then telling you later that it was a mistake. He acts like he's trying to prevent from hurting you, but you probably aren't feeling so great about being told he wants to be with you, and then suddenly he changes his mind.
What you should do is ask this guy whether he wants to be with you or not and that you need an up front honest answer because you want to move on as soon as you can if he decides to go a different direction.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: ok welll i really need some help. ok well i did something really bad and its not like me to do it.. ok i stole my friends cell.. at school.. and i lied and told them i didnt steal it.. and then i got caught bc my bff called her mom on it and i didnt think theyd track the number.. but yeah i got caught and now im suspended.. and the girl told everybody about what i did.. and now the whole school knows aboout it, and like everybody is mad at me..and i have like not many friends.. blahhh i just need some tips on what to do.. please help me =( thanks..
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You probably won't ever get a clean slate with everyone in school, but you have to make things right.
For one thing, if you already havn't, you need to apologize to your friend about taking her cell phone. She may not accept your apology, but what's really important is that you say you're sorry and be able to feel good that you've said it. Don't expect to be her friend or for her to accept your apology either.
As for everything else, you have to accept what other people think about you, and if you don't like that they think that you are a theif or anything else, then change those bad things about you and make it right. And also remember that the next time you steal something, you hurt and damage people around you. People who steal don't realize how much money gets spent on certain objects that they steal.
But I'm glad that you got caught because you probably would have never confessed to it if you weren't caught, and that's a really stupid and harsh thing to do, especially to a friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: K, so I asked the question about being in love with my ex still after I cheated on him. Well, I decided I don't anymore, because I told him how I felt, and he pretty much told me he hated me, and it made me cry, so now I'm done wasting my time on him. I broke up with my other boyfriend because I only liked him as a friend, and I didn't wanna lead him on anymore.
Now, there's a boy at school named Nick. He's liked me since 7th grade [we're in 9th]. Now, I asked him out last Friday, and he told me he didn't know. After school on Friday. He walked me to my bus, hugged me & gave me a kiss. It was weird, but I went with it. And then after school that day, he told me he liked being single, but he also really liked me, but wanted to keep his options open, so I was like "Okay, well let me know when you wanna go out." and he was all "Yeah, totally." So, yesterday [Monday] we hung out during lunch, since we have the same lunch, and I told him I was cold, so he put his arm around me & held my hand, and then I looked at him when we were walking inside and he kissed me. We were walking down the hall, because the bell rang & he kissed me again. I went to his locker with him, and he was putting in his combination to get his stuff, and he had his arm around my waist, with a really strong grip. Then, we went to my locker so I could get my stuff for my class, and he had his arms around me and he was standing in back of me. And then he kissed me & went to his class. After that class, he seen me, and came to my locker. Now, I leave last block on certain days, because I don't have a class, so, he came to my locker, and he had to go to science, and he kissed me again and left. And then today he told my friend to tell me he didn't wanna go out with me.
If he didn't wanna go out with me, why did he kiss me? And what should I do? I like him, but he's confusing. What's with him?
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This guy sounds pretty stupid for touching you and acting as if you were his girlfriend and yet he does not want to be with you officially.
What you need to do is make sure that you don't let him kiss and hug on you. Tell him that you aren't willing to to the things couples do if he's not willing to actually be in a couple with you. Right now, it looks like he wants to kiss on you and other girls because you can't call him on it upset because he's 'keeping his options open'.
That is exactly how it is too. Do not let him kiss you anymore until he starts calling you his girlfriend.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: My very best childhood friend, Lee, had been liking me since sixth grade... and I like him too. But the problem is, it seems to me like we're not meant to be together. Because like in sixth grade, we pretended to like other people because we were too shy to tell each other about our feelings. (It ended up with me going out with other boy) Then I moved to other school in seventh grade and he went out with a high school girl because he was depressed that I was gone. And I, heard that he was going out with other girl, went out with my sister's friend. Then, in eight grade, again, he went out with other girl because I wasn't there, and I just thought that we were never meant to be together. But then he broke up with that girl and finally confessed his love that he had been hiding from everyone since sixth grade. What do you say? Do you think it's too late? Or just never meant to be together?
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I wouldn't really say that the two of you aren't meant to be, it's just hard to tell someone that you have feelings for them so they just wait for the other person to make the first move.
So I think what happened is that your friend wanted you to know that he liked you, but he wanted to wait for you to do something to show him that you have the same feelings. Even if that weren't the case, theres no reason why you shouldn't be with him if you truly want to be with him.
Maybe you can look at things this way. You both went through dating all of these other people and they all didn't work out, so maybe something is bringing the two of you together finally.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: well I had A best friend she wsa like a sistre to me, we did everything together we told each other everything. We were friends since I was in 2nd grade and she was in 3rd. well now we are in high school and we got suspended from school because we both got in trouble for something, well I confessed to what I did but she tryed to blame her part on me. WE havent talked since (its been a couple of months) because she betrayed me. should I give in and talk to her and try to be her friend again, after all she was the best friend i ever had or so I thought so should I try to talk to her or just forget about her??? srry its so long but please help me.
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I understand that you and this best friend really had a fun friendship, but the truth is that she needs to be the one to come to you and tell you that she's sorry for trying to blame something she did on you.
I know that you truly respected her as a best friend, but you deserve respect in this friendship too. Until she decides to be mature and a true friend, then you should take this time to make some new friends or catch up with your old friends.
-TheTeenGirl
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82603
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