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Boyfriend's mom...well, parents, really, but mostly mom.
Ohhhhhhkay. So my boyfriend and I have been together for awhile - I'm 18/f, by the way - and in the beginning of our relationship, I thought his mom liked me.
I even heard her say she did once. But as we've been together longer, I've gotten to know her better and I don't really like her...I mean I do, but there are things she does and says that I really, really don't like. I think she's picked up on that, and she doesn't like me.
I don't know if that's WHY she doesn't like me, or if she's one of those "no one's good enough for my baby!" types of moms, but whatever the reason, I think she dislikes me. I've also been told she doesn't like any of his girlfriends.
His dad seemed to like me too, but I'm not sure about that, either, now.
I...guess I want to win them over, but I'm not sure how. I've never had the issue where a boyfriend's parents didn't like me. It's usually my parents that don't like my boyfriends, but they like him this time. Odd.
At first it didn't matter to me at all, because I wasn't really in this for something serious, but it kinda got serious, and now I care...which is kinda bad...help?
Good spelling and grammar please...!
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My boyfriends mom was the exact same way, i managed to get to the bottom of everything and she said, its because she felt i am taking her place in her childs life now she knows thats not what i was trying to do and we managed to work around it but the only way to fix what you've got going on, talk to her its the best thing you could ever do, not just for her mainly for yourself.
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It can be really difficult for a parent to let their children "go". Perhaps his mother feels that the longer you are together the more chance there is that he will want to eventually live with you or want to get married. My mother-in-law was fine about me at the beginning of our relationship but over the years she got more and more nasty to me. I think she felt I was taking away her son away from her and she didn't like it. I never stopped my husband or my children from seeing her but I still got bad feelings from her a lot of the time. I am now a mother myself with a son of 21 and I have always welcomed my sons girlfriends into our home. I may not have always liked them but I never made them feel uncomfortable. I still have my son at home with me and his regular girlfriend is really lovely. I know in my heart that the saying "a daughters a daughter the whole of her life, and a son is a son 'til he takes him a wife" is true but I hope that my son will always come back and see me when he has left home.
There is no quick or easy solution to this kind of problem and I never over the years found one either. You can only hope that by being generous and courteous to your boyfriends mum that she will eventually melt. Don't hold a grudge against her because that is non-productive and it will give off negative vibes. My husbands' mother has since died and there are a few regrets on my side but I can do nothing about it. I wish I could give you an easy answer but as I see the problem from both sides it is really very difficult to solve. I wish you and your boyfriend the very best and I sincerely hope you find some answers. Good luck.
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I'm not sure why his parents would dislike you since theres nothing you've mentioned that could lead them to feel that way about you.
But, maybe you should ask your boyfriend if his parents always seem a little distant toward his girlfriends and if he says that they are distant, then my guess would be that they don't dislike you. Maybe his parents never really admired his girlfriends and you should try getting that information from him.
I think it is really important for you to look into this and care about what his family thinks of you because family brings everyone together and when there's tension, it can take everything apart.
What you really have to do is let your boyfriend know your concerns and that you strongly care about him and his family and hopefully he will be able to help you with it. I believe that it's a good thing to try reaching out to his parents and really showing them that you want a future with their son.
-TheTeenGirl
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hey, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and his parents and have a talk! tell his paretns exactly how you feel and dont hold back. if you do hold back then they wont know yoru tryue feeligns adn the problem may not get solved. cait♥
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okay what you should do is confront them about it and ask them questions like if there making smart remarks then tell them exactly how you fell dont disrespect them but confront them in a respectful way and say if you dont like me then tell me because youve been doing stuff lately that's been throwing me off..
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