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To Stop Him
Ren, my childhood friend, who has loved me since ever, is unstoppable. He always wants me to be his girlfriend since we were little, which is kind of impossible, because I'm so busy and not interested in that kind of relationship. But then he started it,
Since he can't have me, he starts going out with these girls and dump them in a day or an hour, just to hurt their feelings. I told him to stop, but all he said was,"I'll stop if you can be mine." some of those girls are my friends, and I feel sorry for them. He keeps doing it to other girls, and no one can ever stop him. He thinks by doing that, he is hurting me, because he has weakness: I don't know why, but he can never hurt me by any means. This is so sad, and those girls really like him. What should I do? I still am busy and tired of his behaviour... Please help...
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Ok. You should go up to the guy and say you like him. Then you should go out with him but an hour later or so, dump him. Now he will know how it feels to be hurt. Tell him that's how all your friends probably felt when he did that same thing to them. That will most-likey stop him. But the of course apologize.
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Well that's pretty childish and heartless to hurt these girl's feelings intentionally.
You can't make him stop, but you do have the power to warn these girls what they are in for. And they can decide whether they want to listen or give him a try and it just has to happen.
I think eventually if you just ignore or act like you don't know what he's doing, he'll understand that he isn't going to win your heart, at least not that way.
Just keep busy like you have been lately and try not letting it get to you. Besides, being with someone for just a day really isn't that hard to get over unless you've known them and have like them for a long time.
-TheTeenGirl
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I cannot believe that this guy can be so callous and unfeeling as to do this to innocent bystanders. I'm sorry to say this but this is certainly not the sort of person you should EVER be in a relationship with, as he clearly has no respect at all for women and if he really did love you properly, he would never do anything to try to upset you.
Really, the only thing you can do is try to have a serious talk to him once and for all and the lay down the law. Tell him that you aren't interested in him in that way and that showing he has no respect for women is NOT the way to a woman's heart. If he carries on the way he is, not only will he end up without you but without anyone at all and he will be miserable and lonely. Finally, tell him that you're sorry he feels bad about it, but you don't think you will ever feel that way about him because there's just no chemistry there.
After this, I would really recommend that you are careful. While setting him straight is the best thing to do, this guy is showing very worrying behaviour and I'm concerned about what his reaction may be. So make sure that when you tell him this, you go with someone nearby and that your parents/friend/etc are aware of the situation. If he does ANYTHING that could be construed as harassment or any other such behaviour, make sure you record it and inform the police immediately.
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