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Q: When giving advice to someone on this website, i usually tell my point of view about the situation, and i also tell them the truth and what is right to do.But when i do that, i usually get rated a 1 or 3 because the people simply didn't hear what they wanted to hear. So my question is , how can we make people listen to what they are saying, and not just cover their ears and close their infront of the truth, and let go to hear what they want to hear. i have tried to help people alot, but they just don't seem to listen. i really want to help them, and i care so much about helping people and making them happy much more than i care about my ratings.So what do i do to make them listen to the truth?

Yeah i know that annoys me too!!! i'm not sure how to stop it but i try to say well this is just my point of view with it and then i put something like hope it works out for you!! or hope this helps!!!

Q: i have a hot pink razor almost brand new and i hate it! it's too small and too wade to hold. i never droped it but its su uncomfutbale. i want to get the new sidekcik because my sister has the sidekick 2 and i just love it. the problem is the sidekick 3 is like 450 bucks so im wondering if because my razor is only a month old would they let me trade it and i could just pay the difference?

it depends what carrier you use... i know verizon has a 15 day return policy hope it works out for you!!!

Q: i was wondering if anyone knew of any programs or how to make certain items in black and white photo's colored.

if you download paint shop pro 7 through a program like bearshare or limewire (that way you don't have to pay for it lol) then you open the picture then you click colors then grey scale... easy as that!

Q: ok so i dont eat i cant sleep my hairs falling out and i dunno whats going on...even the thought of food disguists me and i cant sleep i try but i cant i sleep at like 9 in the morning every day and now i touch my head and id find some hair come out its starting to scare me im not sure what i have ...ive been having a hard time lately and been goin through some kind of depression im not sure if thats part of it ..ok thx Biii!

That's anorexia...you might not think your fat but you don't have to think you are to be anorexic... I used to hate food too and the doctors called it ''anorexic'' even though i wasn't upset with the way i looked i was just very picky... Insomnia and your hair falling out is both signs that you are anorexic... try and find something you like to eat....

[[ EDIT about your comment-- if you read it more carefully you would have seen that i said you dont have to think your fat to be anorexic... its just the fact that you like never eat or you just dont eat a lot that you are anorexic... so like i said you don't have to think your fat ]]

Q: i gave head on july 11th. and now i have 3 canker sores in my mouthhh...do i have herpes? or is that a sign...should i get it checked oout....

That doesn't really sound like herpes because herpes is usually on the outside of your mouth like coldsores.... this sounds like syphillis (rare but it's making a comeback... a lot of people in my school have it) when you have syphillis you get sores on the inside of of your mouth... you should get checked out! They will probablly give you a simple injection that will get rid of it all.

Q: would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.

I don't think its wrong at all.. i dated a boy who was a year younger than me.. but i dumped his sorry ass because he was too immature... hope your boy is a little more mature than my ex was!!!

Q: I'm looking at redoing my room ... i want it to be like a club (so strobe lights and everything) i got 300 dollars set aside ... does any one have any ideas of what i could do to make it look really cool? websites would help to.

FYI i rate your answers.

thanks ..

Here are some links that i think would go well with the whole club theme

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=28720&partner=10261&CMB=93-68

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=73583&PID=68&CMB=93-68&partner=10261

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=88974&PID=98&CMB=93-98&partner=10261

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=81056&PID=98&CMB=93-98&partner=10261

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=81047&PID=98&CMB=93-98&partner=10261

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=88947&PID=98&CMB=93-98&partner=10261

http://www.yourkidsdirect.com/yourkids/prod_display1.asp?product=68243&PID=98&CMB=93-98&partner=10261

http://www.simplysearscollege.com/index.aspx?g_panel=p1&g_cat=4&g_subcat=20&sid=OSx20060714x0101869&GCID=S18496x002&KEYWORD=dorm+room+bedding&MATCHTYPE=content

sorry i didn't find many things... this is a hard one

Q: I've been having this horrible pain, about 5 inches to the right of my belly button. It'll come for about 30 seconds, then go away. But it`ll hurt so bad it forces me to sit down.
(its not period cramps, it hurts much worse, and its totally different, plus I had mine last week)

And now, I feel faint, really hott, and super dizzy. When I was at the movies I was nauses (sp?)
What could be wrong? Please help, I feel horrible!

could be a kidney stone or gullstone you should check with your doctor

Q: 14/f. i really don't want to come off as full of myself or anything because i'm definitaly not. but i've kinda started to notice that a lot of guys stare at me (in a good way lol), or check me out. like at the beach two REALLY hot guys were checking me out (and its not like i have a really good body or anything like that). even my parents noticed them checking me out. and i've been noticing this going on a lot lately. but the problem is that nobody even notices me like that at school. i think it is because i'm shy.

so my question is...do you think that the guys at my school don't notice me like the other guys do because they actually know my personality and they know that i'm shy? if so, what can i do to get them to notice me like other guys do?

Thanks

Yeah i think that could be a deffinate possibility. don't be so shy... be crazy because 10 years from now when your on your own the time that really matters you wont even know these people anymore

Q: i took a ept pregnancy test and it came out positve could the test be wrong

Very Very Very rare that it would be wrong i suggest going to a health clinic and getting checked out... if you don't want anyone to know they will keep it a secret.

Q: I'm sorta pale and have dark hair so alot of people asume I'm goth and it really ticks me off! I just dont like outdoor activities and have a huge fear of bugs...I even think pale guys are way cute! I'm afraid maybe a guy wont think I'm as pretty because of my skintone...which isnt PAPER white I'm part native american so even when my skin is VERY base there is a little color in it and I have freckles. I dont know...I'm just worried guys wont think of me as cute/hot because of it..help?

http://www.eccessivamente.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/05/Gilmore%20girls.jpg
(girl on right) she is very pale, dark haired, and very beautiful... guys also tend to like pale girls just be yourself around guys and dont try to impress them.

hope this helps

Q: ok im scared senseless of using a tampon like im jus scared itll hurt. ive tried puttin one in like 3 times & i cant even do it bc i tense up so bad. ive heard people say that you cant even feel it when its in but ive also heard ppl say you can feel it just enough to tell its inside you soo which is it???

When its in me i only feel a little pressure but it goes away really soon believe me i was scared too but i had a pool party to go to and i didn't wanna miss out because of my period so i just stuck it in and got used to it. I use a brand that is a slim fit.... called playtex gentle glides the regulars should fit very well.

hope this helps

Q: im so upset all my boyfriends friends think they can do what ever they want to me my boyfriend always hits me and i cant tell my parents or the cops my boyfriend said he will hit me till i cant walk anymore please someone give me advice

You HAVE to tell the cops... they will put him in jail and you can get a restraining order. If you don't he will just keep hitting you...honestly you have to tell the cops... you don't have to tell your parents because they might try and hunt him down and won't know what they are doing and they could get hurt... the cops will handle it in a professional way and noone will get hurt. Just think...you might say the wrong thing or give him the wrong look and you could be dead... please think about this

Q: i'm 5'8 and 112 pounds maybe? how fast can i lose around 10-15 pounds and how? what are some things i can do?

thats kind of gross because i am 5'7 and 112.5 pounds... i am a whole inch shorter and half a pound heavier and i am trying to gain weight... you would be way too skinny... verrryyy gross.. do you think you are fat? because that is like anorexia.

Q: hey i have a pink razor cell phone from verizon wireless, and i was wondering something about it.

well you know how on cell phones they have different letters on the same button, like thers mno on one button? well usually if you wana type m after o, then instead of pressing o and waiting for the thing to go to the next space, you press the right arrow key after you press o, and it goes quickly to the next space and you just press m.

well my razor phone doesnt do that, and if i press the right arrow key, then it like does tab and skips a couple of spaces.

is ther any other key than the right arrow key that will go to the next space on the razor cell phone?

i am thinking that the down or up button might work because thats how my old phone worked

Q: ok so my little brother is 9 years old and he always wants me to play with him. he doesnt understand that im older and have things to do. whenever i try to explain this to him, he gets upset and thinks i dont want to play with him so i feel really guilty. how can i explain to him that im busy a lot and dont really have that much time to play with him?

btw 15/f

You should set a play date or family night so you can hang out with him on that day all the time you can plan games and activities and arts and crafts to do with eachother at least until he grows out of the whole " i wanna play with my big sister 24/7" thing.

hope this helps!!!

Q: Hey guys. I'm redoing my room to look sort of like a 50s style diner. All I need is little accessories & furniture that look old fashioned. Here's an example of some chairs -http://www.americanchairs.com/dinerchairs.html
And accessories http://www.sportys.com/shoppl/information/groups/Retro_Dining.html

Yeah, here are my questions.

1. Can anyone find a phone like the one in the second like for me at a price under 100 dollars?
2. Can anyone find this http://www.sportys.com/acb/showdetl.cfm?&did=22&product_id=1835&fromgoogle=yes For me at a price under 500 dollars?
3. Is there anything else you could think of that would look cute in a 50s style diner bedroom?

THANK YOU. :]

This is the question for me! I have always been into interior decorating... prepare for an extreamly long answer lol.

Payphone:
http://www.cruisinusa.com/crosley/?productid=399
price starts at 89.95 they even have a cool hot pink one
this one is for 69.99
http://www.jackandfriends.com/store/customer/product.php?productid=916&cat=129&page=1

Coke Machine:
its hard to find a really vintage one like that for under $500 but i did find this one for 149.00

http://www.stacksandstacks.com/html/111397_10-can-coca-cola-vending-machine.htm

and this one for 149.00
http://www.stacksandstacks.com/html/111396_12-can-coca-cola-vending-machine.htm

this one is for 119.00
http://www.costco.com/Browse/Product.aspx?ec=BC-EC6456-ProdID11098104&pos=2&whse=&topnav=&prodid=11110928

OTHER:
chairs!!! this is a really good website.. they range from 40-200 dollars
http://www.bar-stools-barstools.com/scripts/prodList.asp?idCategory=25

clocks:
http://www.newretrodining.com/acc1_m.htm
its 75 dollars but its cool

http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-3/qid=1154122183/ref=sr_1_3/602-3305901-9991033?%5Fencoding=UTF8&asin=B00013K7J0
old fashioned alarm clock
Small little juke box:
http://www.wards.com/wards/prod_display1.asp?Product=61428&partner=107&CMB=&CP=00&pp=yes&afsrc=1
very good price with how classy it is ... its only 75 dollars

hope this helped!!!

Q: i'm normal, i have some love handles and a little belly, but i'm not fat. does that mean im not "hott" ?

Thats not true... some people like skinny some people like normal some people like obese and even some people like those body building women that actually look like men...

hope this helps!

Q: hey. I recorded a sound on my phone:

http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=phoneFirst&action=viewPhoneDetail&selectedPhoneId=1860

and i was wondering if anyone knew how i can set that sound as my default ringer. thanks :-)

I know that some phones dont let you like my old audiovox and my new motorola but my friend had an LG and she was able to do that... i think she went to settings and then sound and just scrolled through all the sounds until she found it orrrrr i think you could go to play the sound and click options and then it might have a option where you can set it as your ring tone

hope this helps!!!

Q: my boyfriend who ive been with for a very long time wanted to finger me today..but im on my period! hes already done it many times before so when he started to go for it and i took his hand away he was like whats wrong? i didnt want his hand to touch that he'd be DISGUSTED! so i just said"not now"but he kept trying to later on! i wear pads most of the time but even when i do wear tampons..i still cant tell him im on my period cause thatll make everything so awkward! how do you tell a guy without being embarassed and it is it gonna make them freaked out?? cause frankly, its the only thing thats stopping me from doing it and i have no idea what to say.

You can kinda be a smart ass about it by saying

unless you want menstural blood on your hands then go for it

that way its kinda funny and sarcastic which makes it less awkward.

hope this helps!!!