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The truth
When giving advice to someone on this website, i usually tell my point of view about the situation, and i also tell them the truth and what is right to do.But when i do that, i usually get rated a 1 or 3 because the people simply didn't hear what they wanted to hear. So my question is , how can we make people listen to what they are saying, and not just cover their ears and close their infront of the truth, and let go to hear what they want to hear. i have tried to help people alot, but they just don't seem to listen. i really want to help them, and i care so much about helping people and making them happy much more than i care about my ratings.So what do i do to make them listen to the truth?
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peopel don't want to hear the truth. that what to hear that they are right, and should be given what they want...
sadly thats not how the world works, is it?
you can't make them listen, and frankly i don't think you hould try, they don't want to listen, thats their decision.
Solemnstar
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Yeah i know that annoys me too!!! i'm not sure how to stop it but i try to say well this is just my point of view with it and then i put something like hope it works out for you!! or hope this helps!!!
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Try making your answer short... most people dont like reading answers that are really long. Make it short and sweet. Dont go overboard and give them more than what they asked for. I hope I helped and that you will get more questions soon.
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Although we enjoy helping people it's truly up to them if they want to take the advice, I think some people just confuse, they don't no what to do, perhapes make them feel very relax then state you opinion, or just keep doing what your doing.
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FAITHEB
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If they read what you wrote and rated you down for it then they are listening, they simply aren't believing yet.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for a person is be one more voice in the forest screaming "Stop it you damn fool!" It might take dozens of these voices before they listen to reason, but there is nothing wrong with being one of those voices.
Very rarely will one person change another’s mind if they don't want it changed, the best you can hope to be in those cases is one more nudge towards to the truth.
So can you make people believe your advice? No of course you can’t. The best you can do is tell the truth as you see it, be convincing and reasonable, be as kind as possible and be precise with your language. The rest is up to them.
So don't worry so much, rating aren't vitally important. Quality and honest advice is a much better aim anyways.
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well, you can't make them listen to the truth. i understand where you're coming from, but if people aren't willing to take ACTUAL advice... then don't give it to them. before i answer questions i look at what other people have said and what they have been rated... and depending on that, i'll either answer the question or pass it by. it's hard to give advice, but it's harder to accept the truth. i don't think there is anything you can do about that except keep giving good advice. maybe someday the person you gave advice to will finally see that you were right. but until they're willing to listen, they're just asking a question for the sake of asking a question. in my mind, it seems like people ask questions and then wait for a magician to wave their wand and make their problems better, but that's not the case. anyway, i don't think there's anything any of us can do about it, really. i just think that people who ask these questions need to be prepared to hear all kinds of advice, whether it's what they want to hear or not. because otherwise what's the point in asking a question? and that is exactly why i "screen" the questions... so to speak. i only answer the ones that i know can accept my advice.
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