I finally updated my picture, I thought it was time for an update on it so I picked my favorite picture. After all, my previous picture was almost 2 and a half years old!
My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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I have a problem right now n i dont kno what to do.. me n my new boyfriends been goin out for 2 weeks and i really dont got mad fellings for him cuz hes more like a friend plus i still have mad mad feelings for my ex!! n i dont kno wat i should do i want to break up wit my new boyfriend n go with my old one but my frienmds r telling me no.. n then another reason i havent is cuz my ex was a real ass hole n i just dont know wat to do will sum 1 please help me!!!!! (link)
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Spellcheck please. Your chat speak pains my heart.
It sounds like you don't really have any feeling to either guys. "mad feelings"? That means you have some feelings, but your ready to disregard it for an ex who aparently is a jerk?
My suggestion to you is to just end the relationship with your boyfriend now and keep it as friends. Because if you are questioning your feelings towards him, the feelings probably aren't there. And it is always better to keep a friend than to lose one to petty squables.
And as for your ex, let him be. Why go for him if he is crap? That's just stupid.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Me and my friend are going to have a party just for random reasons but we want to rent a place to have it. The place doesnt have to be big just not sooo small. How much money do you think renting a place should be and can u give me some ideas of how to get that money. When you rent a place can you pick your hours or do they pick it for you? I need to get food also please some ideas on what to buy for food and how much all that is. Decorations i need a bunch of lights and all so that is probaly how much money? (link)
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How can we honestly know.
We know nothing of the area you live. There could be several different places around you, but no ones prices will be the same and you might find some more expensive than others.
Your questions is extremely vague location wise. And also asking for money costs, no one here will have ANY idea. It could range from a mere $100 to several hundred dollars. It depends on the place, what decorations you get, what lights you get, and what kind of food you buy.
Speaking of food, the general food for a party is chips and dip with lots of cola (Pepsi, Coke, Sprint, 7UP, etc). And usually some kind of cookie desert or sweet desert (minus candy).
I can't honestly give you an estimation of any price. Your details were to vague. Now if you come back with more detail (say a location and specifics of how many people and decorations) then I could help you more.
Until then, no good. But I do hope I helped you with what little info I was presented with.
-Ryan
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okay well this is the deal.
im ready to have sex i know i am. im with a boy right now and we've decided that were going to do it. im just really nervous cuz im not on birth control and im scared something is like going to happen to the condom, like rip. i told him that i was nervous and asked him that whenever he felt like he was going to bust he would take it out and then put it back it when he stopped ..
is that a god idea and if your not on birth control and you use a condom is it most likely you can get pregnant or is like 1 in every 500 people?
please comment back asap !! thank you !!
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If you feel you are ready for sex, then why do you ask this question?
As said before by the wonderful columnist before me.
"if you don't know this then you are not ready for sex"
I concur with them on this and you get a second opinion on the matter. Despite your feeling of readiness, you are still nervous and uninformed. If used properly, a condom will not break, there is a (correct me if I am wrong) 99% chance if used correctly, it will not break. But that is of course, if it is used correctly.
And the only reason I know the percentage, is because that is from a sizeable chunk of questions asked at this site.
Rethink if you are really ready and find out first how to properly use one and you will be fine.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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i was wondering what buenosaires means?
ill rate 5's for your time ! :] (link)
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"Good air" in spanish.
-Ryan
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omg okay so i was on buddypic.com and i clicked on a site thinking it was a picture but it went to my myspace and said that a cancellation was going to be sent to my email.. meaning that i said i was going to cancel it but i didnt mean to do that! so is my myspace going to be dleted?!!? because it said that i had to follow the instructions in order to delete it so do you think it will be dleted?! (link)
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No, it is not.
It is yet another scam trying to profit off of a popular program or website.
Just ignore it.
-Ryan
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ok my dog eats absoloutley anything he can get his paws on-napkins, rocks, rubberbands, twist ties, you name it he'll eat it. Is this abnormal for dogs? is there a way we can train him not to do this? Does he even know what hes eating could be harmful to him? thanks ♥ (link)
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It is probably a mix between instinct and curiosity, which means he probably does not know it is harmful to him, unless he feels pain.
But since it is instinctful, you can train him to not eat just whatever. To do so you would have to take some of the most common items he eats and put something repulsive on them. Say a bad taste or smell. When he goes to eat them..he will expierence the bad sensation and should back away.
It is subliminal training. After several times doing this he will begin to assosciate the object with the bad sensation, and therefore avoid eating it. This is common psychological training to do, and if all works well it will work.
Perhaps also you could talk to your veterinarian and see what he reckomends.
I hope I helped. And I hope your dog stops eating all that rotten stuff!
-Ryan
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me and my two friends are planning on making a time capsol but we dont know what we should put in it. so far we're putting in surveys that we took and a picture of else. what else should we put in it? (link)
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I like your idea, it is quite a good idea.
You should put things that are memorable to the time period. Such as important world events, local events. Special memories. So among some of the items you might want, would be.
-newspaper clipings featuring important events.
-an article or picture of "popular" clothing that was popular when you buried the time capsule.
-photographs of you and friends
-samples of music and music lyrics that were popular of new to the time
-perhaps some kind of electronic device, like a CD player or mp3 player.
-a world map for the time period, detailing countries especially.
-some kind of new CD (blank)
-just something special that would remind you of when you buried the capsule. Anything can be an option, just be creative.
I think your idea is really neat so I hope I helped with my list. Good luck with it!
-Ryan
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wellll, valentines day is my favorite holiday. wlel, let me re-phrase thats. WAS my favorite holiday. well, one of my guy bff's (lets call him... kangaroo) well, idk. we were reeeally tight for awhile. and idk what happened. it seemed like we were always haveing fun with each other, and i thought that he really did like me. he was always flirting with me and even my friends thought he liked me. and on valentines day, i was soooo sure that he would ask me out. but no. he asked out this other girl and i was sooo upset! i was crying for at least a week. i know hes just a guy and that we werent gunna get married or anything but i didnt think that broken hearts hurt soo much! and now all he talks about is that girl hes going out with. and i dont even ever wanna see him again. what are some good ways to forget about stupid guys? and what are some ways to get him back?? im 13 years old and female (link)
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Your 13, you got alot more time to have a relationship.
Let me ask you this. How can you call him stupid for following his own heart and unknowingly breaking yours? I am pretty sure he didn't do it on purpose so why think he did? And why would you want to get back at him for innocently pursuing another girl? That seems awfully vindictive, doesn't it?
Instead of letting the great friendship with him fall away, why don't you try and preserve it? Because it is pointless to lose a friend over relationship issues, especially if that friend your losing is the aparent "cause" of it. I am sure your overreacting. If your only 13 and you get so heartbroken over this, you are going to have a very dramatic teen life. He is your friend and because he is one of your best friends you should work this out with him. Probably would be best to just move on and let him enjoy the time he will get with his girl, because I bet it won't last.
I am sorry for you feeling this way, but I just hope you can get over this, because it seems pointless to be so upset. So I hope I helped and you get better.
-Ryan
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This might be the strangest question ever, but how do you gain weight but still have a nice figure?
People always say Im to skinny and I agree. But i dont want to just like eat alot nd be un healthy nd have the weight come in bad ways.
can you help me? (link)
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Muscle.
The best way to gain weight and keep the figure and shape, is to work out. Muscle naturally weighs more than body fat does. So to work out more means you lose body fat while gaining muscle weight, which progresses your weight upward at a nice even weight.
You might want to talk to you doctor about ways to do this and good ways to do this.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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i am 13 and i really like this guy anthony
1.what are some was i can make him want me??
Like today at school i wore a shirt that showed off my chest. You can see my bra and the sides of my boobs. Well today in class since my friend sits next ot anthony i leaned over on her desk so he can see my chest and he was looking!!! for now on i am wearing more revealing shirts!!
2.i mean i just want him to ask me out so i can hug him and kiss him and hold his hand. I want to do this as soon as possible,especially the kissing and the hand holding. But i never kissed a guy before. but i want this kiss to not just be a peck on the lips i want it to last over 1 minute and i want it to be as described:
first we are walking at school all alone with no one around hand in hand. We walk very slowly. We go behind the handball courts, we stare into each others eyes do a half smile. And then ill say o its cold outside and hell give me his sweater and get closer and grabs me as our faces are getting closer and closer and we kiss. It will be lasting over 1 minute with open mouths and if he wants to put his tongue in my mouth i will slowly let him and make my tongue touch his. And while we are doing this i will have my hands on his hips constantly moving and his hands will either be on my waist or starting at the waist and moving up slightly touching my breasts. By then my shirt would be half way open. And after we are finally done we slowly break our lips apart and ill say i love you and give him a quick kiss on the lips.it will be the best time of my life so far i am only 13 but that is how i would like my first kiss to be and i would like it to be with anthony or with alex but i really wish it was with anthony, well does that sound like a good first kiss.
love always anthony b.
Julie (link)
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I'm sorry but, your planning this out?
Why?
And why do you wish to have a boyfriend, if your sole goal is physical accomplishment? Because that is exactly what I got from what you wrote.
If this is your goal in getting this guy to like you, then just stop now and spend time rethinking it all to yourself. What do you want out of this? Is it to be accepted and be like everyone else? Is it for your conscience? In the end it is all futile.
And from the looks of how your dressing, your attracting the wrong kinds of guys with the wrong kind of reasons for having a girlfriend. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is much more than physical contact, it is alot deeper and you would do well to understand that. Why would you want to attract a guy whose only interest is in your body? Those kinds of relationships never last.
I would highly advice you to rethink everything. Planning everything out and especially your goals for this just seem very out of place (to me especially). Rethink everything. Would you really want to attract a guy who only wants you for your body?
-Ryan
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did evanescence come out with a new cd recently? besides fallen?
cuz i really want it but im not sure (link)
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You can just search Evanescence albums on google you know.
But because my favorite band is Evanescence, I will tell you.
Evanescence did not come out with a "new" album, but rather a stage album/DVD that shows their European tour. Evanescence currently has completed their new album and I believe it is to be expected around the end of summer.
Evanescence has 3 albums currently (not counting EP's). They are Fallen, Anywhere but Home (the CD/DVD) and Origin (the first album, which is somewhat rare with only 2500 being made).
I believe that is all. I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Ok so this is kinda of a long story...well i cheated on Scott last night with one of my ex-boyfriends, see Timothy ( the guy i cheated on scott with) and me have known each ohter since we were kids he was my first kiss and my first real boyfriend. We dated a couple of times but were three years apart so we had to sneak around well he moved awhile ago, like far far away and we lost touch with each ohter. Well i saw him yesterday for the first time in maybe like a year or two..and he told me that he's still wating on me and he still loves me and then we kissed not once but alot. And the thing is i don't feel bad about it at all..i don't plan on telling scott what happend i know i probaly should but...i want to be with timothy but i don't know what he wants i was supposed to call him but i am too scared should i call? i am not going to break up with scott unless things work with me and timothy...is that wrong? i am stressing out about this and i dont know what to do please help me... (link)
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Neither one of them deserve you.
By cheating on Scott, you have proved yourself to be inadequate in your relationships and one who can't be trusted when it comes to them.
Also your lack of remorse even for this is quite troublesome. And from the way your question is worded, you sound like you are just going out with the next best thing or "whatever's there". And this is even with a boyfriend.
What you should do is tell Scott and see what happens. And then you should tell Timothy there is no chance between you because of all of this. In fact, I would advice you to just stay away from boyfriends for awile, until you can learn to stay with the one you have and appreciate it, because you've proven you aren't now.
-Ryan
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I'm doing a reflection for religion. The quote is:
"Forgive them father for they not know what they do." i need to write a reflection on that quote and also explain why Jesus said it. i could do it myself except im too dam busy. has to be like half a page long. so i really hope someone will help me and its due tommorrow and its already like 4 o clock in my time zone.
thx i'll rate 5s!!! (link)
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He said it while he hung on the cross.
Tell us though. You must be writing this for a theology/religion class. So shouldn't you be able to answer this from your heart? I understand the time issue, but every Christian should know this, embedded in their hearts. You take it your own way, and I will say what it means to me.
He said those words as he hung dying on the cross. Everyone at the Golgotha was mocking him, jeering insults at him as he hung there, making a laughing stock of him as he hung dying. They didn't understand or know what was going to happen or what the final plan was. They just saw Jesus as another would be faker, a blasphemer who was getting what he deserved, death.
But they didn't understand it had to be that way. Christ died for our sins by hanging on that cross for almost 6 hours. 6 long hours with 3 nails in your body, suspended between heaven and earth to a cross.
He asked God, his father, to forgive them their sins, because they did not understand that it had to be that way. That Jesus had to die being mocked and hung from one of mankinds worst ways of execution, the cross. All so we could go up to heaven when we die, and not suffer in hell.
To me, that is exactly what it means. The entire subject can go alot deeper than that. But to me that is what it means.
-Ryan
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Do those free giveaways on the net really work, like, you answer 1 little survey and they give you a free iPod? Has anyone done this? What do you actually have to do after you give them your shipping information- promote adds or try out products? Is this bad to do? Do people actually do it? (link)
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Actually.
I read GameInformer and a few issues back they did a article on those kinds of surveys. They actually went and did every single one they could for a free XBox. They did this for about a month until they had finished all their surveys. And we are talking spending house a day on those things.
Well they reported that about a week later, their Xbox arrived, with a receipt saying 0 paid, 0 owed.
So in a technical sense, they do. But only some, and to do so you have to spend unGodly amounts of time on them and alot of energy and effort.
The choice is ultimately up to you, since it is impossible to know which one of those will actually work.
-Ryan
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a few days ago i went to the movies with my guy and girl friends. at the time i had a boyfriend, while the movie was going me and my boyfriend started pashing, my mum walked in saw us and by my hair dragged me out of the cinema, when we got home she tells me that i'm not allowed to
out anymore, i start yelling at her she starts yelling at me in the end i ran away 2 one of my friends house.
MY MUM FOUND ME AND NOW IS NOT LETTING ME DO ANYTHING.
can any1 help me please (link)
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You freaking ran away, do you expect your mom to let you do anything anymore?
The whole thing with your boyfriend, I will just say that is probably a shocker to your mom. But running away over it? What good did that do?
You ran away, and you can only deal with your mistakes through time. Your mom will let you out again, but it won't be for a very long time. And all you can do is wait.
Please make better decisions next time and think ahead.
-Ryan
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to all the people who gave me advice on the rape thing.thanks..i guess you guys were right cuz uhh i told my mom and she listend to the phone call and we went to the cops and they sent me to a doctor to "check" me out for seamon or somthing and they found some and it matched him so hes going to juvey..its a start...so thank you everyone who gave me advice on it..it gave me the couragee to do it and you know what? after i told the police other reports of it showed up..so THANK YOU SOO MUCH!! (sorry it was long:-D) (link)
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And lets home he stays there for a long time...
I'm glad you told someone. What can he do from Juvenial? Nothing. Some threats eh? Good job telling your mom!
-Ryan
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hey ryan,im the girl that started crying and hates to crying infront of people...
I'm 13 and a female last year i hit a swore at this kid because he called me fat.Well sence then i've been talking to tuckermen(the boy i hit)We have gotten closer but not like close close like a fun talk and stuff.Alot of stupid stuff happened(nothing inportant with other friends)I started crying.I hate crying infront of people .I know it not a sigh a weakness but it still uh i just dont like to.The teacher asked alot of questions and i always gave little information.Then tuckermen asked.I liked it.He cared.I went to class still blinking back my tears.He kept looking at me every 5 minites smileing.It cheered me up.I cant like him.I cant im 130 pounds and a pot belly.Ive never had a boyfriend.I know atleast when he called me fat that he didnt like me.I liked that he cared so much.I cant like him.
do i????
please help. (link)
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Why can't you like him?
Past expierences shouldn't decide what you do with your future. It is true your past can affect your future, but in the long run, why should it?
Perhaps it isn't to the point of you are liking him yet. You've obviously gotten closer and put what happened behind you both. Maybe he was just concerned for you. After all, if I saw a friend of mine crying at all, I am gonna ask whats wrong. And if they tell me, I know they are going to fell better afterwards.
I think at the moment, it was a mutual thing. He did what a friend should do and looked after you when you were obviously upset.
And even if there was a possibility he liked you, why shouldn't you like him. How you are on the inside, whats in your heart, far overshadows physical looks when it comes to liking a person.
I hope I answered your question and I helped. If there is anything else you need, feel free to ask, please!
-Ryan
*edit* who cares if your ugly? I told you, the physical part of liking someone, is so increadibly overshadowed by who you are on the inside. Don't worry about it.
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I was wondering what a stocker was and can you use it in a sentence as an example PLEASE !!
Ill rate high ......
thank you (link)
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http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Main_Page
and search "stocker"
Why didn't you just check a dictionary in the first place?
-Ryan
*edit* You mispelled it, how do you count that againts me?
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please help, i dont want to eat anymore! can you please tell me how to restrain myself from eating all the time?! (link)
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Well that wouldn't be healthy.
You need food so your body can function normally and smoothly. You said you don't want to eat all the time right? Well then just take smaller helpings of more wholesome food. Fatty food and all around unhealthy food will not fill you up, so you get more. However more wholesome and balanced food will fill you up rather quickly.
You just need better eating habits. You DO NOT need to stop eating, just better eating habits.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Does anyone know where i can get quotes from the movie "In the mix" with usher? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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www.google.com
the search is "In the mix quotes" most likely
or "quotes from In the mix"
-Ryan
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