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I CHEATED
Ok so this is kinda of a long story...well i cheated on Scott last night with one of my ex-boyfriends, see Timothy ( the guy i cheated on scott with) and me have known each ohter since we were kids he was my first kiss and my first real boyfriend. We dated a couple of times but were three years apart so we had to sneak around well he moved awhile ago, like far far away and we lost touch with each ohter. Well i saw him yesterday for the first time in maybe like a year or two..and he told me that he's still wating on me and he still loves me and then we kissed not once but alot. And the thing is i don't feel bad about it at all..i don't plan on telling scott what happend i know i probaly should but...i want to be with timothy but i don't know what he wants i was supposed to call him but i am too scared should i call? i am not going to break up with scott unless things work with me and timothy...is that wrong? i am stressing out about this and i dont know what to do please help me...
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I can understand your situation. You had a reasonabley happy relationship with your current boyfriend but although you like him, part of you will always be a little attached to Timothy because he was very special to you. Given this, it's understandable that when you saw him again, those emotions came back.
However, although you don't feel guilty about it, I'm sure you know that what you did was wrong and that, although you don't want to risk losing both of the guys, you can't string Scott along if your heart's not in it.
I would recommend that you phone Timothy and tell him how you feel. Explain you were upset when he went away and that last night reminded you of how much you cared about him. Then ask if he would be willing to give the relationship another try.
If he says yes, the first thing you have got to do is to call Scott and break up with him. DO NOT tell him about Timothy because it will make the situation a lot worse. Normally I am all for being honest but telling him about last night will only cause him unncessary hurt. Explain that you just don't feel you have the right chemistry and that now your ex has come back, you owe it to yourself to give it another go.
He will be upset if you have been going out for a while so when you are with Timothy, try to keep it all from Scott for a while, just so it doesn't look like you're throwing it all in his face.
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Neither one of them deserve you.
By cheating on Scott, you have proved yourself to be inadequate in your relationships and one who can't be trusted when it comes to them.
Also your lack of remorse even for this is quite troublesome. And from the way your question is worded, you sound like you are just going out with the next best thing or "whatever's there". And this is even with a boyfriend.
What you should do is tell Scott and see what happens. And then you should tell Timothy there is no chance between you because of all of this. In fact, I would advice you to just stay away from boyfriends for awile, until you can learn to stay with the one you have and appreciate it, because you've proven you aren't now.
-Ryan
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The story you learned in Kindergarten still goes in affect here, Treat others as you would want to be treated. Would you want to be the safety net for Scott while he was out with another girl and just left you hanging incase things didnt work out between him and the other girl he was with? Find out how you truly feel about both of these guys and let one go - and quick.
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I really do think its wrong. You are using these guys and abusing their trust. Particularly Scott. Actually I really feel sorry for him. He really deserves to know what he is getting here.
Actually the fact that you dont feel bad is the thing that I find most worrying. Dont you care about this guy at all? If you do, do you understand how disrespectful you are acting towards him?
If you have any real feelings for this guy, and even accepting the fact you arent going to tell him, at least have the decency to break up with him.
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