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how to get over a guy....
does anyone here has some good tips how to get over a guy you really really love but just cant take this anymore???????? i really dont know what to do how can i get over him??? PLEASE HELP!!! i'll rate high for good advice
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Well, i just reacently was dumped, and i thought that he was the one 4 me, but.... He wasn't. All you have to do is convince yourself that your life will be better off with out him. One of my ex-boyfriends and i keep repeatedly going out, and i realized that i'll i do is hurt him like that. Listen, ur life will be better off w/o him. It just takes sum time. try to tell yourself that if you just look at what he's done to you, then you can deciced what's best 4 you.
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Aww, I've been there! Well if he was your first love then don't expect it to be easy. If you guys are friends (even if you're not) you may want to talk with him about it. That gives you closure, so you don't 'wonder' anything. When you're sad just let it out. But don't let yourself think of him too much. Thinking sad thoughts over and over will only bring you pain and will undo your recovery. When you find yourself drifting into thoughts of him (memories and stuff) just keep yourself busy and think of something else. It's best if you tried to keep a distance from him for now (and until you get over him). Seeing your ex around so much can be painful but if you don't see him as much you think less of him, don't have so many memories of seeing him around, get more distracted, and move on much faster. Just keep yourself busy and distratced with school (yes, studying and joining clubs and walking around campus to look for really cute guys), your friends (talk to them or the one or ones you really trust about how you feel, when you feel sad, when you feel angry, when you feel it's not fair. letting it out of your system and saying GRR! helps), and maybe even take up a hobbie like writing or painting so you can also let your feelings out in an artistic manner. Well my best wishes to you, from one sympathetic broken heart to the other... (that sounds depressing lol. but hearts DO heal. it's human nature. 'time heals everything'.)
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If you're upset, don't be afriad to cry. It's a much better outlet than taking it out on people, trust me =).
I read this in an old seventeen, and thought it really was one of the better things I've heard to heal from a relationship:
"Write down everything negative your guy did (bad habits, bad things he's done, etc) and look over the list. Then make a list of good qualities you'll look for in your next guy."
It sounds stupid, but look at it logically; if you can't take being with him anymore, then there must be a reason WHY. Writing it down should help.
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if you really love him and he loves you give it another chance. Sit down with him and share your feelings. Open your heart. Find out why you broke up and together mend the broken puzzle. Obviously you really love him. Not getting back together and trying to get over him is merely impossible. It is moments like this that bind couples closer and builds a stronger re;ationship. Give him another chance and you will then see where you stand. Then you can decide do I want him or not. I hope this helps
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First of all get sad. Cry a little. Then sulk. Sit in front of the TV and eat a lot of junk food.
It helps- o ya don't try and get his attention and be sad try and act like you're having fun w. out him.
*Hope I Helped*
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Take the relationship for what it was worth. Getting over him doesn't mean you have to forget him. Acknowledge the good times, how knowing him improved your life and made you who you are know. Acknowledge lessons you learned, about living, loving, leaving, whatever. Accept where you are now and who you are because of this guy. Take what you have (a lot) and keep moving. Take him for what he's worth (something of course), but nothing more(look at the rest of your life.)
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Getting over a relationship is an experience most of us have to go through at some point in life.
Steps:
1. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.
2. Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.
3. Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.
4. Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.
5. Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.
6. Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.
7. Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements such as St. John's wort (for depression) or kava kava (for anxiety).
8. Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life.
Tips:
If the relationship was very significant for you, you may never get over it in the sense of having no residual feelings about it. Over time, the feelings will become less intense and you will be able to think about the relationship without it being so painful.
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Whether you're the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.
Steps:
1. Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.
2. Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they'll still love you.
3. Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don't let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.
4. Realize that this sadness will pass.
5. Distract yourself with fun once you're tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.
6. Indulge yourself when you're feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.
7. Begin dating again when you're ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.
8. Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you're headed for another downward spiral.
9. Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!
Tips:
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.
Warnings:
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.
While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.
Good luck
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