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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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do u people know any songs about suicide?
like the song,
Never too late. by Three days grace?
i really love that song and i was just wonderin if there was any more songs like that.
thanks

I'm the queen of music, so I can probably help.

Songs on the left, band on the right.

The Priest & The Matador -- Senses Fail.
You're Not Alone -- Saosin.
Here I Stand -- Madina Lake.
When I'm Gone -- Eminem. [I know it's rap, but it's a good song].
Bottle And A Gun -- Hollywood Undead.
Rooftops -- Lostprophets.
Shoot Me In The Smile -- The Matches.
Sick Little Suicide -- The Matches.
Drown -- Three Days Grace.
Take Me Under -- Three Days Grace.

im not sure.. but I checked online, and its true! well i think its mild..like it only affects me in my house, but still. like usually I have to check the doors if they are locked in the night, because during the night I fear that like some robber or killer could come in or something. That behavior started a few weeks ago. and somethings that have been going on for a while are that when I turn off the stove, I have to check that I completely turned it off, so it wont cause a fire. Also, I have to make sure the lights are completely off or on.. I guess I think it will make a fire if its in between, when the lights flicker. And something that has started since 6th grade is that I have to look behind me and check that nothing menacing is there or something.. and when my mom or dad goes out, I want to go with them, because my mind thinks that nothing bad will happen if I'm with them. like my dad has to work in a different state for a while, till my family moves in with him next summer. he's coming to visit next week, but i always worry. i was like crying when he had to go.. and along with that I have to check behind me, I also do double takes. I used to be afraid of the dark a lot when I was younger and it has slowly gone away but a little bit of that is still there. when i was afraid, in the night I'd turn on all the lights so it wouldn't be that scary, since objects look scary in the dark sometimes. and if that couldn't be enough, sometimes at school I'd be anxious.. I'd hate it.. in 6th grade it was the worst cause there was this guy I liked but I was really shy around him, and whenever I was around him I'd feel really anxious. Also at other times.. It would take sometime for me to cool off.. like its hard for me sometimes when the class is too quiet. I'd rather it be lively and stuff, hence the anxiety. also during big tests.. i always think of other things, which is annoying sometimes. which is why gym is my favorite subject, because I've never been anxious in it since I'm really competitive, and I'm much more outgoing and fun then.. when I want to be like that all the time. Its only with friends who know me, and people I don't know that I can truely be myself. Like some kids I know, but not really know, find me shy and all that, when I'm not really like that. I guess my anxiety kicks in and I think that I cant just change.. cause they'll think I'm fake or something. sometimes I break through and I can be myself, but on other times its just tense and hard for me to do. okay what else.. sometimes I feel the need to breathe in deeply. I've been doing that for a while now. so yeah this is a lot, and maybe my "supposed OCD" isn't just mild, or maybe it is. I really dont want to go to a special doctor or anything, and my mom doesn't think I have OCD.. she thinks because I think I have OCD, that thought makes me believe it and then I have the disorder. plus I don't want to be a burden since therapists and doctors don't come cheap. so i want a way to stop these urges and everything.. like self help to myself. thanks a lot.. just know that what you write will change my life for the better. =]

You MAY have OCD, but nobody here is a doctor & can prescribe you with that. OCD can be a serious disorder, and most of the people on the site are teenagers, some being 13, some being 16 & older. It really ranges & varies, so nobody here can really tell you.

The sites online are not always accurate, so before you go & say "OMFG I HAVE OCD!" go to a doctor & make sure. Tell your parents you think you have it & want to make sure so they should take you to a psychologist.

And again, like I told someone else earlier today; the million+ exclamation points won't attract us to your question anymore than if you put one. Next time, use one because it's annoying to see 337560376503765037650365 of !'s.

does anyone no any songs/ quotes about like being betrayed/ditched /ignored by best friends thankss a bunch ahead of time =]

False Pretense by The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.

Good song.

i'm going to be a sophomore this year but im moving my cousins will be there [at my new school] but i mean theyd be the only people i know and one of them will be a freshman the other would be in grade eleven. i don't know ANYBODY in that school so i'll be a 'newbie' with no friends. so my class is just like a freshman except i have no friends.
how do i meet people without seeming like a creep? or a dork desperate for friends? im horrible at meeting new people.
help please.

Honestly?

Be yourself. If you're gonna pretend to be someone else to fit in, then you lose sight of who you really are & end up forgetting what you knew about yourself. I have a friend who changed & changed & changed because his friends ditched him & didn't tell him why, so he changed to fit in with them & get them back. In the end, they still ditched him & he had no clue who he was anymore. He's currently repairing himself & learning about himself again.

If you want friends, there's a lot of places to look. Join a club that sounds interesting. Do you like writing? Join the newspaper or something. There will be other kids there who also enjoy writing. Join a sport you like. It's really easy to make friends, you've just gotta be open & willing to them.

Oh, and I wasn't one of the people that ditched him.

what do you do when yer anorexic
i fergot what it was :D

Anorexia is no joke. :D

But anyways...Anorexia is where you starve yourself. Bulimia is eating large amounts of food, and then throwing it all up.

If your question behind this question is which to try - I suggest neither. Both are dangerous & could kill you. For more information on anorexia & bulimia:

This is my first year going to a public school. it is really hard cause it is my 9th grade year so all the girls there arleady know each other and they are sorta snobby. there are a few girls there that are really nice and i hace talked to, but i am really shy and we'll be talking and we don't really know each other so we just end up with realy akward silences. oh yeah and how do you tell someone you don't want to go out with them without hurting them. telling them you dont know them well enough doesn't work cause they just want to get to know you better. HELP!!!!

For future reference, putting a million+ exclamation marks won't help you get answers quicker. Everyone on the site needs help, so please use a real title such as "Public School" or whatever so we actually know what the question is about beforehand.

Anyways, when going to a public school for the first time, you should always be yourself. I don't know if you've been homeschooled or whatever, but I'm guessing you have been. Since you have been, you've had a lot of time to find yourself & figure out who you are, and you know who the real you is. You have the advantage of being yourself when most kids don't. You know who you are, not everyone does.

Go to school worried about finding your classes. Get yourself situated first because you go all willy-nilly trying to make friends. If you're just yourself & you seem pretty chill & calm, people will be drawn to you & will talk to you. If the girls are snotty, that should be your hint to stay away from them & try to find someone else to hang out with. Everyone who's new to a school goes through this same problem. They're not coming from the same situation, but they're just as new as you are, and you can relate to them. You can always join a club or a sport as well, so don't be shy! Good luck!

hi. 15/m. i know its a little early to plan, but i really want to travel the world. what countries would you reccomend? i would like to go to at least one country in each continent. And i live in england by the way, so i dont really want advice on how "beautiful" england is. thanks a lot :)

I've only been to three countries. I live in America, so there's country number one. I went to Canada when I was like 5, and I don't remember much about it, and I went to Puerto Rico last June [of 06].

Puerto Rico is a REALLY beautiful place to go to. If you go to places like Ponce and Guayama, finding someone who speaks English is going to be hard, so it's better that you go to San Juan since it's the capital & the biggest tourist spot, anyways. It's really nice there. The weather's great, the water & beaches are clean, & some people are nice. Just the girls - they can be super stuck up sometimes. I'm telling you that from my cousin's experience.

I'd like to go to a lot of places when I get older, and hopefully I'll have the money to do so, but I'll give you a list of countries I'd like to visit:

- England [I've always wanted to go there, and yes, I realize you're from there, so ignore this slashy thing].
- Italy.
- Japan.
- Australia.
- Chile.
- France.
- Germany.
- Romania.
- Russia.
- Ukraine.
- Thailand.
- Korea.
- The Phillipines.
- Hawaii [It's a US state, but I'd still like to go, haha].
- Bahamas.
- Barbados.
- Jamaica.
- Dominican Republic.
- Haiti.
- St. Vincent & The Grenadines.
- Vietnam.
- Greece.
- Ireland.
- Norway.
- Poland.
- Sweden.
- Switzerland.
- Madagascar.
- Mali.
- Uganda.
- Niger.

I realize that some of the countries I listed have wars going on & have really bad governmental problems, but I'd really like to visit. Some people I know are from these countries, so I'd like to check out their heritage & whatnot. Some of those places might interest you, and some might not, but that's cool. Have fun traveling when you do decide to go, haha. =)

all answers will be appreciated but from a guys point of view. are they more attracted to innocent non experianced girls or kind of wild ones? thanks! =]

It really all depends on the guy. Every guy likes something different, so it just depends.

Some of the guys I know would probably prefer an innocent girl, but most guys would probably choose the wild girl because she knows what she's doing, and is probably less prone to becoming attached.

i need some ideas for volleyball quotes that can go on a teeshirt...not corny ones but good ones.

thanks

www.wittyprofiles.com

They have a sports section full of quotes, so you can try looking there & see if there's anything you like. I don't play volleyball [or any sport for that matter], so I couldn't give you any quotes off the top of my head.

whats the difference between a chonga and a chola?

A chola looks like a clown because of the thick makeup they wear, and a chonga is just a girl.

My friend and I want to hang out a lot but the more we go out the less money is in our wallets. So many activities cost money nowadyays. Does anyone have any good ideas for cheap fun hangout ideas???

I agree with the person below me. Hanging out doesn't necessarily mean going out on the town. Why not try doing something simple at home?

Blockbuster doesn't cost much, so have a blockbuster night. Get a few movies, & some popcorn with soda, and then relax & have a good laugh or cry. If you think that'd be boring, try just driving around. Maybe go to the beach or the park. If neither of you drive, your feet are always your best friends when you need somewhere to go & someway to get there.

If the park or beach don't sound appealing to you, try going to the mall & window shopping. I personally hate going to the mall with no money, but I know other people who have no problem doing so because they're not tempted to buy stuff like I am. If you hate going to the mall with no money too, try making a video together or taking pictures. Me and my friends usually do that if we're broke. Try going out to get fast food also. McDonald's & Subway are usually cheap if you can get stuff off of the dollar menu or if you get a 6inch sub.

There's not a lot to do that's free/cheap simply because supply & demand is so high that it ruins us & makes us poor. Plus gas-prices, and ugh. That's honestly the most I can think of right now, but if I happen to think of more things you can do, I'll edit my answer, so try to check back within the next week or so. =)

I need a long love quote, but i don't know what site to go on. Anyone know a good site that has love quotes?

www.wittyprofiles.com

They have quotes for everything.

Hey does anybody here know a really good quotes website (msn quotes). I searched on google, but i keep getting the same ones over and over again.
Thank youu

BTW, quotes for teens!

www.wittyprofiles.com

They've got quotes for everything.

is a zebra black with white stripes or white with black stripes?

I was on a true facts site because I was bored, and it mentioned this.

A zebra is white with black stripes. I've always wondered that too..

sorry that this is so random.
but what is a really cute and flirty perfume?
and where can i get it?

Love Spell smells really good. You can get it at Victoria's Secret for about $8 a bottle. It's a body spray, but it can be used as perfume.

omg-i-17-i-didt-get-period-last-week-i-got-pink-in-underwear-and-when-i-wiped--wat-doesssssss-thi-mean

For future reference, don't ask questions with that typing & spacing.

It's not hard to become friends with the spacebar & to ditch the minus sign bar. =)

i was wondering where do i get HTML codes so i can change my profile to look more how i want it? Also is it possible to make a picture smaller so it will fit on mr profile picture?

www.createblog.com & www.freecodesource.com have HTML help.

And yes, it's possible to change your picture size.

well okay a few weeks ago here on advicenators i asked if i should tell this guy that was in my driver's ed class that i like him but things got complicated. well he gave me his number & i told him that i called him & he said that he gave me the wrong number & he said sorry. HE ADMITTED IT! & then i told my friend & she went to go tell him to come talk to me & he was like i don't like her & that he already has a girlfriend and he said that infront of everyone. i was so upset i started crying. and my friends were trying to make me feel better but i just got even more upset. my friend had said that he told her that him & his girlfriend have been dating for like 3 years & i was suprised.. and when he weas walking back to his desk when we were at driver's ed class he told my friend that he felt bad but he didn't even apologized. he just walked past me & was looking at me. & that was my last day there & he knew it was because i told everyone that i was going on vacation & im home now from my vacation & driver's ed is over & i'll never get to see him thank god. but im still upset what should i do? i can't seem to get over him & why didn't he apologize to me if he felt bad? & how come he couldn't just tell me that he had a girlfriend instead giving me a fake number? can someone please help me?

Yuck.

Why are you so worried about this guy? He's an asshole. He gave you a fake number, then admitted it after you tell him you called, then he says he doesn't like you in front of everyone, hurts your feelings, DOESN'T apologize for anything, and then just looks at you.

Honestly, FUCK HIM. He's trash, he's scum. You deserve a lot better. If you know that he's scum, why be so bothered by this? Yeah, what he did was wrong, but you can erase him just like that. You guys weren't dating, it was just a crush. He's not worth your time, so find someone else. There's a million fish in the sea, go find nemo.

I might start dating this guy I like him a lot but he's a virgin and he doesn't want to have sex until he loves a girl. That's good and all but I've never had sex with a virgin.. like does he know what to do lol i don't want it to be awkward. And how am i going to wait until he loves me to have sex with him i dont think i can do that lol.

I sort of agree with the person below me.

You're being inconsiderate about this. Were you not a virgin at some point in your life too? Weren't you wanting it to be with someone you loved? Weren't you scared that you wouldn't know what to do? You felt this same way, so why are you ragging on him for feeling this way now?

If you really like this guy like you say you do, you'll look past the fact that he's not sexually active & you'll get over yourself, & appreciate him anyways. Besides, it's not like you can't walk him through it. When I lost my virginity, I didn't lose it to a virgin. My boyfriend had sex before, and he walked me through everything. Do that for your boyfriend [or soon to be, whatever]. And if you can't wait for him to make sure he loves you, then you don't deserve him anyways.

Well this isn't really personal finance but it's about money. I need to make 600 dollars or close by next Friday so I can go see my fiance before he deploys to Iraq, and I don't know how to do this. Can you guys give me some ideas?

I know how it is to try & find money so you can see someone before they leave. My boyfriend who just recently passed away was a Marine, and wanted me to fly down to NC so I could see him before he went to Iraq in Janaury. However, I couldn't do so because I'm poor.

Anyways, if it's at all possible, try & get a loan from a bank. If that doesn't work, maybe borrow it from your parents & then pay them back little by little. You can always try to get a credit card as well, but those take forever to be mailed to you.

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