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He's a virgin
I might start dating this guy I like him a lot but he's a virgin and he doesn't want to have sex until he loves a girl. That's good and all but I've never had sex with a virgin.. like does he know what to do lol i don't want it to be awkward. And how am i going to wait until he loves me to have sex with him i dont think i can do that lol.
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You need to think about how much you like this guy, and how you like him. Do you only like him in the physicals or do you truly like him as a person? Are you looking forward to getting him to fall in love so you can have sex or are you looking forward to getting to know him and spending time with him and looking out for each other and laughing at each others' jokes? If you aren't really into this guy or ready to wait until you guys fall in love to "do" anything, maybe you shouldn't be together. However, I don't think you should totally pigeonhole yourself into this person that needs to have sex to be satisfied. IF you really find yourself liking him you should definitely go for it.
Now I realize that going for it would be a little different for this guy. You'd have to think about everything a little differently. Instead of thinking about how good he'll be in bed, if you really like this guy, think of how good he'll be in conversation. Instead of trying to find spots alone with him while dating, you'd have to focus on going places together where you can have a good time, some kindof a shared interest maybe in watching sports, going to a concert, I don't know.. a lunch at a cute cafe. It's not entirely a bad thing to find someone who is looking for love and commitment and who I'm guessing will respect himself and probably you in the process. Right now, if you are considering dating this guy, you shouldn't be thinking about sex or it may cause some awkward moments between you since he obviously isn't ready and you'll get into this whole uncomfortable pressure "are you ready yet?" thing. However, when it does come to the sex, remember that at one point you were a virgin, too.
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I don't know who you have been with darling, but the first time you have sex with a new person is almost always awkward. You are getting to know eachother sexually, some fumbling is to be expected it.
As your relationship developes (if it developes) you'd likely find yourselves working up to sex slowly and dicussing things. If you find that you care for him, hopefully you will care enough to be loving and considerate as he learns. Any guy can pick up the basics online, it's not exactly brain surgery.
If you don't come to care for him, respect his choices and speak with him openly then you wont end up sleeping with him right? He has said he isn't into that.
If you think you can't wait until he loves you, don't start dating him. You are a bad match if you can't respect AND abide by his choices.
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well then i dont think you have very good control over your sexual urges.
and i mean, at least he cant give you any STDs!
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just wait it out, you'll deal. you were once a virgin too so give him a break.
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I sort of agree with the person below me.
You're being inconsiderate about this. Were you not a virgin at some point in your life too? Weren't you wanting it to be with someone you loved? Weren't you scared that you wouldn't know what to do? You felt this same way, so why are you ragging on him for feeling this way now?
If you really like this guy like you say you do, you'll look past the fact that he's not sexually active & you'll get over yourself, & appreciate him anyways. Besides, it's not like you can't walk him through it. When I lost my virginity, I didn't lose it to a virgin. My boyfriend had sex before, and he walked me through everything. Do that for your boyfriend [or soon to be, whatever]. And if you can't wait for him to make sure he loves you, then you don't deserve him anyways.
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Well, you had your first too sometime! Im sorry but your being really unsensitive and really I think it's sad you want to have sex 1st before your married or even have a serious relationship, 2nd that you have before, 3rd you don't love him 4th you think down on him for not going and having sex with however he's with one night (short version-doing the RIGHT thing) and 5th you DONT want to wait until he loves you to have sex with him! Sex is special and intimate and you are just trashing it! If you didn't have sex in the first place you wouldn't be wanting to go around all over the place and do it!
On a nice note (if i can-im really trying) just tell him you understand (because you should!) or are trying to and start a relationship. You guys may end up loving each other and then you can have your sex you want so much (ok not nice but i had too say it) and maybe you 2 will end up happily ever after! or you can find some other boy todo it with who doesn't care about respecting himself...
I'm sorry but i DO NOT like your feedback! I don't really care about your number, but I can write whatever i want! Thank you very much! My personal opinion is what I said. I don't necessarily think down on people who have sex with people who they care about, but just wanting to have sex without wanting to love, or even have a relationship with is just sad. (I mean like depressing sad not pathetic sad) You should be sympathetic and be happy he wants to wait for someone he loves and definitely start a relationship before you guys have sex.
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