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what does it feel like to be high when you smoke pot? like.. how do you act? how do you feel? thanks!

I guess everyone's different.
It also depends on a few of the following factors;
How often you use it
Potency of the weed
How it is taken
You can get mellowed out and chilled type, the giggling type. Or the showing off and extremely annoying type where it's basically them running around screaming "OMGZZZZZZ LOOK AT ME I'M HIGH!!!1!" ...after they've taken an extremely small amount.
You won't know how it will effect you until at the time.
Obviously your coordination, sight, memory changes and the come down can sometimes make you feel tired/lethargic.
No doubt you've heard about the munchies. and cotton mouth!

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21:33] me: hiiiiiii
[21:33] me: hahaha
[21:34] me: yeyeyye
[21:34] friend: hii
[21:34] me: oops wrong person
[21:34] me: ahahaha
[21:34] me: ok bye
[21:34] me: XD
[21:35] friend: okayy
[21:35] friend: how meann
[21:35] me: how is it mean
[21:36] me: it was wrong person
[21:36] friend: haha nvm
[21:36] friend: byeeeeeeee
[21:36] me: ok bye
[21:36] friend: where do you have to go
[21:36] friend: ?
[21:36] me: no where
[21:36] friend: us aid
[21:36] friend: youu said ok by
[21:36] me: cause u said bye
[21:36] me: i wasnt supposed to im you
[21:36] me: haha
[21:36] me: so yeah ok byebye
[21:37] friend: haha ok whatever bye


am i mean for this? haha just asking

It's not really rude, although your friend may have felt a bit offended because you weren't staying to chat to him/her.
Don't think it's anything to ruin a friendship over or worry about or anything though :)
Next time you're both online, just say sorry for going like that.
Good luck!

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The first time I asked this question almost all of the information I got was useless.

I've pierced my lip unprofessionally. The girl who pierced my lip has done three mouth/facial piercings to herself, and at least two others for different people - not counting me.


Earlier I had an earring in the hole to keep it from closing. I'm aware that an earring is not the correct gauge. I did NOT pierce my lip with the earring. In fact, I used a much larger needle that now (post asking this question the FIRST time) have pushed that needle through my lip three times.

I've researched this piercing for months now, and got parental permission before I did it.

This is NOT the first home piercing I've gotten.

Does anyone have any CLEANING tips or any suggestions as to what TYPE of ring I should buy to put in it?

(Do refrain from telling me to take it out or about the "cheese grater effect" because I'm already aware of what problems this may cause.)

The information you got first time round wasn't useless. It's fact. Only looking out for your health :)
But in answer to your question;
You're right, steel would be good, but if not, try titanium as it's suitable for almost all piercings.
Take a look at these websites to see what other types are available;
http://www.bodyjewelleryshop.com/body_jewellery_shop/body_piercing_jewellery/

In regards to you taking it out and not being able to re-pierce due to scar tissue, you can re-pierce it. It may hurt more next time round. But there's nothing wrong with piercing again.

Cleaning tips, I'd carry on what you are doing, only less frequent. Perhaps move to every 2 hours because too much cleaning can be irritating it.
Also, I'd suggest warm sea salt soaks twice daily. They work wonders with reducing any pain and swelling etc.

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What is your opinion on brown hair?Do you think it is ugly?

Each to their own.
I still have yet to find somebody who doesn't like brown hair ;]

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is there anyway for me to just cut down alot and keep away from those teeth so they heal

"Tobacco users often say, "Don't tell me why to quit, tell me how." There is no one right way to quit, but there are some key elements in quitting successfully. These 4 factors are crucial:

making the decision to quit
setting a quit date and choosing a quit plan
dealing with withdrawal
staying quit (maintenance)



Withdrawal symptoms can include any of the following:
dizziness
depression
feelings of frustration and anger
irritability
trouble sleeping
trouble concentrating
restlessness
headaches
tiredness
increased appetite



Here are some steps to help you prepare for your Quit Day:

Pick the date and mark it on your calendar.

Tell friends, family, and co-workers about your Quit Day, and let them know how they can help.

Stock up on oral substitutes – sunflower seeds, sugarless gum, carrot sticks, beef jerky, cinnamon sticks, and/or hard candy.

Decide on a plan. Will you use nicotine replacement therapy? Will you attend a class? If so, sign up now.

Consider seeing your doctor or dentist. Have them check your mouth, and discuss your plan for quitting with them.

Set up a support system. This could be a group class, Nicotine Anonymous, or a friend or family member who has quit and is willing to help you.

Make a list of your “triggers” – situations, places, or emotions that make you more likely to chew or dip. Being aware of these can help you avoid them or at least be ready for them.




On your Quit Day, follow these suggestions:

Don’t use tobacco.
Get rid of all snuff or chew and related products.
Keep active – try walking, exercising, or doing other activities or hobbies.
Keep oral substitutes handy.
Drink lots of water and juices.
Begin using nicotine replacement if that is your choice.
Call a Quitline, attend a tobacco cessation class, or start following a self-help plan.
Avoid situations where the urge to dip or chew is strong.
Reduce or avoid alcohol.




Avoid people and places where you are tempted to use tobacco. Later on you will be able to handle these with more confidence.

Alter your habits. For example, switch to juices or water instead of alcohol or coffee. Take a different route to work; take a brisk walk instead of a chew.

Alternatives. Use oral substitutes such as sunflower seeds, sugarless gum or hard candy, or raw vegetables such as carrot sticks.

Activities. Exercise or do hobbies that keep your hands busy (such as woodworking, puzzles, gardening) and can help distract you from the urge to use.

Deep breathing. When the urge to use strikes, breathe deeply and picture your lungs filling with fresh, clean air. Remind yourself of why you are quitting and the benefits you'll gain.

Delay. If you feel that you are on the verge of giving in, delay. Tell yourself you must wait at least 10 minutes. Often this simple trick will allow you to move beyond the immediate urge to use tobacco."








As you can see, it's quite a long process to cut down or give up dipping.
Chewing nictine gum helps alot. So try and get hold of some. If not, chew regular gum or suck hard sweets.
You can't just give up right away. That's normal and I think you know that already! But cutting down like you want to do is the first step which will make it so much easier.
Curing the addiction is hard for the first few weeks. But if you believe in yourself and prove you don't actually need it, it becomes a doddle :)
Don't forget if you need any more help or advice, I'm happy to help you with this.



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I wasn't sure what category to put this in, but I suppose this one will do.

Last night my cousin pierced my lip, and yes - I had permission. But I've been wondering what I should do now. She explained to me what she did, which I understand.

The stud I have in now is actually an extremely uncomfortable earring - but it's what we put in when we pulled the needle/string through my lip.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v722/xTie_Her_Downx/100_3844.jpg

Does anyone have any cleaning tips?
Any preferences towards what kind of ring I should get?
Any information they'd like to share at all?


Here's what it looks like now...

Outside:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v722/xTie_Her_Downx/100_3850.jpg

Inside:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v722/xTie_Her_Downx/100_3852.jpg

This will not be what you want to hear but if I'm being honest, you need to remove that earring. Not only can it damage teeth and gums, it's not the right gauge and it can cause problems with finding properly fitting labret studs later on.
Not to mention it becoming infected.
If I were you, I'd go to a professional and ask them to take a look and give you correct sized jewelry. No harm done in seeking a little help :)
This website will answer everything you need to know.
www.bmezine.com People submit their stories and a few are of self piercing, so it's worth a look.

If you really don't want to take it out and are willing to risk it!.. clean it thoroughly.
Then drop down your nearest studio and ask for a correct size labret stud.. or a ring if that is what you prefer.

Lip piercings are pretty. Good luck with yours!

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what does 1st base 2nd base 3rd base and all the way home mean? i feel kinda stupid because people are always like did you get past 1st base? and stuff. thanks.

As the previous advicenator said, it's different for many people. She has given one of the explanations. This is the one I use;
1st - French kissing
2nd - hand jobs
3rd - oral
4th sex

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is limewire legal? the free kind. (the other is called pro and it costs one payment of 18.99 or something)

The program Limewire is very much legal. [However, downloading isn't!]
Everyone does it though.
The only risks you should look out for are accidently downloading virus'. It happens SO many times. So be careful.

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me & this kid hooked up the other night. but we didnt have sex. his penis came close to me but it didnt go in. is there any way i could be pregnant?

PLEASE REPLY!

The only way you could be pregnant is if his semen entered your vagina.

I'll say you're 98% safe.

Next time remember to be a bit more careful.

If you're really worried, it's worth getting a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease. ;]

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What does it mean to "rub your clit"? Where is that?

The diagram shows where it is

http://www.askthecouch.com/images/exposed_clit_vagina.jpg

and it means exactly as it says.
Some woman masturbate by rubbing their clit.

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how much pot do u have to smoke to get high?

Firstly, I won't be lecturing you on the effects of smoking.
So in answer to your question!..

Everyone's different. The more you do it, the more immune you will become.
It also depends on the quality of the weed and how you smoke it.
First timers don't want to be smoking a massive amount seeing as they aren't used to it and may not know what to expect.

Try googling for a more indepth answer.
This website seems to be popular ;]

http://smokingwithstyle.com/intro.htm

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What is your opinion on black hair?do you think it ia boring and ugly?

It's not all about the colour. It's how you style it and make it look. and whether it suits you.
I don't have a problem with black hair. I know many people with it and I think it looks pretty on either gender!

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thanks but a couple things, 1. im 15 year old so i cant really go to the dentist cause my parents will find out. 2.it is only receeding 2-3 mm on 1 tooth and like 1 on the other 2 teeth. since its only on few teeth what can i do to fix this problem besides quiting becuase i enjoy dipping. would it help if i just cut down alot. i no its long but you seem to know what my problem is

It would help if you cut down alot, yes. but unfortunately, it won't cure your problem and they will carry on receding... Just at a slower rate. Once your teeth get in a bad state, the only thing left to do will be to remove them. and I doubt you would want that at 15 years old.
I understand you enjoy dipping and it probably will be hard to stop.
Hopefully viewing some of these pictures will help you get a clearer picture of what harm you are causing not only to your teeth, but the rest of your body:

http://www.ash.org.uk/html/health/html/oral.html

http://quit-smoking-naturally.com/chewing_tobacco/index.html

http://www.healthyteeth.org/tobacco/index.html

There's many more. But these are just to give you an insight of what could happen.

It's not too late. Although you can't reverse what has already happened, you can prevent it from becoming worse :)
Take good care of your teeth and clean them thoroughly (i put step by step instructions how to in your previous question)

If you have any more questions, I'm here to help :)


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I just got a Steelers jersey for Christmas. Unfortunately their last game is on this Sunday coming. I can still wear the jersey right? Like to school and stuff even though their season is over? I know a lot of you will say, "who cares what you wear?" But, I just want to make sure that other people are doing it too. Because, Steelers aren't that big where I live.

Thanks! =]

Of course you can still wear it! Doesn't matter if they aren't that big where you live. Just proves you're a fan and aren't afraid to show it ;]
I bet many people still wear jerseys they have even if the seasons are over.
Happy wearing!

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long story short i use chewing tobacco and my gums are receeding and i need to find a product to help cure this. does anyone know of a product i could buy from likea cvs or walgreens or sumthing like that, also is there anything else i can to to help my gums grow back

I know someone who's been in this situation before. There aren't any products which can magically make your gums grow back which work effectively. The only thing you can do it quit chewing tobacco, unless you want other serious problems.
I'd recommend you see a dentist. If it's not too far gone, they can probably help you.







"Options for managing your symptoms and preventing long-term disease are to:

Rinse your mouth vigorously with hot salt water (one teaspoon of salt to one cup of water) for two minutes, three-times-a-day.
Use dental floss twice a day — perhaps the best technique for preventing receding gums. Try various types of floss (plain or flavored, waxed or unwaxed, thinner or thicker, etc.) until you find your fave. Floss in front of a mirror so that you can see, to get the floss down the sides of each tooth. Glide the floss along the front, back, and sides of every tooth until it squeaks, even if there's not a tooth next to it, and even if the gums are tender and bleed. Within a few days of flossing daily, you will notice that your gums no longer bleed.
Brush with soft bristle toothbrushes — hard bristles can encourage receding gums. When you brush, brush your gums as well as your teeth.
Take aspirin, as necessary, for minor discomfort of your gums.
See your dentist every 6 - 12 months for check-ups."

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I'm a teenage girl who is going to commit suicide today. No questions asked. I could never cut myself or jump off of a building- but I might be able to suffocate myself. But the problem with that would be that I don't know if I'd come back to consciousness with brain damage or not. Does suffocation cause brain damage? Or does it just kill you? Any quick and painless methods would be greatly appreciated.

Do you seriously think we are going to tell you ways to kill yourself on a child friendly site?
This is obviously attention seeking. If you were really going to go through with it, you wouldn't say "i could never cut myself or jump off a building"
..
why not? you'll be too dead to care.



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so i have basically a two in one deal here.

1. can you get pregnant while on your period?
2. can you be pregnant but get your period the first month? in other words, your pregnant but you still get your period, and then after that month you miss it?

thanks!

Yes and yes.
Some peoples periods don't stop at all.
If you're unsure or think you could be pregnant, the safest bet is a pregnancy test.


Happy holidays. :)

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(my chest)

im super flat,its not even funny. how do you get bigger boobs, without getting plastic surgery and such. is there anything natural you can do?

and please don't say i should just accept myself, and live with it.

If you can be bothered to do exercises such as push ups, they give the appearance of bigger boobs.
Apparently if you massage your boobs, it can help stimulate the tissue growth.
Both of the above will probably take a while before you can see a noticable difference.
But if you don't want to do the above, you can try and take suppliments and see if they actually do work, or a padded bra?
Best of luck anyway!

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last night i was raped by my ex boyfriend, we were at a party and i was upstairs talking to my friend, then she left, he came up and pinned me down on the bed, split my legs open, and dug deep inside my pussy and raped me. the thing is, when we were together and fucked, i never really enjoyed it or had an orgasm. but last night, even though i didn't want to fuck him, it felt soo good, i had four orgasms in a row, literally, i'm notkidding, this is a true story, i haven't told anyone, cuz even though it was wrong for him to do it, i liked it. what should i do?

p.s. he's really hot

Rape is rape.
He did it without your consent.
If no protection was used, you have 3 days for a morning after pill and 5 days for other forms of contraception.
Tell the police. and do not let him get away with it, whether he is "hot" or not.

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haha okay this sounds wicked gayy but like you know how if your spanish when you have a baby and you speak spanish it picks up that language and then like if you move to ameica and they speak english they know how to speak both? well like if there is a baby raised by wolfes does it understand how to speak to animals? cus my dad told me that they found someone raised by wolves and they had to teach him how to be a human when he was like 7 and i want to know if anyone knows who this is becasue i want to know if like he could still speak to wolfes i looked it up on google but got nothing


i rate high please help [:

I remember this and watched a documentary about the person who was raised by wolves.
They're called feral children.

I found these websites so they can help you build a better understanding.

http://www.feralchildren.com/en/index.php

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feral_child

If you would like more information, google Feral Children or something like "raised by wolves"



Happy holidays.

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