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Q: I'm 14/F n im goin out with what some people call a 'player' everyone is telling me that i should break up with him right away. but i cant! he makes me so happy and i really like how he makes me happy if im upset or anything. i feel i can really talk to him about anything and everything. my friend (who is a guy) is telling me now that my boyfriend has hit his past girlfriends! i dont know if thats true or not. everyone seems to be against my going out with him and i dont know what to do anymore. they're telling me that he is going to ruin my life and im making a huge mistake by staying with him! i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him. but he makes me soo happy and thats why i dont want to break up with him! i just dont know what to do. if anyone has any advice please give it to me, id really really appreciate it. thank you..
Just keep your eyes peeled and make sure nothing is going on that seems to fishy. And if he makes you happy then thats good stay with him just make sure you stay alert of whats going on.-trix

Q: I am 14/F..My best friend and I have been friends for two years, best friends for about a year. We used to talk every day on the phone for atleast an hour, just getting to know each other really well. Eventually it became him being very upset because his mind is so mixed up because of his drug and acholol use. This is where the problem starts..he drinks and smokes..i don't, I totally dissaprove of all that. But, I stuck by his side. No one else did. He has called me at two and three AM drunk and eventually he just gets into a crying fit after about an hour of us talking..Eventually about after 6months of me telling him and telling he needed to quit he realized what he was doing was wrong and he quit for almost two months. No ciggerettes, pot, or acholol. Just recently he has started drinking again. I told him I wish he would stop and he said no i'm 14 and I want to have fun, people change. I'm torn to pieces that he thinks this. I have read internet articles about acholics. Drugs and acholol have totally taken over his mind in the past two years. So in actuality when I talk to him , its sort of like i'm talking to the drug, or so thats what the experts say. I just want my Best Friend back. I'm not sure how to approach him that he will not get mad. If anyone has any advice or can relate to me iM me on AOL (bballxbaberzx33) i'd really really appreciate it!!!
Well just show him all the articles or maybe you should point out to him that he was doing so well at his 2 month period and by the time he is older he will be a burn out and wont be any fun what so ever and if you talk to his parents tell them whats going on yeah he may hate you then but later on he will defintly thank you! trust me i have really learned from this just trust me and hurry because something terrible could happan! do it for the sake of saving his precious life-trix

Q: I need help because i dont kno if i should call this guy to tell him i like him or if i should just keep it to my self???

Tell him let it loose you will feel so much better when you do tell him otherwize you will regret it later in your life and look back and wonder what it could have been-trix

Q: How old are ppl when they have THE kiss? Like what's the most likely age?
around the teenager stage like 13 or so.. thats the most common age i believe-trix

Q: ne one kno a store where u can buy "punk" type clothes? my mall has all abercrombie etc and im just looking for a place where i can find my type of clothing except for like hot topic and stuff...they r really nice except expenisive and more gothic. so help if u can thanks alot :)
Almost famous is a good place to by punk clothes.. or goth either way works. -trix

Q: I like a girl and she says she likes me two........but also she has a boyfriend but i really like her.......What should i do
Talk to her about it to see if you to will go out tell her you dont like to be just be there hanging to know whats going to happan cuz if she continues to go out with this guy you need to know weather to move on or not-trix

Q: what are those faces in the corner suppose 2 signify????
Your are a level 1 moderator!! Congrats! lol-trix

Q: ok i went out with this guy i regret it and i made a mistake by breaking up with him. we still like eachother things r good we r still friends and i want to go out again (he doesnt kno that tho). he just told me how he thinks we should be friends with benefits. do you think this could lead into a relationship or does he want to keep it this way? help. thanks xox
Well talk to him about it and see how he feels and make sure you tell him how you feel but the whole friends with benefits is kinda mean i know alot of people have a friend like that but its like he is using you but if you like him enough that you would let him use you then so be it just be careful!!-trix

Q: my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of this month..we're both 13 and we really like eachother but i dont know if i should break up with him..right now we live on long island..but should i break up with him since hes moving to new jersey? i have NO idea what to do!!! please help!!
Well you could break up and see how that goes and see if you to can last without eachother and if you cant then go out or you could go out and see if that works.. but he will be going to a new school meeting new girls... so if you trust him then so be it but if you dont i'd let go just dont get in a fight over the whole trust thing but just dont tie yourself down also-trix

Q: i have this boyfreid and i like him alot and we grew up togeather and i want more from him and i feel like hes not giving me enough we only kissed and i want to do more wut should i do!
Well give him time maybe he isnt ready and if he isnt ready be respectful because if you werent ready and he pressured you then you'd feel uncomfortable and if you pressure him you could find yourself getting dumped!! so just respect him and his wishes and if he wants to go further then he will and if not then give him time and you could bring it up to him also if you'd like-trix

Q: hey i like this guy ALOT and i dont know if he likes me but um he is going into 10th grade and is frickin hot!! i dont know what to do! should i ask him out?! PLEASE HELP ME!
What grade are you going into? You should tell me that so i have an idea lol. But if you think he has something for you then ask him out but dont just go out with im because he is fricken hot go out with im because you really like him and not for his looks either but for his personality though-trix

Q: ok i started talkin to this guy named chris about 5 months ago...we wer really good friends and our parents knew eachother so i was allowed to go everywhere with them!! they new we liked eachother 2....well he got grounded about 3 months later n we juss LOST CONTACT 4 S0O0 LONG....well i ben really thinkin bout him bc he treated me s0o well....and i called him up....he wasnt ther but his dad was like sara? ohh hey how r u? r u still in soccer?? blah blah juss totally tlkin to me!! his family loves me!! well ya so he called me last nite but my cell was on silence so i juss saw the missed call!! i was s0o happy!! well i called him today adn he had to go sumwher with his mom so we didnt get to talk and we havent talked for months....shuld i call him back?? wat do i say?? i have NO idea wat to say to him but i really like him n wanna hangout agen!! im really nervous!! plz help idk wat i shuld do!! WAT DO I SAY TO HIM??
Call back get in touch and im sure you could just pick off where ya left off and just talk like everything is normal. Just ask him if he is busy and wants to hang out and jokingly ask him how being grounded treated him.-trix

Q: Is this poem OK?

people always tell me i'm not like others,
i don't fit in with the preps and am not like the brothers,
I like to listen to Aerosmith and P.O.D,
Is there any other way i should be?
I don't have a certain way to dress,
For someone i hardly know to impress,
I don't watch movies about cheerleaders,
And i hardly go to the movie theatres,
I just am myself and no one can change my rep,
Except maybe good old johnny depp

That last verse was a joke

Pleez rate the poem 1-10. Thank you
Lizzy
10 it good and diff. i like that! keep writting and share them with me please-trix

Q: there is this girl that i love more than anything in the whole world, and i know we love each other. but she has a boyfriend that she cares bout. i dont like anybody else but her. but i figure if i wait too long i will be hurt even more. what the heck do i do
Write her a letter or if you feel she feels the same way about you then i would go and talk to her about it before it does get to late-trix

Q: I want someone to talk to during the summer while im away from my friends. I have a pen pal but I would like another one. I am a 13 year old female.
Pen Pals are cool I think.. You could go online and look on the internet and go to askjeeves.com and type in pen pals. Pen pals are a good idea i believe so-trix

Q: im 14 almost 15 and i have never had like a real boyfriend should i be worried that im going to go to prom alone because i think about it a lot
No dont worry your still young and got years ahead of you and just take your best friend thats a guy if your solo-trix

Q: hey you wanted to know about bows? well in the mall of louisiana, in baton rouge, (if u would ever come down here for some reason) theres a booth thingy called rainbows by paulette. a lady named paulette makes these really cute bows for your hair. there probably about 2 or 3 inches wide and 2 inches long. its like 2 layers a of ribbon, one solid wide ribbon on the bottom and then a skinner patterned ribbon on the top. she also makes solid colored ones and stuff. now all the girls this past year have been wearing these bows or ANY bows. like ones u had from when u were little and stuff. idk who started this trend but it cought a long QUICK. the bows r a bit procy though. a normal one is about 9 or 10 dollars and she has some other ones that are about 7 dollars or so. idk why im telling u all the prices and stuff but i am... so hoped i kinda "taught" ya somethin about us in the south
;)
Well that seems super cool! I would love to get one of those! i may have to drag my mom down there lol. Is there a speacial reason for these bows? Like do the represent something? This really caught my interest. But thanks for telling me the prices anyways cuz i was planning on asking you lol-trix

Q: I'm not sure i got this poem sounding right; anyone please gimme a hand.

Fallen Hero

I looked up to a figure
I once deemed to be the best.
But as time slipped to the second,
My faith was put to the test.

Me hero was declined
Of his powerful throne,
Shoved to the side
And deprived of all he called his own.

I stood with the disappointed
Who late looked him on,
And surprisingly found myself
Not nearly as drawn.

As I turned my back,
Shaking my head,
He uttered his final words
And the next second he’s dead.

I found myself thinking twice
Of what I had once thought.
After hearing his words,
My attention, he begot.

“Take care of your hate,
“For soon you’ll regret
“For not helping the one
“To whom your actions were once set.

“Don’t be afraid of difference-
“That’s what makes us all unique.
“If we copied and begged sameness,
“Then all would be bleak.

“Cherish what you believe
“And this is the last I have to say:
“Don’t turn your back again
Like you’d done today.”


**!~Denice~!**
Good-trix

Q: u seem 2 kno alot of advice nd u seem 2 b good @ it i am 15 nd i hav tried 2 wear a tampon like 3 times but i am juss scared to put it up thea sumtimes it hurts wuts tha best position nd best kind 2 use
Well.. ALright sit on the toilet and most importantly of all relax! Thats the main key and like most people think there isnt another hole to stick it up there people get scarred they'll stick it in the wrong hole just as long you do the butthole then you'll be fine!! I would use playtex but make sure you dont get a size to big!! cuz that could be a bummer. Try going for slimfits/regular.. those are good.. and they come in deodorant! woohoo! lol so just relax and you'll be fine!!-trix

Q: hey
i was at the movies with this guy who i like..and well i wasn't shure if he liked me before..but when we were at the movies he jus put his arm around me and we were leanin our heads on each other and then he wanted to kiss me(my first kiss!) It was great..what do u think? also...do u think he likes me ?! Thanks!!
Sounds cute! First kiss is always speacial! And unforgetful.. I am getting the impression that he does like you! Try going to the movies again and ask him what he thinks of it all!! -trix

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bAhAmAmA0250
My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"

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