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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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why does .."my two cents" mean?

It means adding your thoughts/opinion on a subject.

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13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what?

Well, one thing is for certain, I think you need to have a serious eye-opening chat with your mom.

First off, you are only 13. Why on earth is she concerned about you not having a boyfriend at such a young age? In this day and age especially, she should be thankful for that.

Second, why does she seem to have issues with who you are or how you dress? I was into the whole goth thing in my teen years, and my mother NEVER cut me down about it. That is who you are and how you are expressing yourself. She should be thankful, really, that you are setting yourself apart from the crowd and being your own unique individual. She shouldn't belittle you about it.

Third, your diary is your private thoughts. She is invading your privacy by reading it all the time and sharing your inner most thoughts with your family members. I would be ashamed of myself if I read my kid's diary, even if it was out of concern for them. She wouldn't feel the need to read it if she made herself open for you to talk to about your thoughts and feelings. Correct? How does she expect you to trust her with your problems if she assumes you are out doing bad things and reads your diary?

These are points you need to bring up with her. That is the only way to resolve these problems. Yah, she may be hard to talk to, but you need to tell her how you feel. In turn, you have to give her the same respect and listen to her feelings. Don't get angry and turn it into an heated argument, and don't let her do that either. Just say "Hey, this is how I feel about all this" and go from there. It is something that can be worked out if you are both willing to resolve these issues. It just takes communication.

P.S. If your ears have been pierced for four years, the holes will doubtfully grow over.

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i can find any laws about women equalty and to show that women are equal today. i can only find Title 9 and then the 19th Amendment...
=(

Just a little FYI coming from a woman:

We are not equal.

When I can walk into a job interview and get hired over a man who is more qualified for the position than I am, that is not equality.

I know it doesn't answer your question, but I had to say the truth of the matter.

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so ive let myself down so many times about my ex. he keeps coming bakk to me when he gets sikk of his other little sluts hes got on the side-and i fall for it everytime. he just has all the right things to say and does all the right things to make me forgive him. i dont know what to do- i dont know how to just STOP or SAY NO- i can ever say no to him. How do i just say no and break it off for good?? some one please help cuz this sukks!
-KKATIE

How do you say no? Next time he comes floating around, keep in mind that you deserve not to be treated like a rug for anyone to wipe their feet on, including him. Remember that you have learned from previous experiences with him that talk is indeed cheap.

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lately ive been getting really bad dantriff like its grosse!, ive always had healty hair! nooo its NOT lice, its just dantruff, i wash my hair everyother day (its bad your your hairs natural oils to be washed every day) my hair doesnt look oily or anyhting, just ALOT of dantruff and its inbarrseing
ive tryed changeing shammpoos and condinterners, ive been washing my hair with "solsin blue" wich is a shampoo used to control dantruff. i want to get rid of it!! ive tryed washing my hair every day, but nothing is working!

any sugestions thanx

It's probably just due to dry skin on your scalp. Dandruff has nothing to do with the health of your hair, so don't fret over that. It happens to everyone now and again.

The best thing I found to get rid of dandruff is Neutrogena T-Gel shampoo. Whenever I get bad dandruff and that dry itchy scalp, it is the only shampoo I found to actually work. It's a pretty small bottle, and kind of costly, but worth it. It is very thick, so a little goes a long ways.

I wouldn't continue with washing daily, because you are right that it is bad for your hair. It also makes your scalp dry out more, leading to more dandruff.

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I had sex on Sunday Morning for the basically first time (we tried the night before but it really hurt.) and when we were done i was bleeding really bad but it's still going and I have cramps so it's my period, duh, but is it weird that it happened right after the sex?

No, it's not weird. It just happened to be the time that your period came.

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Hi,i was wondering, is there any way during sex that parents can do anything to make it a boy or girl? like do it longer or anything to decide if its going to be a boy or girl?
thanks
p.s. sorry if that was confusing.
i pretty much just want to know if the parents can pick if they want a boy or girl.

There are several old wives' tales out there that say there is a way, but "tales" are exactly what they are. No, there is no way. You get what you get.

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im getting a new puppy in march
its gonna be an american bull dog
any cute name ideas?
thanks xo

Toro.

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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.

i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.

i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/


15/f


how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend?

The best way to break up with him is to tell him your honest reasons why you want to break up with him. To stay with him as it is now is you living a lie and leading him by the nose. You have to be fair to him, and you have to be fair to yourself. The only way is to part ways.

If your best friend is REALLY a best friend, your friendship won't be in jeopardy over this. Your feelings and your honesty will be respected.

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im gettin a tiny dog i need names.i like 'food names' or different names like 'turtle' for a dog i love that name for a dog or any 'unique names' or oppasite like giant for a tiny dog~so any names that are ~food~oppasite~unique~other animals~stuff like that

Call it Corn.

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My friend Monique has a lot of clothes (which are beatiful). She lives with her mom. And her mom does compliment her a lot (just not every day) on how beatiful Moniques clothes are. This morning Monique was wearing a lime green sweater and her mom told that she loved the sweater. Monique started to wonder why her mother didnt tell her that the sweater she wore yesterday was beautiful. So she asked her mother; why didnt you say my sweater yesterday was beautiful. Her mother said; Monique stop being insecure. It is like if you said to me gee mom you look good today, I wouldnt think you did not think I looked good yesterday; MY QUESTION: DO YOU THINK MONIQUE IS OVERREACTING.

Yes, I think she is overreacting. I'm sure her mother thinks she looks good everyday, but maybe she thought today that Monique needed a pick-me-up, so she complimented her.

Her mother is right in saying that she shouldn't be so insecure. She knows that her mother thinks her clothes are beautiful without having to hear it all the time. Correct?

It would make both Monique and her mother feel better if when Mom gives a compliment, Monique says with sincerity, "Oh, why, thank you, Mom. That is very sweet of you to say that," instead of feeling hurt that she wasn't complimented yesterday.


Mom is trying to make her feel good about herself, not make her feel insecure.

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Well I basically hate my dad. :-/
He's always doing thing to just piss me off, and yes I can tell the difference between something that will benefit me and something that's spiteful. Just tips to either A: Help me deal with it. B: Anything else you want to add.

Basically, the best thing you can do in this situation is to confront him about it. Tell him you feel he does this just to piss you off, and you want to know why.

I can't help you any further. I don't know what he does that upsets you, since you didn't elaborate.

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My mom is like addicted to alcohol. Every weekend, when she is off work, she has like a 12-pack of beer. Some times less; some times more. Even when she is working, on occasion she'll sneak in a few beers before work or after. And she never finds the time to spend time with the family. She makes promises she'll skip a weekend, or a day at least, to do something "as a family" but she ends up getting drunk when she gets home from work on Friday. She breaks my heart so much when she makes promises, then breaks them. I do know alcoholism is [like] a disease that's hard to cure, but is there anything I can do to help her??

She knows the long-term side effects, like liver disease and other problems. She knows she has a problem, but she is always denying it. And there are times when she does gets drunk she gets violent. I CAN'T turn her in or anything, because then my dad would kill me. But just personally, what can I do to help her?

Thanks

The best you can do to help her is to try to get her to come out of her denial. As long as she is in denial and refuses to see she has a problem, she will do nothing to stop drinking. She has to WANT to stop and ADMIT she has a problem.

Something that may help is to set up an intervention with her, consisting of your family and anyone else who cares about her and wants to see her kick her habit.

I'm giving you a link to the website for Online Al-Anon Outreach. Maybe some one here can help you with your problem and tell you the best way to set up an intervention.

http://www.ola-is.org/

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this may be a little long but i really need help .

ok so i lived in newnan for nine years with my dad but last year we started fighting alot . i have been back and forth living with him the past year so i have been in and out of newnan high like 5 times in a year. i am 16 and i live with my mom currently in gwinnett county. my mom has custody of me but my dad has joint legal custody of me so he has say on some things. well a couple months ago i tried staying with my aunt but my dad found out and since i wasnt living iwth him or my mom he freaked out so i came back to my moms house. i really want to be in newnan, thats where my life is. but me and my step mom dont get along at all so i really dont want to live with my dad. but if i live with my mom, i have to stay in gwinnett county and i hate it here. i love it at my aunts house. thats where i really want to be. is there any way i can choose to stay with her since im sixteen? i only have like 7 weeks of school left and want to go back to newnan high for the alst bit of my year. so i need to know a quick way to be able to stay with my aunt and go to newnan. my mom owuld let me, but my dad is just an ass and wont let me. but i never have contact with my dad, so i dont get why he wont let me. anyone got any ideas?

HELPP QUICK !

I'm not real sure as to how it would work out with living with your aunt, but in the state I live in, once you turn 14 you can legally decide for yourself as to which parent you want to live with.

Surely your parents have lawyers that handle your custody arrangements? If so, that is who you should talk to, or have your mom talk to them.

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im 15 (almost 16)/f and my boyfriend is 18/m.

we've been dating almost 3 years now and are sexually active, but we do not use condoms. he usually either finishes in my mouth or on me, never in me. the thing is, i want to get pregnant, but he doesnt. i can understand why he doesnt though. what should i do? i really love him and i really want a baby.

Check out this link to a question I answered about teens electing to have babies because they "believe" they are responsible enough to do so:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=471682

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ok, well i have a friend who ive been bringing to the mall for a while now, and recently she has been hooking up with some guy there, and her parents deffinitly wouldnt approve of this. well, this girl's father has seen pictures of this boy, my friend, and i, and have found conversations this guy and my friend have had online together and she is pretty much figured out. from when she first started meeting up with this guy i wasnt to sure of it, and i didnt want to have any part of it, but she would guilt me and con me into taking her to the mall. well last night, she guilted me into taking her once again, and her father called my mom wondering where she was, cause she didnt even ask to go to the mall, she just left, and her dad didnt even know we got dropped off at the mall unsupervised, and he also said that he found out that she has been hooking up with a boy there (from the online convos), so my mom is questioning me if i am there with boys and i told her no, because 1.im not meeting up with anyone, its just her and 2.i wanted to be a good friend and cover it up so my friend who is meeting up with them wouldnt get in trouble. but now my parents are loosing trust in me and saying that i cant go anywhere unsuperised and im starting to hate my friend for dragging me into her problems, and im not sure if i should rat her out. im leaning towards telling my parents what shes been doing because shes been a horrible friend to me saying that she misses me and shell hang out with me at the mall and she goes and meets up with this kid instead. so, should i rat her out or not, and if i do, what should i say to my parents. sorry for this being so long and confusing, but it seriously is a long, and confusing story, so i really need to be able to straigten everything out to tell my parents.

My advice? Stop letting her guilt you into doing anything you don't feel comfortable doing. See where that gets you? Now, because of this, your parents mistrust you.

I wouldn't rat her out to her parents, but if I were you I would tell my own parents what's going on. What do you tell them? The truth. Plain and simple. They need to know the facts of the situation, so they know where it is, exactly, you stand in the whole thing.

As for hating your friend for all of this? Don't. She didn't break your arm to make you go along with this. You LET her guilt you into going along. You CHOSE to help her cover up her mess. You ALLOWED yourself to be drug into her problems. Don't be angry and hateful to her for the choices YOU made.

Just know better next time not to put yourself into that situation, guilt or no guilt; pressure or no pressure; friend or no friend.

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Is love a feeling or emotion? Why do people fool in love and why can't i find love?

I think it is both, because it is considered an emotion, yet you feel love at the same time. Like happiness is an emotion, yet it is something you feel. Correct?

What is love? That really something that is indescribable. It is a little different for each individual. I promise, you will know love when you feel it.

Why can't you find love? It's not something that you search for, realistically. It happens over time. It has been said that "I have grown to love this person" or something on that order. You will find love, in time. It's just one of those things that require patience.

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I'm reading this one book called the Scarlet Letterman and it's by Cara Lockwood, but apparantly there is also another book in the series that I haven't read called Wuthering High by the same author. Can anyone tell me hat that book is about, because right now I'm reading the second book and I'm lost.

Thanx in Advance

Honestly, your best bet would be to close the book you are reading now, and start reading the one that came before it.

You can get general information from a short summary on here, but you will get a better knowledge of the plots and characters if you read the book.

What could it hurt? Obviously this book is interesting enough for you to continue trying to read it even though you are lost. The first book is probably just as good, if not better.

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why does it matter which college you go to?

The only person it should matter to is you. It's your education. Go to where you think you will get the best knowledge of the path you want to take in this life.

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my uncles' girlfriend just totally hates me that's why she is making my family irritate me She doesn't get it she thinks I bother people when all along I just mind my own business and it's people who are ruining their selfs. I hate her. Why would I want to copy other peoples style. She is like one of those annoying girls thinks ugly girls copy their style when they really aren't that interesting. She has brainwashed everyone in every way. I feel like i have no escape from this .

I'm not sure who all you are talking about here, I thought it was maybe about your uncle's girlfriend? I'm not sure what girls you are talking about? The girlfriend's type or something?

All I can say is be glad that you aren't a mindless robot, who copies somebody else to fit in, like the rest.

So she thinks she is something special, big deal. YOU know better; that's what's important.

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