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pregnancy
im 15 (almost 16)/f and my boyfriend is 18/m.
we've been dating almost 3 years now and are sexually active, but we do not use condoms. he usually either finishes in my mouth or on me, never in me. the thing is, i want to get pregnant, but he doesnt. i can understand why he doesnt though. what should i do? i really love him and i really want a baby.
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well all i can say is what happens happens. if yall have sex w/o a condom and you get pregant then it was meant to be. but if you do get pregant is he going to actually say and act like he is the daddy?
abby aka Az
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hunnyyy you have to consider everything. your 15 (almost 16) how are you supposed to take care of your baby anddd go to school. and also work to pay for what the baby needs. if you really love him you'll not have a baby; he's 18 and knows best. believe me your better off. when you have it you'll regret it intirely.. it will ruin your life
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I can see that you really do love your boyfriend - but having a baby is a BAD IDEA! Think about it, you won't have a social life, whatsoever. If you think you're going to have your friends hang around with you while you're nursing your 4 week old baby, chances are they won't. They'll probably be out at a party having fun while you're sitting home with your baby. Plus, your future would be in jeapordy. How would you go to school when you have to take care of a baby? Almost all jobs don't allow you to work without a highschool diploma. I see why your boyfriend doesn't want a baby either, he's 18 and I'm sure that he's either in college or going to college. He won't want to stay back and take care & support a child. Just rethink what you truley do want. <3
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Okay I read all the other responses and i dont really wanna repeat them because they are all true, but its a living hell trust me a lot of my friends have had kids, and they regret it soo much, they wished taht they would have waited, one had a baby next year had another baby same guy, she had all these plans but she cant even think about her going to college anymore she gotta think about her kids future.
He's 18 you 15 turning 16 thats sagitory rape hun, and if you dont know what that means, it means someone 18 or older having sex with a minor and both parties want it, but if your parents think anything they will charge him for rape and the jugde wont even listen to your opinion.. Do you want tha man you love to be in lock up just because you couldn't wait??
I'm sorry but i think thats wrong to be dating someone 18 when ur 15-16, and im not being a hypocrite becuz yes my man is gonna be 18 soon and im 16 but we dont have sex, but still we might end tha realtionship when he turns 18 because of that reason.
plz think about it....
.Da One'n Only.
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I've gotta say right off the bat-- really really bad idea. I can understand that you love your boyfriend and all but having a baby with him will change (and basically ruin) everything. You may have to quit school, you'll never have any time to yourself, you'll never have any money (diapers and baby clothes are ridiculously expensive) and the poor baby will end up miserable and in a broken home. There are other way to show how much you love your boyfriend, but fifteen is way too young to get pregnant. I assure you, nothing good can come of having a baby at such a young age. If you and your boyfriend are still together when you're done with school and you both have stable jobs, then give it a shot. Until then, please don't try to get pregnant.
And please, you really should use condoms to avoid this. If not that than you really oughta be on the pill. It's just much much safer this way.
Hope I was helpful,
-Kayla Jay
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Say if you do get pregnant and have the baby, do you actually think that your boyfriend is gonna wanna be a father to the child and will he still want you cause the answer is pretty clear. Do you think at your age u can take care of both a child and yourself.A baby is expensive and require all of your time. Just consider that before you make your decision.
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Don't do it... you're just not thinking realistically. your boyfriend being 18 has a more realistic perspective and knows that having a baby this early is not a good idea. wait a while and have a baby when you are old enough to take care of it. <3
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i believe that it is very selfish to want a child. i'm sorry, but that would be a horrible thing for you to do. this child would be cared for by a 15 year old and no father. There are plenty of women who get pregnant at that age and their lives a ruined because of it, the child grows up in a horrible household and turns into a bad adult. do not do this, i'm serious, i would feel very sorry for that child. your life will be ruined, you can have a wonderful baby in 5-10 years that has 2 parents that can support it, two loving parents.
please, please, please don't do this.
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i whould hold on to that wanting a kid . think of how your parents would feel and i know you may not care but listen i live with twin siblings boy and girl its no easy thing and if he doesn't want a kid that means he wouldn't be there for you threw anythuing labor, crying waking up at 2 am and ever 2 hours . nothing. you would be completly on your own and i dont' know how your parents would take it they may kick you out i have no idea but i would think about it first tihnk of everything ttha could happen. im going thrwe a scare currently with my 15 year old bf that i may be pregnant so some want it others don't and those who don't want it usualy get it . don't try to hard let fate take its place and time pass . hope i helped
Andie
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you can always have a baby later on in your life, you'd have to take care of this little guy for at least another 18 years... don't try to get pregnant... honestly
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