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okay, so ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months. this weekend .. saturday night, i gave him head. then i left 20 minutes after. now its monday night, and i havent even talked to him. i called him twice, but no anwser. he hasnt even tried to call me. we usaully talk everyday, like every min. tomorrow we have mid-terms so i probably wont even see him. of course he wont try and look for me. but i have no idea what to even say to him IF i see him. should i ingore him? should i scream at him? or let it go? no i cant let it go, this is annoying. and the worst thing is, i cant let HIM go. what should i do (link)
Sucky boyfriend? Is he really a sucky boyfriend or he is doing something sucky. Different meanings. There is a possibility that he is studying because you have mid-terms...if that's not the case...it's your choice how you wantto react to him when you see him. Show your true feelings and explain to him how you feel. I'm sorry but I don't know why you are asking such a question on advicenators. This is a question you ask your self. Ask your self and your self will guide you. If you love him then you will forgive him and not get mad. If you were hurt during his ignorance, then scream maybe. Don't ignore him because like you sad, you don't want him go! Only talking will help the problem.


I rate high!

Me and my boyfriend had sex but I don't know if he has any std's or not. How do I ask him and how do I get checked for std's? (link)
Talk to him about it. If you are a real couple, each one of you should understand about the concerns. Don't feel guilty or anything. You should have discussed this before sex!


So a guy in my Photo 1 class asked if I'd like to meet up for lunch. I said sure, even though I just got out of a serious, long relationship this November. I figured it couldn't hurt to get out and try to have some fun.

Anyway, the date was awful. He blew his nose at the table and later used the same napkin to wipe his mouth. He kept trying to get me drunk, saying "You can just sleep it off at my house and then drive home". On top of all of this, he was ridiculously forward and really, really lacked general intelligence. Even after I told him I was uncomfortable kissing on the first date, he still asked me at the end of the night if I was going to kiss him. It was awkward and infuriating. Unfortunately, he's all ready all but confessed that he's really into me and despite it all he's a sweet guy. Plus, I have to see him every day in class.

So, how do I let him down easy? (link)
Tell him something like

"I know you're really into me, and you're a really awesome/sweet guy but I think we would be better off as friends, and I mean it"

just be nice about it and let him know that you still want to be "cool"


Well here it goes ..
This is kinda silly but i found out i really like this guy in my class..
Well everything was going fine until i saw him like constantly with other girls and how he acted around them. Like when he's with me i feel like a princess but hwne he's with the other girls it's like i'm a nobody cuz what he like does/says to me he says to other girls ..
Then he asked me to sit with him i'm like nahh .. cuz i was sitting with my girls and then he just randomly asked someone else like he really didnt care, if i were to sit with him or not. When i'm talking to him this girl "EM" walks by he totallyy freezes. thats made me feel even worse.. So now i'm really mean to him because of how he treats me . And he acts like helikes me trys to talk to me and make eye contact and stuff because he knows i'm mad at him . But i cant tell him why i don't want him to know i like him because he use to like me and i liked his best friend at the time .. and so he stooppeedd .. and i try to be nice but all i can do is act mean because i think in my head be nice and when it comes to flashbacks of how he treated me comes and i act like a b**** .. and the more i see it he cares when i'm mad and he trys to talk now a days . What should i do ?
i want him to like me ?
I don't know what to do ?
and being mad had made him turn to my best friend ..
and she likes him now and he might like her.. oh please answer :) (link)
If I were in this situation, I would forget about him. Although he made it seem like he liked you, he went around and said the same things to other chicks right? He didn't treat you right the first time, it isn't worth it, especially now because your friend likes him.

Don't waste your time on him, there's other guys out there who will treat you well [all of the time] I guess it isn't what you wanted to hear, but I'm just getting a bad vibe about him and this situation.

I hope this helped in some way.


how do you give a good blow job? (link)
Use your tongue A LOT. And be sure not to use ANY teeth.

This site has more details:

http://sexinfo101.com/pm_fellatio.shtml


6 months along :]
its a girl.
me and my boyfriend have some names pciked out.
but arent sure what to name her.
just lemme know what you think.

Riley James Court.
Brooklyn ray Court.
Elizabeth lynn Court.
Courtney may Court.

^6what one do you like the best.
or give me some suggestions. (link)
i like brooklyn ray court and riley james court good luck i hope i helped


I have a friend, whom i met last year. We merely say hi or anything.
Just in the hall, we randomly bump into each other and say hi and walk away. For some reason I like him, his charm and good looks.
But i barely know him.
Is this just me wanting to like someone when there noone to like?
or do i ACTUALLY liek him?
what can i do to grow closer to him?
cutesy flirty things.
but thats not too HUGE! (link)
I'm thinking you actually do like him. People don't have to neccessarily know each other well to like one another.

I'd start with small talk, be a little flirty, tell jokes, smile...etc

I think you'll be able to do the rest from there. If things feel right, ask him out.

=D


theres this guy im just getting to know, we talk alot online, and we went 2 a movie together with some friends the other night. i kinda like him, but the problem is i have NO idea like what to say to him! i know this sounds really naive, but ive had many BFs before, but for some reason im getting tounge tied around him, and none of the others? maybe its because hes like insanley good looking lol. but can someone help, any idea!? im going 2 be seeing alot more of him now, what should i do?? (link)
I'm guessing you're tongue tied around him because you like him a lot.

As for what to say to him, I really can't tell you. You just have to be yourself around him.Maybe ask him a few questions about him to break the ice and from there you'll probably be fine. Don't be to quiet though, otherwise he might think you aren't interested.

And don't forget to smile =)


How do you do this heart thing with your keyboard...like what are the keys...♥ ♥ ♥...
i coppied and pasted by the way lol
thanks (link)
you write

& hearts ;


no spacess




yeahhh, how can i get the v cut that abercrombie models have? i just think it looks sexy (link)
They photshop a lot of those abercrombie models, and no offense, but you can't be perfect and yeah, just excersize...isn't a 6 pick good enough? haha


ok so this is kinda long and confuseing, considering the kid like barely knows my name....

so this kid was in my last years gym class, lets call him k. and i really like him like alotttt but he didnt even know me, but he knew my friend (my only friend in the gym class btw) so they werent like bff or anything but they would talk and i would be just kinda there chiming in once in a while, so he never really said much to me or anything but when he did it was always kind of flirty. like once i said something and he turned to my friend and was like i truly think this girl is the nicest girl on the planet!! and then winked at me. so like i really thiought he liked me, but like hes kind of like a bad boy and im like known as like a real goody toe shoes even though im not really. so like i think he thought i was too good for him or whatever beacuse he used to tell me all the time too that he thought i should be a model. and i would always catch him like looking at me and stuff. but i was really shy so i really wouldnt go like out of my way for him, but i did flirt and stuff. soooo anyway we come back from winter break and he has a girl frienddd. but he would still talk and stuff but i could tell it wasnt the same and what not. and this girlfriend was like fat and i knowwww she put out for him, thats just the kind of girl she is and im not. so this year at school in the hallway he would still like look at me and stuff and like made sure to make eye contact then go kiss his girlfriend soo annoyyingg anyway fast foward to 5 days ago, i heard they broke up, and he hooked up with this differnt girl at this party, shes a slut as well and uglyyy, but they arnt like together or anything. so my point being, do i still even have a chance with this kid, and how do i let him know i like himmmm. i know he thinks that i would never go for someone like him but i have never wanted anyone so bad in my lifeeee... and like we dont have any of the same classes and we havent talked all year or said hi or anything but he will always just look at me please help!!!

(link)
I think you should stay as far away from this guy as possible. He bounces from one girl to another and dates the girls who probably give him what he wants.
I bet tons of other guys look at you, but you don't notice them because you're too busy with the bad boy.
And I bet that you just want to turn the bad boy good, what girl wouldn't? But still, he seems like trouble.
Good luckk


what are some great friendship songs like your a really great friend and im going to really miss you when you leave what are some songs like that (link)
Avril Lavigne: Keep holding on
Hannah Montana: True Friend
Michelle Branch: I'll always be right there
Brandy: Best friend

Enjoy !! and I hope you and your great friend stay in touch :]


I have a friend, whom i met last year. We merely say hi or anything.
Just in the hall, we randomly bump into each other and say hi and walk away. For some reason I like him, his charm and good looks.
But i barely know him.
Is this just me wanting to like someone when there noone to like?
or do i ACTUALLY liek him?
what can i do to grow closer to him?
cutesy flirty things.
but thats not too HUGE! (link)
talk to him more, get to know him better. maybe you could go hang out at the mall with his and your friends, have some fun. You dont have to rush anything right away, you can take your time deciding wether or not you guys truely like each other. or if your the kind of girl that likes to go out there and take risks, then ask him out (but i suggest you guys get together first.) maybe you two could go out for a smoothie! ♥
hOpe I hElPeD!!!


Riiight. This story has a lot to it. Bear with me if you can be bothered :)

So, this girl Julia was going out with a guy called Damien. Julia was cheating on him with his BROTHER for about 8 months.
Recently she found out that she was pregnant, BUT she doesn't know who's the baby is yet (she was having sex with both of them)
Now she's bout 2/4 months pregnant, she's gonna keep it. Her parents kicked her out of the house.
And this is where I come in.
She came to my door at about one AM. with her bag and said that she'd been kicked out.
She doesn't know how she's gonna manage from now- too late to get an abortion. She is considering giving the baby away- to be adopted..but I'm getting more and more involved. I had to explain to Damien that Julia had been cheating on him, with his brother. His brother knew that Julia was with Damien, but he didn't really care. Now Damien and me are getting close after spending so much time together discussing things, sorting them out.
Julia is very, very, VERY pissed off at me for talking to Damien a lot. But she said that she's worried if it's Damien's kid, he'll have to find out and he will hate that.
His brother, Tom wants to be the dad of the baby, BUT he doesn't know that Julia was sleeping with Damien. SO if it turns out to be Damien's, Tom will leave Julia.
Also, My parents hate the fact that Julia is living with us, and we have to f*cking support her financially...Well we don't but my parents are, and Julia doesn't even say a word of thanks, she just bloody complains how her room is too small, and she doesn't have enough money to buy the things she wants and so on.


Please tell me what to do, I've started to dislike Julia, I agree with my parents 100% and me and Damien kissed yesterday for the first time. I am falling for him and seriously, he's not a bad guy at all. He's very sweet but Julia didn't appreciate him enough.

Ahhh =[

Btw, these are the details:
Damien-15/m
Julia-17/f
Tom-19/m
Me-15½/f (link)
You have welcomed Julia with open arms and what has she done to repay you? Oh yeah-bitch and whine about a situation she go herself into- that is SOOO not cool and not fair at all. She should be kissing the ground you walk on, along with your parents, because where would she be right now without your support and help?
So if she is gonna be ungreatful, kick her to the curb and send her packing because obviously she has some issues she needs to work out, and I personally think that that would teach her a lesson.
And it is cute that you and Damien are really close, because you both deserve love and respect, something that Julia cannot provide to anyone. And if Julia is "jealous" or mad that you are becoming very close with Damien, well it's her own fault, she shouldn't have cheated on him in the first place.
You should just tell her to leave, but if you really don't want to do that, give her two options:
1. She starts cleaning up her act and being nice and greatful towards you and your family or the dirt road will be her best friend
2. She leaves and won't be able to come back.

I hope i helped and don't let Julia get you down :]


Everybody is always telling me how I'm gorgeous, and I'm just soo prety and one of the most beautiful girls they've ever seen. And guys tell me I'm hot. The thing is, I don't feel it. Like I know I am somewhat attractive, maybe just pretty, but there are always all these girls telling me that I'm so gorgeous and they wish they could look like me. I know that I am pretty, but I don't feel like I'm as pretty as other people say. How am I supposed to know if I'm pretty or not? Like besides what other people say becuase I just don't feel as attractive as what my friends all say to me. And this isn't a self esteem issue, at least I don't think it is... (link)
honestly...dont worry too much about it...take it as a good thing. Do you know how few girls get told that? you MUST be pretty...and start to look at the possitives of you and your body, not the negatives. *warning* this gets cheesy: but, everyone is pretty...they just need to accept it and think of the possitives! ♥
HoPe I hElpEd!!!


So theres this guy that treats me like shit. i seriously try to be sooooo nice to him and i usually am. but he never reconizes it. I always have to text him first and call him first. and when i dont he doesnt do anything i tried not being the first to text,call etc. And he didnt seem to care. Im trying to get away from him, but its so hard. I know it sounds stupid like if i was an outsider looking in on the situation id be like leave him now. but i cant its so hard. any tips on how to leave someone and walk away before i get really hurt? thanks! (link)
You just have to think to yourself, "what am I going to gain from this?"
It is like you are playing cat and mouse, he is the mouse and your playing the role of the cat.
Nobody likes to be the cat ;] but still, being serious, do you really wangt to wait for the guy who doesn't make the effort to talk to you and you being the one doing all the work.
Think about it, if you didn't contact him, you guys probably wouldn't even be talking, and some guys are just akward like that [I know a bunch and one of them was really hard to let go] but why cause your heart soo much pain and misery when you can just let him go.
I learned this the hard way.
But you don't have to, just don't talk to him for a while and see if he wants to get in touch with you. Who knows, maybe he will miss you :] but for now, just take an intrset in some other guys, explore your options, and let whatever happens happens. yuh know?
This won't be an easy process, but that really isn't a healthy relationship for you.
Hope he stops being a jerk :]



yeahhh, how can i get the v cut that abercrombie models have? i just think it looks sexy (link)
I can't really answer your questions but just to let you know...


My friend used to model for A&F and most of those V lines are air brushed on. You don;t need V line to look hott.


If your dorm has a common bathroom, how does showering work?? Can you go take a shower whenever you want to?? Also, can you use your hairdryer/hair straightener in the bathroom or can you use it in your room also?? I know every college/university is different, but generally, what are the usual rules for this situation?? I'm a bit nervous about it since I'm obsessed with my hair straightener. Thanks!! (link)
well you can take a shower when ever but not during school even if your sick and cant go to class and you can use a hairdryer in the bathroom only good luk i hope i helped


okay, so ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months. this weekend .. saturday night, i gave him head. then i left 20 minutes after. now its monday night, and i havent even talked to him. i called him twice, but no anwser. he hasnt even tried to call me. we usaully talk everyday, like every min. tomorrow we have mid-terms so i probably wont even see him. of course he wont try and look for me. but i have no idea what to even say to him IF i see him. should i ingore him? should i scream at him? or let it go? no i cant let it go, this is annoying. and the worst thing is, i cant let HIM go. what should i do (link)
Good job to you! You have successfully realized that your boyfriend is a jerk! You know, you do not deserve this kind of treatment. What do you expect him to do the next time you guys do something, such as have sex? He will most likely continue to treat you like he is now. It's only been three months, what is there to lose? Just dump this guy and find another who will offer you copius amounts of love and happiness!


what is comething i can give my girlfriend for valentines day that isnt flowers? she doesnt like flowers. lol. i wanted to send them to her apartment at school so i was thinking maybe a teddy bear & candy or something? any ideas? (link)
well you problay arnt ready for this but last year my sister got a ring for valentines day i dont think you want to get marryed yet so you could get here a gift basket of candy or you could just get her a gift card pretty much anything will work if it comes from you good luck i hope that i helped some




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