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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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people say we become our parents.. does anyone agree or disagree with this?

moreover, do people tend to grow up and marry someone like their parent (of the opposite gender)?

Interesting question.

Well- I'll just give my bid on this topic-

You should know this won't be as long as other's answers, I'm afraid. I tend to NOT be able to type endlessly.. not that it is a bad thing. I just always feel like I'm repeating myself.


Anyway- I think that in a way, people become their parents. I myself am wanting to attend the same college as my father did- but not to do the same thing. My mom is a Registered Nurse [currently a housemom] and I am hoping to go into the medical field like her. My dad is very religious- and I see myself being close to that when I'm older- though not AS religious as him. Not that religion isn't important.. but that is a different question.

I think personality-wise, yes... we do become sort of mirrors of our parents.. they do certain things and act certain ways.. and if you're around them when you're growing up and don't know any better- you tend to be like them and have similar views on things.
For instance, politically- My mom will say something.. like a really good argument.. and if I'm talking to a friend about it- I might say what she said. Now whether I think it myself or am just saying it because my mother said it, I don't know.. but I think its more the latter.

I don't think that people are much different.. in that I'm sure other people do this as well. But.. when we grow up.. we are who we are.. after facing the "real world" as adults call it- we start to have our own opinions and we start to become ourselves more. That isn't to say that we still aren't anything like our parents.. because I think we always will be.. in some way or another.

Now to your second question... I think this could happen with most people because they would feel comfortable with marrying someone they feel as if they already knew.. but I think by the time someone is ready to get married- they are more apt to choose someone they just love because of who they are.. not because they are reflections of their parents, persay.

I hope that helped a little. Let me know in feedback!

--Jack
(15/m)

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14/F- I have my life pretty much planned out at this point. I want to become a cardiac surgeon and once I get at that point I want to open a over night spa and i want it to be big ( while Im still a cardiac surgeon)do you think my dream is to much or do you think I should go for it-Thanks

Hey.

NO WAY! I totally want to be Cardiologist [I haven't decided to go into surgery or research quite yet]! That is way cool!

So to answer your question- no your dream is NOT too big. No dream is too big unless you can't dream you'll accomplish it. If you set your mind to it- you really can do anything... that isn't a fable or myth in the slightest. I think you should go for it- whether your dream be to serve fries all your life at McDonalds [which actually was my childhood ambition! My first words were "'Donald's!"] or your dream be rocket science or cardiology.. You can do it! Really- you can.. and certainly, if that is my goal, and I [of all people] think I can accomplish it- then SURELY you can!

Good luck- and maybe we'll do surgery together someday.. haha.. that's unlikely, but still!

--Jack
(15/m)

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Your are gorgeous like no other.

I bet you get that a lot but its only the truth.

where are you from?

Oh dear...

This has got to stop.

I can tell you where I'm NOT from.

But that would be giving you too much info, I'm afraid =].

--Jack
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i'm trying add the song "So hard to leave' by aaron roathe onto my profile. i know it is on myspace because i saw another girls profile with that song on there.
Can someone help me find it.? Thanks

I can't find it anywhere either.

Maybe go back to the girl's myspace- and where it has the music box thing- click "View" and it will take you to his page.

Are you sure you have the name right?

I think your best bet is to ask the girl who had it.

--Jack
(15/m)

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How come guys r such pervs

Not all guys are "pervs".

Guys in their teenage years are immature, mostly, and they don't think about what they say. They have raging hormones and that makes MOST, not all, of them think about sex and perverted things a lot of the time.

Just ignore them- they'll mature eventually.

--Jack
(15/m)

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yeah that does help quite a bit.
i'm just a little nervous ^_^
anyway..thank you.
you seem to help me the most,i seems :]

Hmmm.. I have no idea who this is-

What question of yours did I answer?

Why did I get a 1?

--Jack
(15/m)

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Okay, well. I can't make this short.
I'm 15/f with a crush on a guy that's 16/m.
I met him this school year. Now it's the summer.
I wanna try and get his interest back on me again. Wow, that sounds really selfish. Okay, let's try that again. I wanna try and get back to the way he and I were at the beginning of the year. But it's a pretty long story and I know people don't like to read long questions. Sooo anyone want to volunteer to help me??? Please! I'll bake you scones that look like biscuits or double choco chunk cookies! Haha, pleaseeee! My YIM/MSN/e-mail is xchoke_on_dead_hopex@yahoo.com and my AIM is r0ck0l0ser. Can you please help me? Could you leave your email/sn for me to reach you with?

I love you forever and ever =)

Hey. I'm on AIM now- but I would really prefer that you ask to my inbox here:
http://www.advicenators.com/question.php?u=30323

I can help you with your problem. I will try my best to help!

--Jack
(15/m)

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there's this boy, whom I like alot- i'm going to call him jake. well today he came over, when my parent's weren't here, we didn't go outside but we were sitting on the bench& we started making out then he was leaving at ten, so I looked at my phone I was like twenty more minutes, then it started to get serious, like we would be kissing& for a few times he did would run his hand up my back& I was like if he tries to go under my bra or near my "private" area, i'm going to stop him, so he goes over my bra, like he was feeling them, just kinda touching? it wasn't bad& it was only for a few minutes. then we were kissing again& he stuck his hands down the back of my pants touching my butt, he would do that, then bring it out& then do that again, then he took his hand& he was playing w/ my "private" part's, like my panties were still in the way but he was playing with them over my panties& at the time I didn't care, I was like he still isn't in them, blah blah blah. & now that I think of it I feel horrible, weren't even dating& I let him do that, I feel so sick, like to my stomach& I feel like a whore, I already took a shower, he's the only guy I have done anything like this with, i've only even made out w/ one guy ever then him,& i'm fourteen, do you think i'm a whore?

whore /hɔr, hoʊr or, often, hʊər/
–noun 1. a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet.

That is from dictionary.com.

You didn't have sex- so you're not technically a whore. I wouldn't say that you're a whore.. I've heard of people doing much worse than what you did. If anything- he was a man-whore. You're fine. Most people make out with people they don't even know and then end up giving them a blowjob or handjob or even having sex with them. You didn't do any of that. You're fine.

And its perfectly normal to feel horrible. If you don't want him or anyone else to do it next time- don't let them. You were just caught up in the moment- and at least you didn't have sex. Maybe let Jake know how you feel.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I was just recently sick with a temperature and right now have a 99.3 ferenheit. I need to go to work at a restaurant the day after tomorrow. Do you think i will be ok by then? What should I do to get better?

You might be- but fevers take some time and careful attention. Just make sure to take it easy and careful.

Here is a website that will probably help you.. just scroll down a bit and it will tell you about tylenol and how its not a bad idea to take one if you have a fever:

http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-fever.htm

It mentions taking a lukewarm bath or shower. Your body would probably rather have the bath.. its more relaxing.

It also mentions putting an icepack under your armpit, your groin area, or on your forehead.

Feel better!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Does it really hurt to get a tattoo? Like, does it actually feel like someone drawing on your skin with a needle, or something like that? Just wondering; I'd really like to get a tattoo on my leg and I heard it's painful...?

I personally haven't gotten a tatoo- but I've heard that it actually sort of hurts. Kind of like a shot.. but a little bit more. I figure that everyone has different tolerances of pain- and so some people feel nothing, while others get hurt a lot.

Like the person below said- just make sure to keep it washed and clean- like with a scrape or cut.

--Jack
(15/m)

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alrighty there's this kid alec ok? and he's suchhh a cutie.and in 6th and 7th grade i absolutly hated him because he was emo and he hated me too.but now my thoughts on emo people have changed and i like him alot now..but i think this guy still hates me and i never talk to him.how do i approche him and start talking to him without him not wanting to listen to me?

Anything is helpful :]

First off- if you ever hurt him [emotionally] in anyway.. you need to apologize to him. Just approach him and tell him that you're really sorry for how you hated him or whatever.
I don't think it would be wise to just come out and tell him that you like him just yet. Maybe become friends first- and you'll probably end up liking him more- and he may even like you.
I've never heard of people going from hating each other to suddenly dating.
Again- just let Alec know you're sorry and that you would like to be friends with him. If he rejects it- there are plenty of other people out there even better than him- trust me!

**EDIT**
Just walk up to him one day- and say "Hey!". If he doesn't respond- just start to apologize, like I said. And like I also said- if he doesn't respond- he may need time or he may not want to talk to you. Just say, "I hope you consider what I said- and I hope we can be friends.. I'll give you all the time you need to think about it."
Does that help?

--Jack
(15/m)

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does anyone know how to see who has looked at your AIM profile?
thanks in advance.

There is no way, unless of course you're a super genius computer person like Theymos [http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=theymos].

He might know.. but as for the rest of us, its impossible.

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay so ive been going out with this guy for two months and i love him so much and i know he loves me too. the other night i was talking to him and he said " i love you so much and i think we could take our relationship further" ive never done anything with him, and im not ready to do anything with him, but i really love him. what should i have said to that?

Honestly- if you don't want to do anything further with him- just be honest. Relationships should be based on trust and communication, not assumptions. If you're in communication with him- he'll know that you're not ready- and hopefully he'll respect that. You've only been going out for 2 months- its still a little early to have sex, if that is what he is implying. He maybe just wants to get in your pants? You never know that could be a possibility.. although I could be wrong. Just be honest with him- and if he doesn't respect that- he's not right for you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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theres this guy that i've known for a week and a half. he has a girl friend but today he confessed he has a major crush on me. he's pretty cute and he's been going out with his girl friend for two weeks. he wants me to call him tonight. i kind of like him but i have to get to know him better. he thinks if we talk on the phone then ill get to know him better, i think talking online is good enough. normally i only talk on the phone to my aunts and uncles and my best friend if theres an emergency. he called me earlier but i didn't answer. now i feel bad and want to call him but i don't know what to say. what the heck should i say?

You should call him back and just be honest. Just tell him that you really don't like talking on the phone [you're not the only one.. I don't like talking on the phone AT ALL], and that you were nervous and didn't pick up. Just apologize and that can get your conversation started. Then just talk about your day or whatever.. and just ask him a bunch of questions. You'll be fine.

If you need elaboration- say so in feedback- and I will edit.. just be sure to look at it!

--Jack
(15/m)

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hmm hi.
i'm just wondering if it's possible to lose about 60 pounds in a month.
and if so how?
PLEASE help would be GREAT.
:D

This isn't going to be what you want to hear, but you can't lose 60 pounds in a month. A month is composed of 4 weeks. Doctors and Nutritionists reccommend losing NO MORE than 2-3 pounds a week. That means that you should only lose between 8 and 12 pounds a month. That means it should take you 5 months to lose 60 pounds; not one month.
If you even attempted to lose that much in one month- you'd be losing 15 pounds a week- which is COMPLETELY unhealthy! Your body can only lose so much weight at a time... trying to lose too much is like trying to lick your elbow- its nearly impossible- and if you do it- you'll end up hurting.. really bad.

Please don't do this. If you want to lose weight gradually- just eat right and exercise. Don't take diet pills- they are really bad for you.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I babysit these kids A LOT!! There is 1 two year old, one 3 year old, 1 one year old, and 1 eight year old. What kind of games can we play to not be so bored and just watch scooby doo 3000 times.

THANKS :D

Think back to when you were that age. What did you like?

Here's some games I suggest:
-Tag
-Hide and Seek
-Other variations of tag [toilet seat tag, freeze, etc.]
-Swimming [if you have a pool]
-Marco Polo
-Any board games that a 1 year old could still play

only search advicenators.com


Have fun with the kids!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Tomorrow my boyfriend and I will be celbrating our 6 month anniversary. We haven't celebrated any previous months before, like we didn;t even really acknowledge it and stuff and well he tried last month for our 5 months. Unfortunately i went out with my friends and we didn't do anything because i didn't know about it and it was a surprise. He had planned to go to dinner at some nice greek place downtown. Ok well i got him a ticket to great america which we'll be going to on sunday ($40) and cologne ( A&F fierce i bought it off my friend for only 15bucks, and costs $50 at the store). What do you guys think? Is that good or do you have any ideas or suggestions?

We've been thru quite a lot, he's a really sweet guy. I cheated before him on and admitted to it and he forgave me and things have been good although we still haven't said I love you yet. He usually pays for things when we go out like movies and such. So i think my gift is good right?

This is my first time being in a serious relationship and I'm really nervous. I'm still kind of shy around him and we've never been to dinner before. What do you think I should wear? :)

All suggestions REALLY appreciated. Thank you so much!

Hey.

Don't feel like you need to spend a fortune on your boyfriend. The simplest and least expensive gifts are usually the best. I think what you've already spent on him is good enough.

Maybe you could take him out to eat and you can pay? This would obviously be somewhere not too expensive.. but still special. Maybe you could go to a park and have a picnic?

If he cares about you- he really won't mind what you two do. He'll just be happy to be with you =].

Happy 6 month!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Did Ben Savage, [corey matthews] really die? Or was it just a rumor?

THANKS:D

http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/hoaxes/bensavage.asp


No. He is not dead. He is alive and well. It is a rumor.

--Jack
(15/m)

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is a burp just as disgusting as a fart? factually, not opinion-illy (not a word but w/e)

Both are releasing gas from the body.


From www.dictionary.reference.com:
burp
noun
1. a reflex that expels gas noisily from the stomach through the mouth

fart (färt)
intr.v.
To expel intestinal gas through the anus; break wind.

n.
An often audible discharge of intestinal gas.


So both are equally disgusting. I don't know that one is factually more disgusting than the other.

--Jack
(15/m)

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OKAY so on FACEBOOK i recently messaged my crush and now we're talking a lot & he was talking about making a group and so he made it and then he made me an officer, claiming that i helped make the group [when i really didn't] & he POKED me. do you guys think he likes me or WHAT?! also i'm going on vacation tomorrow for 3 weeks and i won't be able to talk to him!

Hello.

To answer your question, he very well could like you. Usually people who create groups only make their friends officers. Just so you know- an officer doesn't mean that you helped create the group- it is just something fun. An Admin is one that helped create the group. Poking is just something fun. Its for friends- so maybe he likes you as just a friend? I'm not sure.. but these little actions are hard to decipher.
As I always say- the only sure-fire way to know if someone likes you is to either:
A. Have an ambassador [a friend or someone you trust] ask your crush if he likes you.. this is really lame.. and usually the person can tell who really wants to know.. haha
B. You directly ask him. Sure- its sort of embarrassing, but you'll get an answer. Mabye he likes you and is waiting to find out if you like him? You never know..

And as I also always say- love takes risks. If you can't take a little risk sometimes- you won't get anywhere with relationships. Just ask him- how bad could it be?

--Jack
(15/m)

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