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people say we become our parents.. does anyone agree or disagree with this?
moreover, do people tend to grow up and marry someone like their parent (of the opposite gender)?
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Physically, we are each half from the mother and half from the father.
Mentally, I think its 50/50. Half of it comes from a combination of your parents personalities and traits, the other half from your own temperament and outside influences.
I don't think everyone necessarily becomes like their own parents when they are older. There are customs and certain ways of doing things that feel natural after being brought up that way. So maybe you are like your parents in the sense that spending a lot of time with your family outside of home is customary, or that you solve problems in a similar fashion.
If you have an abusive parent, that doesn't always mean that the kid will turn out to be abusive. In the trilogy written by Dave Pelzer, where he describes his life before, during, and after living with an abusive mother, he himself didn't turn out to be abusive...just passive.
Every person has the freedom to choose how to react to something. So you can easily let a destructive household influence you to the point where you are an exact copy of what they are, but you also have the freedom to look past that and not become that at all. But yeah, for the most part you will turn out to be like your parents - that is, if they are around. Having a detached set of parents isn't going to be as much of an influence as would a set of protective parents, unless you yourself become detached.
Maybe you've heard that guys will try to find and marry a woman that was like their mom. Sometimes its true, sometimes not - everyone is different. I don't think who you marry has too much to do with how your parents are. They might influence as to what they allow or agree with, but thats as far as I see it going. Hope that helped.
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Interesting question.
Well- I'll just give my bid on this topic-
You should know this won't be as long as other's answers, I'm afraid. I tend to NOT be able to type endlessly.. not that it is a bad thing. I just always feel like I'm repeating myself.
Anyway- I think that in a way, people become their parents. I myself am wanting to attend the same college as my father did- but not to do the same thing. My mom is a Registered Nurse [currently a housemom] and I am hoping to go into the medical field like her. My dad is very religious- and I see myself being close to that when I'm older- though not AS religious as him. Not that religion isn't important.. but that is a different question.
I think personality-wise, yes... we do become sort of mirrors of our parents.. they do certain things and act certain ways.. and if you're around them when you're growing up and don't know any better- you tend to be like them and have similar views on things.
For instance, politically- My mom will say something.. like a really good argument.. and if I'm talking to a friend about it- I might say what she said. Now whether I think it myself or am just saying it because my mother said it, I don't know.. but I think its more the latter.
I don't think that people are much different.. in that I'm sure other people do this as well. But.. when we grow up.. we are who we are.. after facing the "real world" as adults call it- we start to have our own opinions and we start to become ourselves more. That isn't to say that we still aren't anything like our parents.. because I think we always will be.. in some way or another.
Now to your second question... I think this could happen with most people because they would feel comfortable with marrying someone they feel as if they already knew.. but I think by the time someone is ready to get married- they are more apt to choose someone they just love because of who they are.. not because they are reflections of their parents, persay.
I hope that helped a little. Let me know in feedback!
--Jack
(15/m)
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Everyone says I'm exactly like my mother, although I look like my father, so I suppose I can agree with the first one.
I would ultimately say that you grow up and marry in your comfort zone. So, naturally, if your parent [of the opposite gender] is a certain way, it's entirely possible to marry someone similar.
So yeah, I agree [to an extent] to both of those.
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Well, there is a huge tendancy for people to act like their parents as they grow older- it's what they know. And I would also agree that it's really likely for someone to marry a person like their parent. But, a person can change that round if they want to, making a conscious decision about it and sticking to it.
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