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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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when im around guys, I all of a sudden get really hot and start sweating and that also makes my face all red, and its embarrassing...anyway to fix this even a bit??
Thanks:)
Try pretending they are your girl friends. Once you stop seeing them as intimidating, you'll be more comfortable around them. Don't walk up to them immediately thinking you're going to do something embarrassing or stupid. It's okay if you mess up because believe it or not, guys mess up too! (I know, what a shocker lol)
Anyways, I wish you luck!
Okay so i liked this one guy forever and just got over him. I fell in love and now were close and i am his best female friend. Well i think im falling for him agian. He tells me how cute, beautiful, hot, sexy, fun, funny, nice, kind, sweet i am and i love it. He used to be a manwhore, now he only flirts with me, and i think he likes me but last year he didnt want a gf til hs, and thats next year. I dont want to wait another day for him, but i want to get over him or be with him. I am not ready to tell him yet though. UGH. How can i get him to like me more, if he already likes me, and tell me? I have only a half period of lunch. Thanks a bunch!
It sounds to me like this kid might have a thing for you. However, if he wants to wait until high school, then you should respect that. On the other hand, he told you that a year ago. If he's changed enough to not flirt with all the girls he meets, then he might have also changed enough to want to date now. Just send him signals that you like him back without being too over-the-top. It could work out...you never know. And hey, if it doesn't this year, you still have next year when he definitely wants to have a girlfriend. =]
Good luck!
13/f 8th grade
I like this boy and I have one class with him but I made a way where I would always walk by him 4th period (we have 5th period together) and when I do he would call my name and walk away from his friends and start talking to me. He talks to me alot I guess. My friends don't know I like him either, I don't know if I will tell them yet though. I have no idea if he likes me though. I really don't know what to do. But I know he doesn't hate me, when I'm with my friends he would come up to me and ask me for something or ask me a question. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!
He seems to be going out of his way to talk to you. He could be talking with his buddies but instead comes over to have a conversation with you. That's a good sign!
He's probably trying to get to know you better, so be sure to let him. I wouldn't be super flirty, just continue talking to him and getting to know him as well. Talking is the first step, then comes friendship...then possibly a boyfriend/girlfriend deal. =]
Just don't rush things and you'll be fine.
cheerleading tryouts are going to come pretty soon. and i really want to try out because its something that i really want to do and i would have fun with it. i tried out last year, and i didnt make it and i was really sad about it. now, what im thinking is, if i didnt make it last year, than, how am i going to make it this year, cause i guess i wasent good enough last year. i really want to do this, and some of the cheerleaders now want me to try out. any advice??
thanks!
-13/f
Well, you tried out last year and didn't make it. Now it's one whole year later! You've most likely changed since last year and so you need to go in there with confidence. You might not have made it last time, but that doesn't mean you automatically get cut again. No worries; one rejection shouldn't bring you down forever. =]
Good luck with your try-outs!
I'm 17/f and I have a boyfriend whom I'm madly in love with, however, I'm just curious if this one friend of mine seems to be trying to flirt with me. He sits behind me in one class and we talk all the time, he's always talking to me, he told me he likes to play with my hair, and he'll randomly touch me (on the shoulders, arm, whatever) sometimes, and the other day, he hugged me out of nowhere. So, my question is, does he have a crush on me or is he just trying to be a friend? Thanks!
If he's your friend, then why don't you ask him about it? I'd say he's flirting, but if he's your friend then he should know you have a boyfriend. You wouldn't want your boyfriend to be on guard or jealous of your friend. I'd ask this friend subtly if he has a thing for you. Or just drop hints that you see him as only a friend because you have a boyfriend whom you are madly in love with. =]
is doing 300 jumpinjacks, crunches and pushups mostly everday over-exerscsing?
Sometimes people think the only way to exercise is by doing a lot every single day. But this isn't true. You can actually do more harm than good to your body if you overexercise.
Instead of 300 of each every day, start with 20 of each 3 days a week. Then, as your body gets used to exercising, push it up to 30 of each 4 days a week.
No need to kill yourself trying to be healthy lol.
So i really like this guy. We are reallly close and as a joke he always says hes in love with my mom. I know its a joke but my friend told me that he told her that my mom gave him head. Its starting to get weird. Like whenever hes over my house he goes to my mom and says hi and gives her a hug and hes always talking about my mom. Is this something i should be worried abot? thanks
If this is making you feel uncomfortable, as it should because it's creepy, then try talking to him about how it's making you feel. Even if he's only joking, there is a point when he's gone to far. He's definitely already crossed the line. If he's telling people lies about him and your mom hooking up and getting obsessive over this 'joke', then you really need to talk to him about it. It's not right for him to be this disrespectful to you and your mom.
I don't mean diet plan as to loose weight because i'm already skinney, but i want to eat healthy foods. I have gym this semester and it's really killing me so i'm taking my diet as a chance to maybe increase my level in gym.
Our cafeteria doesn't have a lot of good foods, the good food are usually the unhealthy ones so i need like a weekly plan of what healthy things i could eat. Thanks!
Eating healthy is extremely difficult if you buy lunch from the cafeteria. Try to bring your lunch every day packed with healthy choices.
Here's a cite I've recommended I believe twice. It's really good. Just click on 'my pyramid plan' and answer the questions that follow. The site will set you up with a healthy plan that's perfect for you.
http://www.mypyramid.gov/
Along with this be sure to keep up the exercise and before you know it, you're gym level will increase. Best of luck =]
hey - 14/f. i had long, dark brown hair. it was about boob-length and i wanted to cut it and then grow it out for the summer. wow, that was a mistake. the girl who cuts my hair asked me if i wanted it about on my shoulder, or a little bove it. i told her what she thought would look better and she said over my shoulder. its cut in a perfectly straight line about 1/2-1 inch above my shoulder. and i haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate it like you wouldnt even believe. im afraid that people are going to make fun of me when i go back to school tuesday, spcifically boys. my mom loves it and so do all the adults, but what does that matter when i hate it? my mom wont let me get extensions and i have noo idea what to do. obviously it wont grow by tuesday and it barely fits into a poinytail. any ideas on how to get me through this!? PLEASE HELP
Confidence is key. When you go back to school, don't complain about it or act like you hate it. It's just hair: it will grow back. Until it does just pretend that you like it. Once the shock wears off, you might actually come to find that you really do like it (or at least hate it less lol)
Don't worry about what other people think. You'll be fine! =] Hope all goes well!
Well.. so i like this guy. We are really good friends. But it seems more than that lately.. He sit across from me in 2 of my classes and
this is what he does in those classes...
- always looks at me in the eyes and smiles
- loves making me laugh ( and trys to alot)
- trys to be nice to my bestfriends
- he makes excuses to sit near me.
-he will try to make a conversation up of something we both like ( basketball, gym, ect.)
- if i ask a question to a guy sitting next to him he'll answer it.
- if another guy makes a joke and i laugh he'll make one and then smile at me.
- i pass notes to my friend diagnol of me and right of him.. so ill says pass it to her and he'll read the note.
- i told my friend "i wrote my sn in the note" and i gave it to her and he read it before passing it to her..and read it again after. like he was memorizing it.
- he will always jump into conversations with other guys that im talking to.
- today i had a basketball game after his and he came and watched my game.
Do u think he likes me or does he not? please reply i want to know. thanks in advance. ( ill answer your questions too if u answer mine)
please help me,
arie :)
Either he's being a really really annoyingly close and nosy friend lately or he's sending you signals that he wants a real relationship with you. Most likely it's the second one though or else this guy needs to find more friends lol. If you like him back and he's someone you want to go out with, try talking to him about taking your friendship a step further. Just give it a shot and see what happens!
I am 16/f
5'5 160lbs
I don't necessarily have a "muffin top" put I do have a bit of pudge on my stomach that sits on top of my jeans.
Any tips on getting rid of that?
Try to make up a regular workout schedule of running, crunches, sit-ups and stick to it. Running is important for toning your stomach, while crunches and sit-ups work to burn off the flab. Also, eat healthy. Like you don't have to completely cut out sweets and junk, just have them in moderation. There's this website I've suggested before that's really cool. It allows you to make up your own 'pyramid plan' based on your body type and activity level.
Here's the link:
http://www.mypyramid.gov/
f/15. I'm a Freshman, and he's a Senior. Everyone knows who he is, and everyone is in love with him because he's such an amazing actor. So myself, being the outgoing, spontaneous one in my group of friends, decides to talk to him during lunch one day. As he's walking out of the cafeteria with his tray [Our school has 2,000+ kids, so there's a seperate lunch room for the Seniors], I stand up to go talk to him. I take one step and I trip over the leg of my chair, run into him, and his food NEARLY goes tumbling out of his hands. He has this really shocked look on his face. As he keeps walking, I start talking to him ..... I wasn't really talking, more like rambling about useless topics until he says, "Uh. I gotta go" and leaves. It was absolutely humiliating, and totally brought down my self esteem quite a bit, considering I've never really messed up when it came to meeting new people. With graduation approaching, I totally want to give it a try talking to him again. But I'm extremely scared and nervous about the awkwardness. How do I start and finish a normal conversation with him? Any advice would be appreciated.
I'm so sorry you had this humiliating experience. But...you survived! =]
As embarrassing as it was, you messed up once. Going by what you said, this clearly doesn't happen a lot to you. It's no big deal; everybody makes mistakes. When you try talking to him again, just pretend like this situation never happened. Start clean. If he's a nice, mature guy, he won't laugh and point at you for trying to talk to him again. And if he's not a nice, mature guy, then he's not worth talking to in the first place.
Good luck!
im 16 and i need a job to get money for when i start driving. i dont babysit, so what options do i have? i dont really want to work at the mall, waitress, or at somewhere like dunkin donuts. that elimates more than half the jobs for teens, but any suggestions?
How about a grocery store? There's several different jobs to be done at a grocery store. Bagging groceries, working the cash register, etc.
Also, what about a place like Walmart or something?
Hope this gave you a few suggestions. Good luck with job hunting.
Okay pretty normal story I guess I like this guy we go to school together well we go to the same school. I don't have any classes with him but some of the people he talks to are in some of my classes (so I guess they hang out or something) every once in a while he will like stare at me and when ever I see him in the hallway he will look at me then start talking to the closest person near him I don't know how I should talk to him I am pretty much the shyest person ever I have no clue how to ralk to anybody so what should I do???
I believe I've given this advice before, but it's a pretty good plan if i do say so myself...
Don't think. Just say hi. Don't think about how he'll react to you talking to him. I know that sounds hard to do, but trust me. If you just clear your mind beforehand and treat it as though you are greeting one of your friends, it won't feel so weird. Just a simple wave and hello; chances are he won't think you're strange for saying hi so get those thoughts right out of your head.
He may be more likely to talk to you if he sees you as confident enough to start a conversation =]
Good luck! I really hope this helps you.
friend im really attracted to but has a boyfriend-karen
friend whos gorgeous but theres no spark and going out with-jessie
okayyy.so im 16-f-bisexual.i found out both my bestfrands are to.karen and me hooked up even though she has a boyfriend she really liked,but we were not exactly sober,but ever time we arent we do and when she was sober she said shed do it even when she is sober
jessie=we hooked up the other night and we started going out that night,note we werent sober then either.i figured shed forget but i guess i was wrong.i dont wanna hurt her,but i also dont wanna keep this going.shes way gorgeous and everything but i just dont think theres anything there.i mean we make great bestfriends and maybe someday ill feel different but for now i dont wanna affect our great bestfriendship(espscially if it goes on too long and something bad ends up happening or big breakup or something.basically i just dont think of her in a sexual manner.i really am gonna have a hard time telling her or anything but i know ill have to eventually.but her and karen dont really talk cause she always been really jealous that i hang out with karen more.me and karen and also bestfriends,we havent been as long,about a year,but karen knew i was bi a lot longer,just one of those people i could really open up to.if we ever did go out im pretty sure it would hurt or offent jessie..i just dont know what to do.
My advice to you would be try not to lose either of these people as your friends. Friendship is way more important than dating. But I really wouldn't lead Jessie on anymore. If you don't love her in that way, it isn't fair to her. However, if you break it off with her, I wouldn't advice going out with Karen if it would hurt your friendship with Jessie. I'd just keep these girls as your friends for now, and keep your eyes open for that special person to walk into your life.
Hope this helps...best of luck!
My sister is 3 years older than i am and is always saying myspace sucks and i should get a facebook. She says schools look at myspace and you could get suspended if you have pics of doing stuff at the school? Is this true? and is facebook REALLY so much better than myspace? Any opinion is appreciated!
Myspace and Facebook are pretty much the same thing. Myspace was designed for teenagers and adults whereas Facebook was originally geared more towards college kids. But, now they are pretty similar.
If you have inappropriate pictures on your Myspace/Facebook, colleges or future bosses will probably see them because sometimes they do check out your pages. So, just be careful about what you post and it's really up to you which website you choose.
i just want to learn about christianity. im not currently affiliated with any religion. is there any way i can read the abridged, summarized version of the bible somewhere online?
Here's a few sites that allow you to read the bible:
http://www.godsword.org/cgi-bin/gwstore.cgi?cart_id=5452270_22185&page=books.htm
http://www.nccbuscc.org/nab/bible/index.htm
I don't know if that helps, but there you can read the bible (or at least skim through the books [chapters] you want)
I am happy with my body except this little pouch of fat or skin at my belly button and right above my hips my belly flattens. this is very hard to explain but some say that i have "a baby making stomach" since i already have some fat or extra skin there. I have a flat belly besides this annoying pouch. i do about 400 slow crunches a day but it is still there! I am also a very healthy eater and i exercise a lot. maybe i am just not doing the right exercises? Please tell me what i could do to get it to go away.
Everybody has a stomach pouch, but if you want to make it smaller running is always your best bet. Running tones your tummy, which is what you need. It's not like you need to lose weight, just tone up and build muscle in that area. I guarantee that if you go for a regular run at least 4 times a week, that stomach pouch will definitely shrink. But remember, don't get disappointed if it's not 100% gone. Tummy pouches are totally normal, just some people's are more noticeable than others.
Good luck toning!
ok so i reallllyy like this guy but hes kinda shy unless your his good friend so i do i get him to notice me and start talkin to me ?
Start by saying hi. I know that sounds cliche but trust me on this. Don't even think about whether or not he'll think you're weird by randomly talking to him because chances are he won't. If you start with a simple hello, he'll probably say hello back. And then you can see what happens from there. All it takes is working up the courage to start a conversation. Communication is the first step.
Good luck! I hope this works out for you =]
16/f . i have these 2 best friends, love em to deathhh but lately, idunno. they make me in a bad mood or something.
i dont have lots of friends i hang out with besides them. tonite was like the first friday we could all hang out right after school since my one friend was done with track (usually she wouldnt get home till like 5-6) but we didnt even hang out right after school. so i went home, was bored until like 430. oh and the one who didnt have track, was going to her grandparents house at 7, well that is what she said. so like 430 they randomly arrive at my house, we go & eat food, talked, it was nice. we were done by 530ish and decide what we're doing after. but then track friend talks to her mom & they are leaving then. 530ish. sooo, other friend decides to leave too cuz she apparantely had "stuff to do". i guess maybe i took this the wrong way, but i started saying stuff like why cant you hang out w. just me?? do you think im boring. i was flipping out asking her what she has to do . and saying how all i was gonna do was go home be bored and waste my time on the computer. which is obviously exactly what i did.. ugh. so wtf knows what she did tonite. when i got back home and felt like shit. i told my mom what happened and was on the verge of crying when i was done. i just feel blahhhh. now i dont even feel like doing aNYTHINg. and now we hae the rest of the week off but im going skiing sat. to tues so i wont even see them
and like it was the first time she didnt have track on a fri since like november or somethingg.
I just dont understand them. at allllll.
this always happens
and we keep getting in little fights
and they just make me in a bad mood
theres also like a lot of competition btwn us..like idunno but thats a whole other thing..
ive been best friends with them for ever litterally so i cant just like, stop being friends with them. i love them idk i just am sick of this,. i rly dont knowww. srry for all the lazy spelling errors and stuff usually im more precise and all but im just not in the mood. guess this is even affecting my typinggg. wow. ok sorry it was long too, but please, something? thanks
I know how much this must be hurting you...I've been there before.
But maybe you shouldn't overreact so much. Sometimes, when I'm tired of hanging around my friends or something, I'll say I have stuff to do to spare their feelings. It's nothing against them, I love all my friends unconditionally, but sometimes people need a break from each other you know? It's nothing to worry about and definitely not worth losing a great friendship.
I would also suggest trying to build relationships with people other than these too because like I said, sometimes you get tired of hanging around the same friends. You should build a bigger social circle, but don't lose these two. "Make new friends, but keep the old..."