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I want to talk to the popular guy.
f/15. I'm a Freshman, and he's a Senior. Everyone knows who he is, and everyone is in love with him because he's such an amazing actor. So myself, being the outgoing, spontaneous one in my group of friends, decides to talk to him during lunch one day. As he's walking out of the cafeteria with his tray [Our school has 2,000+ kids, so there's a seperate lunch room for the Seniors], I stand up to go talk to him. I take one step and I trip over the leg of my chair, run into him, and his food NEARLY goes tumbling out of his hands. He has this really shocked look on his face. As he keeps walking, I start talking to him ..... I wasn't really talking, more like rambling about useless topics until he says, "Uh. I gotta go" and leaves. It was absolutely humiliating, and totally brought down my self esteem quite a bit, considering I've never really messed up when it came to meeting new people. With graduation approaching, I totally want to give it a try talking to him again. But I'm extremely scared and nervous about the awkwardness. How do I start and finish a normal conversation with him? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Do yourself a HUGE service and forget the fact that he's a brilliant actor and Mr. Popular. Treat him like a regular guy who has a lot of the same flaws and interests you do. Pretend he is like one of your own friends or family members.
Just talk to him like you would to any of them normally. It need not be anymore complicated than that. Introduce yourself to him and see what transpires. Try inviting him to a party or social gathering where you will be attending. Ask to be friends.
If he turns his nose up at you or brushes you off it's not your fault. It just means he's not interested and or being a jerk. There's no reason to be scared as he's just another person and a harmless one at that.
When talking to him mention you like his work and why and then quickly move on to his interests such as movies, sports, goals, hobbies etc. and sure enough before you even realize it you're in a normal conversation or have just ended one.
You have to get over the mystery, aura and popularity about this guy. Once you do that you'll be able to approach him. Also, think in your head that what you've got to tell him is important and that he needs to hear it. Then just talk as the confidence you need will be there.
If it helps think of him as an average person who belches, scratches, swears, uses the bathroom like everyone else. Just bring him down to size in your mind as a normal guy you can approach who is just like you. He's not a celebrity so don't make your mind all caught up in his image.
He's probably looking for a girl who won't suck up to him or like him only for his status. Maybe, if you're fortunate that person could be you. Just go for broke and see what transpires.
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I'm so sorry you had this humiliating experience. But...you survived! =]
As embarrassing as it was, you messed up once. Going by what you said, this clearly doesn't happen a lot to you. It's no big deal; everybody makes mistakes. When you try talking to him again, just pretend like this situation never happened. Start clean. If he's a nice, mature guy, he won't laugh and point at you for trying to talk to him again. And if he's not a nice, mature guy, then he's not worth talking to in the first place.
Good luck!
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