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i really don't knoww.
16/f . i have these 2 best friends, love em to deathhh but lately, idunno. they make me in a bad mood or something.
i dont have lots of friends i hang out with besides them. tonite was like the first friday we could all hang out right after school since my one friend was done with track (usually she wouldnt get home till like 5-6) but we didnt even hang out right after school. so i went home, was bored until like 430. oh and the one who didnt have track, was going to her grandparents house at 7, well that is what she said. so like 430 they randomly arrive at my house, we go & eat food, talked, it was nice. we were done by 530ish and decide what we're doing after. but then track friend talks to her mom & they are leaving then. 530ish. sooo, other friend decides to leave too cuz she apparantely had "stuff to do". i guess maybe i took this the wrong way, but i started saying stuff like why cant you hang out w. just me?? do you think im boring. i was flipping out asking her what she has to do . and saying how all i was gonna do was go home be bored and waste my time on the computer. which is obviously exactly what i did.. ugh. so wtf knows what she did tonite. when i got back home and felt like shit. i told my mom what happened and was on the verge of crying when i was done. i just feel blahhhh. now i dont even feel like doing aNYTHINg. and now we hae the rest of the week off but im going skiing sat. to tues so i wont even see them
and like it was the first time she didnt have track on a fri since like november or somethingg.
I just dont understand them. at allllll.
this always happens
and we keep getting in little fights
and they just make me in a bad mood
theres also like a lot of competition btwn us..like idunno but thats a whole other thing..
ive been best friends with them for ever litterally so i cant just like, stop being friends with them. i love them idk i just am sick of this,. i rly dont knowww. srry for all the lazy spelling errors and stuff usually im more precise and all but im just not in the mood. guess this is even affecting my typinggg. wow. ok sorry it was long too, but please, something? thanks
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alright...i went through this exact same things with my two best friends... it was like if one left the other had to leave and i was son confused as to why they couldnt just hang out with me? yano... then even worse, those two started to get more and more close and started excluding me and i blamed myself because i thought maybe i was too boring or whatever and that was why theyd never want to hang out...we'd make plans and then theyd cancel and go hang out with eachother...
i spent alot of nights crying because i felt like such a loser sitting on my computer and doing NOTHING... i tried talking to them about it...didnt work, tried talking to them individually about it, didnt work either... i was miserable
so maybe talk to them about it and see how that works out for you? let them know how youre feeling and stuff! you dont deserve to be feeling this way... things will get better im sure...me and those two girls are still best friends today and that whole situation happened like 4 years ago :)
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Basically, I think this is all simply because you're 16. I'm at the same age, and trust me, I know how annoying the rest of the universe can get. I think EVERYTHING would get better if you got yourself a boyfriend. Then you wouldn't have to depend on friends, and sometimes you'd even forget about them. I understand that you get frustated when you're home bored instead of out with your own kind, but find something you like, and do it. On your own, if possible. Hope I helped.
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I know how much this must be hurting you...I've been there before.
But maybe you shouldn't overreact so much. Sometimes, when I'm tired of hanging around my friends or something, I'll say I have stuff to do to spare their feelings. It's nothing against them, I love all my friends unconditionally, but sometimes people need a break from each other you know? It's nothing to worry about and definitely not worth losing a great friendship.
I would also suggest trying to build relationships with people other than these too because like I said, sometimes you get tired of hanging around the same friends. You should build a bigger social circle, but don't lose these two. "Make new friends, but keep the old..."
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