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how do I talk to him???
Okay pretty normal story I guess I like this guy we go to school together well we go to the same school. I don't have any classes with him but some of the people he talks to are in some of my classes (so I guess they hang out or something) every once in a while he will like stare at me and when ever I see him in the hallway he will look at me then start talking to the closest person near him I don't know how I should talk to him I am pretty much the shyest person ever I have no clue how to ralk to anybody so what should I do???
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Your problem isn't uncommon, its actually the most common. so what you want to do, is start out small and slowly build up. Begin with notes and stuff to lockers or via friend. Usually that will get communication going. If all goes well, two things will happen. Number/email exchange or meeting place to talk. If number/email exchange happens, it'll most likely be the same as note sending, just much faster. Now when you reach a place to meet and talk, that's when you'll most likely want to back out. Cause talking via text/note/email is easy, talking face to face is hard.
So when you meet the guy and he says "Hi" in some form or matter, don't faint on him. I've got to admit, being nervous is normal and a good thing. It usually doesn't allow you to hide anything that you feel you should hide. It shows your you. And when you talk, don't prepare what you want to say, cause the topic can change in seconds and you'll spend too much time on what to say instead of saying it. So just go with what's on your mind at that moment. If you feel uncomfortable about saying anything, say your uncomfortable or don't want to talk about it. Be yourself and express yourself your way.
And shyness takes gradual increase in expanding your comfort zone or even leaving it for a time. Take it all slow and small and work your way up. b(^_o)
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I believe I've given this advice before, but it's a pretty good plan if i do say so myself...
Don't think. Just say hi. Don't think about how he'll react to you talking to him. I know that sounds hard to do, but trust me. If you just clear your mind beforehand and treat it as though you are greeting one of your friends, it won't feel so weird. Just a simple wave and hello; chances are he won't think you're strange for saying hi so get those thoughts right out of your head.
He may be more likely to talk to you if he sees you as confident enough to start a conversation =]
Good luck! I really hope this helps you.
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