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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

my friends boyfriend just broke up with her and i want to make a playlist to help her feel better and more empowered. any suggestions??

:] i have the best songs for you.. okay heres a few:

- christina aguilera: fighter
- destiny's child: survivor
- kelly clarkson: since youve been gone
- kelly clarkson: never again
- shakira: dont bother
- jojo: get out [leave]
- jennifer lopez: aint it funny
- katharine mcphee: over it
- beyonce: irreplaceable
- fefe dobson: bye bye boyfriend
- carrie underwood: before he cheats
- kellie pickler: best days of your life
- the all american rejects: gives you hell
- justin timberlake: what goes around, comes around
- justin timberlake: cry me a river
- ashley tisdale: its alright, its okay
- avril lavigne: i can do better
- taylor swift: picture to burn
- pink: you + your hand
- madonna: hung up
- jesse james: i look so good without you
- cher: strong enough
- kate nash: merry happy
- one republic: apologize
- lily allen: fuck you [very much]

hope i helped, i have sooo many more, and if you want them, just inbox me :] good luck ! and youre friend will feel better in no timee, shes lucky to have a friend lke you, xxo.

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I liked bands such as Red Hot Chili Peppers, The Starting Line, The Doors, and The Killers. What are some other similar bands with similar music, preferrably ones that not everyone knows about?

bands like the starting line:
- valencia
- hit the lights
- the early november
- new found glory
- cartel
- the dangerous summer
- spital field
- brighten
- hidden in plain view
- something corporate
- houston calls
- this providence

bands like The Doors:
- Jefferson Airplane
- Jim Morrison
- Cream
- Iron Butterfly
- Deep purple
- The Velvet Underground
- The Yardbirds
- Syd Barrett

bands like The Killers:
- Franz Ferdinand
- Arctic Monkeys
- White Lies
- Snow Patrol
- The Kooks
- Muse
- The Bravery
- Interpol
- Kaiser Cheifs
- The Fratellis

bands like the red hot chili peppers:
- John Frusciante
- Ataxia
- Rage against the machine
- Audio Slave
- Janes addiction

hope i helped ! i have plenty more, so if you want anything else, feel free to inbox me ! have fun, rock onnn. xxo. :]

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I'm 17, getting somewhat close to 18, and i know ill be sexually active by the end of this year. For those who are my age or close - do your parents expect you to not do anything? I know if you're like 15, and your parents find out you're sexually active..and they have the right to ground you or tell you not to see him, etc. Do you think once we turn 18, it's more of our decision/freedom that are parents just ACCEPT? Or are there parents out there who try to control that and dont approve their 18 year old doing that (even though they are considered an adult)? Any opinions on this topic would be appreciated. Im just getting an idea of how parents react to this once you turn 18.

Im also 17, i'll be 18 in october and whenever i mention something about sex to my mom, she immediatley assumes that im doing it [which i havent. ever] and then pretty much goes into, "you are too young and i dissaprove" mode or becomes suspicious. but if i WAS having sex and my mom DID find out, she would make sure I was practicing safe sex, but then she would ground me and forbid me from seeing my boyfriend.
my dad would just go off on a a rampage and I would be able to have NO trust or go anywhere and I'd get the "as long as you live under my roof" speech.
so yes, there ARE parents out there who tr to control their children when they are 18, but I always put myself in their shoes and think that if i were them, i would also want to keep my daughter/son from doing something with really bad consequences, yuh know ? they have raised you since you were BORN and its only human nature to want to protect and control/guide your child to do the right thing or what they think is the right thing. even though i want my freedom, i was raised this way, and when people are off havig sex and their parents knowing and not caring one bit, it seem kind of wierd to me..
well, good luck ! hope i helped :] xxo.

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Is it safe to have sex in a hot tub? I heard that the water can get up in you and cause infections or something. Also, is there a greater chance the condom will slip?

bottom line: dont have sex in a hot tub.
it is usually REALLY painful for the girl because the water pretty much gets rid of the natural lubricant your body lets out when you start to get "hot and heavy" which can lead to painful tearing in the girl when having intercourse, and if this happens, the harsh chemicals would enter your vagina and infect the tear; thats EXTREMELY dangerous.
even if you dont get a tear, the risk of getting an infection is exponetionally high because of the fact that there are harsh chemicals and cholorine that will be pushed up into the girl's body. really not good.
and yes, there is a greater chance the condom will slip or break. the water pressure and "suctioning" like "power" caused by the water will really end up not being good.
but if you do decide to go through with it and have sex in a hot tub, be SAFE. get on birth control and use condoms. its better to be safe than sorry, yuh know ? good luck, hope i helped, xxo.

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Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Has anyone ever felt this way? How should i get over these feelings?

looks arent everything. trust me.
if he wasnt attracted to you, he would NOT be with you. and thats a fact. take it from me, im 17 also with a boyfriend; i have this skin problem on my arms and legs that are basically little red bumps and they can get dry and have white spots and stuff, but to the say the least, it makes me very self concious, and alot of people always mention it to me and are like, "uhm what IS that." and im really pale, so hahaa, it stands out even more :/ and i always where long sleeve shirts, even in the summer sometimes, because i want to hide it from my boyfriend the most, because i dont want him to be like ewwwww and then think that im not good enough for him with my imperfections.. like i never wanted to him to think that i wasnt really pretty or flawless enough..
but EVERYONE has flaws, and if you spend your life worrying about them, its going to affect the way people see you. your attitude is what stands out the most, if you hold yourself with confidence, people notice THAT more than they notice if you think you look a little curvy.
i feel this way every day of my life. and im going to have to live with it for the rest of my life, and theres nothing i can do about it. youre beautiful in all of your imperfections :] trust me, a "perfect" girl ISNT real, and your boyfriend thinks your beautiful, i promise. curves are better than being stick thin because theres no curves and it looks unhealthy. magazines and sex appeal ads with these really skinny girls are just what society wants us to think is ideal, but its not and alot of guys arent into that, youd be surprised.
so just be CONFIDENT. seriously, confidence is a HUGE turn on for guys, if you hide behind your insecurities, youre just hurting yourself.. so dont :] and talk to your boyfriend, tell him ow you feel. that always works with me. and once he realizes how you feel, he'll reassure you. because it doesnt occur to him that you feel this way because to him, youre the most beautiful girl in the world. communication is key. he probably has some insecurities about himself that he'll want to share with you too.
i hope i helped, and just be CONFIDENTTTT :] itll take some work, but youll get there. i promise, good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex?

I'm 17 too, i have a boyfriend who ive been with for close to a year now, ive known him since i was very little, and we arent planning on having sex anytime soon. we both know that we are waay too young and that ANYTHING can go wrong, even if you are on a birth control pill or using condoms.
in my oppinion, 17 is too young. we all think we're soo mature and can handle it, but really, we ALL have a lot of growing up to do.
even though youve been with him for a while and you are completely prepared, it doesnt mean youre mentally prepared.. physically, probably, but otherwise.. just talk to your boyfriend, see how he feels and consider everything. like the advice columnist said below me; sex is like a few minutes tops, why not just wait and do something else during those minutes ? :]
good luck ! but do what you want and what you feel is right, hope i helped and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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So , I had this best friend for four years. All of a sudden she stopped talking to me. She does this sometimes but never this long. It's been since about January or February since we've talked. I don't understand why she doesn't talk to me. Maybe because I found other best friends. I don't know. What should I do ?

a lot of girls get jealous, especially when they have a best friend who they think has the potential to have "other friends"
its sort of like a possesive thing, she always wants you to NEED her friendship and then they get kind of jealous. this has happened to me before, and she actually still doesnt talk to me, but i did find out why she does what she does.
what you should do is let her come to you. if you go to her, she'll try to bluntly or sneakily make you ditch your new best friends. and what she is doing [not talking to you] is NOT being a "best friend" its being an immature little girl who cant stand that YOU have actual REAL friends. its not right that she is doing this to you, and you just have to let it go. people change, just like the seasons change. and your new best friends havent ditched you, so talk to them about this and what is happening with your "best friend" that hasnt talked to you since january. if she really was your best friend, she wouldnt have stopped talking to you.
you should just let it go for now. if you talk to her, drama might start, and i know that drama is NOT fun at all. just have a good time with your new friends and let things be :] since shes done this before for no reason, then it will keep on happening no matter what you do. talking wont help, and she cant be reasoned with at this point. its been a very long time since youve both talked and if she wanted to talk to you or be your friend, then she would.
you have people who love you and care about you and will ALWAYS be there for you. so unless she talks to you, ignore it. things will work out on their own, i promise :]
good luck ! have fun with your life and just be you. you didnt do ANYTHING wrong, so dont worry. none of this is your fault. hope i helped, if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] xxo.

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I have a chubbier face than anything else, it's easy for me to lose stomach weight but my face never thins out. I know this is kinda ridiculous but is there anything I can do to lose that chubbiness is my cheeks? Thanks!

first off, be comfortable in your body :] its who you are and who you are makes you unique !
but anyways, here are some tricks to get you to lose weight in your face and overall [kill 2 birds with one stone ;)]

- drink PLENTY of water. the puffiness in your face/cheeks can be caused by bloating [which is how your body reacts when it isnt getting enough fluids] water can also make you less hungry because often times we think we're hungry when were actually thirsty ! and it helps with a clear complexion. [H20 rocks ;)]

- for a couple months/weeks try these 2 exercises that some people say have helped reduce the "fat" in their cheeks [its worth a shot, right ?!]
1. relax and smile :] while keeping your lips tightly closed. as your doing this, suck in your cheeks and hold it in for about 8-10 seconds. then repeat for about 10 times.
2. with your lips sealed tightly, smile as wide as you can and hold it there for 10 seconds, then repeat 12 times.

- dont eat many salty foods because this makes your cheeks bloat from water retention [hence why you should drink lots of water !]

- cut down on the sweets intake, if you have too much of sugar it is closely related to your blood vessels swelling [leading to a chubbier cheek] whole grains and fruit are the way to go ;]

hope i helped ! good luck and HAVE FUN :] you can do it, but dont have any high expectations and think that the chubbiness will go down in a couple days, these things take time. so dont worry if you dont see the results you want after a couple of days. it all comes in time, xxo.

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is it weird that i have masturbated? i havent started my period at all yet and i was wondering if it had anything to do with masturbating!??!?!??! HELP PLZZZ!!!!!! Can masturbation keep you from starting? ASAP help!!

13 3/4/f

noo, its not weird that you have masturbated hahaa, a lot of girls do it, they just wont admit it. youre normal and completely fine :] and alot of girls experiment with masturbating even BEFORE getting their period, like you. hormones have a lot to do with this .. so youll be feeling all different kinds of emotions right now. urges to masturbate and all of that.
and no, dont worry. masturbating doesnt effect your period AT ALL what-so-ever. it can relieve back aches and cramping though :] you'll start whenever your body decides to whether or not you masturbate. so dont worry about it, youre normal and good to go.
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck, xxo.

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I am 13 years old and im not sure when im going to start my period...i really wld like some help with this!!! also i have been getting some cramps but im not sure if they are period cramps. i have also had discharge, im not sure if it is considered heavy or not but its NOT light! (: and i would like to know some symptoms there are and as many as possible!!!! sorry this is long but i really need your help ASAP!!!!!!!!! thanks to everyone and...help soooooonnn!!

P.S. also, can you give your comments on if you think i sound like im about 2 start or something and...yeah...THANKS!!!! (:

all girls can get their period at different ages, some younger than others. so dont worry, youre fine :] dont worry.
and about your discharge, usually the week before you get your period or right before you get your period, your discharge comes out heavier because it is cleaning and getting ready to release an egg or get you pregnant [if you were sexually active, but its good that youre not :)]
some symptoms that hint to when youre getting it are:
- lower back-aches
- frequent headaches
- bloating
- fever
- cramps
- spotting [like little spots of blood or dried blood.]
- a good amount of discharge
- sore boobs [chest]
- swollen boobs [chest]

symptoms when having your period:
- cramps
- bloating
- fever
- back-aches
- your breasts become less tender
- your breasts become less swollen
- blood
- you may feel weak from time to time because of the blood loss [but this usually only happens if you lose alot of blood and its your first time getting your period]

both are similar, but thats how you know ! :] good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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are you kidding me hun ?! i was just as curious about this when i first started my period .. actually, even BEFORE i started. its good to be educated :] and everyone, including all fo your friends, are curious about these things, but arent open about it or like to talk about it. but trust me, they are all wondering the same things you are. so dont hesitate to ask me ANYTHING if you ever need some info :] i know how yuh feel girly

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All right , there's this boy who likes me or used to like me. When I found out that he liked me , I told people I didn't like him. We don't talk to each other AT ALL. All of a sudden I start liking him. & He gets a girlfriend. He still stares at me like he still likes me. What do I do ?

maybe you liked that he liked you .. and it gave you attention and a good feeling.
that happens to EVERYONE once in their life, at some point. it has even happened to me.
maybe it annoyed you that he told everyone he liked you, and then you found out, rejected him, so he immediatley got another girl.. maybe the fact that he got a girlfriend so quickly annoyed you. or maybe you really do like him.
but youre going to have to let this play out. i really think that this boy got a girlfriend to piss you off and to make him jealous. if you show him that its getting to you because hes pretty much being like, "ha ha, you could have had meee" yuh know ? so dont let him see that it bothers you. make him jealous right back and talk to other guys. let things play out right now. if you tell him how you feel, you'll scare him off and get a bad reputation as a homewrecker.
give it a couple weeks, and see how things go, then decide if you should tell him how you feel or not when it gets to that point.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach mee. xxo. :]

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what flat iron do you reccomend?

the BaByliss brand. i have used BaByliss for as long as i can remember and it works beautifully. dont waste your money on a CHI, im tellig you, they dont last long and are waaaay over priced. Babyliss lasts long and doesnt ruin your hair :] i love it.
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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why is important for us to accept and feel the emotion we are feeling? why is bad to be in denial or try to fight it? is it true that if we keep bottling up emotions or feelings we won't really notice the things around us?

yes, that is true.
think of it this way, your focusing all of your energy [even if you dont realize it] on not letting your emotions get the best of you.. and while you are constantly making sure that youre fighting the emotion you dont want to come out, then yo start to not notice the little things around you. your brain is just like, "dont be mad. dont be sad. dont cry." or whatever youre feeling over and over again. and when you bury your emptions so deep inside of you, its eventually going to build up and you are going to explode on someone or at some point.
you cant keep empotions inside of you forever. and thats why it is bad. it is VERY healthy to talk about your feelings and let out your emotions. when you dont, everything goes out of a whack and you tend to get wrapped up in the moment very quickly. all emotions are heightened for you because youre not expressing them.
if you feel and accept the emotion you are feeling, then you know what it feels like and you know how to make yourself feel better and youll get it out so its not inside you.
its like, this.. a girl finds out that her parents are in critical condition in the hospital because of a cra crash. she tells herself not to get upset or cry or succumb to her sadnessm, so she becomes numb to her emotions and the ones around her. like her other sibling crying their heart out. it just becomes "survival" but you cant survive without emotions.
good luck, and i hope i helped and i hope that all made sense. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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What books made you cry? Anywhere from one tear to full out sobbing.
Please, nothing that has been made into a movie within the last 5years. (i.e The Lovely Bones, My sister's Keeper).
Please, have it writen in first person and have the main charecter be a girl.

I know this is a lot to ask and very specific, but please help me out. Thanks!

ANYTHING, and i mean ANYTHING from the author Sarah Dessen. I have bawled my eyes out because of her books DAILY. and i can re-read them soooo many times. she is my favorite author.

- Dear Zoe: Phillip Beard
- White Oleander: Janet Fitch [a movie, but not recently in 5 years]
- Me and Emma: Elizabeth Flock
- The Rest of Her Life: Laura Moriarty
- Daughter's Keeper: Ayelet Waldman
- Amy and Isabelle: Elizabeth Strout
- Talk before Sleep: Elizabeth Berg

with that said, just know that there are always different books that make different people cry. what makes you cry, may not make the next person cry. but i hope i gave you some good ones. and im telling you, you can NEVER go wrong with sarah dessen. i own all of her books.. every single one. i adore hers.
good luck ! hope i helped, have fun, and read on :] xxo.

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My friend called to tell me that Ricky Martin has come out of the closet and has announced being gay but I just can't believe it. I'm a HUGE Ricky Martin fan, and have been since Livin' La Vida Loca came out, but this is a shocker. If he is REALLY gay then how did he have two boys? I know his twins are just a couple of years old or something...wow! Is he REALLY homosexual?

yes, ricky martin is gay. he is a homosexual.
i personally dont think its that big of a deal, just like when that guy from backstreet boys came "out of the closet" people were blown away. but anyways..
he had a surrogate mother carry his twins. just because he is gay, does not mean that he cant have kids. his surrogate mother is not apart of their lives but they are HIS boys. ricky's semen was put into the surrogate mother, which created a baby. and thats how these things happen :]
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.

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yeah youre rightt.
last night before i went to sleep i texted and said "two of my friends have died in the past week and it fucking sucks so i dont wanna end up on bad terms with you incase something were to happen soo i wanted to say that i love you forever and i care about you alottt and good luck with your new girlfriend (:"
i never got a text back. i was trying to be the bigger and better person and maybe see if we can like start over and just be friends. but i guess hes gonna me immature and not say anything. id rather be friends with him then nothing at all but i guess hes gonna be selfish so i dont need someone in my life whos gonna put me through this.
i know i can do better, but its a matter of me wanting better and actually finding it.
im talking to two guys right now, and it sucks because of me still wanting my ex, is holding me bad from being with one of these guys.
but thankyou for my advice and i need to get this guy outta mylife.

you ARE being the bigger person and i give you soooo much credit for doing what you did. im a strong believer in karma, and shes a beyotch .. so he'll be getting a taste of her medicine soon enough. :] what comes around, goes around.
and dont worry, youre going to WANT more for yourself when you start to REALLY get over him. right now youre just at the beginning, over time, itll get better and youll feel free of him soon enough.
youre very welcome hun, anytime im hear for you in any situation :] youll get him out of your life .. one step at a time. youre doing good, keep it up ! good luck, i know you can do it. xxo.

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F/16. I absolutely love how scene hairstyles/"emo" haircuts look on girls. My hair is wavy and a little past my shoulders I wanted to know if anyone has any pictures of an emo haircut for my type of hair. I love dramatic hair. I'm getting my haircut tomorrow and I'm not sure what to tell her. I don't want short hair. I've tried getting it done before but the lady had no clue what I was talking about and ended up giving me a really weird haircut.

i found some pictures and some tips you can tell her for each one..

http://www.scene-hairstyles.com/images/152062623.jpg
.. make sure you tell her that you want high layers. like short layers on top and then long underneath. and the you want side bangs that go all the way across your forehead from the left side down to the right.. which means they will have to be long. then tell her that you want a small trim. like 1/2 and inch or inch.

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2189/2366275783_fd697ce65b_o.jpg
... tell her to seperate your hair into long layers on the bottom and short layers on top. make sure she knows that you dont want to thin ANY of the short layers on top but you want the bottom layers thinned out as much as possible. then tell her you want full bangs that frame your face. then tell her you want a small trim.

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_p39Trjz5E-o/Shv56HBQeII/AAAAAAAAA-M/kkmy2kFz4_Q/s400/red+Scene+Hairstyles.jpg
... tell her that in the back, you want it to be choppy like a boys haircut and then to part both sides of your hair so you can have big pieces of your hair layered in the front. then ask her to take a chunck of the right side part she is leaving out and turn it into side bangs that go from the right side all the way down to the left side [where there is another chunk of hair that wasnt chopped up] and then tell her you want a small trim.

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_KZ5qdgu3avM/SeQhT6HHwuI/AAAAAAAABGY/o6wOCH6qyTw/s400/Colorful+choppy+scene+hair.jpg
... this is basically the same information as the first one i gave you, but to make the bangs go across your forehead from the left to right and in this picture, she just used a lot of hairspray and gel to get the layers sticking out on top. but this is a good picture to use if you want to describe how you want the top layers to look.

.. i know that none of these are wavy, but they will all lok good wavy and you can also get a straightener or some styling gel and hairspray [like all of these girls use] to make it look even more scene.
hope i helped, just show your hair cutter these pictures and youll be good to go :] oh and ever think about extnsions ? maybe one day youd like to try those. good luck ! have fun, and i hope i helped. :] xxo.

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but if you say he doesnt miss me in wanting a relationship again then why did he say we would get back together if i come see him and all that?
and why would he say all that he said to me the other day?
he makes me think wayyyyyyy too much and it makes me crazy. hes so confusing.

in all honesty, i think he is keeping you hanging on "just in case"
a lot of guys do that.
but on the other hand, maybe he is just trying to see how much you want to be with him .. maybe hes testing you. but even if this turns out to be the case, hes only doing it to boost his e-go.
hes just playing a mind game with you. and hes very good at it. you need to not think that he ALWAYS means well, if he did, he wouldnt have done all of this stuff to you .. i mean think about itt. [and i know, youve been thinking alot, and im playing the devil's advocate here hahaa, but just think some more] do you really think that going down to see him for not very long is going to make him want to be with you forever and ever. like, i understand you want to see him, but he shouldnt want to only be with you if you come and see him .. he should want to be in a relationship with you ALL of the time if he misses you that badly and means what he says. why is coming down for a little going to change everything ? whats gonna happen once you leave .. ? its unredictable and not logical.
im just trying to open your eyes here. i really dont want you to get more hurt than you already are hun :/ hope i helped, im always here, xxo.

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thankyou for all that.
but what do i do now? i love the guy to death and clearly he doesnt love me as much ( or even at all probably ) becuase when we were talking the other day he told me he missed me but yet everytime i would text him after we broke up to tell him something or just ask him to talk to me i would get no answer. so if he did miss me and love me still and want me then he wouldnt of done that.
do you agree?
idk what to do. ive hooked up with other guys and talked to many. but somehow i always end of thinking about this guy. its sucks! becuase i know hes doing just fine without me.
what do i doooooo! its making me go crazy.

i think that the thing that is making you go crazy is the fact that he is doing fine without you. every girl and guy wants their ex to be sitting at home crying their eyes out, realizing that they lost you and what a mistake it was and eating ice cream out of the carton while venting to all of their friends about how dumb they were for losing their ex.
... and thats not what hes doing and its killing you. but hun, if he has moved on, you need to also. just because he tells you he misses you, it may not be the way you think or WANT him to miss you. when people say they miss you, it could mean so many things. it could mean..
- he misses the person he thought you were.
- he misses the past but doesnt necessarily miss you in the present.
- he misses the relationship you guys had but is glad hes moving on.
- he misses you in general.
- he misses you but not enough to come back to you.
- he misses your friendship, but doesnt want to get your hopes up or give you the wrong idea.
.. and the list could go on. but whatever it is, at this point in time it is not that he misses you and wants to be in a relationship with you. im sure he misses you, but i dont think he wants to be with you they way you want to be with him. and i know that sucks so badly, but you have to put things in perspective and take a dose of reality ... even if its the cold, harsh, reality. and so i do agree with you to a point. i think he cares about you, but i dont think its the way or to the extent that he did before.
keep talking to other guys and possibly dating them or hooking up with them, whatever you feel is best at the moment, but you have to remember that yes, you will think about him for a while to come. thoughts of him and the feelings for him arent just going to dissapear, but thats why it helps to get to know other people. over time, I SWEAR to you, you will move on from him. for now, i think its best that you dont contact him unless he contacts you first. if youre going to move on and let him go, then you cant do it half-heartedly. youre going to think about it, ut thats only because you want him to talk to you and it drives you crazy. there are sooo many fish in the sea, you just have to go out there and swim.. hang out with your friends, keep having fun and soon enough, youll be free of any thoughts of him. you need to take your mind off of him so fill it up with other things and other boys.
good luck, hope i helped, you just need a lot of time, be patient :] all good things come with time. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me again, xxo.

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i love allll your advice and i tell myself all the time to do what you say to do. and i agree with it, but somehow i always end up talking to him.
this morning before school i texted him and was like thanks for answering my call last night..
and he texted me back saying at friends house.
im like haha okk.
and hes like why are you freaking out
and im like whast are you talking about?
he never texted back so im like but yeah igotta go to schoool. id tell you to text me later but you never do when you say you will so yeah bye.
and i never got anything back.
and honestly. i never called him haha. i just wanted to see what he would say.

but why would he ask me why im freaking out? cleary i wasnt.
sooo whats up with him? and what do you think he is thinking

wow, hahaa. what you did and said sounds EXACTLY what i do and saay. weird :] love it. and thank youu :]
but now, on to your questions..
he asked you why you were freakig out so he could use that against you. since he thought you were on the verge of starting a fight, and pointing out his flaws or what he always does wrong, he needed ammo to shoot right back at you. so thats whay he was just like, "why are you freaking out?" to make it seem like you were getting annoyed with him for no reason. its basically just a retaliation tactic. he was trying to make a point and without saying, "i didnt do anything." he said, "why are you freaking out." .. i hope that made sense :] hahaa.
and yes, you werent freaking out, which is good :] because now he just looks stupid for saying that to you. and hes probably just tired of you picking on him [but you have every right to because he seriously needs a wake up call] and he didnt answer you because he doesnt know what to say. you caught him and he probably knows that saying sorry isnt going to be enough to make you just forget that he doesnt talk to you or call you, so in his mind, the better approach is to ignore the problem. ALOT of boys hide from problems and they think by ignoring them that in a few days, theyll go away. but thats not the case. it just makes it worse. guys have major self esteem issues.. when they make mistakes and keep making them and people point it out alot to them, they start to lose their e-go and it becomes a burden for them and they just quit talking to the person and they quit trying. and us girls are always like, WHY DONT YOU TRYYYY ?! yuh know, and thats why they dont.. because they blame us for killing their confidence. boys are really sensitive and i believe that he is just thinking that he cant do anything right.
which is why you got no answer.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] xxo.

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