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Bottling up emotions or feelings?
why is important for us to accept and feel the emotion we are feeling? why is bad to be in denial or try to fight it? is it true that if we keep bottling up emotions or feelings we won't really notice the things around us?
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When we bottle up our emotions and hold the inside, it causes us to hold grudges, feel like a weight is on our back, or a burden we are constantly carrying. The emotional issues will always come to haunt you, you will always notice the things around you at one time or another.
It's like alcohol. You may drink, get drunk all night long, but when you wake up -- your problems are still there.
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When we resist emotions and try to push them away, they become "tangled up" inside us, becoming the cause of our own unwanted and often unexpected over-reactions, angry outbursts, resentments, and other self-destructive internal and external behavior.
It is also absolutely true that we can become so unconsciously identified with our emotions, that we don't notice things around us--you are so right on about this! Bottling up emotions causes exactly the opposite effect--as human beings, we can't bottle up our emotions without them somehow overflowing in the form of destructive behaviors, or at least attitudes.
As a matter of fact, this is the number one cause of people living more in the past and in the future than living in the present. It is why people often move through their lives without truly experiencing their lives, and without being able to truly enjoy even the simplest things, like the company of loved ones.
There is training available in which one restructures the way one thinks, allowing a person to "dis-entangle" themselves from their emotions and stop identifying with them. In this way, one becomes aware of emotions without having to wallow in them and be at the mercy of them.
This is exactly what I teach: How to be the Master of Your Emotions!
I hope this helps--I'll be happy to elaborate if you want to ask me further questions here.
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Im an 18/m and I am a firm believer in keeping your emotions bottled... I still feel. I just don't like others seeing me upset...Its not like you have to bottle every emotion, you can still be happy and sad just don't go over board.
I agree a little with the people who previously answered this question "no one likes a robot" Also no one likes a person who does nothing except talk about how they feel. Also do you think people that went through the depression or ww2 by talking about how they felt?!? No the gritted their teeth and just went on with life. Some say it is unhealthy to live that way, but so is everything else from cell phones to cigarettes.
My suggestion is that you live according to what makes you happier. If you like to talf about your feeling be my guest.
But if you feel hiding them and burying them then thats ok. Every one dies one day so it really depends on you..
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I think bottling up your emotions is bad for two reasons. 1, it IS unhealthy. You would be irritated alot and would probably feel like no one understands you, because you're not letting them. If you bottle up what's bothering you, you're just pushing it away instead of actually dealing with it and finding a solutuion! No progress is made and you're constantly stuck with what's making you unhappy. 2, other people won't understand you, and therefore become irrated with you. No one wants to hang out with a robot with no emotions! Remember, there's nothing wrong showing emotions, it's completely normal! This doesn't mean go around crying or screaming at people all the time, but when something's bothering you, think of what you can do to fix it!
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yes, that is true.
think of it this way, your focusing all of your energy [even if you dont realize it] on not letting your emotions get the best of you.. and while you are constantly making sure that youre fighting the emotion you dont want to come out, then yo start to not notice the little things around you. your brain is just like, "dont be mad. dont be sad. dont cry." or whatever youre feeling over and over again. and when you bury your emptions so deep inside of you, its eventually going to build up and you are going to explode on someone or at some point.
you cant keep empotions inside of you forever. and thats why it is bad. it is VERY healthy to talk about your feelings and let out your emotions. when you dont, everything goes out of a whack and you tend to get wrapped up in the moment very quickly. all emotions are heightened for you because youre not expressing them.
if you feel and accept the emotion you are feeling, then you know what it feels like and you know how to make yourself feel better and youll get it out so its not inside you.
its like, this.. a girl finds out that her parents are in critical condition in the hospital because of a cra crash. she tells herself not to get upset or cry or succumb to her sadnessm, so she becomes numb to her emotions and the ones around her. like her other sibling crying their heart out. it just becomes "survival" but you cant survive without emotions.
good luck, and i hope i helped and i hope that all made sense. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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