14/f
I seem to have a problem, I always like guys that aren't available. Sometimes I fall hard, and then get really depressed because I know I can't have them.
A few times in the past, boys I've liked have asked me out, and before I've had time to think about it, I've said no. And after I think, what did I do that for?
And boys I've liked have chatted me up at parties and I've got away from them quickly. And I always regret it.
Now, I've been in love with this boy for the past 4 months. And he really is the most amazing boy I've ever met. He seemed to be in a really serious relationship with his girlfriend and I'd cry all the time because of it.
A few days ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend, and I was ecstatically happy. Although I didn't think anything would happen for quite a long time because of his relationship with his girlfriend.
But then he said he's not sure what's going on with them at the moment, and recently has been talking about breaking up with her, although he's not sure. And his best mate keeps making comments that make it sound as if it's because he wants to be with someone else.
And suddenly I feel like I'm in a panic, and I don't feel as happy and I feel quite worried.
And I don't know why, I mean, I've wanted this for months now, right?
Yet I can't help it, it seems as soon as someone starts to like me, I pull away.
Do you have any idea why I do this? Is it to do with commitment? And how can I stop it?
Thanks in advance, sorry it was long, xxx
As you've said it may well be the fear of commitment but it may also have a lot to do with the fear of letting someone too close or fear of getting hurt. I mean liking someone from a distance is always safer because they can't really hurt you as opposed to them being with you. It may be the case with you but then again it might not be. Maybe you just panic at the thought that you may actually get what you desire. There's no fix as such and I cerainly have no idea what you can do to fix this problem becuase for all we know it's a problem deep in your subconscious mind and I think the only real way you'll be able to get past it is by facing up to what the problem is and trying your best to get out of the habit of running whenever someone you like actually does make a move on you or approaches you.
On a side note - if this guy is willing to break up with his girlfriend to go out with you then it is always common sense to ask yourself if another girl comes into the picture a few months down could he very well do the same to you for her?
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I really am not trying to sound conceited and brag to everyone that i'm pretty, I have better things to do. But adults always say that i'm very pretty and that I have the body and face to be a model and everything. But boys just don't seem to notice me. Like if you looked like a model, wouldn't alot of guys like you? For example, [I DONT LIKE MY COUSIN BEFORE U READ THIS!], my aunt was like fixing my boy cousin's hair and was like "oh there now you look cute, i'd date you if I was your age" then she is like "jamie would date you, if she wasn't your cousin" [im jamie] He's like "HAHA yeah but I wouldn't date HER" Then another time at school this girl is like "you're really pretty" and a guy was sitting with her and he just laughed. Why don't guys think i'm hot? i'M confused! By the way, i'm going into 8th grade.
Coz guys are stupid... throw rocks at them.
Actually no, don't do that you might poke an eye out then there'll be hell to pay gettin arrested, warnings, hassle from their parents.... not worth all that. Just ignore them instead and be happy with how you are. If these immature brats don't see how beautiful you are what's it matter as long as you see it and those close to you see it. :]
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why does facebook have so many glitches lately
Maybe if you asked the Facebook webmasters/developers you'd get a better response than this one.
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ok well see??? i have a webcam and im not sure why the picture isnt clear. dad says i have a small processor. but then again i have a virus on my comp i think and a lot of spyware.. what do u think is causing this and how can i fix it? i tried to change the font on my webcam n everything....
I have a really crap webcam so I have the same problem too. One thing I think might help is using really good lighting in the room where you use the cam as it will clear up the picture a little. This is only a possible fix though, if it doesn't work you may well have to buy a better webcam (with a better resolution). That should fix the problem. :]
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14/f/nebraska
ok i live in a pretty calm town, and i have been to PLENTY of parties before of people in my class.None of them have been with any alcohol or even spin the bottle. wel i just got invited to a party that is going to have alcohol. all my friends are going, and all excited about it being their first time. The thing is, i am not very comfortable being around alcohol. like i dont know, i just dont like it, it just seems to ruin a lot of peoples lives, especailly when we are only 14. i REALLYY want to go, but i REALYY dont want to drink. but i still want to be cool. waht should i do?
Hi.
You've pretty much alredy answered your own question. :] If you don't want to drink you shouldn't have to especially just to be cool. I mean lets look at this in a logical way... you get drunk, throw up, talk crap, maybe get into a fight, have some weird guys trying to feel you up because you being drunk means you'll be easy, possible do something with some guy which you regret later - can anyone explain to me how any of that makes you cool??? Personally, to me, that looks more like how to make a total ass of yourself as well as look really stupid in the process. :/
I used to go out with friends who drink heavily and still do at times and I've never been considered uncool. It's actually quite funny watching them all make jackasses of themselves and since I'm usually the sober one it means I get to keep an eye on them all to make sure they are safe and that they get home safe. At your age people think it's cool because it's a big taboo since everyone says you shouldn't do it. Or, as you said, there's the whole wanting to look cool and be 'accepted'. I mean a lot of girls seem to think loosing their virginity at a young age makes them look cool (no, it really doesn't). It's all a lot of rubbish. If one of your friends got drunk and ended up in bed with some weird guy she doesn't even know I seriously doubt she's going to feel very cool the next day.
You seem to have your head screwed on properly and know what you want already so if you want to go to this party and feel you're strong enough to be able to say NO then by all means go and have fun. Trust me you don't have to get drunk to have fun or be cool. If you do feel very uneasy about being around alcohol then I'd say go with your gut feeling and refuse to go. Either way though I think, considering you asked this question here, you know you want to say no and I think you have it in you to be able to do that. Either way though do let me know how you do and how the party is, if you go. And good luck. :]
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17/female.
I've been feeling really different for the past few weeks.
- I can't focus. Its like I see everything in front of me but its like I'm in a dream. Sometimes I get this feeling when I'm driving, like I can't focus on the road. Then when I went for my college orientation, they handed us the schedule forms I just stared at it for like fifteen minutes, no joke.
- I've been having this depressed feeling. Its mostly at night when I watch TV or I'm trying to sleep.
- I've been pretty emotional too. Things that wouldn't usually get me all teared up do now.
- Its been hard to sleep some nights. Other nights I'm fine. But I usually feel like I don't get enough sleep & I'm always tired.
- I'm hardly around my friends anymore. When they call and ask me to hang out, I make up some excuse why I can't go. But its usually because I don't want to go. I've been around one person mainly in the past maybe 2-3 weeks.
That's basically it. Other than that I've been happy & energetic. All that just seems to come at random times. But if anyone knows what might be wrong, any input is appreciated. Just as long as its not mean or stupid.. I just want to know what this might be. Thanks.
Hi.
The only thing I can think of is that it might be depression. the cause of this is unknown as there are many triggers for it but I would suggest trying to get out some more as well as hanging out with friends. It will give you a nice break in the norm as well as hopefully give you a nice recharge. However, this aside I would suggest you see your family doctor as well to get their advice on this as they will be far more qualified to do so. If it is depression then it needs to get taken care of since depression can be a very horrible thing. when you do see your doctor, which I strongly urge you to do, you should also mention the blurry vision that you get since it would be wise to have that checked out too (your doctor may ask you to see a specialist). The thing that made me uneasy was that you get blurred vision when driving. This can be extremely dangerous especially if it happens while you're driving fast, at night or even on a busy street.
I'm sorry I can't really give you a more definitive answer on what it might be. :[ But I do hope you get yourself checked out and hope that everything will be okay.
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i know theres a gas that is way more dense than helium so it sinks rather than floating and when you breathe it in it makes your vioce lower rather than higher its kind of the opposite of helium. does anyone know what this gas is called?
Helium is 6 times more lighter than air (hence makes balloons float). A gas that is 6 times more dense than air (will in effect making it the opposite of Helium) and make your voice deeper is called Sulfur Hexafluoride.
Sulfur Hexafluoride can affect the sound of a person's voice if it is inhaled in small quantities. Sound travels through air at a rate of about 340 m/s. Through Helium this is speeded up dramatically to about 900 m/s but when inhaling Sulfur Hexafluoride the opposite of this occurs and the speed is reduced to about 120 m/s.
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I was just wondering. Is there a differance betwwen what a guy considers a friend and what a girl does. I just was wondering because i consider this guy a friend and i am not sure if he thinks that i am a friend of him. Can you tell me what a guy considers a friend?
I think everyone has a difference of what they consider friend and not just a difference between guys and girls. For example to me a friend is someone I feel I can trust completely without question and someone I can tell anything without worrying about what they think of me. Suffice to say I only have a very small number of people I call true friends (VERY small) and the rest - well I guess their just people I know and hang out with and go out with and such. It's different for everyone abd with everyone. I've known many who I've considered very good friends yet they probably thought of me as nothing but just some guy they know. Everyone is different.
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i'm so confused.
this one like, guy, timothy wants to titty f*** me.
so i'm like, ya sure.
but i'm totally not so sure how to start it and stuff.
he said he should be on top for that one or else it'll be too difficult.
so what exactly IS it and what do i have to do... expecially to make it pleasurable for him?
thank you!
xkissyMISSYx pretty much described what it is but obviously from your question you've no idea what it is you've agreed to or done it before so I just want to point out that firstly I don't see how a girl would get pleasure from it. A guy would (lets face it, it doesn't take much really does it?) but having a guys penis between your boobs - I really don't see how that becomes pleasurable for a girl. Secondly I don't see ANY reason why you should have to pretend you enjoy it if you don't. This is the 20th century - if you don't enjoy something you're doing you can say stop or say you won't be doing it again. You don't have to lie about it or put on a happy face just to please some guy.
One thing, as xkissyMISSYx pointed out though, is to make sure you are sure this is what you want to do. I mean lets face it you didn't even know what it is so can you say your seriously ready to do something like this with this guy.
"For fools rush in where angels fear to tread."
-Alexander Pope.
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how can you make a guy your friends with benefits with,
see you as more than that,
getting him to like you?
tthanksatonn!
Hi.
To be honest with you I doubt it would ever happen. Speaking from personal experience at least if I liked someone THAT much I wouldn't just be friends with them with benefits. I was happy with that cause it meant I didn't have all the annoyances that come with relationships (like not being able to flirt and such when I'm out). Given the choice of having more I wouldn't have wanted more. I could handle friends with benefits but a relationship meant commiting to that person and maintaining a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship which I just couldn't do either because I didn't feel that way about them or I just wasn't interested in settling down in that way.
Saying that, all guys are different so your best bet is to just ask him! He's your friend after all (as well as the benefits you share) so it's not like a bad thig to just ask. If you want more ask him how he feels about that and where you stand or if being friends with benefits is all it will ever be. If you feel you're getting emotionally involved (becoming attached in a way that you want more whereas all he wants is sex or whatever it is you both do without strings) then my advice will be to put a stop to it now so you save yourself a lot of heartache later. There's being friends with benefits and there's hopeing that by doing that you'll get them to like you more or feel something more for you. If it's the latter it shgouldn't take that for a guy to like you as more and if it's what you have to resort to then the guy is clearly not worthy of you anyway. :]
You can't force someone to like you, just remember that much. Ask him how he feels about you and see where it goes. The worst that can happen is he will say he only likes you as a friend and that's it.
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im still in secondary school and currently looking for a job.i live in the republic of ireland.i was wondering how many hours a student under16 and over 16 is allowed to work during school terms
id really appreciate the help
Instead of copying everything across I will just post the link to the site for you. It is a site I had just looked up to answer someone elses question as well so may come in handy toanswer your question as well. :]
http://64.233.183.104/search?q=cache:Jw0LsIi37B4J:www.adviceguide.org.uk/e_young_people_and_employment.pdf+number+of+hours+for+under+16+working&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=5&gl=uk
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i am a 14 years old gril who needs a job for sumer holiday and earn good money
plz tell me about any job you now
tnkz
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:EDIT:
I managed to find a site which may help you as well as give you all the details you need about working and knowing your rights when you work (handy especially since some employers can take advantage of the fact that you don't know where you stand when it comes to being employed). It will provide a lot of details so do read it please.
http://64.233.183.104/search?q=cache:Jw0LsIi37B4J:www.adviceguide.org.uk/e_young_people_and_employment.pdf+number+of+hours+for+under+16+working&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=5&gl=uk
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At your age you are going to be very hard pressed in finding a job, especially a high paying job. Since you are under 16 there are only a very limited number of places who will be able to employ you. You will only be allowed to work for a set number of hours as well as only allowed to be paid a specific amount (because of your age the national minimum wage will not apply).
The best advice I can offer you is to look online (a google search will give you hundreds of job vacanies/databases) as well as going out and asking around at stores and such. This will be the best way to look for jobs. Since you are wanting to work in London I assume you live close or in London? If so then this will be even better given how big london is as well as the number of stores around who might be in sarch of help. :]
Good luck and I hope you manage to find something.
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hi my little sister plays this game called webkinz, and it got this new layout, and for it you had to change like the size. well ares was right already, but it still didnt work. so now they were saying too.. "If you are having trouble shooting webkinz window, please force refresh this home page by pressing Shift-Refresh or Ctrl-F5" i'm soooo confused, do I put this thing when i'm pressing it..*** - *** or no? and i dont see this refresh button on my keyboard?
Hiya.
I popped over to the webkinz web site to have a look at what they said there.
Firstly, the refresh button... I think the refresh button appears on the mac computers but I am uncertain. Pressing Ctrl+F5 does the same thing as the refresh button on the toolbar at the top of the Internet Explorer page. The refresh icon is the icon that looks like the page with the two arrows inside it in a circle. It will normally be between the stop button (red circle with a cross inside it) and the home button (the house icon). If the page is not displaying correctly then you can use the refresh to try and force it to work.
As for the resolution. It says on their website after they upgrade the layout you will need your computer set to 1024x768 resolution to view the page fully otherwise some of the things on the page will be hidden to you. To increase the resolution of the page please follow these steps:
1) Right click on your desktop and select 'properties' from the list.
2) When the window pops up click on the tab that says 'settings'.
3) Look for the setting which says 'screen area'. This will be a slider type button or a drop down menu. If it says 1024x768 then your resolution is already set to what it needs to be. If it says 800x600 then move the slider to the right (or use the drop down menu) until it reads 1024x768.
4) Click the OK button to confirm the change and it will ask you if you're sure about the change to which you should click yes. This will have now changed your screen resolution to 1024x768. :]
I hope this was able to help at all.
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does anyone know of a virus that crashes emails not computer??
I'm currently unaware of any virii that attack and corrupt emails and not the machine they are stored on. I am assuming you wish to use a virus to disable someones email account or wipe out their emails? If so then it is a dead end quest. To destroy emails that are stored on the internet (therefore on a server such as hotmail, yahoo, gmail etc) the only way you would be able to destroy them from my perspective is to attack the actual server they are stored on (remember the emails are stored on hotmail/yahoo/gmail's own servers and not on the computer of the person logging into there services). This will mean, in effect, you will be attempting to destroy a very big companies server and firstly, attempting this will more than likely leave you open to be traced by them which can get you into some very serious trouble with the law. Then there is also the task of breaking into a very secure server to plant this virus to destroy the server which will no doubt be protected by sophisticated software and hardware. Hiring a professional to do this would cost you big and even then it's only if they decide it's worth their time doing. Sending the person malicious and virii loaded emails will also prove pointless as all this will do is either infect and possibly destroy the pc the person is using or the virus will be picked up by the servers built in email attachment scanners and report back a bad attachment.
Sorry, but the way I see it what you are wanting to do here is not possible, at least not unless you're a professional or you can hire a professional to do it. Also, on a side note, attacking someones system with a virus (be it an individual or a large companies server) is illegal no matter where you live. I do not know of any countries where this kind of action is allowed. I would kindly ask you not to ask for instructions on how to perform such actions on advicenators.
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so i had a boyfriend...
he was also my best friend.
he got locked up and i got another boyfriend.
ive still tried wrighting him and now his dad says he is going to contact a lawyer because in my letters it says sexual && drug prefrences. but i dont remember writing anything obsene. he also says he is contacting a lawyer because my friend//xboy dosent want anything to do with me because of my new boyfriend...
and before, i had made (my now x) boy a myspace and now his dad freaked about that too.
i dont know what to do. i dont think i should get introuble. i feel terrible. i have no clue what to do. my parents dont know about my new boy because hes black and i dont want to tell my new boy about the trouble because it has to do with my old boy and he would be devistated.
someone, please help. im only 15/f.
I'd say just go with what Victoria said. Ignore the threats - it sounds like ramblings of a guy who's just trying find some way to get to you. You won't be getting into any trouble so don't worry about it. Look at this in a logical way - since when has it ever been illegal to talk about anything sexual or about drugs? What are they going to do? What kind of chanrges can they possibly press against you? My knowledge of law is not extensive but even I can see it's all a lot of rubbish. Don't worry about it at all. Cut him (your ex) loose because you don't need someone like that holding you back and making your life hell.
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Can you go to the bathroom right after you take plan b or the morning after pill?
How affective is it..I need advice about people who have used it n if it worked for them. Me n my boyfriend had sex the condem broke, he pulled out he says he pulled out while it was going off while it was still in..so it wasn't like all the way. i need advice im freakin out
As far as I know from friends and such who have used it, the morning after pill is very effective. Just note that you should endevour to get a hold of it asap after the incident because the sooner you take it the more effective it will be. Checking up on Plan B it reduces the probablility of pregnancy to 1% but MUST be taken within 72 hours at the latest (3 days).
As for going to the bathroom, yes you can. I see no reason why you wouldn't be allowed to since the pill will have been swallowed and will be in the stomach where it will be dissolved by the acids there and absorbed by the body. You don't have to worry about the pill passing through you when you go to the bathroom. The only thing you have to be careful of is if you vomit after taking the pill as you may end up bringing the pill back up as well in which case you would need to get another one (plan B comes as 2 pills. One you take asap and the second which you take 12 hours later). I advise you strongly to talk to your doctor (should he/she be the to prescribe you the pill) or the chemist where you obtain it. Ask them anything you are unsure of. Trust me when I say they will have heard it all before and will be able to advise you professionally and answer any concerns and questions you will have.
Lastly, if the condom broke then I would suggest still using the pill anyway especially if you are not wanting to risk falling pregnant. He wouldn't have had to be in you all the way or even have had an orgasm because of pre-cum, which is released even before a guy will cum and can cause pregnancy. Don't be too hard on yourself either. You and your boyfriend did the right thing in using protection but sometimes these things happen. A condom breaking is very common.
Good luck.
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ahhh i dont know what to do!! ok so i need advice and i need it fast.....
last semester i messed up big.... i tried a joint for the very first time (not so pleasant!!!) so after three days (wen the effect was dun) i emailed my best friend who lives in england with all the details... before i say what the problem is i have to mention that i was at a party and i kind of did things my parents would KILL me for. seriously i really messed up the rules and stuff. but before you guys start saying anything i really do feel guilty about them and promised myself not to screw up next year so that i don't loose their trust.... my mum knows about the drug.... though she thinks i've been drugged and thats about it no details. and she's forgiven me.
this brings me to the satan in my life... my sister. she such a brat she's 2 years younger. i don't even know how to begin. she is so righteous. she believes i sold my soul to the devil because i am friends with people not of "our class". anyway, i found out (well she told me) that email i sent to my frnd... i accidentally sent it to my sister. or so she says. knowing her i knew if she has it she wont delete it!!!!
she has three emails as far as i know. 2 on gmail one on hotmail. i dn't know if she cud have sent it to another one. anyway, i need to get rid of them before she decide to show it to my mum if she notices her verbal blackmails aren't working and my parents don't believe her.... i can't come clean with them... seriously they will kill me. how can i delete them??? can i hack into her account or can i hire someone to do it or something?????
help ASAP!
Hiring someone to do it would be pointless since most professional hackers (if you can even find them) will cost you a LOT. Also, there's the whole hacking thing which in itself is an offence and can land a person into a lot of trouble.
Please contact me via my e-mail or msn at collector_of_lost_souls@hotmail.com
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can someone help me remove this virus. please dont give me links that i have to pay for.
asecurityservice.com is a hijacker that displays fake warning messages to try and fool the pc owner into downloading more infected software and is considered a a very high risk infestation.
Go to the site I have provided you with a link for below and follow all the instructions there. It's free and it's step by step instructions on how to remove the hijacker. Do this immediately before doing anything else on your computer.
Good luck.
http://www.pcontech.com/asecurityservice.com.com-remove.htm
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my relationships never last. ive had more boyfriends in the past four years than the number of fingers and toes i have. i go out with the wrong people, and always end up getting hurt although i've never been broken up with. i'm looking for true love that will work for me. i only want what i cant have. and i believe i've fallen for someone i hardly know. wha should i do?
It's never easy to find that perfect person but it does happen in time. You may just need to be patient even though it can be very frustrating going from one bad boyfriend to the next.
Thing is you never know who's a bad choice and who isn't but that's the whole idea behind ating I think. To get to know the person an see what their like and if you are both compatible. True love is rarely something you can just go out and find - sometimes you just have to be patient and wait for it to find you instead but rest assured it will come. :]
As for falling for someone you hardly know, maybe that might be the problem? That you fall too hard for people you hardly know all that well. You may just be too trusting too quickly or have an open heart and love too easily only for it never to be returned. Either way I would think the best thing to do is get to know this person and learn everything you can about them and then see if they are really the person you hope they are. Get to know them and see how it goes. :]
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ok 15/f..if that helps. im not a slut ((for lack of a better word)) right now, but i kinda want to have a slut reputation. I know that sounds totally bad but I kind of do. I don't mind being called a slut or being known as one either, is that bad? or what?
Hi.
Not strange really to me but it IS a bad thing. I know that a lot of girls look around and see how all the 'sluts' seem to get ALL the attention and all the hot guys and the popularity and all the dates but you need to take a step back and look at what this popularity has cost them. To these guys that person is nothing but a slut to them. Someone they can use and abuse because she will let them simply because she wants that attention and she feels important and thinks that it's all it's about. It's not. A friend of mine was a slut. She even now admits it being in her 20's now and when she was 17 she had to legally change her last name. The only reason she did that was becuase she had become known as the biggest slut of where I lived. She had all the guys after her not because they loved her personality or because they thought she was really pretty or popular. It was all because she was known by everyone as a slut (aka. easy).
Trust me it may seem like a small sacrifice to make now to have all that popularity but it wll leave you very empty. I mean come on... guys saying they like you and love you just so they can get into your pants. I know it happens a lot anyway but when you becomes known as a slut to everyone (as well as a self proclaimed slut) do you really think any half decent guy will even look at you seriously? I consider myself decent at least to a degree and I'm not exactly awesome looking either but I can honestly tell you now that a slut doesn't stand a chance with me at all. I just refuse to go there (especially given one of my last girlfriends I had gone out with who proved that once a slut - always a slut).
Take my word for it you don't want to be known as a slut. It's a title that will stick with and haunt you later.
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