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the name is lindsay, but call me lu. i'm crazy, calm, happy, optimistic and spoiled. i've got my best friends. yes i've made mistakes but who hasn't. i've gained some of the most amazing people but also lost a few great ones. the past is the past, i'm over it. the future scares me but i'm ready. i am very independent, i need my space. my family is definately one of my number one priorities, they never let me down and always work hard to make me happy. i look up to my brother shane, he is one of my best friends. i try my hardest not to judge others. i refuse to settle for less. i finally figured out who i really am and ive never ever been happier. i want to become successful, and someday i know i will. i'm the blonde one, thats me :) probably the biggest sweetheart, and one of the most understanding people you'll ever meet. just don't piss me off. i make the best out of every situation. i don't trust easily but i'm a strong ass girl. smiling is something i'm good at. i never give up. i keep my chin up. i stand up for myself and don't let people walk all over me. i don't get mad, i get even. i believe in myself, and in who i am. i live life to the fullest which also means taking risks and chances. i probably don't care what you think, because right now i've got everyone i need. being in love is one of the greatest things i've ever experienced. everything is meant to happen for a reason. live life with no regrets and have fun. change is something thats necessary, even though it's not always good. get to know me, i promise you won't regret it. i live my life for myself and not others. i love the life i was given, and i'll never stop being me.



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Is it possible for boys to be anorexic?

I'll rate 5's to any answer

♥ Kendall

of course it is.
even tho you may see it happening more with girls..guys can be too!
♥ always -- Kristen

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where could i possibly find long tight cami's or "skinny strap" tops at. Ones that are good for layering. Any ideas? 5's

heyyy hun! well i would suggest..
hollister..abercrombie..aeropostale maybe forever 21..charlotte russe or even vanity or marshall fields! it depends on how much you want to spend! if you need any more places just ask!
♥ Kristen

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Does it hurt to get ur belly button pierced???

it kind of all depends on how well you take the pain! i got mine done and it didnt even hurt..like at all! maybe just a little pinch? do you have any other piercings? if you have your cartiladge (sp?) done..your bellybuttons hurts MUCH less than that!! if your getting it with a gun..then the pain will be quicker..and thats what i got it done with so im not really sure if your getting it with a needle or not..and if you are sorry i cant tell you if it hurts with a needle! i wouldnt worry about it hun! you can always take someone with you..and hold their hand and squeeze it if it hurts :) but i doubt it will plus it looks super cute! goodluck hun.
♥ Kristen

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well im going to disney world in the spring (june) and i need some ideas what to bring. anything special or special clothes that are better than otheres

like i def know im wearing a bathing suit but i dont know what else to wear and bring that would benefit me the most because i dont want to bring my whole closet but i dont wanna go in like jean shorts and find out they dont work and not have any other kinda pants


and i live by kennywood and go there everyyear so its not my first expieirnce at an amusement park!

yea definately bring something that will keep you cool because florida or california? ..june time? thats like one of the hottests times of the year! i would wear something comfortable..maybe like your bathing suit (and like a cami over it) and then you COULD wear a skirt if you wanted..it would look cute..but yea i dont think i would reccomend it for going on rides lol. sunglasses! its deff. really sunny out there! you could wear some loose fitting shorts..like some comfy ones..like not jean shorts?! i dont really know what you mean when you say bring jean shorts and find out they dont work? but about the 283190 ive been there ive always worn like a tank top and jean shorts..and shoes..or flip flops. If your comfortable in flip flops and they dont hurt your feet while walking for a long period of time..that might be a good idea but remember..you might have to take them off if you go on one where your feet dangle or something?! haha buuut yeah thats what i would suggest! im not really sure what your looking for so if you need any other ideas or anything be sure to let me kno! hope you have fun sweetie.
♥ Kristen

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Not good. My best friend and I like the same guy and he might like her back and I'm completely jealous annnd she doesnt know I like him.
I just got out of a relationship.

what to do?

Hey hunnie. Well first off i would tell my friend..definately. Because maybe she might stop liking him or something because she will feel bad that you like him too! And she will realize that she doesnt want to get into a fight..or ruin your friendship or anything over some guy. you have to be honest with your friends..especially your best friends..they should always understand you and be there for you no matter what. first talk to her and see how things work out..she how she reacts. then i would go on from there. if you need any other help let me know! hope all goes well sweetie.
♥ Kristen

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14/f...I'm going to the movies tonight with 3 friends of mine. Cayla, Tyler, Will, and myself. Cayla likes Tyler and is going to be flirting with him all night and is going to sit next to him and everything. I sort of like Will and he doesn't like me, but I still want to make the best of tonight. I don't know what to do as far as "talking" to him. Like, I don't want it to seem obvious that I like him but I don't want to act like were just friends. Any ideas on how to talk to him? Like, conversation starters?
Thx
I RATE HIGH!

just act normal hun. being yourself is always the way to go..and maybe he will see how fun of a girl you are to be around! FLIRTING is the way to go..trust me on this one :) haha like play with him.."hit him" touch his arm..etc. Or when you see him just be like hi! and then just start talking..i mean you two will gradually start up a conversation. Things will fall into place once you get there..just try and not to worry about it! i know its hard..but ive been in this situation MANY times..and things all worked out in the end..i just went with the flow! Hope things work out for you sweetie. If you need anything let me know!
♥ Kristen

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I have this friend, known her forever. Shes turning out to be really mean, and its gettin me down.

This summer, we spent EVERY DAY together. Never ever missed a day. When we got back to school, she paid no attention to me. I talk to her on the computer these days and she tells me im fat, ugly, slutty, fat,fat,fat,fat,fat!!

And it gets me down, because im not fat. she gets others to hate me

But then.. Im so nice I go back to forgiving her!!


I cant stop myself!! What do I do!?!!?

sweetie i dont know how old you are but im like 16 and trust me ..i can tell you girls are such bitches and thats pretty much why i have more guy friends than girls :) they dont cause so much drama and they are just more fun to be around! now with your friend..this kind of happened to me..this girl was my bestfriend and we hungout so much then in my 10th grade year..we went back to school and she wouldnt talk to me..she would act like she was so much better than me and she was just trying to be "popular" and she started drinking and shit..well i just decided to make new friends..and blow her off since she didnt seem to care. we are no longer friends..and i like it MUCH better this way because now i have two best friends..that i just met this year and they are awesome. my advice is lose this girl..i mean why would you wanna be friend with someone that calls you fat and ugly? tell her to fuck off..and then go make new friends! hangout with your guy friends! :) well hope i helped sweetie! if you need anything else be sure to let me know.
♥ Kristen

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Hey, Im not planning on doing this but im just wondering. What would make you loose more weight faster .. Only eating lets say a bag of chips and a drink for lunch .. then for dinner just toast .. by the way no breakfast .. or just eating regularly. So basically my question is will eating less cause you to gain more weight or stay the same. A friend of mine is going through this and I would like to know.

Alright, i just learned this in gym class lol. By skipping meals..it is definately going to cause you to gain weight..well if you skip some meals then go back to your regular eating habits--then thats going to cause you to gain weight and you should only try and lose about 1 pound each week my teacher said because if you lose too much first off its not healthy for you and most people just put the fat back on..they cant tend to keep it off. I would say just try and eat all your meals..but just eat healthy :) Chips and a drink isnt all that healthy..if your friend wanted to lose weight..why not have some fruit..or a salad for lunch? I personally dont think your friend is doing the right thing..she should just try to eat healthier..and not mess up her daily eating habits. It will just complicate things even more..and she may even gain weight in the end. Also because you are not having as much calories when you dont eat as much..and you go back to eating how you use to..thats when you are going to gain the weight because your body is used to the having the same amount of calories each day..and when you eat less then go back to eating how you use to..its going to cause your body to go back to the same amount of calories before..which may cause you to gain weight. Sorry if this is all confusing but if you need help understanding something just leave another one in the inbox and i will be sure to try and explain it better!
♥ Kristen

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im a 13 year old girl. im really nervous that ill get my period one day in the middle of school. are there any signs that will let me know if im about to get it?

there are some signs ..but it may vary! its different for all girls :) but here are some of the signs..

* discharge
* really bad aches in your lower stomache (cramps)
* your always moody or crabby
* more headaches than normal
* acne breakouts
* cravings for certain foods

these are just SOME of the symptoms.. like i said it is different for all girls! if you start getting any of these symptoms then you may want to start wearing panty liners or carry a pad around or keep it in your locker just to be safe! dont worry hun every girl goes thru this! if you need ANYTHING else just be sure to ask!
♥ Kristen

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Heyy. There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He's not in any of my classes, i only see him in the hallway. Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. Honestly, I have no idea if he likes me or not. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥

Wow..i hate when that happens! You could give him a note? but thats always kinda weird too..id think the best way is to get up your confidence and just talk to him..trust me you will love how it turns out! one of my good friends is kinda shy and she always wants to talk to these guys and i always tell her..you HAVE to get up the confidence and go out of your comfort area if you want to talk to them..otherwise your just going to be thinking about how much you want to talk to this kid forever! Sweetie you cant go wrong..people are even saying they think he likes you and blushing is definately a sign! Just talk to him..maybe go up with a couple of your friends if you feel more comfortable that way. hope everything works out!
♥ Kristen

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Me and this guy are friends I like him and everyone says he likes me He helps me with a lot of things and he stares at me Im really the only girl that he talks to and his best friend always says that he likes me and things like that but I dont know if hes joking and plus my friends say that he likes me too Do you think he likes me because I cant tell im really slow when it comes to these things lol

Hun, of course he like you! And i can tell he does because from the things ive been hearing you tell me..those are all signs! The big one is he stares at you and helps you with alot of things. Plus his friend and YOUR friends are always telling you that he likes you. Im pretty sure nobody is joking about this either! If they were..wow fuck them. But im pretty sure that he likes you! You could always talk to him yourself and ask how he feels about you if you really want to know for sure! Hope everything works out babe.
♥ Kristen

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Well, I don't mean to sound conceited but a lot of people come up to me and say they like me, but it's always these guy's friends that like me. Is there something wrong with me that the guy who likes me can't come up to me and say it himself? Why is it always their friends?

im sorry hun! i know how you feel..it does suck! but i bet the guys are intimidated by you..they are just shy! and maybe afraid of what you are going to say?! they dont know if your going to feel the same way as they do. i mean if you liked the person that their friends told you about...then go up to the person and start talking to them so they know that maybe your intrested in them and then they wont be so shy around you since they kno you are feeling the same way! hope everything works out sweetie.
♥ Kristen

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There is this girl that i realy like. I got her phone number. I am going to call her and ask her out to the movies or somthing.

What should i say to her when i call her? My mind is blank of all ideas right now. I want to let her know her how i feel without being too deep and emotional. Also, is there any way i can ask her out besides saying "Hey, wanna go out?" I am 13 and she is almost 14.

Thanks for your help.

first off dont stress out or anything! she is a human lol! she is just a girl buddie! i mean i know its hard to get over it and stop stressing but thats the first thing you have to do..calm down! now when you talk to her on the fone be like so what are you doing this weekend? and then if she says nothing be like oh i was wondering if you wanted to go to dinner and a movie or something! thats all you have to do! its not hard..get up your confidence! and DONT be like umm..umm..umm..i was wondering..umm..just flat out ask her! CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY! lol girls like confidence in a guy! hope everything works out! if you need anything else let me know!
♥ Kristen

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Is there anything you can do to make a black eye go away faster? I've got one right now -- an accident -- and it's really gross looking and hurts.

Ouch! lol im sorry that mus of hurt..badly!
but the only thing i can think of and what i did when i had like a HUGE black and blue bruise on my knee was put ice on it. its not going to like make it go away instantly but it will help if there is swelling! hope everything goes well =)
♥ Kristen

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my boyfriend is really shy && i never know like what to talk about..any ideas?

does he play any sports? you could talk about that! haha umm talk about what you two should do on the weekend..what he likes and stuff. i mean once you start something up then he will get more comfortable with talking..just get a topic that he likes and start talking about it then he will start talking more..trust me! be all crazy and hyper and he will then lol i know how this goes!! hope everything works out sweetie..if you need anything else leave one in the inbox!!
♥ Kristen

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okay i REALLY like this one guy, but if you would use "labels" at my school were totally different.. i would probably be considered preppy etc.. you know? but he wouldnt be? and everyone tells me he likes me, but whenever were near each other he blushes and just smiles and i just start laughing.. how can i get over my shyness and just talk to him?? uhh help plz?? ♥

okay well you shouldnt be shy because obviously he likes you! guys like confidence in a girl..when your around him next time hey like oh heyy! and then like flirt with him just smile alot and then i bet once you first say something and break the ice you know .. then he wont be scared to start talking to you! you shouldnt be shy because you know he likes you so whats the problem!! i know its easy to say and probly really hard to do but just get ur confidence up!! things will deff. work out hun! maybe like punch him lol thats wut i always do with guys i dont really know why! its a habit but they seem to think it is funny haha. once you two start talking more then things wont be so hard and you wont be so shy! hope i helped sweetie..if you need anything else leave it in the inbox!! goodluck!!
♥ Kristen

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alright well.. my hair is pretty straight medium length i guess. i was wondering what products or what can i use to make my hair wavy? besides braiding it; any ideas? thank youu hun ♥

umm you can scrunch it! although i couldnt exactly tell you how to do it haha sorry ive tried myself but it didnt workk =[ there is stuff at the stores you can get kinda like gel that you can use and you use it like your using gel. ahh sorry if this is confusing! but if you need more help let me kno! sorry i couldnt help much
♥ Kristen

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How do I impress the girl I like very much?
How do I ask her on a date? Please, I need help with the whole girl thing.

ookay well coming from a girl i can tell you what would get my heart. Most girls like guys that are not jerks, but sweet and sensitive but not a little baby if you know what i mean. They want to feel protected around you and feel safe and comfortable. Talk to this girl that you have your eye on..and then when you get confident enough be like yeah we should hang out sometime..or just plain ask her ..would you like to go out with me on friday?! or whatever day!! i like a guy with confidence..but that is just me!! Also just be yourself DONT EVER try and change yourself for someone because then..they arent liking the real you!! Well if you need anything else let me know!
♥ Kristen

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do you have any good tips for loosing weight? im not hugely obese, im just a few pounds over what i would like to be and i have a pool party at the end of the year with the whole 7th grade, and i would like to start early so that i have time to loose it all. thankss!

hopefully i can help! i will do my best!
well first off you need to eat healthy..cut back on the junk food! you dont have to like turn into a health freak or anything but like also cut back on the pop if you drink it..water is SO much better for you!! exercise is always good too..you could always go to a gym and like go on the treadmiles..if you dont have one at home!? those work really good HmMmMm..i think that should help tho! the main thing is eating the right foods..you can always go on a diet..but you said that you werent like really overweight so its up to you!! hope i helped..if you need anything else be sure to let me know!
♥ Kristen

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ok (sorry this is long) well on new years eve me and my friend went to the "get together" at my friends house with no guys just some close friends. well we walk down to the basement and my firends are making eachother faint. and i was like woah guys what are you doing, but everyone did it and they were like it doesnt do anything to you, and her mom even walked down into the basement and saw them doing it and didnt even care. so later on i was like soo hyper and i decided to do it but i didnt really think anything of it. now somebodys parents found out and they told the head of the police in our area and its like this huge thing and all the teachers know and everyone is talking about a group of "7th grade girls who played the pass-out game" now my parents are going to find out and im dead. but i really didnt know that it could kill you, or even harm you, what should i do?

well..hmm..this is tough..yeahh that is dangerous so please dont do it again!! but when your parents find out all you can do it tell the truth. i know the truth may get you in trouble but if you lie about it then things will get worse..trust me! tell your parents that you didnt think anything of it because your friends mom even came down and didnt say anything so you didnt think it was dangerous..and that you will not do it again!! i mean its not your fault that you didnt know how dangerous it was? and how your friends parent didnt say anything..i mean how were you suppose to know right?! just tell them the truth it will get you farther in life sweetie..thats all you can do!! if you need anything else let me kno k
♥ Kristen

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