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My name is Melissa :]. I live in California.I seriously do. Fresno,CA. Look it up. I didn`t know what or where Fresno was until my dad came home & told us we were moving there.. I live in like the friggen richiest part of Fresno called Clovis[it`s another city that`s in Fresno.]Nothing ever happens in Clovis.No robberies,killings,etc. Things always happen in Fresno. This city is so effing small that you find out about everyone`s problems. It`s like Gossipville. My highschool is even worse. People talk smack like it`s their hobbie, so i`ve had my share of gossip about me. Doesn`t really bug me, unless you continue to do it. Then I get pissed. Who wouldn`t?! Fresno is okkaayyy, if you meet the right people. But Clovis will always be the most boringest place ever.



I've been through alot. Anything really. I don`t really trust people that easily, but if I do, then congrats, you`re awesome. Don`t straight up ask me what i`ve been through. If I really really really really really really really really know you, then I might tell you. But you know, it`s hard telling people what you`ve been through because it brings back so much horrible memories. I got over some shit, but it still leaves marks..Welcome to a world where being yourself isn`t good enough..



My closet is full of clothes from Hollister,Abercrombie,Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, and all those preppie stores that you hate. I can`t live without my cell phone or a purse. Don`t judge me. If you do, I friggen hate you with a passion.I have alot of confidence, and you might think that i`m cocky, but i`m not. I actually think low about myself, but what girl doesn`t? I sometimes think that i`m better than a few people, but i only compare to those who are pretty shallow & fucking dumb. Like gossip starters, stalkers,backstabbers, & anything like that.I'm probably the coolest 15 year old that you`ll ever meet :]. I love going to the beach, even though i HARDLEY ever get to go. I was born in San Francisco. I move alot. I stayed in new york for 4 years because of my daddy's job. But now i'm back here in california.I love my friends. I'm a really nice girl. I`m full of sarcastic remarks.Anything acustic(sp) realllyy turns me on. I love it when a guy can sing & play something hot, aww so adorable, don`tcha think?! ;]



I have a boyfriend & his name is Junior. He's gorgeous.HE PLAYS THE ACUSTIC GUITAR & SINGS FOR MEEE!! Oh man, I just feel like grabbing him. He makes me really happy && he surprises me alot. He makes me feel all like..warm and soft inside.Shut up. Your jealous. I know. Our love is anything but average. We have the weirdest relationship, but I wouldn`t trade it for the world..I love it when we watch re-runs of the O.C. I love how he can watch romantic movies with me. I love it when he lets me win in video games.I love when he kisses my nose or forhead. I love it when he trips me lol. I love it when he gives me piggy back rides & won`t let me fall when i`m standing on fire hydrants.I love it when we eat chicken nuggets together & share only one drink. I love it when he squeezes my face cheeks together & kisses me. I love the way he runs up to me at school & jumps on me. I love the way we skip together holding hands. I love it when I take out the crust of my bread && he eats it. I love it when I turn out to be hecka sick & he comes to my door with soup & his blanket. I love it when he sends me like .. friggen 2 page love letters & he sends them through the mail & i get them. I love it how he believes in me & teaches me to make better choices and incourages me. I love the way he can easily cheer me up with the simpliest things like smiling. I love it when i start crying and he cheers me up by doing the "balony dance". Lol. I love the way he pokes my cheeks with his finger. That`s love, baby.♥

I say tre-cool & dunzo alot.


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can you guys tell me anything you can about limewire. past expierences, problems, things you liked, things you didnt like, do you think its worth it to DL it.

thanks!!

I like it. I have had it for 2 maybe even 3 years now. No viruses. I can burn CD's using Limewire. It`s great. People say it causes viruses. It maybe cause viruses on THEIR computer, but not mine. It actually works pretty well & it`s fast. =)

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im f/15 (almost 16). i weigh about 120. my height is 5'4". is this average for my age? please dont try to be nice, just tell me the truth. im trying to lose 10 pounds, any tips on doing this?

Your actually perfect for height & weight & all that stuff. Good job on staying healthy !! =) Keep yourself the way you are.

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I got an offer to start babysitting but I have a probllem. Its really stupid but, Ive seen the commercials to "When A Stranger Calls" the new horror movie about the girl babysitting. Im afraid that when I babysit a) IT WILL HAPPEN.. or b) Ill be too freaked out and the kids will get scared, or I wont be able to take care of them because Im too scared. It will also be my FIRST time babysitting. What can i do to make myself feel safer?!

Lock all the doors & check EVERYTHING when you go inside the house. Have a phone with you at all times & just really keep an eye on the kids. Honestly, once you start babysitting, you won`t even think about the movie. Just relax & if it`s okay with the owner of the house, ask if you can just have a friend over. But I highly doubt they will let you because they hired YOU not your friend also. Anyways, once you get in the house, do something to get your mind off of the movie. Remember, the movie is sooo fake! So don`t worry about it that much. =)

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Well I WAS going out with this guy,we wanted to keep it a secret cause it is suck an unlikely match,well the whole school found out and people were coming up asking me do we go out and all that stuuf. Well his ex-girlfriend found out and was crying and slamming doors today at school and people made up rumors saying she wanted to beat me up and that the boy was gonna break up with me.Well the ex called me tonight and was saying how she never said she wanted to fight me and that she really wants me and the boy to be together well the next thing I know I'm talkinmg to him on AIM (he thinks I'm my friend) and he said he already broke up with me but he never did. And well he doesn't know it was me adn now me and him are broken up and I told him to never talk to me again cause he will get cussed out and why I'm mad that he went back for his ex is that she cheated on him at a basketball game and I don't think ppl like that deserve a second chance. Well I do still like him some and I don't know what to do,his jokes are funny and I promised myself I wouldn't laugh at them and I wouldn't ever talk to him again!!
HELP ME!!

That guy is so effing retarded. I hate it when guys say that they broke up with their girlfriends when they really didn`t. You should seriously slap this guy in the face(not litterally). Honestly, just ignore him. Forget about him. Flirt with other guys. This guy doesn't deserve you because you are soooo much better than he is. && he`s just dumb for going back out with his ex girlfriend who cheated on him. Wow. How lame. Anyways, just hang out with your girlfriends && just go out alot & just do something to clear your mind from him. You`ll eventually get over him.

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This might get a little lengthy.

My friend and I got into this argument last week in which we realized we both thought the other a bad friend and we had been kind of been unknowingly avoiding each other because one thought the other would be a bitch and all of that fun stuff. Typical female passive aggressive bullshit. We talked it out and made up. Then I invited her to see this concert with me of one of her favorite bands, since I had some free tickets.

Today we were sitting in English and she starts ranting and raving about how shes going to a really good place to eat right after class gets out. We both don't have any class after English. I kind of hint that I want to go because it's my favorite place but I just assumed it was a one on one thing with another friend so I didn't come on too strong. 10 minutes later she brings it up again and says to our other friend, Hey you should come with me! I'll sneak you out... just ditch the rest of the day! (she doesn't get out early like us).

So let's recap. I just saved her 30 or 40 bucks by taking her to this show with me tomorrow, plus I'm going to be giving her a ride, and she knows I had nothing better to do and could have gone to lunch with her, and yet she sits there and begs this other girl to go, and she said last week that *I* was the bad friend.

I assume I should confront her about this before the show so I don't have to spend the whole time with her being pissed off... but I just wanted to double check I was being reasonable and maybe get some pointers on how to go about starting this.

Yea sure you saved her $3O or $4O bucks on the concert tickets, but maybe she didn`t invite you because she`s already doing something with you tomorrow, so she invited that other girl. It`s not like your losing a best friend or a friend or anything, so don`t think that at all. Maybe before the show starts, confront her about how it made you feel. How you kinda hinted that you wanted to go & just hang out & all that. Try not to seem all like, kissing her ass & hopeing that she invites you to every little thing that she does. Just remember that you can have more then 1 friend. Also remember that she wasn`t the only one bitching && stuff. I`m not saying that everything is your fault. I`m just saying their's 2 sides to everything.

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Does the phrase "You dont phase me" mean you dont bother me?

Yes. But what the last 2 people down there said, is actually more correct. Basically, it means that you don`t have any effect on me whatsoever.

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just courious,approximatly how long is beauty sleep supposed to last ? ;p,thanks
*rates to 5*

If your 15 years old, your suppose to get 8-1O hours of sleep. So if you want "beauty sleep", then sleep for 9 or 1O hours.

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Well .. i know this is kinda nasty but im old enough believe me because if i wont then i wouldnt ask this .. well nobody ever talked to me about sex but like i know about it .. but i was wonderin does a guy wont it shaved or hairy .. like not alot of hair i dont know help!!!

Some guys like it shaven. Some don`t. Honestly, most guys don`t care just as they get some vagina . I`m serious about that too.

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hey, how do i get people to view my colum/ask me for advice?!?! i've had my colum for over a year and only about three poeple have asked me for advice. thanks a million

Be nice & give really good advice. Put a picture of yourself (if your comfortable with it) & decorate your column with really pretty things & just make it cute. Update alot. Add people as your favorite columnists. Honestly, it doesn`t matter of how many questions you get in your inbox. You just need to answer as many questions as you can.

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I just bought these new earrings and I just cannot get them to close.


http://www.claires.com/product.asp?name=prod&color=gold&rcid=31&id=2125&scid=32


They're like those up there. The part that is in your ear has to go into the hoop for it to close. Only mine are alot smaller than those--they're about 1/2 in.


When I try to close them I just end up spending 20 min for nothing and irritating my ear so bad that it swells because I keep messing with it.


Does any one have any tips for that type of earring?

Omg how weird ! I have those small silver ones that come in a packet of 3 of those right?! Holy shit..

Well anyways, I had the same problem. Honestly, I just left them open in the back because f*ck..it was such a hassel. Sometimes I got it to close, but that`s because i had to bend the earrings so it can close. Ugh. Those earrings sucked for me. If you just have the guts to NOT hook them together, then do it. It'll solve your problems. It did slove mine for sure.

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I wanna add some more songs onto my lime wire playlist so anyone know any good songs out there. I'm more into hip hop/rap/reggaton/and anything that i can dance to. but hey if there are any other good songs plz list them out for me

Thanks!

Brown Boy- Living Shady

Bubba Sparxxx ft/ Ying Yang Twins- Ms. New Booty

Do or Die - Smoke my weed

Do or Die feat. Twista- Do You

The last 2 songs are kinda old. But I love 'em. Maybe you will, too.

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I have choir pictures tomorrow and I don't know how to do my hair. I have dark brown hair that goes like 4 inches under my shoulders and it's kind of layered and naturally pin straight. Should I curl it or just leave it straight or what? pictures would be nice but if not then that's alright! thanks in advance!

Having curly or scrunched hair right now is totally in && tre-cool.

I would give you some steps on how to scrunch hair, but I`m kinda lazy. BUT! I do have a site that has steps on how to scrunch hair =)

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art4077.asp
http://wiki.ehow.com/Scrunch-Hair

The first one has a couple of pictures on how you should do it. The second one has tips && all that good stuff.

You can also just do loose curls. Get a one inch curling iron && curl your hair. To shape your curls so they can stay, use hairspray. Not alot though.

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Okay guys. I need help. I've been suffering from anorexia for about 3 months now. i've went from 140 to 105 in those months. my dad is starting to get suspishious. i need help. i hate anorexia, but i don't want it to go away. i don't know. help?! i rate highh, higher than the sky. haha.

Eat more. Eat more sugar. But not at the point where you can have really high blood sugar && become diabetic. If you turn out to be really desperate, try eating Kalteen Bars. You know from mean girls, those bars that make you gain weight? Well they actually do have those. But i just don`t know where..sorry.

Also, you don`t have to be anorexic to be skinny. You can still be skinny but you just have to keep in shape. You need it to go away because it can seriously be really bad for your health. Try reading these sites that concern anorexia :

http://www.umich.edu/~fasap/stresstips/91.html
http://www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/nutrition/ec_anorexia.htm

You can also try && googling more sites from the dangers of anorexia :

only search advicenators.com

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The Winter Ball is coming up on Friday and I have an idea for my hair. It's wavy and black, and I want to straighten it and make it curve inward at the end. I think it's called a "J-curl" but I'm not sure. It looks a little like this:

http://www.royalimex.com/Product/image/medium/CO_CO_J_CURL.jpg

only not quite as curly at the end. How do you do hair like this?

Honestly, what the person down there said was good, but if you really don`t want to wait, then use a curling iron. The less hair you put on the curling iron, the smaller the little curly on the end will turn out. Get what I`m saying ??

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My ex-best friend Hana and I used to be really close, but ever since she went down to visit her cousin (who is pretty slutty herself) she's been acting like the only thing that matters in the world is how good she looks. It was really starting to piss me off, so I told her. She blew it off like it was nothing, which made me angrier. So, now she's started hanging out with two other girls that are known as sluts at our school, and they've really been annoying me. She pretty much dropped me for them, which made me sad. Now since she's found out that her only friends are the other two sluts, she's been trying to be friends with me again. I don't know if I should accept her friendship or not because it really made me angry how she dropped me like that. She hasn't even said sorry... Now since she's been hanging out with those two girls, I haven't talked to her at all. It really makes me sad that we're not friends anymore because we used to be able to tell eachother anything. I've made new friends, but in a way I miss my old one. If you have any advice for me then that would be awesome! Thanks

Sometimes people change; for the good and the bad. She changed for the bad. Honestly, she might change again as going back to herself, but who knows. All I can say is that I possibly couldn`t imagine leaving my best friend. So for me, that`s not really an option. You said you`ve tried talking to her, and she blew you off. Talk to her again. && If she does just blow you off again, she`s not worth it. Tell her that she hurted you. If you guys go back into being friends, && she starts bitchin, then leave her because then you already know that she`s not going to change. Hopefully whatever choice you decide, it`s a good one.

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Hey, I'm a size 32A and I'm 17 years old. Do you think there is any chance at all of them getting any bigger?

Since your a little more older than most of us girls, you probably won`t grow anymore. I`m not sure because I`m not a doctor or anything & I don`t know how your body functions, but you can buy really great bras that are your size. If you go to Victoria Secret's, Macy's, or JcPenney, i`m positive that you`ll find a right bra that`ll make your boobs get more shape,show great cleavage, && be really comfortable!! =)

Oh yea. Here's a tip for you just so you know if a bra doesn`t fit right :

1) It rides up in the back
2) It leaves marks
3) The center(between the breasts) doesn't lie flat against the body
4) The straps slip off the shoulder.

Hope I helped just a tad !

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what are the best solutions for frizzy hair.

brannnds? products? i want something i can pick up at a drugstore or target, that won'ttt make my hair greasy.

++ any good acne products? which products give you the speediest results?

Putting mousse in your hair will add extra volume. Try Finesse BeautiFULL Volume Mousse($3 at drugstores)

You can also use products like

1) Pantene Pro-V Smoothing Comb-In Treatment($4 at drugstores)
2) Tresemme Anti-Frizz Secret Smoothing Creme($4 at drugstores)
3) Paul Mitchell Extra-Body Daily Boost($14 that you can buy at SALONS!) I know, but it'll give you volume. Kinda like mousse.

To NOT get greasy roots or anything greasy, try using Alberto VO5 Quick! Hold Fast-Drying Hair Spray ($3 at drugstores).

Tip : Don`t use a lot of products in your hair, it`ll cause major damage !!

For acne, well these are kind of expensive, but maybe you should just try these. If you want.
Try Andrea Gentle Microdermabrasion Complete Kit($13 at drugstores).It cost so much because it removes dull skin as it absorbs oil & it`s just really powerful. If you decide to buy this, be sure to READ && FOLLOW the specific directions on the boxes.Some cheaper products that also might work good are Neutrogena or Clean & Clear, or Biore. Any product from them cost $3-5 at drugstores. Just be sure to look for the right ones.

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How do I get rid of bags under my eyes? The bags are not serious, and I doubt I need medical treatment, but it is definetly notceable. And I do not want to wear make-up. I do get a lot of sleep, at least 9 hours per night. Do you know any home remedies to get rid of them?

Well both of those girls down there said the thing with the spoons. That's what I do when I don`t get enough sleep for the next morning. I put spoons over night in the freezer & the next morning, I get them && put the oval part under my eyes. It's tre-cool.

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How do you get rid of frizz in curly hair? home remedies?

No home remedies to get rid of frizz in curly hair. Use mousse & simply just scrunch your hair so it can have shape && put more volume into your curly hair. You could also buy products like Pantene Pro-V Smoothing Comb-In Treatment ($4 at drugstores) or Finesse BeautiFULL Volume Mousse($3 at drugstores) OR Tresemme Anti-Frizz Secret Smoothing Creme ($4 at drugstores). Another little tip- don`t try to put so much products in your hair because it can seriously cause some major damage to your hair. Whatever you do, DON'T put eggs or mayonase(sp?) in your hair. That shit never works & it`s totally NOT tre-cool.

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how do you get picked to be the featured collumnist? and if you are the featured collumnist alot does that mean you are close to becoming a level 2 mod? like ive been a featured collumnist twice in what has seemed to be like the last month or so

Read this

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=31

&& then read this,

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69

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