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Best friend turned slut
My ex-best friend Hana and I used to be really close, but ever since she went down to visit her cousin (who is pretty slutty herself) she's been acting like the only thing that matters in the world is how good she looks. It was really starting to piss me off, so I told her. She blew it off like it was nothing, which made me angrier. So, now she's started hanging out with two other girls that are known as sluts at our school, and they've really been annoying me. She pretty much dropped me for them, which made me sad. Now since she's found out that her only friends are the other two sluts, she's been trying to be friends with me again. I don't know if I should accept her friendship or not because it really made me angry how she dropped me like that. She hasn't even said sorry... Now since she's been hanging out with those two girls, I haven't talked to her at all. It really makes me sad that we're not friends anymore because we used to be able to tell eachother anything. I've made new friends, but in a way I miss my old one. If you have any advice for me then that would be awesome! Thanks
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First, you need to tell her to go away. Friends like this (I've had many) will go back and forth. It's best just to end it before she hurts your feelings several times.
Also, whoever said condoms are 99% effective against HIV and pregnancy is dead wrong.
"Facts on Reproductive Rights," from the National Organization for Women
* The condom fails 14.2% of the time (due to incorrect use).
*When used correctly, condoms are 97% effective.
*Condoms reduce the risk of HIV/AIDS transmission by approximately 85%.
Another interesting fact:
Condoms provide virtually no protection against an STD called the human papillloma virus (HPV). HPV is the most common medical problem seen by gynecologists and causes almost all cervical cancer in the U.S.
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Hi well i had a similar problem but not the slutty part. At our teen ages a lot of girls feel insecure about themselves and try to figure out who they are. That is probably what your friend is going through. Its good that she realized what she was doing isnt good and its probably just a phase. Also it depends how you told her. You should sit down in a mature way NOT yelling and tell her the things that have been bothering you.This way she can explain herself without feeling attacked.It seems like you two were really close so everything will probably work out.
I hope i could help at least a little bit
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call her! i know it might be hard considering what she did she should be the one calling you but since its bothering you why dont you be the bigger person and call her or talk to her in school and tell her why things have been the way they are ask for her apology and tell her you miss her,most likly she'll say the same and hopefully things will go back to the way they were
syireen
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When you talked to your friend, did you actually sit down and talk to her, or did you yell your problems at her? I have this friend who does not like anyone telling her that she's wrong even though she is most of the time. When I used to get mad at her until I couldn't take it anymore(I had a similar problem to yours...except my friend wasn't being slutty...more like in permanent bitch mode) I used to bitch her out. Now, she's an Aquarius, which means she's overly sensitive and tries to cover stuff up by acting like it wasn't her fault(not all are, but most), so she didn't listen to me and I felt like I was in the same situation you're in now.
Anyway, you need to think about your friendship with her. Was she a good friend to you? It sounds like she was, but I think she just might be going through a phase right now. For every girl it's different. Mine was a wearing all black. Her's might be thinking slutty is cool and I'm sure you've gone through a phase that has made you seem different too. However, if you feel like she's crossed over to the "dark side", then its time you let her go and focus on your new friends. In the case with me and my bff, we ended up making up, but we do spend less time together. Some people just drift apart and it's really up to you whether or not you feel in your heart that you still want to be her friend.
~Good LUck~
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If she's trying to be your friend, it's best that you are honest with her about how you've felt ever since she went through her changes.
People like her, that turn away and go downhill wouldn't call it changing. They think of it as growing up and maturing, but it's not. It's the exact opposite. There are a lot of people that you'll meet, and you'll think that they will be there for you forever, but then when they chanfe, you realize that they won't be hanging around you for too long. Not because they don't like you anymore, but because they have low self-esteem and they go out and try to get attention.
I know that you're thinking that they really do think higly of themselves, but they actually don't.
The best that you can do is tell your friend that you want the old Hana back instead of one that changed.
-TheTeenGirl
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Sometimes people change; for the good and the bad. She changed for the bad. Honestly, she might change again as going back to herself, but who knows. All I can say is that I possibly couldn`t imagine leaving my best friend. So for me, that`s not really an option. You said you`ve tried talking to her, and she blew you off. Talk to her again. && If she does just blow you off again, she`s not worth it. Tell her that she hurted you. If you guys go back into being friends, && she starts bitchin, then leave her because then you already know that she`s not going to change. Hopefully whatever choice you decide, it`s a good one.
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Look, babe. You've got to make a choice. But before I tell you your options...I'm going to tell you that she will NEVER be the same way again. No matter how hard or how deeply you want it, she'll never go back to the way she was before. There will always be something different about her. Now, you're options are: Ditch her and find some new friends, or take her back and explain how you feel to her about the way she's been acting. See...She thinks she's doing nothing wrong. Open her eyes. You're gonna hurt her by doing that...but later, she'll be happier that you did IF she changes her ways. Make her understand that what she's doing is horribly dangerous. Show her pictures of herpes, genital warts, all of them. Show her that if she keeps on this path, she's going to end up like that. EVEN if she protects herself. Only 99% effective against HIV and Pregnancy, but not even close to protecting her from Herpes, Syphilis, or Genital Warts.
Take care, love, and let me know what you do.
Abby
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It's funny, I actually had the same thing happen to me recently. Listen, just brush her off... I wouldn't give her another chance. This is mainly because the same thing happened to me, and she tried to turn ME into who she was... which isn't worth it. I'm sure your new friends will soon take the place of your old one.
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if she confront you abut becopming frends again, be bold and say something like, " look you were the one deciding to not be friends anymore and it will be long before you can gain my trust back, and You'll have to work for your friendship." Make sure that she knows you are serious and telling ehr that you dont want it to happen again. If she still wants to be your friend, but is still acting like a slut, then simply tell her, thats its not your style. hope i helped and good luck!
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