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i have a lot of guy friends and think they all rock. four of them happen to like me, but im a senior and moving to texas to go to college so there is no point in dating you know. but what if i dont find a hot guy in texas. how do i get to meet people and be well liked.
Well, I live in Texas and there are tons of hot guys here! So don't worry. Just be friendly and smile and start talking to people and you won't have any problem. =]
Oh, one little tip: I don't know what part of the country you're coming from, but I moved here from up north and one thing I noticed was: girls in Texas don't swear. Well, some do, but most don't, and definitely not the way some of us "yankees" tend to rattle off cuss words in everyday conversation. So girls who have potty-mouths can make a bad impression on some folks. Just to let ya know!
i was wacthing paul moony and he said there was a show were scientist trased every race and genders DNA all the way back to a black woman in africa.so that basically means that the mother of civilization is a black woman in africa based on the scientist.what i want to know is,is that accually possible?i personally do beleive it is but could DNA really tell us that?just wondering!and please dont say it is religiously inncorrect because i want to know if it is scientifically possible not religiously possible!thanx!
Yes! It's definitely possible! Scientists have been working on this for years by testing millions of people's DNA from all over the world. Here's a basic description of how it works:
Certain parts of our DNA get passed down from generation to generation unchanged. That means that parts of your DNA are identical to your mother's, her mother's, her mother's, etc. However, occasionally there will be a mutation; a slight change in the DNA. If such a change occured in YOU, for example, then your kids would have that mutation, and their kids, and on and on. That means that anyone in the future that had that exact mutation could trace their ancestry back to you.
It's complicated to explain in a short answer, but through all this DNA research, scientists have found that everyone CAN trace their ancestry back to a single woman who lived in Africa some 140,000 years ago.
That doesn't mean that she was the only woman living at that time. There were others, of course... but their children or grandchildren or later descendants eventually died off without reproducing; that is, those other women have no living descendants today. Only this one woman had a continual line of descendants who survied and carried on her DNA... and we all descend from certain branches of her family.
I wish I could explain it better, because it really is fascinating! I've read a TON on this and I don't just believe it, I KNOW it's true... it totally makes sense once you understand it.
This website might explain it better for you:
https://www3.nationalgeographic.com/genographic/
It's the National Geograhic Genographic Project (the ones who are doing these studies). Near the top, click on "Genetics Overview" and "Atlas of the Human Journey."
what does it mean when people say you shouldnt take the lords name in vain?
It means that God's name should be kept holy and only used with reverence and respect... not as a curse ("goddammit") or an exclamation ("oh my god!" or "jesus christ!"). Some people even feel that saying "oh my gosh" or "geeez" is wrong, because they are slang variations of God and Jesus' names.
i just have a general question,
if you like someone, and they acted out of their character or hurt you in some verbal way-(nothing harsh/racially offensive), would you stop liking them or would your feelings persist?
this is stupid question but it's just i've noticed how some let go very easily once they are slightly doubtful and others strongly believe in forgiving, what's the norm?
I'm a pretty forgiving person, but I wasn't always that way. I used to get hurt easily and hold grudges forever. But somewhere along the line I realized that I'm just a lot happier when I let go of my hurt and anger and let things roll off my back. My attitude now is: people make mistakes. And many of the things that hurt me weren't really intended that way, it's just that I took them too personally. The funny thing is, now that I don't let things bother me so much, it seems that people are a lot "nicer" to me. Maybe it's just the way I see them... or maybe it's because they know there's no point trying to upset me, because it won't work!
I'm 16 and a girl. I live on a ranch. I have three older brothers and my dad who worked on the ranch. My oldest brother doesn't work anymore because he lives in a different town. My middle brother still works and my youngest older brother works on the ranch. Well I don't work on the ranch unless they ask me too and I do whatever they need me too. They don't ask me often, but when they do I do what needs to be done. I usually just stay in the house and do house chores. Well my youngest older brother (Barry) is really rude to me. He always tells me how lazy I am. He says I'm a spoiled brat (which I'm not. I work for a lot of things I have). He has called me a bitch many times. He has hurt me physically in the past and continues to damper my confidence. My parents worship him and anything he says they back him up. It is really starting to take a toll on me. I cry everyday hoping things will get better, but they just get worse. Am I wrong to think this is abuse? What do I need to do?
It sounds like your brother is very jealous of you, and probably has been for a long time. Think about it: before you were born, he was the baby of the family... the cute little one who was pampered and got all the attention. Then YOU came along, and that attention was diverted to you. And not only were you the new baby, but you were a GIRL... a precious little fragile angel who was probably treated much differently than her brothers.
And even if you're not the least bit spoiled, in HIS eyes, it seems that you get special treatment. You aren't required to do the hard physical labor; while he's out toiling on the ranch, you "get" to stay inside and do the "easy" chores. [And I'm not saying your jobs are easy, because trust me, I know they aren't... but that's probably the way HE imagines it.] Also, as a girl, you have a different relationship with your parents than he and your other brothers have, and he might be a little jealous of that special bond.
Not that any of this makes his behavior right. It definitely doesn't. I'm just saying that this may be the reason he acts that way towards you.
What can you do about it? Unfortunately, probably not much. He's going to have to grow up on his own and get over this. If you fight back and give in to his taunts, it will only convince him that he's right, that you are a spoiled brat. So just try to keep your cool and remind yourself that he probably won't be a jerk forever. At some point he will mature and come to value his relationship with his sister.
i know 14-w/e yr old guys only think about sex (supposedly)
does a guy thats in 8th grade (13-14) only think aboout sex?? i think its kind of young (and disturbing) but idk.
Well, I don't think they ONLY think about sex. They might occasionally think about food or sports. But yeah... 8th grade guys DO think about sex a LOT!! It's really not that young, considering that most guys have hit puberty by that time. And once those hormones kick in, they pretty much take over. Haha.
So for the past two months, I haven't been going to church every Sunday, like AT ALL due to a fight that my aunt and my mom had and I got sucked in their problem making my relationship with my aunt nonexistent. This morning, I said sorry to my aunt and we're OK now but the church is my problem because there's a lot of nosy people at church questioning WHY I haven't been at church. What should I say? I can't tell the truth because it's really stupid and ridiculous and I don't want them to see me as childish and an immature brat. But on another note, I don't want to lie under God so... if there is such thing as a "true lie" can you please give me advice on what I should do? Thanks.
Well, it's really nobody's business why you weren't in church. They may claim to be "concerned" about you, but the truth is, like you said... they're really just being nosy and looking for gossip. Don't feel like you have to tell them anything. If they ask why you weren't there, just say, "I couldn't make it" or "I had some other things going on" or even "It's kind of personal and I'd rather not talk about it, but thanks for being concerned." If they pressure you for more detail, just be nice and change the subject or walk away.
me and my boyfriend landon really like each other. we have those little fights about whos cuter or who loves each other more. and at school, WE ARE SERIOUSLY ALL OVER EACH OTHER! we tell each other that we love each other. hes all i can think about. and he tells his friends, that he loves me and that all he can think about is me. i really miss him alot, and im going to see him tomorrow. so, does it sound like were in love, or...are we just really close in our relationship?
-shelby/13/f
There's lots of different types of love. If you feel like you love him, then yeah, you do! Some people might say "you're too young to know what love is", but I don't agree. You can love someone at any age. It might be a different kind of love from what you'll experience when you're older, but that doesn't mean it's not love.
Me 13/female Guy 15/male
Lets just call this guy billy
Okay so today i gave my boyfriend a blowjob. first of all ive never even given him a handjob, we just kinda skipped that. im only 13, and i amm kinda worried i shouldnt have done that, am i too young?
Well, yeah, I'd say you're kind of young, but the fact is you've done it and you can't change that. If you still feel really uncomfortable about it, just let him know how you feel. Tell him that you're glad you made him feel good, but that you felt pretty weird about doing it and that you'd rather not do it again. You could even say that you might do it again sometime in the future, but for now you'd rather just stick with doing some other stuff.
we're planing to move in together and we are both excited... our parents are fine with it and all but i just have a question... as a girl is there anything anyone could tell me about moving in with a guy? i mean the quirks? when we sleep together the light? the bathroom? habits? i don't know, all the stuff that bug married people when they start to get to know each other at first? i don't know how things are going to be and i am very careful and hate the unknown so i'd like to be prepared for these things so I'd like to have some kind of first hand experienced person telling me how it's like... i really love this guy and don't want to loose him over tiny dumb things... i really believe he's the one...
Well, if you're about to move in together, you probably have a pretty good idea of his basic personality. That is, I'm sure you already know whether he's a slob, a neat freak, or somewhere in between. It's the quirky little habits that will only reveal themselves after you've started living with him.
The main thing to remember is: you're both coming from different home environments, and you're both used to doing things a certain way. Chances are, some of those things will be different, perhaps even opposite extremes. For instance, you may need total darkness to sleep, and he may need a light on.
The key is compromise. You both have to be willing to accept that neither one of you can have your way with everything.
There will be some things that you can reach a happy medium on. For example, if you both HATE cleaning the toilet, you can take turns to make it fair.
But some things will have to be either your way or his way. If you need silence to fall asleep, but he needs the TV on, one of you will have to give in. So be selective in what you demand. If there's a certain thing you absolutely MUST have your way, you have to be willing to let him have his way with something else.
So talk about this before you move in. Let him know that you don't want to fight about silly little things, and make a deal with each other that you'll both be willing to give and take in order to make things work!
Good luck!
im 14/f
im 4' 10" weigh 80 lbs
i think my arms are skinny
these past month ive been tryin 2 eat alot but my arms are the same they wont get fatter
how do i make them fatter without makin the rest of my body fat
Try lifting some weights, doing pushups and pullups/chinups... that will give them a little more shape and definition. But also... be thankful! A lot of people would give anything for skinny arms!
whats the difference between preceded and suceeded? For example, "Preceded by
Sex and the City Emmy; Succeeded by
Everybody Loves Raymond "
WHAT!?
Precede means to come before
Succeed means to go after or follow
If something is preceded by Sex and the City, that means it came before Sex and the City
If it's Succeeded by Everbody Loves Raymond, that means it comes after Everybody Loves Raymond.
okay so this girl named jaslen is getting me mad she keeps on trying to steal my best friend erika & shes to nice that she goes along with it she cant say no. & they i got a pic comment from jaslen saying your to concieded i felt like screaming at her telling her that im not concieded im just prettier than herrrrr she cant get any guy! i wanted to scream and tell her the plain truth but i just wrote "no hun im not concieded trust me i would know / go get a life :)" & now im just waiting for a reply i dont mean to pick a fight with her but shes getting me madddddddd erika my best friend shes sleeping over her house again tonight and shes been selling me out a ton :/ can someone help me what do i do ?
Okay, well you can't stop two people from becoming friends with each other. But you CAN stop them from being YOUR friend, if you act jealous and resentful of their friendship.
Yes, it can definitely hurt to be left out when your friends become close or do things without you. But if you want them to keep liking you and being your friend, you have to keep your feelings to yourself. If you get mad or talk bad about them or act like you're trying to keep them apart, that's just going to backfire. Because no one likes to be around someone who's angry or jealous or pouting.
So even if you're feeling sad or left out sometimes, try not to let it show. When you see them, just act happy and cheerful and fun to be around. Then they'll WANT you around.
whats the diffrents between catholic and baptist i never knew please dont say im an idiot
Okay, well here's the long answer! haha!
Back when Jesus lived, the people who followed him were called Christians. There weren't a lot of them at first, but they traveled around and spread the word of Jesus' teachings. Eventually, the Roman Emperor decided to become a Christian. He ruled that everyone in his empire (which was most of Europe) must also become Christian and join the church. It was called the Catholic church, because "catholic" means "universal"... meaning it was the church of the entire empire. Back then, if you were Christian, you were Catholic, because that was the only Christian church.
Then, around the 1400s, some people began to question some of the teachings of the church. They felt that the church was interpreting some things in the bible the wrong way. So they protested, and eventually broke away and started their own churches. Because they were protesting against the Catholic church, these new churches were called "Protestant." Many different Protestant churches were started... Lutheran, Methodist, Presbyterian, Anglican, Baptist, etc. Each one interprets certain things in the bible in its own unique way.
Baptism is one example. Most Christian religions believe that baptism is necessary for salvation. Back when the Catholic church was started, a lot of babies died in infancy. So babies were baptized soon after birth, in case they didn't live. This is still done in the Catholic church and some Protestant churches.
On the other hand, some people feel that Baptism should be a choice made when someone is old enough to realize it's meaning. Baptists, for example, use Baptism as a symbol of accepting Christ and becoming a full member of the church... something that is done when the person is old enough to know what they're doing. Since Catholics have already been baptized as babies, they do something different to symbolize their salvation and acceptance into the church: they have a Confirmation (usually around Middle School age), "confirming" their belief in Jesus and their willingness to follow the church's teachings.
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first of all...what language is that? and what does it mean? i already tried freetranslations.com but they couldnt do it.
It's vietnamese, and it means "member information"
16/ f
me and my girlfriends went to a waterpark for me and my best friend's combined birthday party, and we met a group of guys there. the guys go to the highschool in the town next to us. me and one guy got especially close, we exchanged numbers and even kissed eachother on the cheek. we've called eachother a couple of times since we parted, and talked on facebook, but we havn't seen eachother.
i casually mentioned to my parents that we met a group of guys that we might hang out with again, and i even told my mom that my friends all think i should date one guy in particular. i didn't tell them that we kissed.
the problem is, ill be getting my licence soon, (he already has his,) but i know my parents aren't going to let me drive over to his town (especially alone, as a new driver, in a strange town). or with anybody for that matter! i could lie and go over there when i said i went somwhere else, or i could invite him over to my house, but his parents might say the same thing to him. how are we ever going to see eachother again? how can i ask my parents to let me drive over there, when i know they'll say no? (if i ask them and they say no, they'll be suspicious always that im going over there, im afraid) if we could possibly start dating, should I even tell my parents? what should i do? HELP!
Try inviting him over to your house first. Parents are usually more lenient with sons (as far as letting them drive over to a girl's house), so it might not be a problem for him at all. Just ask your parents if you can have a few people over -- a couple of your friends, and this guy and his friends. Once they have a chance to meet him, they'll probbaly be more comfortable with the whole thing. Then the next step could be having him meet you somewhere in your town (movies or whatever) with some of your friends. When your parents have a chance to see that he's a nice guy, they may eventually let you go out to his place.
Good luck!
if you have sex...and like right after or withing 24 hourse take a lot of birth controll pills...what will it do?
i dont just mean 1 i mean a few. can it stop you from being pregnant?
No, it will not stop you from getting pregnant. Birth control pills work by stopping your ovaries from releasing an egg. No egg = no baby. And it takes about 7 days of taking the pill for this to start working. If you have sex and an egg is already floating around there, then it can definitely be fertilized by a sperm. Taking the pill at that point won't do anything.
This is going to be a very odd question, hard to answer, and it technically has nothing to with "Spirituality" other than that I would appreciate some answers from a christian point of view. What excatly am I being taught here? All advice is welcome, though.
Well, I've always been low in confidence, but it's the past week that it's gotten extreme, I've literatly spent hours crying for beauty, praying for it, and envying those who have it. All my diary entries have been about it - and how life is without it. Today I woke up, and while looking at my reflection said "Please, make me feel beautyful today".
I went out on the town and was introduced to a french guy (a friend of a friend) who paused in the middle of a conversation at dinner, looked me in the eyes and randomly said "It's a blessing" it was weird, and I didnt know what he was talking about,, until he said "..you're eyes, you look like a princess" I said "thank you!that's so sweet" and that was it.
On my way home from the dinner.. Literally 30 seconds after I said bye to them, and stepped out of the restaurant.. an old-ish man comes up to me and said "please, miss, wait".. I thought he would ask for directions or something so I stopped. And he said "you have amazing eyes, so sweet, so pretty, where are you from?" (I've been dying for attention, to feel beautiful again.. to get stopped in the street like I did a few years ago.. so I was happy, and not creeped out at all) I said "aww thanks!" and gave a friendly smile. He asked me if I wanted to go get a drink somewhere, and that's when I got scared - "no thank you, I'm just 17 years old.." he pressured me a bit, so I started walking and he said "No, dont be scared, I promise I'm a good man, do you have pierced ears?" then he brought out earrings and almost forced me to accept them as a gift (they're still in my jacket) we talked for about 5 more minutes until I got really creeped out and made an excuse and ran. 2 minutes later I recieve a voicemail (I did not give this man my phone number!) BUT yet, it was from him. It had to had been. It was the conversation we had just had RECORDED somehow and sent to my phone, I ran as I cried, and now I got home just 20 minutes ago.
It was scary, might not sound like it, but I'm really really scared. I can not tell my parents, jut this morning they told me not to go out, and I said "you're so freaking scared of everything, how can you live life like that??" I will never be allowed out again. I already have to be home at 6 pm, and cant go out unless they've talked to the firned, know her parents and are assured there wont be any guys, if I tell them.. my very vague definiteion of a social life will be over.
So what is this? Someone's trying to tell me that its good that I'm not beautiful cause when I am creepy men come up to me? That I should appreciate not being pretty cause it might lead to rape someday? That I should never go out ever (this is the first time I've been out in forever, it was in broad day-light for gosh sakes!) why me? howcome others can be pretty and go out, and the once I do it.. this happens?
I DONT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING, can you please help me understand what's going on here? Is it all just coincedences??
Well, maybe these were all just random, coincidental things that happened to you. Or maybe you're right... maybe someone IS trying to tell you something. But if they are, I think you're reading the message wrong. Because here's how I see it:
1) You prayed for beauty. Well, God isn't going to suddenly change the way you look. But what CAN be changed is the way you look at yourself. The truth is, no one is perfect; even runway models have certain features they aren't happy with. But dwelling on the things you can't change will only make you bitter and unhappy... and that will make you far more unattractive than any physical "flaws" will. If you can focus on your positive qualities, and learn to appreciate and concentrate on what IS beautiful about yourself, others will recognize and appreciate it as well. They'll see what you want them to see. So perhaps that's the message that you were being sent. Two random people commented on your beautiful eyes... and perhaps that was meant to "jump start" a new attitude about yourself, one in which you'll start appreciating and focusing on the beauty that God has given you.
2) You encountered a creepy situation. And you handled it well and got out of it safely. I think the message here is: The world can be a dangerous place, but you CAN handle it! From what you've said, you haven't had a lot of experience being out on your own. But it won't be long before you ARE on your own, without your parents to guide and protect you. What will you do? Stay inside and hide in fear? Or go out and face the world with confidence? I'm sure you'd rather do the latter. But to do that, you need the confidence to know that when you DO encounter a potentially dangerous situation, you'll be able to make the right decisions and keep yourself safe. And that's exactly what this situation provided: experience. So I think the message here is: You don't need to be fearful, but if you're cautious and smart, you'll be just fine!
I want to comment on one more thing. Beauty does NOT equal rape. Rapists are not driven by some uncontrollable lust for a beautiful woman. Rape is a violent crime that's driven by a sick need for power and dominance. When rapists are looking for a victim, they aren't looking for a gorgeous woman. They're looking for a woman who's weak, submissive or gullible; one who lacks confidence; one they can easily overpower. And of course, these are traits usually found in women who don't feel good about themselves. So in reality, a woman who feels good about herself and exudes confidence is LESS likely to be targeted as a rape victim. And that's another good reason to stop dwelling on your flaws and weaknesses and start focusing on your beauty and strengths!
I hope this helps some!
14/4
i got my period for the first time on thanksgiving and i used pads the rest of the week. they're pretty annoying, like having to worry about it and stuff. so i tried putting in a tampon just to see how it works and whatever. thing is i couldn't even get it in. i know how, i've read books and whatever lol but it just wouldn't go in. i'm like the last one of my friends to even get my period so i feel like an idiot because i'm basically the only one who doesn't use tampons. i have no idea what i'm doing wrong and i definetalyyy am not asking my mom or wtv for help. akward much?
so what do i do?
I know how you feel... it took me forever to get a tampon in the first time! But you can do! Here are a few tips:
1) Get the thinnest size tampons you can find. Most brands makes a "slender" or "junior" size.
2) Wait till a day when your period is pretty heavy. The wetter things are down there, the easier it will be to slide it in. You can even put some vaseline on the applicator to make it more slippery.
3) Aim in the right direction. The diagrams always show to aim towards the small of your back, but for some people it's easier to aim it lower, more toward your tailbone.
4) Most important: RELAX! If you're tense, the muscles of your vagina will be tight and it'll be harder to put the tampon in.
5) Once you've got it lined up and ready to go, wiggle and twist it around while gently pushing it in.
6) Try different positions: sitting on the toilet, standing up with one leg up on the bathtub, or even laying down on your bed.
Don't give up. It's hard the first time, but it gets really easy after your first couple times. And it's sooooo worth it not to have to wear a huge "diaper"!
Good luck!
How do you go about starting a debate team at your school? thanks!!!!!!!!
Well, if your school doesn't already have a debate team, it's probably because of one or more of these reasons: (1) They don't think there's enough people interested; (2) They don't have a teacher willing to sponsor it; (3) They don't have enough money for it (costs involved might include paying the teacher for the extra hours, transportation to other schools for debate meets, etc).
With that in mind, here's the steps I'd take:
1) Start talking to other students about it and see how many people would be interested. You'll need to convince the school that there's enough interest to start a team.
2) Ask some teachers and see if any of them would be interested in sponsoring a debate team. (Try the English or History/Civics teachers first; they'd probably be the most into it).
3) Go to your principal or councelor and tell him, "There are about 10 of us who would like to start a debate team, and Mr. So-and-so said he might be willing to sponsor it. Would it be possible to start one?"
That takes care of the first two problems. If money is an issue, find out how much would be needed. Then you could check with the PTA and see if they'd be willing to fund it. Another option is to have the debate team hold some fundraisers.
If you do most of the legwork to get things started, I bet you'll have a pretty good chance of getting it going!
Good luck!