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my best friend & hers.
okay so this girl named jaslen is getting me mad she keeps on trying to steal my best friend erika & shes to nice that she goes along with it she cant say no. & they i got a pic comment from jaslen saying your to concieded i felt like screaming at her telling her that im not concieded im just prettier than herrrrr she cant get any guy! i wanted to scream and tell her the plain truth but i just wrote "no hun im not concieded trust me i would know / go get a life :)" & now im just waiting for a reply i dont mean to pick a fight with her but shes getting me madddddddd erika my best friend shes sleeping over her house again tonight and shes been selling me out a ton :/ can someone help me what do i do ?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Okay, well you can't stop two people from becoming friends with each other. But you CAN stop them from being YOUR friend, if you act jealous and resentful of their friendship.
Yes, it can definitely hurt to be left out when your friends become close or do things without you. But if you want them to keep liking you and being your friend, you have to keep your feelings to yourself. If you get mad or talk bad about them or act like you're trying to keep them apart, that's just going to backfire. Because no one likes to be around someone who's angry or jealous or pouting.
So even if you're feeling sad or left out sometimes, try not to let it show. When you see them, just act happy and cheerful and fun to be around. Then they'll WANT you around.
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You can't force anyone to be your friend nor can you force anyone not to be your friend. If Erika chooses to hang out with this girl, there is nthing you can do about that. If you are a good frined, don't ever defend that. Just be you, it is her loss if she chooses not to hang out with you.
Take the best part of you and move on to other friends. If Erika is your friend she will be there by your side.
Girls play one against the other, don't let yourself get wrapped up into that childish game. Be open and honest and never defend your actions if you feel you are in the right. And try not to put others down to make yourself look like the better person.
Believe me, rotten devious people ultimately end up with no friends.
Be strong and stand up for yourself.
Greeneyes8993
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ok i know this isn't the most "mature" advice and really, you should probably just let erika be friends with whomever she wants, but girls can be vicious and if you really want your friend back you have to fight fire with fire
right now, don't make any comments about erika to jaslen, it will make you look like you're jealous and nobody should have that power over you. just tell that jaslen girl to back off and ignore her. when she insults you laugh it off, because it will make her even more mad if she knows she isn't getting to you.
then, find one of your closer friends, and hang out with her ALOT. get close with her, usually all you have to do is tell a girl a couple secrets about you and bam, you're best friends. soon erika will be jealous just like you are with her and jaslen, and erika will start to call you asking to hang out all the time and ditching jaslen.
it's kind of sneaky, but it works. getting mad just causes a bunch of drama and you usually don't end up looking that great, this way you come out getting what you want and smelling like roses ;)
good luck <33333
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if erika really likes jaslen, then she is going to hangout with her dear. maybe you should tell erika how it hurts your feelings. you two have been friends for awhile& you dont want that to change. maybe try and explain that to her. as for jaslen, maybe she just wants a friend too. you can share two best friends, you dont have to have only one. goood luck!
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if she decieds to trade best friends then she was never your friend just tell her that you miss her she will understand trust me and if she says somthing like your just being greedy you see me all the time just walk away she is not worth it trust me good luck i will pray for you this same thing happend to me and she said i was greedy and i wish i could of just walked instead of talking back and making that gult stay in me forever and ever good luck again
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