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im court, i am sweet. i love to be happy. to smile. i love my boyfriend jonathon. i love my bestie krystal. i have a freakish obession with jared leto& jensen ackles. they are sooo sexy. gah.. :) i love rock music, i hate hate hate country music& paris hilton. i look up to tyra banks, i think she is amazing, &what she's accomplished in life already is incredible. i attend college @ kent state..any other q's just ask me dolls! :)
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what are some unique ways to turn on a guy because i already kiss his neck and ear and rub his back and everything but i want to try something new. also no going past second so no touching him 'there'. thanks so much! :)
you don't have to touch, but he can look. sexy lingerie. :) or try getting candles, sometimes romance is sexy.
I'm going to switch birth control. Do I have to wait a week or a month before having sex? And I mean with a condom. I don't have unprotected sex, so I don't need a lecture thanks.
okay if you're switching, the new pill will take approx. 2-5 months to fully be in your system. but you can still wear a condom before the 2 month mark dear, a comdom won't letcha get pregnant. but after the five month mark, if you want to stop using the condom you can. the pill will fully be in your system by then.
okay so my absolute BEST friend lets call her lola. Is kinda getting me mad
EVERY BOY IN THE WORLD IS IN LOVE WITH HER!!
and it just gets me so sad :[
cause no one ever liked me. =\ besides in 5th grade, and i am now in 8th.
she is SOO pretty, skinny and funny
and i just wish i could be like her.
i want boys to like me too =\ but they never will.
and i just met this kid and i was starting to like him. then i introduce them and he asks her out and she said yes ( she didnt know i liked him )
its like whats wrong with me?
why can she get EVERY guy?
i wish i could be just like that.
but i never will =\
help ?
well firstly, you can't let someone else like you if you don't like yourself. you need to be more confident and strong. have faith that a guy will soon come your way and be interested in you. you need to be more outgoing maybe, and relax. the guy for you will come along. :)
ok so all my life i have never been able to tell anyone anything without them telling someone else. and it hurts me. i mean, i can tell my dad stuff and..yeah. but there are some GIRL ISSUES (ex: sex urges, crushes, unexplainable vibes/ feelings...etc.) that you cant really tell your dad, you know? and i sometimes tell my friends and stuff but i regret it afterwards cause im so unsure if i can tell them anything or not. but anyways...
how can i trust anyone? like, when im dating someone and they say they love me, i dont believe them and i tell them to not say that. and i still really like this guy that went out with me for a while, and told me he would never break up with me and would always love me etc, etc. but he DID BREAK UP WITH ME. and it killed me!! like, almost literally. i attempted suicide. MOVING ON. after he broke up with me, i gave him a note saying how i seriously felt about him and that i was planning on having sex with him.
and he told me like 2 months ago that after he read that he regretted breaking up with me. like, he regretted breaking it off because HE THOUGHT I WAS GONNA LET HIM DO ME? and i asked him and he said no. but hes a real horndog..and so yeah. and now hes flirting with me and calling me sexy but he has a g/f. and idk if thats cause he wants it or seriously wants me back. but if he told me his answer i wouldnt believe him.
i dont believe anyone and i dont trust anyone. like, i mean, what should i do?
trust is a hard thing. you never want to feel vulnerable and hurt. it seems to me, that your ex boyfriend is only flirting with you because you told him you were considering have sex with him. and you said it yourself that he is very horny, so what does that say? that he is willing to date you again, but this time for sex. and clearly he didn't love you, he is with another girl now. so.
and i don't think this guy is good for you, sure he might make you feel loved and good about yourself when he calls you sexy- but it isn't worth trying to kill yourself over him hurting you, now is it?
it's your decision though. good luck and godbless.
ok well sometime idk y but my vigina smells...
y is that?
and when i shave down there like all the hair is gone (there's a stubble, how do you get rid of that) but all of it isnt 100%ly smooth...
how can you make it like perfectly clean
and sometimes outta nowhere like i get like wet... i dont know if its cum or what it is...
how can i stop it... im not even thinking dirty it happens at the most random times...
if your vagina smells it's because you aren't washing it correctly. make sure you get it clean on the inside a little too. when you shave it isn't going to be perfectly smooth. it isn't like your legs. unless you get your vagina waxed, which is very painful and i don't recemend. and the thing about you getting wet, it's called a discharge. it just happens sometimes. it's perfectly natural, infact it's healthy. try wearing panty-liners. ask your mther to buy you some, she knows what a discharge is, and will know how to deal with it. but you can't make it go away, it just happens. and it is healthy so don't worry about it.
16/f ..first boyfriend. 15/m.
i'm not very experienced with relationships.
we've been going out for a month, and this guy has already started touching me. and telling me that he loves me. and discussing future plans to have sex. and all that.
i'm a good student. well, i used to be 2 months ago. my grades have dropped. i've stopped caring about certain subjects. i can keep a steady, mediocre gpa..but...its just NOT enough for me, you know? i just turned 16. i want to know what to do with my life. all this new overwhelming attention from a boyfriend...is..well...overwhelming...
and im not in love with him. i dont even "love" him. i think i just like his attention. i'm very attracted to him. i know this is very bad. but maybe not as bad..since i get this feeling..that he's using me just to let go of some of him horniness [according to half of my friends...] i even catch myself flirting with other guys.
i dont want to do something foolish with a guy...and give myself away to a guy that doesn't even like me for me. that i dont even "love". even though...it's probably not "love". there is no love at this age, i guess...
and, even for this ONE month...SO much has changed. i've gone from socially-challenged quiet/shy girl...to this social butterfly...a newborn.
but i dont care for these social gatherings of friends and my boyfriend anymore. they make me sick now. i want my shy and quiet life back. i don't know what to do.
if i break up with him, i know i'll be really heartbroken. he probably wont care though [maybe he will]. but im just really clingy like that, ive noticed...towards anything.
so. i don't know..
thank you so much in advance.
it sounds like you're afraid you're losing the old person you use to be. the person you knew. change isn't always a bad thing. and social gatherings are a good thing. you can still make time for yourself though. to think, do what you want to do, alone. i get that, it's calming and peaceful..
now with this boy, if you feel he is pressuring you in any way, you need to tell him and ask him to stop. tell him what you've told me, you're grades have dropped and it just isn't you, and you aren't okay with it. you have to make this happen. and clearly you aren't ready for sex, so make it clear to him that it isn't going to happen. and you've only been dating a month, so i know you aren't inlove, like you said. he shouldn't even be telling you that he loves you yet. atleast not until the third month of your relationship. don't say it until you're ready. it isn't right for him to be pushing you, to do or feel anything. so have a long talk.. make him understand. and listen to your friends, they see you so they know what's going on. and if this guy doesn't respect you and what you want then he isn't worth dating. even though you'd get hurt, you knew that was possible going into the relationship it's a chance you took. good luck and godbless. any other q's just ask me dear. :)
I am 34/F. My best friend/cousin told me the other day that she has contemplated not being friends with me anymore because of things I say to her, i.e., I told her I wasn't going to an event because it was boring, and she was offended because it is part of her family tradition and her parents plan it every year. (I had no idea her parents planned it. It is a city-sponsored event.) She also said that when I was little, my mom would talk crap about her family and I would repeat it to them. I don't doubt that this is true, but it happened when I was a kid so I can't remember anything that was said, and neither can my cousin. She just remembers it happening. I teasingly called her a "hoverer," and she was offended because she has heard me in the past say that others were hoverers and it was negative.
I am upset that she has contemplated not being my friend anymore and also that she seems to be overly sensitive. I actually watch what I say around her because I know she is overly sensitive to begin with, I just didn't realize how much. I have not spoken with her since she told me all this. What should I do/say?
I realize that i'm only nineteen and might not bring much knowledge to your questions but i'm willing to try,
from what you've already told me about your friend i agree that she seems very sensitive. and it also seems that she is being a little immature. i mean- okay you said something in the past that she brought up and never brought to your attention before correct? well, why now? why does she all of a sudden feel the need to tell you after all this time what you said bothered her? it just doesn't make sense. and i'm sure that she does things to annoy you, and you aren't putting them in her face. she is just being selfish i think and not understanding. atleast you were being honest when you said that event would be boring. she might of thought that she just wanted you there because you're someone she cares about. and if it means that much to her then you should just go. maybe try apologizing to her that you offended her- clearly it wasn't intentional; and tell her that you meant nothing negative when you said she was a hoverer, just pointing out a fact. she needs to be more understanding of your thoughts and feelings too. i tried to shed some light on the matter..
good luck and godbless. :)
Alright, so I'm 16 and a sophmore in highschool. My freshmen year I was a great kid, I did everything I was suppose to and never did anything wrong, I didnt even have my first kiss til the end of freshmen year. Anyways...I was really a good kid until the begining of this year (sophmore year) and now I'm not a bad kid...but I'm not the sweet little angel I was last year. I've started smoking and drinking.I cut myself (not bad enough to really hurt anything and I really dont want to be lectured about that, I know its bad and I know I shouldnt do it) And I've gone alot further with my boyfriend than I thought I would. I'm even starting to think about having sex with him. I dont know what made me start doing all this. Well recently, I havent been sleeping....at all...and I cant tell if its because I just cant sleep or if it has something to do with all this other stuff. I barley make it through class anymore. I'm still passing all my classes and everything but I can barley stay awake through any of them. Last night I had two hours of sleep. I guess I just wanted to know if you guys had any ideas (without talking to my parents) on how to sleep better...That doesnt really make sence does it? Oh well....Thanks for all of your help.
well i think that maybe you should try to slow everything down. you said you smoke and drink now, well it's your choice to do those things. ou know the difference between right and wrong obviously. but maybe you're feeling a little guilty now for doing them things. so you can't sleep as much. and i lost my virginity when i was a sophomore, i'm still with the guy now that i lost it to, but i still regret doing it that young. i wish i would have waited atleast until i was eighteen or seventeen. i mean, maybe your mind is worried and feeling pressured about having sex with your boyfriend. try slowing some things down a little. you got your whole entire life to experience those things. what's the rush right?
goodluck dear and godbless. :)
im falling for my best friend. our friendship is so messed up. we used to like eachother but then we didnt wana loose being friends. we lost it anyway. we still stayed friends no matter how much we fought. we were best friends weve known eachother forever. i wana be best friends again. but i hate him somedays then i love him the next. he is the biggest jerk i no but i still like him as in loving and as friends. i really wana date him if we held on through all this i bet we could if we broke up. ive never had a bf and hes only had a gf in 5th. very sad knowing im almost 14 hes 13. but i dont want anyone but him. :( id die if we lost friendship again. i didnt just fall for him i crashed my heard is shattered. we are total opasites in everysingle way. but idc. what can i do?
well tlk to him about it. you need to tell him how important he is to you, and our guys' friendship. maybe he has the same feelings too. you never know until you tr dear. godbless, goodluck. :)
Well, this year I didn't play basketball and I've been eating a lot of junk food. So, guess what?! I got love handles. I'm going to stop with the junk food but what are some exercises I can do to get rid of than. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!
try doing criss cross sit ups. it's where you turn your body as you come up from doing situps. from my experience- it's the best way to get rid of love handles. :)
I recently got the guy i like's cell number. We go to two different schools and he acts interested in me everytime i see him. I really like him, but he doesnt know i have his number. Should i ask a freind to tell him to call me?
Should i surprise call him and just blurt out that i like him?
i dont want to seem to desperate, even though i am
I think im in love and i can't sleep at night unless i do SOMETHING.
please help me, this is one relationship i DONT want to miss out in
you should definitlely make a move and do something then. tell him to give you a call. and let the sparks fly. you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain honey. goodluck and godbless!
Okay. I really like this guy I'm going out with. I've gone out with him twice Friday and today(being Sunday). I really want to kiss him and today we were at his house and he asked me if his dad was upstairs and he was. It was obvious that he wanted to kiss me. He had eye contact with me and everything and he looked like he was going to go for it and I looked away. I dont understand why. Its not like it would be my first kiss it would be my second but still. I'm so nervous but I dont understand why. I've known him since 5th grade. So why can't I do it?
your attitude is preventing you from doing it, just go in for the kill and kiss him. you are just nervous which is to be expected, but that's never going to leave unless you kiss him, then you'll get butterflies and it will be an exciting feeling. better than nervousness. goodluck. :)
16f.
im not bi or anything but i know a girl who is and like evry time i talk to her she likes a new person... he even likes 4 ppl at once and i dont get how she can... i stuck up for her when ppl were calling her a slut and saying shit about her but now im begging to think she is a slut like cos she goes out with one person and likes another and she will break up with a them and have another boy/girl friend the next week... is she a slut? im not bi i no im not... but i keep thinking about her like since i saw her last but im not sure why...?
do i like her cos i that she would probably break my heart if i did anything about this... i dont think i like her cos im not bi and i never have been. so i dnt get what is going on...?!
you might not think you're bi but just because you haven't been before doesn't mean it can't or won't happen. maybe try considering it. and you shouldn't call your friend a slut- or any girl for that matter. it just makes it okay for guys to do it, and it's not. and she just might want to experience things and change her mind a lot. is she actually doing sexual things with these people she dates? ifso, then i wouldn't trust liking her in that way- i know ou said you don't i'm just saying. but just be careful.
I'm in the ninth grade with the stress and anxiety levels way beyond what my age permits. School makes me crazy. Especially with midterms and finals and what not, I hardly sleep. I'm getting four hours miximum, and wake up randomly to find myself forgetting a random fact, and studying some more. My family isn't putting a lot of pressure on me, or anything, but I just freak out and have high expectations of myself. I study way way too much and at weird times. Is there anything that would help me to relax just a little, and clear my head before tests? I know a little anxiety is normal, but what I feel is probably far from it.
Thanks!
maybe get out and do things that help you calm down. that way you aren't so wound up tighly. it's good to study but studying to much can end badly, see your friends more, and as for your expectations- you can be a great person as long as your trying, maybe try lowering your standerds just a little and you'll see that you can still succeed. goodluck and godbless.
OK should i be stressing if my bf is talking to his EX? ANd cause he's trying to hide it from me. ( trust me I know) And if so, what do I do?
you need to be blunt about this straight up ask him. and you should be annoyed, your entitled to that. he tried keeping it from you- no matter the reason he was in the wrong. you don't need to be worried unless he say's he still has feelings for her though. just keep a heads up on his where-abouts. and tell him he makes matters worse when he hides things from you. it makes you worry even more about the situation. he wouldn't enjoy it if you did that- tell him that also, then maybe there won't be a next time.
ok. my mom found out my bf and i have been having sex. Now she's giving the cnstant guilt trip. I mean, I'm sorry if I hurt her, but the ONLY reason I kept it from her to begin with is because OF this. So what do I do, HOw do I clear that acward feeling?
this topic is never going to be normal with any child and parent. it just isn't. time will help, things just need to blow over. let her have her space and you have yours. then when the air clear maybe try explaining that it's your decision to make, and you can't change it and why you didn't want to tell her in the first place. things will be rough for a little while, but they will get better. good luck-godbless.
for almost 16 years i pushed down my emotions because i just didnt learn how to deel with em like everyone else cuz while everyone else was away at skool dealin with all the drama and other stuff that you have to deal with at skool i was at home in my room 24/7 away from all human contact besides seein my parents for a few minutes when i went to eat. then they finally agreed to let me go away to skool at the age of 14 i was totally unprepared there was just too much drama goin on at one time that i just flooded with emotions about things that happened years ago and that were happenin there. i tried to learn to control my emeotions but it didnt work i was just not able to cope with em so i went back to the only way i knew how to deal with em and that was to push them deep down to were i was emotionally numb. ive been doin this for a year now and i just broke down again today i was crying and i was shakin and i was pissed and there was just so much emeotions going on threw my head i thought i was goin to die. i pushed them back down again but i know thers something wrong with me and i dont want to have to go through this anymore, is there any way i cna learn to cope with these emotions?
is there anyone that you can confide in? someone that you can talk to about your feelings and thoughts? ifso, try it. talking thru things makes them way easier to deal with. and keeping them bottled inside doesn't help.
if you don't have anyone to confide in then consider getting a journal/diar. just something to express your thoughts in. it's not childish. a lot of girls do this. or try asking for advice on here. it's what we are around for. :)
goodluck and stay strong.
So my best guy friend of two years, who is pretty much feminine in all he does... likes me. I know for a fact that 99% of the people who look at him thinks he's gay. I went to high school with him! I know he likes me because when I was on the phone with him, I put him on hold and pressed mute. Well with my phone, you could hear the person keep talking. He was talking to his mom about how he thought I didn't like him back and he got sad. I just dont know what to do! I dont like him like that, plus I'm waiting for him to come out of the closet. And even if he's not gay, I just dont like him that way. I kind of want to back off for a little bit but dont want to hurt his feelings? I keep telling him, and hinting to him A LOT that were "just friends" but hes obviously not getting it. Help?
he probably is getting the subtle signals he just wants to believe there is still hope for you two dating. let him know that you're into someone else, if you are. then he might back off. and explain to him that you just aren't into him like that and won't ever be. it sounds harsh- but there isn't a way to put it nicely. especially considering the fact that you already tried giving him signs.
goodluck!
Ok. I have liked my best friend for about 18 months. I had asked her out once and she said she wanted to stay friends. So i let it go. its been about a year since then and whenever we are together, we are either holding hands or hugging or whatever. We had gone on a school field trip and we were together the whole time and we were constantly holding hands or hugging as i mentioned and she gave me kisses on the cheek. She had even fallen asleep on me on the way back. I really don't know if we should stay best friends, or if she likes me and i should ask her out again. please help. any advice is appreciated.
let her know that you feel like she has been giving you mixed signals. that if she doesn't want to date you then why does she hold your hand-hug, and even kiss your cheek. she might be playing hard to get, or not want to settle for a relationship right now. or she could be scared, that you changed yyour mind about wanting to date her. maybe you should let her know your feelings haven't changed if they remain, and tell her how you feel about her. things will fall into place. good luck. :)
me and my boyfriend might make out tomorow. we never have before, and i need help! tips greatly appreciated!!!
brush your teeth before- i'm serious, making out can get gross if one partner has nasty breath. consider breath mints or mouthwash.
don't be so nervous, be calm and yourself, it's something new to you and it's fun. so relax.
:) good luck.