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I thought you were gay?
So my best guy friend of two years, who is pretty much feminine in all he does... likes me. I know for a fact that 99% of the people who look at him thinks he's gay. I went to high school with him! I know he likes me because when I was on the phone with him, I put him on hold and pressed mute. Well with my phone, you could hear the person keep talking. He was talking to his mom about how he thought I didn't like him back and he got sad. I just dont know what to do! I dont like him like that, plus I'm waiting for him to come out of the closet. And even if he's not gay, I just dont like him that way. I kind of want to back off for a little bit but dont want to hurt his feelings? I keep telling him, and hinting to him A LOT that were "just friends" but hes obviously not getting it. Help?
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Well, first off, you shouldn't assume a person's sexual orientation by how they act. Yah, the guy may be in touch with his feminine side, but that doesn't mean he's gay.
There are lots of folks in the world who seem like they would be gay but aren't, and lots of folks who seem like they aren't gay but are.
As for not liking him as more than a friend, you need to just be honest with him. No matter how you go about it, he's probably going to have hurt feelings.
Just tell him, "Look man, we are friends and that is how I like it. I don't want to go further with the relationship."
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he probably is getting the subtle signals he just wants to believe there is still hope for you two dating. let him know that you're into someone else, if you are. then he might back off. and explain to him that you just aren't into him like that and won't ever be. it sounds harsh- but there isn't a way to put it nicely. especially considering the fact that you already tried giving him signs.
goodluck!
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