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okay so this girl named jaslen is getting me mad she keeps on trying to steal my best friend erika & shes to nice that she goes along with it she cant say no. & they i got a pic comment from jaslen saying your to concieded i felt like screaming at her telling her that im not concieded im just prettier than herrrrr she cant get any guy! i wanted to scream and tell her the plain truth but i just wrote "no hun im not concieded trust me i would know / go get a life :)" & now im just waiting for a reply i dont mean to pick a fight with her but shes getting me madddddddd erika my best friend shes sleeping over her house again tonight and shes been selling me out a ton :/ can someone help me what do i do ?

You can't force anyone to be your friend nor can you force anyone not to be your friend. If Erika chooses to hang out with this girl, there is nthing you can do about that. If you are a good frined, don't ever defend that. Just be you, it is her loss if she chooses not to hang out with you.
Take the best part of you and move on to other friends. If Erika is your friend she will be there by your side.
Girls play one against the other, don't let yourself get wrapped up into that childish game. Be open and honest and never defend your actions if you feel you are in the right. And try not to put others down to make yourself look like the better person.
Believe me, rotten devious people ultimately end up with no friends.
Be strong and stand up for yourself.
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I have a clear/whiteish discharge and it comes out in clumps and like wet...and I can feel it and idk if this is normal or not. I need as much advice on this a s possible...thanks in advance, this a touchy subject for me.

Yes honey it is normal, but you can do something about it. Drink a lot of water and drink cranberry juice, 4 oz a day for about a week and it should decrease a lot. But keep drinking the water, 2 8oz glasses a day. It will disappear when you are in your late teens early twenties, assuming you are a teenager. If you are in your twenties then you should see a doctor because by that time it should have disapeared. It is your bodies way of cleansing itself and for the first five or six years of a mentral cycle the body is simply cleaning itself out. So your normal.
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whats the big deal about cutting i cutt and i have never had medical problems what can happen whats at risk

Cutting is a very big deal. It is not normal and I thnk you know this. I think you also know that cuting is your way of not dealing with something else. Putting aside the health risks for a moment, because others have told you this and you know the more you cut the more you want to keep cutting - so you may feel very safe right now in your cutting, feeling it is your own, feeling it is something you can control, but honey, you need to talk to someone who can help you to figure out why are are doing this to yourself. Pick one person, and let them help you. Because the longer this goes on the deeper you are going to cut and the pain will not go away, but believe me honey, you will end up in a hospital at some point, and I don't want that to happen. Find one person - just one!!! Take back the control you are so desparatly trying to find by cutting, take it back and you will be stronger and happier for it.
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(kind of long)i went out with a good friend of mine for about two months and he broke up with me because he said he felt that our relationship wasnt really going anywhere and it was kinda dead.in a way i kinda agree.its just that while i was with him he got on my nerves by the way he acted sometimes but we where really physical alot.like we were more intament then mental.i never kissed him or had sex with him but we would like touch each other like under the school tables.i know its retarted but it was fun.he was also like ubsest with my butt!lol!but i kinda liked it.well anyway we stayed friends but i keep getting these physical feelings about him.like i keep wanting to almost be friends with benifits because i felt so like sexually connected with him and i miss that.then again i feel like i would be a complete slut if i did that and im not that kinda girl.we still kind of flirt with each other and he like smacked me really hard on my butt and he evn liked grabed it when we were slightly play fighting.i wished i could have said something but i couldnt because i know inside that i liked it!im just really confused right now.he told me that hes still physically attracted to me but not mentally because i argued with him alot beacuse he got on my nerves sometimes.he said that when i wasnt arguing i hardley talked.i dont think that but he also said that we touched each other more then we talked.lol.hes a really good friend and really funny but i still am confused on my feelings anout him and its driving me crazy!!!!!can someone help me please!!!

This is the problem with having a sexual relationship with a friend - eventually you fall in love, and if you don't want to be around him and deal with all the other stuff lovers deal with, then it is not a good idea because that is what is going to ruin whatever the friendship is now.
It is nearly impossible to make love to someone and not build up felings for them. The only option is to shut down your feelings, and then all you are doing is having sex, and I don't think that is what you want. We all feel, that is why when we are with someone we love, we love every part of them, not just their bodies.
Chemitry is a funny thing, you should wait until you find both the chemistry and the love for who the person is before you have a sexual relationship.

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16/ f

me and my girlfriends went to a waterpark for me and my best friend's combined birthday party, and we met a group of guys there. the guys go to the highschool in the town next to us. me and one guy got especially close, we exchanged numbers and even kissed eachother on the cheek. we've called eachother a couple of times since we parted, and talked on facebook, but we havn't seen eachother.

i casually mentioned to my parents that we met a group of guys that we might hang out with again, and i even told my mom that my friends all think i should date one guy in particular. i didn't tell them that we kissed.

the problem is, ill be getting my licence soon, (he already has his,) but i know my parents aren't going to let me drive over to his town (especially alone, as a new driver, in a strange town). or with anybody for that matter! i could lie and go over there when i said i went somwhere else, or i could invite him over to my house, but his parents might say the same thing to him. how are we ever going to see eachother again? how can i ask my parents to let me drive over there, when i know they'll say no? (if i ask them and they say no, they'll be suspicious always that im going over there, im afraid) if we could possibly start dating, should I even tell my parents? what should i do? HELP!

Don't start your drving years off with a lie. Be honest with your parents and start by inviting him to your house, even if he has to be driven by a parent. Spend an afternoon with him at your house, around your folks. Trust in them and let them trust in you. Give it time. You can still date him, you just have to make special arrangements for awhile until your folks and his have confidence in you guys and your driving.
Whatever you do, don't lie, you never know what can happen when you are out, and when you get caught in the lie, cause you know eventually you will, you may never drive again....

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My question,

Everyone at work knows that our boss who is married is dating someone at work, when the gossip started he call everyone in to his office and told them if the gossip continued he would give everyone a 3 day lay off or some would lose their job..Can he do this if the gossip is true?
by-the way his wife also works @ the same place...

Thank you,
Babyblue2323

No boss in any state can legally lay off any employee for gossip....ever! That is the law. Office politics happen in every office throughout the world. If every boss laid off every employee who gossiped, no-one would be going to work tomorrow.
Relax about that, and try not to get involved in that kind of petty stuff.
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My friend just came out to me that she's bi and that she like likes me... I like her too, like that but both of us are still really confused and need advice. Thanks to you all in advance!

Being your friends lover could work out, but you need to make sure you are totally honest with eachother. Being with another woman can be very special and it also can lead to a love that neither of you may want. So if you wnat to be together - I say go for it, as long as you keep talking...and know, it is not always so easy to go back to just being friends - you will always have a special bond. Always acknowledge that and you should be fine.

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16/f

i can't stand my boyfriend anymore, we've only been dating a couple months and he is always telling me how much in love he is and how he never loved somebody as much as he loves me. he made me meet his entire family, church members, friends, etc. and always tricks me into going to his grandma's house so i can become "friends" with his grandparents. and for christmas he got me a bracelet that has an engraving of "i Love you more than anything"... i just got him a blanket? again, we've only been dating about a month and a half!!! This is moving WAY too fast for me and i told him that he just got mad and ignored me.

second thing, we never do ANYTHING physical,not even a peck on the cheek. I don't really find him attractive but i didn't think that was an issue because i loved his personality, but it makes it difficult to be physical and im growing tired of his dirty jokes. He is so awkward about everything, he has to announce when he is going to put his arm around me or try to kiss me it makes me really turned off.

i want to break up so badly, because im really tired of all this, but the thing is he gets so moody about things. Before when i tried to break up with him he said "this isn't going to happen again." and it really freaked me out. Now i have his entire family, friends, and church members breathing down my neck if i want to break up with him he's going to make it so chaotic!

i guess my question is, how can i break up with him in a way that i can make him feel good about it, or at least not make him upset?
what should i say?

You are just starting what I hope for you will be a future of many different types of guys in your life and you ned to always be honest. Speak from your heart. You are not what he is looking for. You cannot be what he wants you to be for him and he deserves someone who will love him for him and love him as much as he loves her. You are that girl. It is time to move on before you both get so angry that you begin to truly hate eachother, because he will hate you if you stay with him, because you will soon get into the more physical and emotional part of a relatinship that comes naturally, and as you said, you are not physically attracted to him. We do need that attraction in our relationships, it is not the only part of a relationship, but it is a part. So honey, speak from your heart and know he will be hurt no matter what you say, but he will move on, and so will you.
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i met this guy in italy, and i think im falling in love with him. im 13 now, and hes 17, and he said that he likes me and that he wants to have kids with me and wants to marry me and stay with me....but today, i got on the subject of us meeting...and he said that it was almost impossible....so....he loves me, but its " impossible for us to meet"???? i mean, what the hell?! is this just some kind of guy thing that i dont understand or what? because he says that it is impossible, and that it wouldnt be easy. i mean....how hard can it be? all one of us has to do is just buy a plane ticket, and fly over....i dont understand. i really love him alot. and he says he does with me too. but...maybe he dosent...because hes always talking about his ex girlfriend, but he says hes not in love with her...i mean, hes not constantly talking about her, but its like, ill send him a message, and it will sometimes take him a while to reply and then he will say " sorry, i was talking on the phone with my ex "....but now, im starting to think that its her problem that hes always talking to her cause shes still in love with him...but really....i dont even know what the hell im asking....i just need someone to help me. sorry this is long.

-shelby/13/f

You are hearing a lot about age, so lets look at it another way - you are falling in love with a man that you either have spent very little time with or have not physically met yet - so what is this love you feel? It is totally impossible to fall in love with anyone until you spend time with them. Hours, days, months - getting to know the other person. Getting to know how they deal with the every day life activities. It is very easy to sit at a computer and write thoghts, but actions are what we fall in love with.
Give yourself time to experience all that life has to offer. Date, fight, cry, laugh, do! And you will find the true meaning of love in time.
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