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" impossible"???
i met this guy in italy, and i think im falling in love with him. im 13 now, and hes 17, and he said that he likes me and that he wants to have kids with me and wants to marry me and stay with me....but today, i got on the subject of us meeting...and he said that it was almost impossible....so....he loves me, but its " impossible for us to meet"???? i mean, what the hell?! is this just some kind of guy thing that i dont understand or what? because he says that it is impossible, and that it wouldnt be easy. i mean....how hard can it be? all one of us has to do is just buy a plane ticket, and fly over....i dont understand. i really love him alot. and he says he does with me too. but...maybe he dosent...because hes always talking about his ex girlfriend, but he says hes not in love with her...i mean, hes not constantly talking about her, but its like, ill send him a message, and it will sometimes take him a while to reply and then he will say " sorry, i was talking on the phone with my ex "....but now, im starting to think that its her problem that hes always talking to her cause shes still in love with him...but really....i dont even know what the hell im asking....i just need someone to help me. sorry this is long.
-shelby/13/f
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You are hearing a lot about age, so lets look at it another way - you are falling in love with a man that you either have spent very little time with or have not physically met yet - so what is this love you feel? It is totally impossible to fall in love with anyone until you spend time with them. Hours, days, months - getting to know the other person. Getting to know how they deal with the every day life activities. It is very easy to sit at a computer and write thoghts, but actions are what we fall in love with.
Give yourself time to experience all that life has to offer. Date, fight, cry, laugh, do! And you will find the true meaning of love in time.
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Shelby, I don't want it to seem like I'm lecturing you, but messing with guys who are that much older than you, besides the fact that he lives in Italy, is highly unsafe. You have no idea of what this guy might have in store for you. Please, please, PLEASE do not convince him to fly over, or don't get a ticket to fly over to Italy yourself. You need to realize that it is way too early to be talking about having kids with him and marrying him, you are only THIRTEEN. Please be aware that your safety might be in danger if you try to pursue it; you might end up taking it too far.
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Well I don't want to sound mean so don't take anything I say the wrong was. First off he's 17 & lives in italy and you never met him, have you ever thought about the consequences of even meeting him, not trying to scare you but he could be a pedifile he could be lying about his age..he could even be a sex offender for all you no maybe that's why he can't meet you because he knows he going to get in trouble if he gets caught. I don't think you can be in love with him I think you should stop talking to him because he's proably playing you I no its hard to do but your going to have to and what will your parents say if you tell them you want to go to italy to meet a 17 year old . You could seriously get hurt. Its better you heart gets broken for a few days by not talking to him then meeting him and getting physcially abused. Hope I help & sorry I'm just trying to help you and keep things safe.
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okay wait! hold up! did you meet this guy in italy exactly or over the internet..?? if you met him over the internet dont even waste your time...just leave it alone and dont bring it back...but if you met him in italy and you are sure it is completely safe, then maybe go for it..he is probably just saying it could probably never happen because your guys' parents wouldnt let you go and neither of you had the money to buy a ticket...or maybe he is just trying to think of whats in your best intrest?? and tell him how you feel about his ex..just tell him what you told this website...but be calm about it...
xoxo
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