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I dont think it was such a good idea..
Me 13/female Guy 15/male
Lets just call this guy billy
Okay so today i gave my boyfriend a blowjob. first of all ive never even given him a handjob, we just kinda skipped that. im only 13, and i amm kinda worried i shouldnt have done that, am i too young?
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I have to say, I have a little sister your age, and I would be personally mortified if she were in your predicament..... but I do think that in asking this question, you already know the answer.
However, because you made this first step on the 'road to adulthood', there are some things that you need to understand.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) CAN be transmitted through oral sex. You say that he is your first boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that you are his first girlfriend, or his first sexual encounter.
You must be safe in all of the decisions that you make regarding sex.
If you are feeling guilty about your choice to make this move with your boyfriend, than it might be best to tell him that it was a mistake to move that fast and that you aren't ready to do it again. tell him that maybe one day, you will be ready, and that if he really loves you, he will wait for that time, and not ask or pressure you into doing it again until then.
Good luck sweetie,
and don't force yourself to grow up too quick, you will have plenty of time for that later.
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Well I wouldn't really comment on you being too young, mostly the fact that he's two years older.
When you say it like that, two years isn't much, but I remember when I was 13 (I'm 15 now) everyone thought that if a younger girl was doing something with a guy that's older, then he would be considered as a pedophile.
Just remember that you are young, and he can convince you to do more things to him after he's seen that you're capable of giving him a blowjob.
Just be careful.
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about the other thing you asked me , i think that as long as you feel mature enough to not just to do it , but to accept the possible consecuences, for example im 18 now and I had the oportunity to do it before when i thought I was so in love with my boyfriend. then it didn't last and we broke up and I think about how much I would regreat it , but everyones different , i think that as long as your sure enough you love him enough to take the risk. then ok go ahead. cause you have to be concious that theres no 100% protection agains pregnancy, i suggest that you wait a little longer, in my opinion a year would be good i mean that you've been together for a year , or six months .cause that way you'll be sure your doing this cause your in love, and not just becaause you think your in love but in fact it might be infatuation (because you've dated maybe a short period of time like 1 month 2 ..)also you both have to be concious that you can get pregnant (one of my bff always use protection and sometimes couples are trapped into sex, like they do it so often and become very posesive)(have you heard about the fact that sex can change a realtionship, well its because of that ) anyway she got pregnant but shes now 18 and is going to have her baby and just take a brake from school, so take this into consideration...
im not going to tell you that go and tell your parents about what your intending to do,cause some parents will say sometihng like your not in love dont do it or religion whatever, it depends on your relationship with your parents, if you have a good relationship with them, you might wanna try to tell them, not like asking permision or anything just saying that your aware of the consecuences and you both have talked about it and good with it )of course they might say that your too young , cause personally i think you are, but i dont think that what i say will make you change your mind and i'm not trying to , I just wouldn't want you to regreat something in the future :) just give it a second though and yes if they found out , theres no other way than telling your parents that you've been safe about it and that he didn't force you (cause parents usually think that the guy influences the ggirl, when in fact she wanted to do it also) this way they wont be like angry or feeling unconfortable about your boyfriend although it might be at the beggining . just be safe and give it a second thought and get as much infromation as you can about protection cause at 13 you might think you know everytihng and sometimes you realize you didn't . my suggestion is to go to a ginecologist and ask for the pill (becuase of the fact that its better than condom agains pregnancy)but also you HAVE to consider that you have to be informed about what can happen if you take it , cause I've known that in the long term it can cause problems for people who want to get pregnant when they are older, im not pretty sure about the consequences if someone of your age use it ..think about it :) if you need anything else feel free to ask =)
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Well, yeah, I'd say you're kind of young, but the fact is you've done it and you can't change that. If you still feel really uncomfortable about it, just let him know how you feel. Tell him that you're glad you made him feel good, but that you felt pretty weird about doing it and that you'd rather not do it again. You could even say that you might do it again sometime in the future, but for now you'd rather just stick with doing some other stuff.
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