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ok i have chronis depression and anxiety...and my bf doesnt know how to handle me...honestly all he would have to say is calm daow,dont worry, or tell me what hes doing and ill b fine...but he runs...and weve been together for almost a yr and he loves me to death when were with each other we have a blast n hes sweet lke yesterday we went to the taste of chicago and he was all over me and holding me and i fell asleep in his arms and he ran his hands along my cheek and kissed my forehead...i kno he loves me...recently he lost his lisence and kindof just wants to b with friends and try to get his life back...hes not shutting me out at all we still hang out we just talk less..thats when the anxiety comes in when i start to worry about nething i call him so he will reassure me and calm me down but lately he wont answer and ill keep calling...i know this is my fault its just i dont know how to calm myself down and stop worring about what he is doin..

helpppp!

What exactly are you worried about? You just need to trust him and give him some space, he probably doesn't think you trust him. Just remember that he loves you and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. And talk to him and tell him how you feel. It sounds like he really loves you, I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. I wish you the best of luck with your relationship.

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so i heard that lemon juice + a blowdryer = highlights... but i thought it was the light from the sun that highlighted your hair, not the heat? so would a blowdryer work?

A blowdryer won't work, only the sun.

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alright so me and this guy we'll say his name is "josh" were going out for about 8 months and i really loved him a lot and right before school started he broke up with me and i was like in shock because it was so random that he broke up with me and after everything he's said to me about how much he loved me and he got over it pretty quick and it took me like over 6 six months to get over him and he was going out with all these girls and he barley even talked to me anymore then i finally said yes to going out with this guy "peter" and "josh" got really jealous and broke up with his girlfriend and he keeps calling me now and saying how wrong he was for braking up with me and how much he wants me back and i really like "peter" a lot but "josh" is trying to get me to brake up with "peter" and i dont know what to do, i tried telling him it was over between us but he hes a really good sweet talker and i just said i have to think about it but i dont want to brake up with "peter" so what should i say to "josh" so he'll leave me and "peter" alone? like i dont want to be mean and be like fuck off but i dont want him to keep calling and trying to brake us up..

You should talk to him in person and make sure he understands that under no circumstances you would want to get back together with him. Tell him you're happy with "Peter" and that you would appreciate if he left you alone. If he doesn't, then just ignore him, sooner or later he'll get the picture and leave you alone.

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if you had sex in a hot tub and there was a high level of chlorine in the hot tub but you're boyfriend cummed inside of you could you still get pregnant or is the chlorine still affective inside of you?

The sperm was probably killed, although there is a possibility you could be pregnant. You might want to consider using birth control.

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i am going on a date this weekend...and mi mom just comes up 2 me and sas i haveta babysit mi baby sister...and so....im not alound too go out with the HOTTEST GUY since ORLANDO BLOOM?...should i set mi mom straight.... and tell her im not going too babysit!!!... or "not"... go on the date??????
signed,
~i need help?~

First you should learn how to spell. Your writing is hard to understand.

Even though you may like this guy, your family should come first. If your mom really needs you to babysit your sister then you should. Trying to "set her straight" might just start an fight. You can always reschedule your date. I'm sure he'll understand if you explain to him why you can't make it.

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I was thinking today about how amazing it would be to be a ballerina..i've always admired how graceful and hardworking they are..i'm a very clumsy person but I know it's possible to become graceful and I'm passionate about music and dancing freely and feeling the music but I've never been enrolled in dance classes or anything like that before and my question is..what exactly is it like being a ballerina? is ballet worth all the time and effort? basically I just wanna know about it from anyone who has done it or knows somebody who has done it. thank you!

I was in ballet. When I was in gymnastics the coaches made us take ballet. It was fun, but I found myself getting very bored after a while. It's up to the person I guess, people like different things. Some people are really passionate about ballet, I know some people who live for ballet and dancing. But if you do decide to take ballet and you stick with it, it becomes pretty time consuming. You might miss out on a lot of great things, especially at your age. Because you'll have practice, compititions, dress rehearsals... Also most of the great ballerina's started ballet at a very young age. If you want to start ballet, go for it, but you might be in a beginners class with four and five year olds.

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Does anyone know of any bands that are like them?Any Gothic Rock bands from the 80s-early 90s would be great.

Ignore the person below me. I honestly think that if you don't have an answer to the question, then you shouldn't answer it at all.

I did a search, and came up with:

Bauhaus, The Cramps and Ministry.

That's according to Rhapsody.

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Where can I get a GOOD laptop for $200 or less? I'm on a budget but I'd like a good quality laptop. Thank You.

You most likely won't find a good laptop for under $200. You can watch the papers for sales though. Or check the internet.

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16f 5'3 and around 125 lbs-
is that over wieght?
yeah i know im huge! and i really want to lose wieght the healthy way ive been anorexic and belumic and it sucked so
:how uch weight to can i lose a week to stay healthy
:what exersises(SP) can i do in the pool to help me lose weight in my stmoach and legs besides doing laps
:ive been doing a lot of yoga and i was wondering dose that hep you lose wieght becuse if not i think ill switch to pilates
:could i lose 10-15lbs by the end of july becuse thats when im going on vacation
:and any tips for staying healthy while on vacation
thanks

You're not overweight, you're actually at the weight you should be for your age and height.

But if you really want to lose weight...

The healthy amount of weight you can lose in a week is two to three pounds.

Any type of swimming is a good way to lose weight, and yoga does actually help you lose weight too. Read the link below:

http://www.mayayoga.com/lose-weight.html

It can be hard to not gain weight on vacation. While on vacation most people gain around a pound a day.

If you're staying somewhere that has a gym than try to exercise every day, and watch your calories. Try to stay under 1,200 Calories a day, and drink lots of water.

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=56683

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ok well i had sex one week and a day ago and well i have felt sick ever since and i don't think i would beable to see signs of pregnancy yet so i don't think thats it

You actually could be pregnant, if you didn't use protection. You could be showing early signs of pregnancy. Or it could be nothing related to you having sex. It could just be some bug. Go see your doctor if you continue to feel bad and try looking up your symptoms online.

Here are the early signs of pregnancy:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102

Hope you feel better.

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15 f
ok so my summer so far is boring. i am just so bored. i really want to go to a summer camp here in newyork. not an expensive one and if its free even better! im on a budget right now and im not babysitting for the extra money anymore. so my question is where can i get websites for camps in newyork. if you can please give me the link of a website or like clubs in newyork just to keep me entertained over the summer. i like ACTING, singing, sports, and arts and stuff like that. but the camp has to have acting. please help me! thnaks alott. if it helps i rate.

Try looking at these. I don't really know what you're into, but you might find something you like. Next time try using google.

http://www.camppage.com/newyork.htm

http://www.henrystreet.org/site/News2?page=NewsArticle&id=9396

http://www.summeroncampus.com/

http://www.summeroncampus.com/main/LocationList.asp

http://www.mysummercamps.com/camps/new-york-summer-camps.html

http://www.aca-ny.org/

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I like this song but I dont know the name of it. Its like a guy and a girl break up and its like a message on an answering machine and it likes tells where he is and on what day and then hes like oh and if this is (the girl) i still love you..or something liek that...i've only heard it once! but if anyone knows what the name of it is or who its by i would really appreciate it!
thanks so much!!

It might be Last Night by Diddy, featuring Keyshia Cole.

Check it out:

http://www.metrolyrics.com/lyrics/2147435945/Diddy/Last_Night

You didn't really give me much to go by.

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I know cartlige piercings take around 8 weeks to fully heal.
But does anyone know if chlorine water or salt water will do damage to the healing process?

I got my first cartilage piercing in the summer, and I went swimming all the time. It won't affect the healing process at all.

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First of all, I am Gina and im almost 15 years old. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 months. He lives 60 miles away from me. I am a girl and i am straight. I want to tell my mom that i had sex with him, but she would flip. I know that i shouldnt lie to her, but i want to see him again. How can i tell her that i did?
PLEASE help....

Read this. This girl was in the exact same situation as you, and I couldn't have answered the question better myself.

http://www.ym.com/jsp/privatelife/hearttoheart/sep3002.jsp

Good Luck.

-Jasmine

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ok well i think im in love with two guys and one of them lives in a dif country!!! But he is really sweet and I like him alot and then the other lives not to far way but im not sure if hes still interested in me because everytime he says he wants to hang out he always seems to make exscuses later to not go.And yesterday the guy in Australia asked for a nude pic of me!!! so yeah i feel very confused

First off, what do you think he's going to do with that picture? Think about it. Besides, what are the chances of you two ever being able to be together, he lives in Australia. And the whole long distance thing is really hard, not to mention that you don't even really know him. Have you even met him? You might think you love him, but how how can you really love someone that you've never met? No offense.

On the other hand, you have a guy who most likely likes you in the same country, right by you. If I were you, I would go for him. Let him know that you actually care for him. You don't have to say it straight out, just talk to him, and make plans to hang out together. Don't rush into a relationship. Become friends first, and take the relationship from there. And if he keeps canceling on you, then confront him and find out what's going on.

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How do you make out

Here, try these websites:

http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/kiss.htm

http://www.wikihow.com/French-Kiss

http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm

They'll probably help, if you want step by step instructions. But just relax, things will most likely fall into place. Just go with the flow, you'll know what to do.

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What does it mean when someone asks " did you guys bone yet?" thanks

They're asking if you've had sex yet.

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Um if you never went to gymnastics before, can you still join even though you're thirteen or older?

I wanted to join gymnastics so just get a little flexible when I was little but we had no money and now when I excercise and try to kick up the highest i can get is a kindergarden's height even though i'm skinny.

You can, but if you did you would be put in the lowest level with the four and five year olds. I started gymnastics when I was five, I wouldn't recomend starting at thirteen.

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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and I thought it was what I really wanted to do. But now today I missed him sooo much and I wanted to get back together with him. This was my first realy boyfriend. Will the feeling pass? What should I do to get rid of it?

If you break up with someone then you shouldn't be having any doubts that you shouldn't have. If you're that depressed about breaking up with him then maybe you shouldn't have. Maybe you should get back together with him, because there is nothing you can really do to get rid of the feeling you're experiencing. If you really didn't want to be with him anymore then you wouldn't be feeling like this.

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This is a question for teenage girls. My daughter and I have always been very close. She's always been very open with me and willing to share things about school, friends, boys, etc. Now that she's 13, though, things have changed some. Sometimes I can tell she's upset about something, but when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't want to talk about it. I realize this is normal, that she wants some privacy and doesn't need her mom butting in on everything. But I also know it sometimes helps to talk about things instead of keeping them inside. I want her to know that I'm here for her and that she can tell me anything. Should I keep trying to get her to talk, or should I just leave her alone and hope she'll open up if she needs me?

When she was younger the things she talked to you about probably weren't as complicated or as serious. Your daughter probably feels as if she can't talk to you anymore because things in her life have changed and she doesn't think you'll understand what she's going through.

I know that if I told my mom half the stuff going on in my life then she wouldn't understand. Either that or she would just laugh it off and not think I was serious, she wouldn't accept it or believe me.

Let your daughter know that even though you may not understand exactly what she's going through, that you're always there if she needs you. Don't push her though, if she feels like she has to talk to you, then she won't.

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