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Break up
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and I thought it was what I really wanted to do. But now today I missed him sooo much and I wanted to get back together with him. This was my first realy boyfriend. Will the feeling pass? What should I do to get rid of it?
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Don't think about how much you miss him (I'm sure it's hard but try your best), think instead about why you broke up with him and whether you really want to be with him or you are just worried about how he feels or fearing your own loneliness and/or the feeling of 'starting from scratch'.
There is nothing wrong with caring about someone that you love/use to love, but running back to the familiar isn't the way to do it, especially if that's not what you want. Trust me, if the guy loved you too he's probably hurt right now and the last thing he needs is to be hurt more by you going back to him only to do it again.
If you think you've made a mistake take the time to make sure that you have before you jump to that conclusion. Also, taking the time to question this gives him time to question it himself. (The last thing you need is to decide you want him back only to have him later decide that he doesn’t feel the way he though he did about you anymore.)
No matter what you should take some time apart; hang out with friends, maybe even see new people, but make sure to give some of that time to yourself to decide what 'you want'. Only then can you decide whether you should get back together with him or not, based on whether you believe you can have what you want with him or not, which sounds like you can't, since you made the decision to break up with him, which I'm sorry to hear especially since it's sounds like you really loved him, but it happens. Regardless, it’s best you both take some time apart no matter what you decide.
"I restore myself when I'm alone."
-Marilyn Monroe
Like I said before, make some time for yourself and don't feel pressured to be with someone else (if you don’t feel ready) and if you want to be with someone else, make sure you're happy with yourself first before you dive in. Family, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends can all help you be happy, but only you can make yourself happy. Don't believe that someone new will make you happy, but feel free to believe you can be happy with someone else and don't get the two confused with each other.
Best of luck to you.
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Well, I just want to let you know that this is all perfectly normal. You're going to feel like this, but the only thing that can real heal the, "pain" is time. What you should do is try to be friends with him, but start hanging out with your girl friends now. Try flirting with some boys, but just in a friendly way to keep your mind off of him. Maybe try a new sport out, or find something to do that interests you.
Good luck.
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If you break up with someone then you shouldn't be having any doubts that you shouldn't have. If you're that depressed about breaking up with him then maybe you shouldn't have. Maybe you should get back together with him, because there is nothing you can really do to get rid of the feeling you're experiencing. If you really didn't want to be with him anymore then you wouldn't be feeling like this.
::Jasmine::
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