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Hey, i'm 15 and a junior in high school. soo.. my problem is that i like this guy which i have for the past two years. i know he likes me to, the only thing is that his parents are was strict and wont let him date. Also i am old than him..by less than a year but i am in two grades higher just because thats how it worked out. he said his parents wont let him date till he's 18 well that wont be till i'm about a sophomore in college. but i really do like him and sometimes i try to tell myself its not worth it. he's my best friends cousin, and i've never told her i liked him even though i really do. i'm not sure whether i should give up on him and try to find a way to like someone else, or just wait it out. also do you think i should tell my friend? i'm scared it'll be wierd. okay any advice greatly appreciated!

Hey! Aww.. well, I think you should tell your friend you do like him because what if she finds out by someone else that you like him. It would just sound better coming from you than someone else. Just sit her down and just tell her the truth, just be like "Well, you're my best friend and you know how I've met your cousin before right? Well, I know he's not aloud to date until he's 18, but I just wanted to tell you before anyone else did, but I like him..." Just say something like that and that you dont' want things weird between you two, you just wanted to tell her before someone else did and it just felt right telling her. But, as for the guy, you should try talking to him and seeing what you should do. Just be like "Well, I know your parents are strict and you know I like you, but I would have to wait til you're 18 and I'll be a sophomore in college when you turn 18. Should I just wait until then? Or should I go out with other people and just have fun and then when you turn 18, we can date? I mean what do you want us to do?" Just say something like that so you do know what to do. But, maybe you should just wait til you two are 18 and he can date without sneaking around and stuff. But, just talk to him about it and see what you two should do. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok my friend was talking to me online and she kept saying that she hated her life and wated to kiss herself and she said that she wanted to cut herself again and that she was fat and stuff and i dont know what to do and im scared for her!

You need to talk to your friend and try to talk her out of it. Just be like "I know people have problems in there lives, but I can try to help you through them if you want. If you ever need to talk, you know I'm here for you. I mean I know it can be tough sometimes, but killing yourself won't solve it, either will cutting yourself. And if you feel like you want to, you should try putting a rubberband around your wrist and snap it each time you feel like cutting yourself. And I mean everyone has a purpose for living on this earth, you're unique in your very own way. You may not think that, but you are. So many people care and love you and wouldn't want you gone. And you're not fat at all. I like you just the way you are..." Just say something like that and just try to make her feel better. Like tell her what you like about her. Tell her stuff like that. I hope his helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I made my boyfriend cry today. I am such a bad person. What do I do?

You should meet up somewhere and talk about it and just appoligize for everything. Just be like "I'm really sorry I made you cry, I didn't mean to, I don't know what you want me to say for you to believe me. But, you mean a lot to me, I'm sorry if I hurt you... please just forgive me.." Just say something like that and just be sweet (but actually mean it) and just make him feel better. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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idk wat to do..my ex..im in LOVE with him..he just got a gf..and i tri to liike hide it..i tell ppl i liike all these ppl in my grade so they wont think i still like him..but we went out from march-july..i see him in the hallways and stuff.annd he always stares at me..wen i dont see him..well thats what my frd tells me..and idk why im not over him yet..i mean..i liked him since octoberish...and we used to be SUCH good friends..like he was my best friend in the world..now we dotn even talk..idk what to do..plz help mee :-/

Try talking to him and being his friend, until him and his girlfriend break up then tell him how you feel because you don't want to get into there relationship. Just be like "What happened to us? I mean I know we went out for a long time but before that we were such good friends and now we don't even talk, like we pass each other in the hallway and we don't say a word to either one of us. I want that to change, I want us to start talking again." Just say something like that and how you feel. You can call him up, say it face-to-face, on AIM/AOL, or write him a letter/e-mail. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Look i really appreciate this advice so thanks..i know how annoying this can be so.. hehe .. now here it is .. we have been going on and off since jan..its was really complicated.. on august we were datin again offically (i mean i had dinner with his family) ..but it was great at 1st but after a while we werent on the same page.. my parents were going through a divorce, we were going to move out of the country, etc (lots of more imp things) and he was going through some other things himself so just before i went for vacation (out of the country) i broke things off.. now i have 2 months back home and i love him .. i think ...god ... i think he is still mad at me cus i broke up with him AGAIN.. but i really do care a lot about him .. whta should i do? what would u do ?? thanks u have no idea how much this mean to me...

I think you should tell him what you just told us, tell him how you feel. Just be like "I know we went on and off on the dating thing for awhile and then we finally went back out and everything was going great for us and then problems came along for both of us, my parents were getting divorce and wanted to move out of the country, and thats why I broke up with you because I knew it would be hard if we were still together and I moved. I still care a lot about you and I do still love you..." Just say something like that and how you feel and why you broke things off the second time and stuff. So he understands. Tell him your feelings and ask him how he feels about you and everything. I hope this helps and good luck hun tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I was just wonderin, what are some obvious hints or nost popular hints that a guy likes you?

Every guy is different when it comes to them liking the girls. Some thinks it's cute to be mean to them lol, know clue why lol and some are really sweet. Like he'll say sweet things to you, always smile, stare at you, touchy with you, always want to be around you (like want to be partners with you if you need a group thing in class), things like that. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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MY PARENTS WANT ME TO GO TO COLLEGE FOR SOMETHING I DONT WANT TO GO FOR. I DONT WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE AT ALL IN FACT. I WANT TO GO TO TECH. FOR WELL DRILLING OR PLUMBING. OR EVEN MECHANICS. THEY ARE TRYING TO MAKE ME GO. THEY WANT ME TOBE A PRO. SOFTABLL PLAYER ON A SCOLORSHIP. SERIOUSLY I DONT WANT TO BE THAT. WHAT DO I DO?
PLEASE HELP ME!

CHRISTINE

Tell them what you just told me. That, that is not what you want to do, you want to go to school for drilling or plumbing. Just sit them down and tell them the truth and how you feel. Just be like "I know you want me to go to college, but the thing you want me to be is something I don't want to be, actually I don't even want to go to college. I want to go to tech for drilling or either plumbing or mechanics. But, what you want me to do is something I don't want to do at all, I don't want to be forced into doing something I won't enjoy, I wish you guys would just accept what I want to do..." Just say something like that and how you feel about this whole situation and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i broke up with this guy about... 10 months ago. i really liked him, and it still kind of hurts. he just got a new g/f and i feel... badly. i wish that it was me again that he was talking to. i know i deserve better than him (he practically ignored me the last two or three months of our relationship) but i feel horibble. anything i can do to stop feeling this way?

I know that feeling! And it sucks, I know. But, you just need to remind yourself of how badly your boyfriend was, remind yourself the bad things he did to you (like how he ignored you for awhile), how you guys broke up, etc. Don't try to remember any of the good stuff because that'll make you want him again. But, you need to start liking other guys too, check out guys now, and don't compare them to your ex boyfriend because that won't get you anywhere. Just go live your life and have fun. That's what your ex boyfriend is doing, since he has a girfriend. If he can't see how great of a girl you are, thats his fault and you deserve a great guy. Just meet new people at like the mall, parties, school, etc. Just go out and have fun! I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i cant find any eyeliner that will stay on after 3rd period!! can anyone tell me any brands or how to make what ive got stay on?

NYC works pretty good for me. They're not that expensive either! You should try it =D

xoxo Kourtney

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well theres this boy i liked scence last year and i told him straight up and know hes been flirting and punching me in my arm like i use to did when i liked him hes probbly returning the favor but i catch him looking juss staring at me and he always says somthing to me like last year he was all flirting with me and he was like he gonna miss me and he wanted a hug and a pic of me but i was mad at him b/c he waisted my last picture on the floor and i wanted a pic of me and him only :) so i juss gave him a hug before we left for summer then i was mad b/c i didnt give him a real hug and i didnt see em on the last day :(( does he like me or what

Aww.. he might like you. But, every guy is different on how they give the girl the hint that they like them. But, it seems like he does like you. He's asking you for a hug and a picture and stuff. Usually when a guy likes you, he's mean to you (since you said he was mean to you for awhile) and now he's making it up to you and being nice (since he might like you). Next time you see him, give him a real hug. Just go for it, tell him you like him. Get to know him again or whatever. I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok theres this guy that's really cute and i'm cool with him but sometimes he just looks at me really hard and smiles and i smile back at him when he does that. Do you think he likes me.

It seems to me that he does like you. You should go for it and go up to him next time you two smile at each other or something. Just be like "Hey, whats your name?" And then just go from there. See if he has the internet and you two could talk on there and "get to know each other" lol. Just go for it, he seems like he likes you if he's always starring and smiling at you. He's probably just too shy to say anything to you. So, you should help him out and go for it! I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i need a homecoming date and all these girls wanna go with me but i dont no who to take. i like them all but none more then the other. i dont wanna make ne of them feel bad. wuts a good way to pick the right one?

You could take the one that asked you first or you could take the one that you know you would have more fun with and you could talk to more. I mean don't take the girl that is the hottest one, take the one you will have fun with. Or, you could just go single and then when you get there, you can dance with all of them since they all want to go with you. Try doing pro's and con's for each girl and go from there. I hope this helps and good luck deciding. If you need help still deciding, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay well i really need a guy in my life... someone who is there for me and can help me with my problems... because it seems like all my friends are like blocking me or something it just isn't fair.. :-/ i want a sweet guy who knows how to confert a girl... does anyone know that feeling??

AHH!! Yes, I know that feeling. Like, I don't care that people come to me (as you can tell by the site lol) but I feel so bad going to people and telling them my problems. But, having a boyfriend just seems so perfect because you know they'll be there for you know matter what. But, I think everyone knows that feeling and wishes sometimes they had that guy that you're talking about. I mean I have a boyfriend like that now, but before I knew exactly what you were talking about. But, just don't try to look so hard (not saying you are) for a boyfriend, he'll come to you surprisingly. Just go out and have fun and you'll meet him (the mall, parties, school, etc.). But, as for your friends, since you're saying they're not really there for you, they're blocking you out. Try going to one of us advicenators or a close family member if you need someone to talk to. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I always feel left out and out of place and I always wonder what life would be like without me. I know I have friends who love me but I always end up thinking what would happen if i died... would it make a big difference? I especially wonder what my ex-boy friend would say ... I just want to feel needed, someone who will love me back ... some how when i have a boy friend or someone close to me i feel like i have a purpose ... is that normal ... to want to be needed?

Yes, I've felt like that before. Like all you do is try to make everyone so happy but yet you just feel like you dissappoint people and you just want to be loved back. You don't want to be alone anymore. And you want to know who would really care if you were gone. Yea, I've felt like that. I went through a hard break up and it took me so long to just finally move on. I was giving up on trying to find love, I didn't believe in it anymore, but yet you saw me smiling but inside I was practically dieing. So, I know how you feel. But, you'll get through it. You might just be going through a phase right now. I got through it. Try talking to friends, family members, or one of us advicenators about it. They'll help you through it. Even if you need to complain, someone will be there for you. You'll get through it. I mean, even if it feels like you don't have a purpose to be here on earth, there really is, you just have to find it. You're unique in your very own way. And someone you don't even know loves you. You just can't give up, you have to be positive and live your life. After all you only live life once.. right? So, I want you to look at this:

*Always remember these*
1.) at least 5 people in the world love you so much that they would die for you
2.) at least 15 people in the world love you the same way
3.) the only reason someone would ever hate you is because they wanna be you
4.) a smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they dont like you
5.) every night someone thinks about you before they go to bed
6.) you mean the world to someone
7.) without you someone may be living
8.) you are special and unique in your own loving way
9.) someone you dont even know exists loves you
10.) always tell someone how you feel then they'll know

So, I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I really like this guy... lets call him M. Well M is SO incredibly nice, and hes cute and funny too! We're good friends, so he's usually easy to talk to. I wanna talk to him, about being more than friends though, because I really like him... Well, everytime I go to talk to him, I can't. I guess he intimidates me because he's so GREAT. How do I approach him without seeming nervous or unconfident?

Try talking to him on the internet or writing him a letter. Just be like "I've been wanting to tell you something, but everytime I get the courage to tell you, I get scared. So, I thought this would be the best way to teell you. But, I know we're good friends and I think you are so nice and funny. But, I've began to like you more than friends and I want to know how you feel about me..." Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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There's this kid at my school...we are both freshman and at this oriantation, we were together a lot...( in the same groupd )Well, now i see him one to two times a day, and i dont have much time inbetween classes b.c they have a strict schedule...=(...Anyways, i really like this kid...I had the dream that you have, like when you are crushing...well I saw him today...and i literally stopped breathing...I`m trying to get his screen name and im hoping i can talk to him sometime...but my question is...What can i do to get him to notice me? Like for a minitur betweet classes or a minute after school, or online even...We both play soccer so we can talk about that but what else...? Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this...! =)

Aww. Well, when you see him try smiling at him or saying hi to him when you two walk pass each other. Just stare at him and see if he stares at you too. And if he does, thats good and smile at him. And, then try going up to him and just being like "I see you like everyday between classes, we should talk sometime, here's my screen name _____" Say something like that. And when you finally do talk to him, just be like "So, you play soccer?" "How long have you been playing for?" And just compliment him on things and ask him questions, like how old he is and stuff like that. Get to know him, be his friend and then maybe once you guys get to know each other, it can turn into more. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun, tell me how it goes!

xoxo Kourtney

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whenever i get a zit, i get everything out of it, but then the next day its bigger than it was when i popped it! help!

-JeNNi

AHH!! I hate zits! lol. But, after you pop it, maybe try washing your cae and putting some cream on it. It's not always good to pop it, the right time to pop it is when there is a white head on it. Because sometimes it'll leave scars. I hope this helps. If you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay, ive been talking to this one guy for like a month now..hes realli kool and everything, we goto different schools, have 2 very different lives, i have my lisense but he doesnt have his and so its totally hard to see eachother..i mean yeah ill meet up with him places and a few times ive given him a ride home,but its totally weird like that, i mean i want a guy to come see ME, pick ME up, drop ME off home, etc..ya know?? before when i first started talking to him i was totally interested and wanted it to work out, now i think im kinda starting to loose interest in him..its so hard tho cause i mean we hold hands, hold eachother, etc, [nuthing more than that kinda stuff] and he got me flowers the other day and hes making me this frame thingy in his ceramics class, and so its totally bad timing for me to wanna end it with him.. hes a realli kool guy but like i dont even know if i like his personality that much more than a friend.. at first i wanted to get to know him and see whut happens, and i did get to know him and im not sure if i realli like him that much now that i got to know him. i feel like im leading him on so much but now hes making me something in his ceramics class, etcetc!!!! whut should i do?? thanks alot

Well, just break it to him easily. Just be like "We both go to different school, live two totally different lives, and we can really never see each other because you don't have your license. I mean yes, you're a great guy because I've gotten to know you. But, I just don't think this is working out, the more I get to know you, the more I realize I only see you as a friend and nothing more. I still want to be your friend because I think you're awesome...I'm not trying to hurt you or anything, I just think we would be better off as friends..." Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. Just say it nicely and stuff so you can let him know you're not trying to hurt him or anything. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you needa anything or need more help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, Im 13 and Im in 8th grade, and I have a crush on Travis my friend hes also 13 and in 8th grade. We have alot in common, but Ive always been kinda shy and not telling people that I like them. But i wrote travis a note one day that i thought he was hott i didnt get a bad responce:) or a good one :(, and nothing is different between us and we are still good friends, i talk to him all the time. I wanna go out with him, but Im afraid of rejection so I dont know if I should ask him out. I feel that he might like me but I can never be positive. One of my bestfriends, Brittany thinks I should ask him out cuz if i dont i might miss a chance to go out with him if he likes me, and he might get over me and go out with someone else:( SO... my question is should i ask him out, i would really appreaciate your advice! THANKS!

Yea, go for it! Your friend Brittany is right. Take that advice she gave you. Just go up to him and just be like "I wrote you a note on how I felt about you, but you never wrote me back, so I guess what I'm asking you is, would you want to go out with me...?" Just say something like that. He may be too shy to tell you he likes you and that may of been why he didn't say anything back to you. Guys are so confusing though, you never know what they're thinking lol. But, the worse thing that could happen is him saying no. But, you'll never know if he likes you or not if you don't ask him out. Just take that chance. I mean, even if he says no, it'll still be the same between you because he knows you like him and he's acting the same way to you. And if he likes you, then thats great!! I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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My friend has a boyfriend and she says she loves him...she wrote i love him on her hand...but she says she also says she loves this other guy from a class she is in..i think this is wrong.But she obviously doesnt since she is always saying she loves both of them.Should i tell her boyfriend?Should i try and convince her that it is wrong?This is advice for my friend also...please anwser soon!!!

You should try to talk to her before you tell her boyfriend. Just sit her down and talk to her, just be like "You have a boyfriend and I think thats great, and you write that you love him on your hand and then you tell me you love another guy in your class. But, you can't love both guys, you either don't love them both, or you just have a crush on one of them. But, I think that's wrong that you're saying you love them both when you have a boyfriend..." Just say something like that, I mean say it nice so she doesn't get all mad. And just tell her that she might be hurting her boyfriends feelings when she does that, and you don't want to see him get hurt. Just say stuff like that. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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