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so me and my boyfriend we making out it bed and i was on top of him and we were making out and i guess i was like grinding with him or something? what was i doing cause i dont know.

It's impossible to tell..
If you aren't sure, we won't be either...
Straddling or dry sex if you were "grinding" is my guess. (Leaving clothing on whilst engaging in the motions of sex).
Or even if you were naked, you can still class it as those.

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i had sex last night and we agreed that he would pull out, but i dont know if he actually did. i was wondering if you would be able to feel it? he wasnt wearing a condom, and im scared that he may not have pulled out. thank you.

Honestly, if you don't know, we won't know.
You probably would be able to feel it, but perhaps you just didn't.
As you probably know, the pull out method isn't safe at all, so even if he did pull out, you still could be pregnant . Ever heard of precum?
My advice would be to wait for your next period. It's all you can do, really.
and remember to be safer in future.
Good luck.

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i always feel sluggish and want to nap in the afternoon. is there a reason for this?

You may not be getting enough sleep, or you could actually be getting TOO much sleep.
Make sure when you wake up you eat a healthy breakfast to kick start your day and keep active.
Sitting around doing nothing will make anyone sluggish despite how much sleep they've had or what they've eaten!
If you think it's more than what I've suggested, it could be worth checking with a doctor, to rule out any illnesses, such as anemia.

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when people dont get enough sleep do they become cross eyed-ish?

No. Your vision may become distorted and your eyes may start twitching and look puffy/sore.

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when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

All time, everytime.
You know, even with protection, there's still that small chance.

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i'm a virgin and i'm gonna have sex w/ my boyfriend and i'm really afraid it's gonna hurt. and what if he can't get in me because i'm too tight?! can that even happen? and i know to tell him to go slow blahblahblah. im just mainly concerned he cant .. get in me lol

Don't fret.
He will "get in you"!
If a vagina is to be able to accommodate a baby, a penis is will easily fit.
It hurts some people first time, so I strongly suggest using lots of lube to make it easier.
Be calm and try not to worry, as tensing can make it harder.

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okay my boyfriend broke up with me and i cried a lot, i was really hurt and then when i told my friend about what happened she was really shocked and sad and then she keep asking me if i was okay and she gave me a a lot of tight hugs and she said call me if you need anything and when we were chatting she sended me a couple of RnB love song that relates to me and also she send me a card online saying feel better and cheer up and she told me shes gonna buy me a chocolate when ill see her soon and after that she came to my house and bought me a chocolate and gave me a hugs what do you think about my friend?

She's being a REAL friend. Well done for finding her.

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hey ummm i have a two month old kitten and he is vometing and he has diaria
i got him a couple of days ago
and he was cheerful andvery playful
but now he only lays there and he won't eat or drink and he very week
please help me!!!!!!!!!
i think he might die

(Thankyou for your question)


Vomiting and diarrhea can be quite risky in kittens, as it makes them dehydrated.
It's impossible to tell whether your kitten has some sort of infection, or if it's swallowed something.
Basically, it could be a number of things - minor or major.
It's important you take him to a vet as soon as you can, because unfortunately, at this stage, noone who isn't trained will be able to diagnose him.
If you see no signs of recovery by tomorrow, I strongly suggest you get him checked without delay.
I hope your kitten gets well very soon and in the mean time, try not to worry and try to at least make him drink water.

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My friends always say, if a guy fingers you, you do something in return (hand job/blow job)

so my question is; is that why guys finger girls, or does it turn them on.. im not really sure


They don't just do it to get things in return. They like to know they're pleasing you and yes, I suppose anything like that would turn a guy on.
You don't necessarily HAVE to give something in return, but the guy would probably like it if you did.
ONLY if you're ready, don't forget.

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is a 14 yr. old to younng 2 date a 16

If you keep things legal, then no.
In my opinion, 2 years isn't much at all. :)

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so theres this guy who lives next to me and we talk all the time and he said i was pretty and he always trys to impress me but idk if he likes me. what do you think?

Basically, from what you've said, he could very well like you.
Although noone here can be 100%.
We aren't that boy and unfortunately, we don't know what he's thinking.
But if he calls you pretty and is trying to impress you, he probably wants you to notice him more..
Only real way to find out is if you ask him.. or wait for him to say something.
Good luck!

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wen my boyfriend asked me out i said yes thinking nothing of it. i really liked him, but wen he started going out with me he started acting different. I lovd the way he acted b4 we started goingg out. How can i get my old lover back?
f/12

It could just be he's shy and doesn't quite know what to do. Perhaps he's worried about doing things wrong, which is making him seem different.

You have to think of all the options here.
To be honest, it most probably is because he doesn't want to do anything wrong, but you have to think beyond that. Is your boyfriend happy in the relationship? Don't forget you are only 12, and I'm guessing he is around that age too. He may not be entirely ready for it.
(which brings me to remember, 12 year olds are not supposed to be using this site!)

The only real way to understand what's going through his head is to sit him down and basically ask him. Communication is SO important in a relationship. Who knows, you could be over reacting and he's fine. :)

I wish you the best of luck!

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my boyfriend cheated on me 4 months ago. he had sex with another woman. i am still with him. but every time i think about him and her together, i let a few tears out, still. it hurts more than anything. i can see them holding hands on the way up his stairs to have sex. and i cant get it out of my mind. i hate him for all the awkward situations we are put in when someone mentions her name. and his best female friend is best friends with her. i hate him for it. i cant help but think, why wasnt i good enough? what do i keep doing wrong? why do boys cheat on me? what is wrong with me? and i feel like he doesnt even care. i never let him see me cry, i dont want him to know how much he really means to me, because what if he doesnt feel the same...

why can i not be good enough for anyone?

so my question is, how can i get past this?

right now i feel like the only way to forget about the whole thing is to forget about him..

and i dont want to.

I'm sorry to hear what happened.
Sadly, experiences like this take a very long time to heal. Not only has your boyfriend broken your trust, he's made you feel like you aren't good enough and obviously dented your confidence/self esteem.
Firstly, you ARE good enough. Soon, you will realize this - with your current boyfriend or not.
Secondly, of course you will be feeling like this. It's normal. How else would he expect you to feel when he's cheated on you? Which is why you need to open up to him. Communication is what you need here.
Tell him how it's made you feel.
Explain how upset you really are.
Hiding your emotions can only make things worse.


He may think everything's okay and you've forgotten.. This is impossible if you don't take the first step and have a good talk with him.
From here, you can decide what happens.
It doesn't matter if it was 4 months ago.. things like this take time.


We can't tell you which decision to make, because we don't know your boyfriend and how he acts towards/treats you.
If you actually tell him how you feel, you will know what to do after hearing his response.


Within time, things most probably will get better and he will regain your trust. This is only if you let it. and of course, if he understands you totally and takes all of your feelings into consideration.


He could be genuinly sorry and regret it so much.
Or he may not see what all the fuss is about..


If he isn't understandable and is harsh about it, maybe the only way to really get over it is to accept he isn't worth you - not the other way around.


Unfortunately, people make mistakes once. Any more and it's just totally unacceptable. Make him understand this if you do stay together.
It's so unfair on you to be made to feel like this when you haven't done anything wrong.




You'll know what decision to make.
Best of luck...

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so my boyfriend got drunk one night with his friends and girls were there of course.. i found a hickey on him and he was like "aww baby im sorry you really cant control yourself when your drunk" so i forgave him.. then his friend told me that he almost had sex but his sister came in time to stop him.. should i break up with him.. or was it just a mistake that he did and i should forgive him..

Sometimes you can't control your actions, but you still have an idea of what's going on..
Plus, it's one of the worst excuses known to mankind, because noone can actually be certain he was so under the infuence he had no idea what he was doing... or the fact he used being drunk as an excuse to cheat on you.
You said he's been forgiven, so follow your heart. You can either tell him if he ever makes this mistake again, it's over. Give him an ultimatum - No more getting drunk, especially with other girls around.
But to be perfectly honest, if I were in your position right now, I would end it. Drunk or not drunk, it doesn't matter. It's still cheating.. and the fact he was close to having sex just makes matters worse.
What do YOU personally want to do? If you trust him and believe it won't happen again, you can work around it. People do make mistakes, unfortunately.
Best of luck with your decision, sweetie.

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if you discharge a lot whats a healthy way to make it stop or not as much

i really dont want to go to the ginocolagist :/

Discharge is natural - there's nothing you can do to really stop it, but you can make it bearable if unfortunately you produce alot..
Frequent washes/or wipes specially for your vaginal area will most definitely help and make you feel fresher, regular toilet breaks perhaps, and wearing a pantyliner to make you feel a bit more comfortable.
If you're on the pill, it can lessen the rate of discharge you produce, so if it's THAT much of a problem for you, you may want to give that a try.

Best of luck.

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I smoked weed about 6 weeks ago and today I took a drug test. It was my first time to ever do it. Do you think it's still in my system or not? I have a fast metabolism and I drink a lot of water, I heard that makes it get out faster. Thanks.

http://www.passadrugtestingforall.com/long-does-marijuana-stay-your-system-a-4.html


This page should have everything you need to know.

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Hi,

I'm worried about my height. I'm not really WORRIED...im just confused.

ok, so both my mom AND dad are 5'8..ok? but i'm only 5'2. I dont know if this helps but I'm 14 & I got my first period two weeks ago. My foot size is a 9..and thats about it.

haha, so do you think there's a chance of me growing?

thanks.

You're only 14, and despite having started your period, you can still have years of growing left to do.
The only option you can do is unfortunately wait it out. Annoying, I know.
But try not to stress over it much. Just make sure you're eating healthily and getting good sleep to help you on your way ;)

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my bf and I were doing stuff.. not sex. I was giving him a hand job and he cum on my leg. so I wiped it off wit the blanket and went to the bathroom and wash it off. I just washed my blanket. He didn't wash his hands until later. but we stopped right when he cum. is there a chance I can get pregnant??? PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!
THANKKK YOUU.!

I VERY highly doubt it.
If it was just on your leg, you should be fine, especially as it didn't exactly come into close contact with your vagina..
Don't stress about it. Just be a little extra careful in future :)

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Everytime I'm with my boyfriend we make out, h.j's, b.j's, fingering.. like all of that stuff... we do it like alotttt. atleast 4 times every time we're together.. so like, 4 times in 5 hours. But do you think he's using me? like I feel like he always wants to do stuff!
what do you think!?

It depends.
He may like doing it because he thinks you're up for it all the time, too.. and he wants to make you happy.
Talk to him about it. Tell him you want to do it less, so it can be something you look forward to, instead of it being more like a routine.
If you talk to him about it and he's fine, you'll know he's not using you.
But you shouldn't do anything if you think it's getting tedious and you don't quite want to...

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what does "eat your heart out" mean?

"A declaration, often exaggerated, joking and boastful, of being better than another person, the aforementioned often being a celebrity or historical figure."
example:
"Mozart, eat your heart out!" said the organ player after a successful concert.

Taken from Urbandictionary.com

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