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So this is about a past crush, who I will admit..I was obsessed with. I liked him 2 years ago..but I'm just confused on the way he acted. I have no means on being with this guy, he's cocky and stuck up..I shouldn't have even liked him.
He always did these things:
1.Stared at me, sometimes before I looked at him.
2. At dances he'd be watching my friends and I.
3.My friends told me he looks at me, and he looked
at my chest, bottom etc.
4. This year, the first time we seen each other he looked right at me, with his mouth hanging open -.-
What does this mean? Or I'm I thinking way to much into it. That's probably it. xD
Thanks anyway!
If you have no means on being with him then why are you asking all these questions?
If he is staring at you, Then either A. He is possibly creeped out considering someone was obsessed with him or if it were true that he was checking you out then maybe he does like you. However, If he does like you I would try to be aware of how obsessed you become.
If you two were to date keep in mind that obsession is not love and can lead to jealousy and a controlling relationship if you let yourself get out of hand. If you really want to know then ask him.
I never had sex before but I was just so worried that I was pregnant that I took 2 at homebpewg tests like an hour apart each & they both came out negative. Do pregnacy tests HAVE to be taken first thing in the morning to be correct or is that just when they are most accurate? I've done sexual thing but NOT sex so idk why I'm worrying bec you have to have sex to be pregnant.,plus I've gotten all my periods regularly except 2 months agonies was just brown spotting (but I think that Was from stress)
You do not have to have sex to become pregnant, Pregnancy is caused by anything from sperm having contact with the vagina. If sperm has not come to contact with the vagina then you are not pregnant and cannot get pregnant.
The only way to become pregnant is by having sexual contact with a male. If you haven't........There is no point in taking a test.
Pregnancy test do not have to be taken in the morning they can be taking any time of the day. However before you take them make sure you haven't drank to much water as sometimes drinking too much water before taking a pregnancy test can cause the test to give the wrong answer.
Delayed periods can be caused from a number of factors: Poor dieting and exercise, Stress, Depression, Illness, Excessive exercise etc. As long as you get a period once a month your fine.
18/f
this might get kinda long im sorry /:
ok so i had sex with my boyfriend of basically 3 years for the first time about a month ago and i was a virgin previously ( i dont want to hear about how im "too young" or whatever cause that really doesnt matter ) anyways, since then, we've had sex about 6 or 7 more times, always being super safe with the whole spermicidal condoms and stuff and he always pulled out just because i want to be as safe as possible. i expected my period about a week ago, and i was pretty flexible cause my period usually is a few days later than expected. but i feel like its gotten a little too late. i have signs of getting my period (breaking out, moodiness for the past 2 weeks, tender breasts, etc) so i feel like it should be here. and idk if this is a factor but i found out i had a small ruptured ovarian cyst about a week after my period ended (so like 3-4 weeks ago) and they said it was small so it should go away and i think it did but now both of my ovaries still kind of hurt off and on so i wonder if that could be delaying it too. im stressing out about this A LOT like i think about it 24/7 and im absolutely freaking out and i know stress can delay it too. i just really really need some answers....
if anyone has any idea of what could be going on i would really appreciate it!!
Ovarian cyst can mess up the whole menstrual cycle, What could of happened was the cyst could of burst without you being aware of it and it caused to delay your period. This is normal
As long as you get your period once a month there shouldn't be any worry, If you don't get your period at all that month then I would take a pregnancy test to be sure. If not, Then schedule an appointment with your gynecologist. In the meantime stop freaking yourself out because that alone will cause your period to delay.
i just got into middle school and i have alot of homework in every subject. It's to much! How to deal withwith this?
You do it one step at a time
I'm 15 And Pregnant I Just Found Out And I'm 14 Weeks And My Mom Wants Me To Get An Abortion But Yes I Don't Want The Abortion But The Thing Is... I Haven't Told My Dad Cause He'll Kick Me And My Mom Out Of The House And We'll Have No Where To Go? No Family We Have Here Where We Live So It's Hard On Us She's Really Mad At Me And The Father And The Baby's Daddy Is Still In The Picture And Wants The Baby No Matter What But My Mom Wants To Put A Restraining Order Against Him Since He Is 17 We're 2 Years And 8 Months Apart And She Wants To Get Him For Rape Which Isn't True, But Me And The Father Want The Baby It's Just My Parents Opinion. And If He Gets Put Away Again It'll Be For 6 Years I Don't Want That For Our Baby And Not Have Our Baby Grow Up Without A Dad Or Aleast Knowing His/Her Daddy. What Can I Do??? :|
It's your baby and your body
If you don't want to get an abortion you have the right not too, If you want to keep it know that it will be a long and very difficult road for you. I don't believe in abortions personally but I do believe in adoption when someone is pregnant and very young.........
There is a guy who accidentally texted me as a wrong number. I told him it was wrong, but he continued texting me on multiple occasions, knowing I was someone he didn't know. We had some nice conversations and flirted a bit. He lives about three hours away from me and is 16. He wants to come visit me, but he can't drive. I'm 17 and can drive, but not that far - my parents wouldn't let me. I wouldn't want to either because I don't really know him. One day he got very intense with the flirting and asked if he were to ask me out what I would say. I told him maybe, clearly stressing that we don't each other and would have to get to know each other in order for me to date him. He then asked that if we dated if we would make out a lot. This kind of creeped me out. He also asked if we were now dating, I told him no because we have never met. I haven't texted him since that time and have just ignored his texts, but I feel bad. I don't know what to do and my friends tell me just to continue ignoring him, but I don't want to hurt him. Help! He also asked for a picture, but i refused to send one saying my phone was broken. He wanted to friend me on Facebook but I never told him my last name and he never asked for it.
I do not know if this includes the state you are in but they just passed a law that sexting is illegal. Just thought I'd let ya know..
Don't you find it weird at all that some random guy would continue to text you when he doesn't know you? You have never seen a picture of him? etc. I don't care if I get rated a 4, I'm going to be honest with you.
I would be very careful of who you flirt with especially someone you know nothing about, never met or seen a picture of. This guy could of sent you a picture that he pulled off the internet there are a lot of weird people out there and I can't tell you how many stories I've heard that involved texting. If your friend are telling you to ignore him then maybe you should listen too them. The whole thing sounds a little creepy and suspicious. If someone wanted to meet somebody you'd think they would go about it another way rather than sending someone text messages to a stranger. Your best bet is to ignore it, Change your number and don't text him again. You've now got yourself a creepy stalker......
I'm a girl and only 13 so I don't have to worry about it yet! but does giving birth hurt? Cause I want to have Kids when I'm older I just don't want it to hurt. It seems like it would.
My mother always told me, Imagine a football coming out of there......That is what the pain felt like.
Birth is pain, You can get something to help with the pain but no matter what if you give birth there will be some sort of pain in the process. That is just the way it goes, Your body is doing a big job by allowing it to give birth to a child.
Now if you were to get a C section which is only done if there is a problem with delivery as C sections can cause problems with both mother and baby. There is still pain this way too, You are only 13 years old everything seems scary but when you are older you will probably think differently on the situation. Right now, Don't worry about having children you are way too young.
I've had my navel pierced for 5 months now.I was cleaning it this morning and when I dried it up with a Q-tip there was a little blood and a bit of yellow discharge but it wasn't a lot or seeping out of the holes. My belly ring isn't red, I don't have a rash, there are no bumps around it, and it's not inflammed or has green pus. Does anyone know if it might be infected even though there are no other signs?
Belly button rings take up to a year to fully heal
If it isn't inflamed or pussing there shouldn't be no need to worry. Although it has been 5 months this doesn't mean that your piercing isn't prone to infections in the future. Make sure you clean it daily, If it starts showing signs of puss and being inflamed go back to where you had it pierced and have it taken out. Infected piercings can lead to scarring.
My bf and I were skyping, and he was able to see my screen without me sharing it on my laptop. I know he got a program where he could do that because I saw it, but when I asked him about it he said he deleted it. I don't believe it though, does anyone know what the program is? The name of it? And can he see my screen when I'm signed off of skype? I feel invaded. But I act like I have no clue. Thanks!
Break up with him
If he even thought of doing such a thing why the heck are you with him? It's betrayal, It's invading your privacy and if it is possible how do you know you were the only one he did it too?
You don't trust him anyway, Kick him to the curb
26yr old female...involved for 6 months. Hes getting a divorce and my fiance passed away we dont want a relationship now. Ive known him forever. Lately hes been distant but every time I say we should stop talking he says he loves me, doesnt want to let me go and we should see where we end up...i know he cares about me but hes talking to 2 other girls and our relationship isnt realy progressing he has trust issues. I really care about him, when were together it great. Should I be patient or just let him go?
Be patient
You said your fiance had passed away, How long was this? You told him that you two should stop talking..You are still grieving. If you need time to yourself then take it. If this guy is the right one for you then it will eventually work out. If it doesn't then there are many more guys out there.
Take it one step at a time and see were it goes, That's all you really can do.
I'm now 13, I started my period when I was 10 . Ever since than I have been the same height and bra size??
Women don't generally stop growing until they hit 18. You will grow, You are still young. It may not happen in the next month or so but it will eventually happen. Don't be in a rush to grow up
Im a 26yr old female....If you just have a sexual relationship with a guy...do you hang out, watch movies with the kids, cuddle, have hour long conversations about work, family, etc before you have sex....cuddle afterwards and stay until morning? If you do all that is it really just sex or is it definitely more to the relationship?
Depends
Does this guy want to be with you and your children? Does he put the time and effort into doing things with you and getting to know you? How involved is he in you and your children's life?
If someone is all about sex, They would be focused on getting in your pants. Some may even do and say whatever it takes too get laid.....It's just the way it goes sometimes. If you feel that he isn't the right person for you then you shouldn't be with him, A guy that wants to be with you and your children will take the time to be apart of your lives by participating in family functions and getting to know more about you. That's a relationship
So this past let's say week or 2 when I wake up in the morning I don't feel good & ibjabe a headache..it eventually goes away but I'm just curious as to what is going on! I've also have not had all that much sleep (maybe 6 or7 hours a night) & I am hungry when I go to bed so u don't know if that has anything to do with it?
Are you drinking plenty of water? If not, Then make sure you do. It is important to keep yourself hydrated especially in hot weather.
A person should be getting no less then 8 hours of sleep a night, When I don't get enough sleep I am dizzy and have a headache for the rest of the day. Lack of sleep is known for headaches, Take it from someone who used to do 5 hours of sleep a night. It is not healthy.
Whatever you do, Try not to eat after 8pm. This is part of maintaining a healthy eating routine. A cause of headache could be lack of vitamins and nutrition so it is important to make sure you are also eating a good balanced meal though the day.
If your headaches proceed then you should visit the doctor as it could be something more serious.
Why do i have mild pains in my ovaries? Could it just be gas passing through ??
Pain the ovaries could be several different things:
Endometriosis
Ovarian Cyst
Ovarian Cancer
Pregnancy
The best way to find out is to schedule an appointment with a doctor, We cannot give you a proper diagnosis as we are not doctors nor legally qualified to do so.
my girlfriend and i have been having sex since her last period witch was last week in may she has been taking pregnance test but keep comin up negative we had sex the other day and she took a test in the morning that came up negative can having sex then the next day take a pregnance tset make any differance in the result. thanks i look forward to hearing from you.
No having sex on several occasions does not interfere with the results of a pregnancy from the first time you've had sex. When a pregnancy happens it doesn't go away from repeatedly having sex over and over again.
A home pregnancy test should be taken up to 7-14 days after intercourse. For a more accurate result take 2 test instead of one.
I'm not a lesbian cause I like guys and I'm not bi, but if I see 2 girls kissing YouTube or something it like turns me on a little I guess? I would never start kissing one of my friends that's a girl though. Never. Maybe if I didn't no her but I like a boy and wanna kiss him so what's wrong with me. I'm a 13 yearold girl.
Considering the fact that you are 13, I would say right now you are investing in your sexuality. It's normal
Likely it's just curiosity that will eventually pass or perhaps it could just be one of those things that turn you on nothing wrong with that either.
okay ive been with this guy for 3 years and i like him alot ! yet he flirts like crazy and he says hes not doing anything wrong and for me to worryin cause hes the only girl i like ive told him to stop flirting yet he doesnt he will for a little bit but thats it.. i dont know what to do .. do i go back out with him or not ? i miss him like crazy too
It's okay for guys to look at girls but as long as it doesn't go too far.
If your boyfriend is going as far as messaging women, Flirting with other women in front of you while ignoring you and acting as if nothing is wrong then perhaps your boyfriend is taking his flirting habits to a whole new level.
Talk to your boyfriend, Express to him that you feel insulted when he flirts with girls all the time. You didn't give a whole lot of information. Does he do it all the time? How is he flirting with girls? Is it in person or over the internet or via text message? You didn't say...
If you feel he has crossed the line then you need to tell him that, If he denies it and you feel that he went too far and you can't trust him.....Then you move on.
18/f
My boyfriend is leaving for vacation, and because of that... My older sister told me to prepare for the worst. She said that a majority of the people she knows either cheated when they're on vacation, or the person at home ends up with someone else/cheats on someone else, she has experienced it herself too. She said that she's not saying the same thing will happen to us, but she just told me to prepare for the worst. I'm positive that it's not going to happen with me, because I already miss him when I don't see him for a day... But possibly 1 and a half weeks to 3 weeks?? Without seeing him and talking to him is really hard. So all that can happen, is me missing him more.
I tried defending him, but the more she said it... The more it got me paranoid. So I asked him about it. He said that it probably won't happen, probably. He said a majority of the times he goes, nothing happens so he thinks that nothing will happen this time. Single or not. He says he can't control a relationship from starting, but he can control actions. And honestly, that doesn't make me feel secure. He just actually admitted that there is a possible chance that something could happen, or he could end up liking another girl in a week and a half. I know that's not alot of time... But a lot of things can happen in a week and a half without seeing and talking to your significant other.
Many people told me that they'd be more worried about me than about him. Because he's very traditional and serious, so if he did something like that it would bring "shame to the family." But he does get influenced easily, so it kind of worries me.
One of the factors that really does worry me right now is also probably because he's been distant lately (he's been busy). He says that his main goal to go to vacation was the send his grandma back home, visit some friends he hasn't seen for a long time, and to look for inspiration to work harder for school. I texted him saying that he doesn't need to worry about me, because I will be waiting for him until he gets back and that I'll be thinking of him the whole time. And the only thing he said back was, "thanks."
How do I relieve this paranoia of mine??
The problem is you don't trust him and he don't respect you.
If someone is with somebody in a relationship they don't tell the other half "PROBABLY nothing will happen" your boyfriend basically implied that there is a chance it could happen and he isn't going to do much to stop it from happening.
Your boyfriend sounds like a real shady dirt bag, Your boyfriend also gives people the impression that he is traditional and serious but anyone is perfectly capable of doing whatever they please despite what they may appear to be. Candore is right, This may be your instinct telling you something doesn't quiet add up. Well my best advise is before he goes away on a vacation dump him. Take the time apart and move on, Anyone who thinks about cheating or implies there is a chance it could happen is not worth the time and stress.
okay, so I just got engaged a few months ago to my boyfriend of now 7 years. A few days before we got engaged, Mike (my fiance) was on the road because of his job and I decided to surprise him for Valentine's day. I show up and find him passed out and half naked in bed at the hotel with some other half naked woman at the door. I find out he was drunk and never actually did anything.but after I found out and we talked about it, all was fine. Recently my best guy friend, Randy, told me that he has strong feels for me. He's always around when I need somebody and Mike is on the road and doesn't call much. Mike found out about Randy and I spending a lot of time together and got jealous. He then told me to choose between them. I got upset and walked off and disappeared for a week to clear my mind. in the heat of the moment I kissed Randy so now I'm really confused. When I was gone, only Randy called me and actually tried to find me while Mike hasn't done anything. He did and was as sweet as always and I'm starting to feel the same about him but still love Mike! I don't know what to do or who to choose! Mike is so sweet and romantic and everything I could ask for. Randy is sweet, sensitive and always there for me. Please help me. I'm getting Married in 2 months and need to figure out what to do!
Think about what your relationship with your boyfriend means too you, Are you honestly over him cheating with another woman? Do you trust him? and most of all Are you happy?
If your boyfriend is on the road all the time and doesn't call you much then you should probably know this is likely the way it will be when you both are married.
You both can talk things over but the fact is your boyfriend cheated. Sure, He may of been drunk but when people drink they should be aware of how much they consume and it was not responsible on his part to do what he had done. If Mike makes you happy and you can see something working out between the both of you then there is your answer, I would go with who makes you happy and you can see yourself with. I am not going to tell you that you don't love Mike but I think apart of you may be in love with who he once was not who he is now.
ok well im 13 and i live in arizona (girl)
im dating my best friends cousin ok and hes 14 he lives in utah but rite now hes with his dad traveling until school starts and his dad doesnt like him dating yet.......and i dont what to do cus i cant talk to him for like a whole month and im not really sure if its a relationship so im not sure if im aloud to date and stuff.....
(i know that he loves me cus my friend told me and she wouldnt lie bout that cus she doesnt even like us dating)
thank ya -angie
Angie,
Long distant relationships are very hard to maintain, At 13, It would be very unhealthy to prevent yourself from meeting other people in your area over a boy that lives a few states away. I understand that you really like this guy but lets face a few things; This guy is only 14 years old and he does not know what he wants out of his life. Do you really see a relationship working out if you both live in different states? You both don't drive and are going to be going to school in a few months. You will meet new people and so won't he it just happens. If you are both meant to happen then let it be so but don't go all crazy over someone who just won't work out.