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He's leaving for vacation so I'm paranoid.
18/f
My boyfriend is leaving for vacation, and because of that... My older sister told me to prepare for the worst. She said that a majority of the people she knows either cheated when they're on vacation, or the person at home ends up with someone else/cheats on someone else, she has experienced it herself too. She said that she's not saying the same thing will happen to us, but she just told me to prepare for the worst. I'm positive that it's not going to happen with me, because I already miss him when I don't see him for a day... But possibly 1 and a half weeks to 3 weeks?? Without seeing him and talking to him is really hard. So all that can happen, is me missing him more.
I tried defending him, but the more she said it... The more it got me paranoid. So I asked him about it. He said that it probably won't happen, probably. He said a majority of the times he goes, nothing happens so he thinks that nothing will happen this time. Single or not. He says he can't control a relationship from starting, but he can control actions. And honestly, that doesn't make me feel secure. He just actually admitted that there is a possible chance that something could happen, or he could end up liking another girl in a week and a half. I know that's not alot of time... But a lot of things can happen in a week and a half without seeing and talking to your significant other.
Many people told me that they'd be more worried about me than about him. Because he's very traditional and serious, so if he did something like that it would bring "shame to the family." But he does get influenced easily, so it kind of worries me.
One of the factors that really does worry me right now is also probably because he's been distant lately (he's been busy). He says that his main goal to go to vacation was the send his grandma back home, visit some friends he hasn't seen for a long time, and to look for inspiration to work harder for school. I texted him saying that he doesn't need to worry about me, because I will be waiting for him until he gets back and that I'll be thinking of him the whole time. And the only thing he said back was, "thanks."
How do I relieve this paranoia of mine??
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He said himself that something may happen sounds to me like he is planning on it. and when he gets back he will say well i told you it might happen, or something along those lines. You dont trust him and he cant be faithful to you .. I say its time to move on and drop this guy and find someone who will treat you better good luck
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The problem is you don't trust him and he don't respect you.
If someone is with somebody in a relationship they don't tell the other half "PROBABLY nothing will happen" your boyfriend basically implied that there is a chance it could happen and he isn't going to do much to stop it from happening.
Your boyfriend sounds like a real shady dirt bag, Your boyfriend also gives people the impression that he is traditional and serious but anyone is perfectly capable of doing whatever they please despite what they may appear to be. Candore is right, This may be your instinct telling you something doesn't quiet add up. Well my best advise is before he goes away on a vacation dump him. Take the time apart and move on, Anyone who thinks about cheating or implies there is a chance it could happen is not worth the time and stress.
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Its not paranoia, your intuition is telling you something isn't right. If the best your boyfriend can do to ease your worry is tell you "PROBABLY nothing will happen", that's pretty sad. Sounds to me like he's leaving the door open. He's been distant and keeping communication short. It doesn't look good. I'm not saying break up with him, but rather than sitting around waiting and wondering, let him know you'll also be out having a good time while he's gone. Tell him you can't wait to see him when he returns so you guys can compare vacation stories, then go out with friends, attend gatherings and movies, do stuff you life to do. don't spend too much time hung up on this boy. It doesn't sound like he's that hung up on you.
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