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So I am 16/F. I have always liked older guys.
I know this is probably a stupid question, but is that wrong/bad? I mean the guys in my grade are o-k, but they seem so imature to me, and so un aware of how girls wan't to be treated you know? Its probably because they are young, and most of them haven't been jaded yet. But what my main point is, do I even stand a chance with older guys? Or do they think of me like I think of the guys in my grade?

It's perfectly normal for you to be more attracted to mature guys. Who wants stupidity and childish behaviour in a relationship?
Older guys probably won't judge you, but they wont necessarily know how you act until they know you. So try to make good impressions and you'll be fine.
Don't forget not ALL boys your age act immature. :P

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Okay my boyfriend is in 8th grade & im in ninth so we never see each other & all his 8th grade friends hate me with a passion (there girls). when i try to talk to him after school i feel like we are so distant! like he notices me & talks to me but it doesnt last long at all & i never see him as it is. confronting this with him made it a little better but its still going on like he doesnt understand ! how can i fix the distance thing.

It could be a number of reasons.
Maybe he's just plain shy in relationships - or isn't comfortable with seeing you at school and being all "lovey dovey", perhaps.
If it doesn't get better within a while, or if nothing seems to be changing since you've had a talk with him, you might want to reconsider about dating him.
For now, talk to him again and give him a bit of time to get used to it.
If you don't connect in a relationship, it won't work. Simple as.
Best of luck, girl!

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I need a second opinion about this situation I am having. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or it doesn’t matter if you are straight. I would gladly tell you my problem (it’s a bit long.) Send me a reply and I will send u my question. thank you.

f/20/Bi

Would have been easier to ask it in the main section if you don't mind who replies.
I'll give it my best shot anyway if you need the help.
Hope to hear from you soon.

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i`ve been with him for 3 months now and things have been going not so swell lately. 3 months isnt alot but we spent every single day together for two months till he moved, so we are really close.. well WERE really close. im 19 and hes 23, he lives 45 minutes away but we manage to hangout alot. he has been really worried lately that i cheat and he gets mad when i go out because he thinks every guy will want me. which is ridiculous to me.



i really like him, i may actually love him and i want all of this fuss to stop. i care about him so much and everytime i tell him, he like doesnt belive me and it hurts. i have kind of felt like he has been mean to me lately and trying to drive me away so he doesnt have to breakup with me, and let me do it. he has been breaking my heart that last few days and i cant even talk to him about because he makes me feel like its me.

we are going to my lakehouse tomorrow for the night and i want to do nice things for him. people have told me to write him a letter or even a poem but i feel like he may think its cheesy/too soon for all of that.

do guys really like that kind of stuff? what could i do for him. minus dinner and stuff


thanks alot!

Thankyou for your question.


Firstly, I quite like the letter option. It may seem a bit old fashioned, but it's a really nice way to get your feelings across. You can tell him how much he means to you and how he shouldn't worry about other guys etc. Make him understand you are committed to him
I'm sure he'd appreciate that in a letter form.
Basically tell him what you've told me and how it hurts you when he doesn't believe you etc.


Tomorrow, when you're with him, along with the letter, perhaps give him a small gift such as a photograph of you two in a frame. It's a sweet thing to do.
Maybe make it a romantic evening - candles with the dinner and petals scattered.
Kiss him spontaneously - just because.
Snuggle up with a movie, or just enjoy the silence cuddling. Maybe even give him a massage, or let him have a day where you wait on him.
It may not seem like alot, but they're quite sensual.


I hope you have a really lovely day and things work out fine for you.

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Would any of you happen to know how to trick or convince two straight male men to make out? It is for a good cause I promise.

I'm not sure what this "good cause" is, but here are a few suggestions:

Do it for a charity.


Get them to play "Gay Chicken"

(A game where two people of the same sex (and preferably straight) put their faces closer and closer until one of them chickens out. If none of them do, then they get closer until they kiss).

Blind fold both WILLING participants to kiss - but don't say who they will be kissing.



There are quite a few ways if you sit and think!
Those came from the top of my head.



Although if I were you, I wouldn't try to trick them. If they really don't want to do it, it can damage their self esteem etc.. and I doubt they would be happy with you. Especially if it gets out.
Think about it before you do it - and make sure it really is for a good cause and they are willing to do it.


Good luck!

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Well the thing is that I'm 16 and attracted to older women, like in there 40's through 80's. And I think I want to be with one. Not in a relationship, but in a sexual way. The thing is that I'm not sure where I would find an older women to do anything with, much less what to say to them. I dont even know if there are any older women that would want to do that sort of thing. I don't know exactly how to go about this so if you have any advice I'd be very thankful.

Some teenage boys are attracted to older woman, probably because they're more experienced,
especially as you've said you just want the sex.
(note: it works the same way for some girls as well - they may be attracted to older men for the same reasons).

I think you need to wait a little while, to see if you're going through a phase.
Maybe it's because you're not attracted to anyone your own age, or you haven't connected with anyone yet.
There could be a number of reasons why you don't like people your own age, but for now, I reckon you need to find yourself.
If later on you're still attracted to older women, then so be it. I'm sure lots would be willing to have a toy boy! ;)
and about finding them, I doubt it would be hard. It may be now, because your friends probably want to go and find girls their own age.
I must also remind you to make sure you are of legal age in your area if you do participate in anything sexual.

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okay well, its long... but basic form is fast...


josh is my current boy, brandon is my x-boy.

in basic form: josh skrewed some girl while going out with me and i have him admitting it on recording but i havnt said anything to him yet, and brandons step dad wants to do everything he can to mess my life up and upset me and my family. and now that brandons coming back i dont know what to do... help please! please. brandons coming back into my life again in a week.


in long form:
josh and i have always had a thing but had never gone out. brandon and i had gone out, and we where going out untill brandon got locked up. at first it was okay, we sent eachother letters, but then we couldnt anymore. so i broke up with him. i loved brandon so much he ment everything to me. i thought he was the one, the one i was gunna marry. anyways, josh started making moves on me while brandon was locked up, somehow he wone me over even though i voued to stay with brandon. i started going out with josh and it was awesome. we have been going out since january. now brandon is getting out in about a week, im so skrewed because im still head over heals for him. he had my friend that got out on a pass from being locked up call me and tell me that brandons still in love with me. (and im still oviously in love with him)

but get this...
this person that called me also let me listen to a recording of my current boy, josh when he was drunk and he admitted skrewing my friend sara! and he said that he would do it again. i havnt said anything to him yet but oh my is he going to get hell. and my parents dont like him because hes not white (im white.) No matter what, i still love josh because i gave it up to him and that means that much more. its hard for me to believe he did another girl because hes always checking if im messing around with other guys.

and brandon, his dad called my parents and tried to skrew up my life by telling them terrible lies about me and saying that brandon didnt want anything to do with me although it isnt true. but my parents dont like brandon either because hes been locked up.

i dont know what to do. i loved brandon, he ment everything to me. when he got locked up i cried evey day for about 4 or 5 months. i cried all day long- just randomly durring school, durring cheer and when i got home. finally josh fixed that hole for me, i mean its not like he replaced brandon, he could never do that but, he helped me forget and keep living my life. i started being so happy with josh too! and now this. this is so messed up its rediculous.

i need to know what to do about brandon and josh. also i need to know what to do about sara.

i was thinking just to doubble check everything i should go up to sara in school and be like, i know you did my boyfirend sara, i thought we where friends. well you have about 5 minutes to tell me everything and say your sorry before i never want to talk to you again and lable you the whore who did my boyfriend... orr i was thinking about going to josh's mom and asking her what to do. even though shes my boys mom she would tell me straight up.

i am trying to tell you everything i can so i can get the best answer.

help please, please.
im so sorry this is long too.
brandon is coming back like this weekenddd.

Thanks for your question.
Basically, I'm gonna keep this short as possible.

[If you are POSITIVE is was him in the recording..]
your current boyfriend cheated on you and he would do it again. You can either have a serious talk with him and try to work around it, or ditch him. If I were you, I'd show him the door. There's just no excuse for it and he obviously doesn't care for you if he would do it again.


As for your friend, yes, you need to talk to her too. Ask her how and why it happened.
I wouldn't bother going to your boyfriends mum. It isn't really her business. Yes, it's her son, but it could mess up things between her and Josh.


As for your ex, I suppose that's entirely up to you. If you say you're still in love with him, why not try and get back to where you were. You can work around Brandon's step dad and try to not let him come between you.


I know this advice might not seem like much help, but it should be your decision.
It makes sense:
Your current boyfriend cheated - dump him.
The one you love is back - Try to make it work.


Best of luck. I'd love to know how everything goes, too.


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My partner and I want to have sex. I am a virgin, and I was wondering is there way for him to break my hymen without me bleeding?

It doesn't always bleed - I didn't
Are you sure your hymen is even intact? Hymens can break through sporting activities etc incase you didn't know.
You can always have you or your partner insert 1 finger and gradually move that up to 2. Doing that over a period of a few days at least will work.
If you don't want to do that, your best bet is to have your partner go slowly and use lots of lube, so it won't cause too much discomfort. and IF it does bleed, it probably won't be alot.
Best of luck

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in about september 06-march 07 i was with this kid i REALLY liked a lot. he broke up with me in march because i did a lot of bad shit to him which i totaly regret. i cried over him almost everynight.. and i knew that we would never get back together ever again. my ex really did hate me and i knew it. i still liked him a lot up until about julyish..then i started to like this other guy [but i still had my ex in the back of my mind] i went on vacation and when i got back the guy who i liked asked me out and we are now going out..however i kept having dreams about my ex and i wanted to talk to him to just have closure. i had a gut feeling he still had feelings for me but no one would believe me..i decided to text my ex who i hadnt talked to since march. [ we had a few hey,hey,whats up, nm u, nm conversations every now and then but not a real one] i said to him can i tell you something and he said yes and i said okay well ive definately changed a lot since we were together..and i just want to let you know that becuase i pretty much want to apologize for anything stupid i've done and i hope we can be cool now yada yada..and hes said yeah i really disliked you for a while but its cool now but i like realllyy did like you thoguh before all that shit happened.and i said yeah same i realllllyy did like you a lot..and after i did too for a while but its all good..and he said whats a while and i said welll i liked you a few months after we were officially done and then i just had a thing for you. and he said realllyy reallly did you really like me blah blah and i said yeah.. you have no idea.. and then suddenly he goes so i hear your going out with [my bf now] and i know he was considering going back out with me but then he remembered i had a bf. i said yeah and he said thats cool im talking to him now and i said cool and he said yeah. its friggen awesome..and he startyed to act all moody. i had a feeling it was becuase i did actually have a boyfreind now and he did still have feelings for me.. sorry this is so long im almost done :]]] haha bottom line..i still really love my ex and i woke up this morning thinking about my ex and not my bf..i like my bf but i love my ex. i know if i break up with my bf my ex will go back out with me. but my bf is a reallllllyyy great guy who doesnt deserve that. please help me i realllyyy have no idea what to do. i need serious help becuase my friends dont know what to say either. thank you so much xoxo

Thankyou for the question.


Firstly, you shouldn't let anyones answers on here influence your ultimate decision. It should all be down to you and your feelings.


Pros/cons and points to think about:
**Your last relationship failed for a reason. Although you say it was your fault, who's to say whatever happened won't happen again?
**Are you 100% certain you LOVE your ex? and not just miss certain things about him because your new boyfriend is different?
**Would you still like your ex if you didn't know he still liked you?
**You have a great guy at the moment. Would you want to ruin that?
**Which guy will treat you better? Don't just go for your ex because you have history.
**Are you sure your ex didn't just say that because he doesn't have a girlfriend of his own at the moment? and he's jealous you have a new boy?



You had your chance with your ex and basically, you did things which made him break up with you. That isn't a sign of love.
I don't know your age, but I'm guessing you're in mid teens.
This is such a common problem. They don't know what they want.


If you really want my honest opinion, it would be to not be in a relationship for a while - with either of them.
You don't seem emotionally stable because you don't know what you want - and you like them both.
Maybe a bit of time without them will make it easier for you to make your decision.



I'm sorry I can't be much help in this situation, although I really do think you should take some time out.
Time makes everything better and it will definitely make things clearer.



Goodluck.

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Ok I kinda think this a health question ( since health is mind body and state) but Im TERRIFIED OF FLYING ON AIRPLANES!!!!! I've never actually done it before but I fear terrorists, bombs, and crashing:( Now I realise that this rarely happens ( Twenty planes fly over my house and land everyday) but there's a part of me thats super terrified. But I really want a career that would have me flying all over the world at diffrent times ( Im a threater girl and am intending to major in threatre and go onto to big things) Can somebody tell me if hypnosis helps or tell me how to get over it please?:)

Have a read through this;

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_flying

It explains everything you need to know.


I, too, have a fear of flying and someday hope to overcome it.

Points to remember though, are accidents and terror attacks are EXTREMELY rare. Each day you take risks and can't be certain what may happen to you. You're more likely to get struck by lightning than something go wrong on your flight!


There's lots of other helpful sites on Google, too. So take a look if you have time, by browsing "fear of flying" etc.


I wish you the best of luck with your phobia.

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ok so i have these bumps in my ears which i know are keloids. i used to have them when i was younger, and my mom took me to the dermatologist and i got shots in my ears and eventually they went away. but now, i have my second hole pierced and they have formed in that one on both sides. i really don't wanna have to go back and get shots in them. i've been looking online and have seen home remedies that cure them such as hot compresses, tea tree oil?, olive oil and stuff but i was just wondering if they were safe, how often you have to do so, which one is the best (or if you have any other suggestions), how exactly you put it on, and if you have to keep the earring in while you apply it? so if anyone has experienced a keloid, i'd really appreciate if you could help. thanks!

The home remedies you've described are 100% safe.
If I were you, about 3 times a day, for 15 minutes at a time, I would apply the hot compresses.
Go to your local pharmacy etc and purchase some tea tree oil if you don't have any already. It has helped with alot of my piercings.
If you see any skin irritation, water it down.
Also, you don't have to remove the earring.
I haven't experienced a keloid as such, but I've had a weaker stage, where a bump has formed.

Just so you know, the results won't work straight away. It can take weeks.
But if you don't see any improvement after say, 2 weeks, it could be worth taking another trip to the dermatologist to see if there's anything else besides the shots.

Good luck.

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hay i want to get a sleeve (on my arm duh)and well i need some sort of ideal of what may look good cuz i cant come up with anything pleas i don't care if you send me links or anything i just need some sort of ideal of what i want i mean i know what i want i want something with stars and thorny roses and I'm not compleetly sher of what i want but pleas i need some sort of ideal of what looks good so i can edit and make my own sleeve so any help would be nice!!

http://www.bmeink.com/

Browse through the tonnes of pictures. They're so interesting and there's ALOT of stars and roses etc.

Have fun!

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MYSPACE FUCKING AGAIN!

ok so whenever i try to comment someone back, it always says sorry an unexpected error as occured then signs me out and its so dumb! please help, its really fucking annoying what could it be?

It's happening to most people. Loads of other things are wrong with it at the moment, as well.
All you can do is wait it out. Sucks, I know.

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My boyfriend of 6 months shared a bed with a girl he went on a trip with in Europe. He said they didn't do anything, but they always talk about how the slept together. Do you consider this a type of cheating? Do I have a right to be angry?

You have a right to be a little miffed but you shouldn't be angry.
I've shared beds to sleep numerous times with my friends, because the majority of them are boys and yes, I had a boyfriend at the time.
He did say it made him a little uncomfortable, so I said I wouldn't do it again.
Maybe your boyfriend didn't see it as a big deal, because I didn't either. But when I found out he was upset about it, I explained he had nothing to worry about.


I don't consider this a type of cheating.
Sharing a bed doesn't always mean your partner is up to something. It could have purely been based on comfort! After all, who wants to sleep on the floor etc.


Trust your boyfriend.
Relationships are nothing without trust.
and try not to worry about it. Unless you do ever get evidence.
Good luck



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My heart is beating out of my chest and the right side of my chest just feels so constrained. I got up to carry a laundry basket upstairs and after climbing two flights of stairs my heart was beating and I could feel my heart beat in the back of head. I feel like I'm not really here. I'm lethargic and I sleep until two and stay up until five and I feel like smashing my head against a wall. Yesterday I slipped a little bit in the bathtub and I found myself saying, "Why couldn't I just fall down?" I'm still scared. I stay up late because I'm scared I won't wake up once I fall asleep. I sleep late because I just hate being up and being paranoid.

I get these weird, sharp, random pains in my head and it scares me. My throat is dry and my hands are numb and I feel so scared. I feel so terrible. I don't feel real anymore. I woke up this morning and I actually questioned wheather or not I was alive.

My head hurts/feels funny all the time. I constantly feel this pressure in the back of my head, like someone's squeezing it. I've been to the doctor time and time again and my blood pressure, vision, reflexes, and everything's fine, but they've never really fully examined my head and I'm so paranoid that something really wrong with me. I constantly feel nauseas, and sometimes when I get up from sitting or laying down, I get this really fuzzy vision where I see black dots and takes a few seconds to clear up.

What could be wrong with me? Help?


I've had something similar to this almost 3 years ago. Like you, I went to the doctors time and again, yet they found absolutely nothing wrong with me. They also thought I could be making it up to get attention - which I wasn't, because I was so ill I couldn't go to school for ages. It scared me alot. To be perfectly honest, I thought I was dying and sometimes that would bring on panic attacks. That was the last straw. I went back to the doctors, explained the whole situation, and how there HAD to be something wrong with me. Doctors couldn't find anything so said I had a viral infection. (I think they say that when they honestly have no idea themselves).


The feeling you've described about the fuzzy vision and black dots when you stand up etc are really common and happen to alot of people. They could be perfectly normal, or in some way related to your other symptoms.


In your situation, it could be nothing, like me, something really simple such as over tired, anemia, or could be something which needs treatment.


When it comes to your health, never question it. If you feel as unwell as you say, you must get another opinion. Go to a different doctor, or visit a specialist at the hospital.


The symptoms you've explained could be a number of things, and noone here can give you a proper diagnosis.


Always trust your instincts.

I wish you the best of luck and a very speedy recovery.

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you know how when someone thinks something is really funny, and they laugh to where they cant breath? can u die from laughing like that?

http://ask.yahoo.com/20051116.html

http://www.snopes.com/horrors/freakish/laughing.asp

These sites should help you.

It actually depends. You CAN die from laughing. It depends how (whether you choke to death, have a heart attack and how bad your health is etc)
I doubt you can die from where something is so funny you can't breathe for a while.. because sooner or later, you'll calm down and focus on your breathing.

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Where can I Download/watch Family Guy episodes for free?

I know the website www.tv-links.co.uk, but that site only has a few that work.

Thanks.

http://www.familyguynow.com/

A website dedicated for just that!

Enjoy. :)

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I use hairspray & curling gell on my hair before i use my curling iron..and i have to, or else it doesn't work..but after a while, stuff builds up on the curling iron and it doesn't work as well..

what's the best way to get it off!?

thanks!

Baby wipes works best. It's a little trick I read in a magazine. It gets rid of all the residue and doesn't damage the appliance. Give it a try!

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How long are you supposed to wait after a break up to start dating someone else?

Until you're ready to move on I guess. There's no set time - everyone's different.
Although if you go out with someone straight away, you can expect your ex to be pretty upset.
Just a bit of advice;
Normally, when people have just come out of a relationship, they miss that feeling of having someone there.. and find someone else whom they trick themselves into liking.. and use them as a rebound. That's not too good..

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There is this guy from work who I know has had feelings for me since before Xmas. I always used to catch him staring at me and smile if I walked into the room. Anyways, the last couple of weeks he hadn't been himself because I heard he was having problems with this boss, so he barely talked to me. Recently I had a makeover and EVERYONE has noticed. I am wearing more flattering clothing and a better hairstyle. Well the last time that I worked with him he couldn't keep his eyes off me and he kept coming up to me to talk. At the very end of the night he came up to me and told me to have a good night. Do you think he's still interested in me?

Nobody here can be sure. We don't know what's going through this mans head - but you sure can find out.
If he kept coming up to you to talk, perhaps he does still have feelings for you. I like how he came up to you at the end just to tell you to have a good night. Rather sweet.
The only way you can find out for definite is to ask him, or wait until he says something else.
Sorry I can't be much help, but as I've said, noone can be certain, but it may seem like you're still in with a chance (if that is what you want) Best of luck though.

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